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chikitobabe:
What ever be the reason a man who loves a lady and wants it to wrk .. wont ask her to leave at the slightest provocation, do u knw what it means to tell ur wife to leave her matrimonial home?.that's manipulative Pls.

Telling her to leave the house is bad and uncalled for. But that doesn't mean that the man doesn't love her. He's just reacting to provocation in a childish way. Having agreed with you on that, can you now see that I'm different from you concerning this issue. You're not questioning the behaviour of the OP at all. The husband forgot to buy baby food, whether intentionally or not but why would that lead to argument except this OP is excessive in nature or the nagging type? She deserves to be questioned too!

Even leaving the house is wrong.

Leaving the house voluntarily on the part of the men when the argument becomes heated is what we should advocate if we can't get couples not to have heated arguments in the first place. Let the husband leaves the house for a few minutes or hours for both parties cool down and do the introspection. That way, the heated arguments will not lead to violence and we wouldn't have hot tempered wife stabbing her husband to death like we are seeing these days.

chikitobabe:
Madam,I will advise u to take a walk out of that marriage,emotional abuse is the worst punishment any one cn give to a person
People outside dnt understand it except the sufferer, it will get to a point you begin to question ur self worth .u begin to see urself as a failure yet people wont see it that way.
These type of men are narcissistic,they hv no empathy, no conscience, and they only tell you sorry to keep u staying while they manipulate and treat u bad.
They find solace in the hands of women out there cos they do not want any emotional attachment either frm you or them.
Thank God you have a child.
6 years of my life was wasted cos people said make it work and I stayed and it still didnt work, rather I was defeated emotionally.
So my dear,pick your child, get something doing and move on.
Trust m u need to be emotionally healthy for that angel God has given to u.

Trust m ,men like this dnt change

Because yours didn't work out does not mean hers won't work.

And I think you might even be the reason why it didn't work with what you typed up there.

You said you fought 6years for it to work. Hers is just 2years. Let her fight a little more. Patience work wonders. Divorce or separation is never a solution except life is being threatened.

Don't you a wrong man you got married to to judge all mean. Some men change. But you have to change too for good.

God bless you.

midnighter:
Her father who didn't even want her to go back

I sometimes wonder if men and women see different words when reading a paragraph.

Her father doesn’t want her back cos that’s not where she belongs. The father has seen with with Wisdom that such things happen and it’s part of marriage. Those are the obstacles you overcome in marriage, it’s never a smooth sail.

slimjosh231:
Her father doesn’t want her back cos that’s not where she belongs. The father has seen with with Wisdom that such things happen and it’s part of marriage. Those are the obstacles you overcome in marriage, it’s never a smooth sail.

You dont get it..her father didnt want her to go back to the husband and youre saying listen to your father. Its her mum that helped her go back to her marital home

You didnt even read the story very well before launching into an attack on women which had nothing to do with the issue

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Pataricatering:
Ur talking nonsense ! Men see their fathers behaving like dogs has that ever affected them negatively ! She should stay with someone who abuses her emotionally ? Can she be abusing d man like dat and u will come and give d senseless advice ur giving ? Because women are not human beings and constant humiliation doesn’t pain them but you will open ur mouth to talk about how men love respect more than anything ? It’s women that love humiliation - sometimes I actually think men are just beasts in human skin - apart from the advice being silly it’s also extremely heartless - go and check yourself properly- ur a cruelly human being .

You're seriously hurt and damaged.
I don't want to say your background is faulty.
But you need help asap.
If men are dogs/beasts so is your father and all your male siblings and relatives.

Always think before typing your comments especially on sm.

Have a great day.

midnighter:
You dont get it..her father didnt want her to go back to the husband and youre saying listen to your father. Its her mum that helped her go back to her marital home

You didnt even read the story very well before launching into an attack on women which had nothing to do with the issue

Damn, that’s my bad, means am getting everything the other way round. I apologise. The Papa no the try for her be that now.

slimjosh231:
Damn, that’s my bad, means am getting everything the other way round. I apologise. The Papa no the try for her be that now.

No problem, cheers

Breaststroke:
Hhmm Tunagee, I read your comment and sexyyoyo's own, I think what both of you don't understand is the importance of words. Words are extremely important they can make or break us, heal or wound us, destroy us or bring us life, health and happiness.

Let me give you an example of how words can have an effect on people. My current boss is rude, condescending and very disrespectful in her speech towards people. This attitude has caused us 2 competent staff, who resigned because they got sick and tired of that sort of treatment. We are currently short staffed and suffering, one of those people came highly recommended to our organization and she's very good at what she does too so it was truly a loss/blow to lose her.

An entire dept of a sister company we are supposed to work closely with, deliberately refused to work with us because of how our boss spoke to their boss during a meeting. That dept actually told us 'You guys think you can insult our boss and still expect us to collaborate with you and assist you with intel you need? " It was only our boss who spoke words that didn't sit well with them, but a whole dept of more than 10 people ganged up against us to make our working lives difficult.

Some of us weren't even aware of the meeting which caused this issue, until members of that dept informed us of their collective decision to deal with us. Are you seeing the damage words can do? Stay with me I'm not done yet. Recently after a round of job interviews, my boss's choice candidate for a certain role within the organization, declined the offer made to him. He informed us afterwards that he made inquiries about our boss and received negative feedback from 3 different people about the boss, which informed his decision to not take the job. Negative (but true) words spoken about my boss caused us another competent worker.

Our organization pays really well but I can tell you that my colleagues and I are unhappy because of how our boss talks to us and how we see her treat others via her speech. We are constantly doing damage control with vendors, clients and other business associates because of her, her speech and attitude.

Most of us are trying to leave and we are actively helping each other to do so sef. Now please pause for a moment and think about this, if employees of an organization are unhappy and want to leave a good paying job, because of how the CEO regularly talks down to them, how do you think a spouse would feel? Mind you we only relate/interact with her 5 days of the week but a spouse is bound to you for a lifetime.

Everything I wrote up there is not fiction, it's the reality of our lives at organization XYZ and we are grown men & women (some with families of their own) Don't underestimate the importance or power of words. What do you think scripture means when it says "The power of life & death is in the tongue"

My boss has verbally and effectively killed morale, initiative, confidence and composure with her words. We now work like robots doing whatever she wants or says, even when we know the outcome won't be successful, but hey no one wants to be at the receiving end of her harsh & disrespectful words so...........There are some things worse than a beating and words are one of such things. The heavens and the earth were made by the words of God's mouth...... words not magic, can you see how important words are?

I think your wife and my colleagues left because they got tired and realized this is unhealthy, I don't have to put up with this anymore. The expectation that, the party suffering verbal abuse should stay and work on their relationship is unfair & biased. The person with an attitude problem via speech, should work on themselves and make adjustments. You can't continuously hurt people with your words and expect things to be rosy.

Please note, the paragraph above is not judgment. I am not judging you, it is just an honest reflection of my thoughts about the situation with your wife and my own boss.

That is what they don't understand. Many people have horrific attitudes, they didn't work on for years. Very toxic personalities.

Then they carry the rubbish into marriage. But today's people are not the same with yesteryears people. They don't have that kind of patience. They will not tolerate some bullcrap for long. Which is the reason why many marriages today are falling apart.

Look at op, her patience is running out, and if it continues, problem done come be that.



Men and women work on your attitudes as singles, so you don't mess the life of your spouse up. Bad attitude stinks!!!

yeyeosoronga:
I hope you've got control over your mouth now. Words are powerful. Some kind of verbal abuse can make you feel so worthless and suicidal. Perhaps that's why she left. You can still fight for your marriage, if you're still interested. Court her again, and stop with the hurtful words by controlling your mouth. It's a conscious effort which you can do, unless you're prideful.

Thanks. I appreciate. Don't mind my emotional immaturity

Breaststroke:
Hhmm Tunagee, I read your comment and sexyyoyo's own, I think what both of you don't understand is the importance of words. Words are extremely important they can make or break us, heal or wound us, destroy us or bring us life, health and happiness.

Let me give you an example of how words can have an effect on people. My current boss is rude, condescending and very disrespectful in her speech towards people. This attitude has caused us 2 competent staff, who resigned because they got sick and tired of that sort of treatment. We are currently short staffed and suffering, one of those people came highly recommended to our organization and she's very good at what she does too so it was truly a loss/blow to lose her.

An entire dept of a sister company we are supposed to work closely with, deliberately refused to work with us because of how our boss spoke to their boss during a meeting. That dept actually told us 'You guys think you can insult our boss and still expect us to collaborate with you and assist you with intel you need? " It was only our boss who spoke words that didn't sit well with them, but a whole dept of more than 10 people ganged up against us to make our working lives difficult.

Some of us weren't even aware of the meeting which caused this issue, until members of that dept informed us of their collective decision to deal with us. Are you seeing the damage words can do? Stay with me I'm not done yet. Recently after a round of job interviews, my boss's choice candidate for a certain role within the organization, declined the offer made to him. He informed us afterwards that he made inquiries about our boss and received negative feedback from 3 different people about the boss, which informed his decision to not take the job. Negative (but true) words spoken about my boss caused us another competent worker.

Our organization pays really well but I can tell you that my colleagues and I are unhappy because of how our boss talks to us and how we see her treat others via her speech. We are constantly doing damage control with vendors, clients and other business associates because of her, her speech and attitude.

Most of us are trying to leave and we are actively helping each other to do so sef. Now please pause for a moment and think about this, if employees of an organization are unhappy and want to leave a good paying job, because of how the CEO regularly talks down to them, how do you think a spouse would feel? Mind you we only relate/interact with her 5 days of the week but a spouse is bound to you for a lifetime.

Everything I wrote up there is not fiction, it's the reality of our lives at organization XYZ and we are grown men & women (some with families of their own) Don't underestimate the importance or power of words. What do you think scripture means when it says "The power of life & death is in the tongue"

My boss has verbally and effectively killed morale, initiative, confidence and composure with her words. We now work like robots doing whatever she wants or says, even when we know the outcome won't be successful, but hey no one wants to be at the receiving end of her harsh & disrespectful words so...........There are some things worse than a beating and words are one of such things. The heavens and the earth were made by the words of God's mouth...... words not magic, can you see how important words are?

I think your wife and my colleagues left because they got tired and realized this is unhealthy, I don't have to put up with this anymore. The expectation that, the party suffering verbal abuse should stay and work on their relationship is unfair & biased. The person with an attitude problem via speech, should work on themselves and make adjustments. You can't continuously hurt people with your words and expect things to be rosy.

Please note, the paragraph above is not judgment. I am not judging you, it is just an honest reflection of my thoughts about the situation with your wife and my own boss.

Thanks so much! I ve learnt my lesson the hard way.

elektra:
Somebody needs to make an equivalent of War Room for men
A movie that will provide solution for all their marital problems.
Women cannot be enjoying magical movies alone

hahahaha,this just made my day. Easier said than done. BTW, I still have the movie on my phone o.

sexyyoyo:
Madam you really need to calm down , I have been married for twelve years now so don't think I have no experience.
You have to submit yourself totally, both of you can't be a goat , one has to be a sheep while the other is a goat . if your man call you names and asked you to leave his house and you also left, then something is wrong with you . do you really think its a good thing packing your stuffs and leaving your matrimonial home ?
So long he is not beating you , why must you pack out ?
All the names he call you, is it a true reflection of your character ?if not , why are you bothered ?
One of you have to sacrifice for the marriage to work .
As you both grow , you tend to understand each other the other .
The worst mistake of your life is to start giving attentions or thinking there are better men out there .
Don't fool yourself or make yourself a subject of ridicule .
Sit down and stop packing out . stay put in your marriage and make it work .
Your only complain is the names he do call you .
Do you go hungry in his house ?
Are you lacking any other thing ?
No marriage is perfect but please make yours work .
I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in and it shall end in praise .

I have a similar experience. My marriage is 5 years. I have left only twice despite the constant tantrums...the first time was because he hit me mercilessly for the first time. Though he slaps me occasionally out of anger previously. The second is because he threatened like he always does and ask me to leave. I left , now he is begging and swearing to be a changed person. I am still scared and confused..

slimjosh231:
Her father doesn’t want her back cos that’s not where she belongs. The father has seen with with Wisdom that such things happen and it’s part of marriage. Those are the obstacles you overcome in marriage, it’s never a smooth sail.

Read that sentence well please. From what I understood, her father didnt want her to go back to the husband's house. He was happy to have her in his home, rather than go back to the man who's always asking her to leave. However, other people's views like her mum's prevailed and she went back.
The father is probably tired of having his child sent back to him over and over again. He probably thinks his daughter has made a wrong choice and the SonInLaw might still be a bit immature for marriage.

Jadezion:
I have a similar experience. My marriage is 5 years. I have left only twice despite the constant tantrums...the first time was because he hit me mercilessly for the first time. Though he slaps me occasionally out of anger previously. The second is because he threatened like he always does and ask me to leave. I left , now he is begging and swearing to be a changed person. I am still scared and confused..

He has been slapping you occasionally and then finally beat you mercilessly, yet you still went back?
Your ancestors decided to help you, by making him be the one to chase you out, yet you're still thinking of going back? I hope you won't be carried out of that 'slaughter house' marriage in a body bag.
Give yourself brain, and just learn from the bad experience you've had. Such bad experiences help sensible people grow and in choosing right the next time. Dont be fooled o that he's a changed man.

Tunagee:
I had to copy this comment so I can read over and over again. My wife also left for about a year now, she complained of verbal utterances. I kept wondering same thing you made in your comments why not work on your marriage than leave. And I never beat her; she never lacked.
God bless you abundantly. I'm inspired.

Stop been inspired because other women could endure and your wife couldn't, everyone has a limit to the level of disrespect they can take the fact that you don't beat her or that she doesn't lack isn't good enough, why not make conscious effort to actually do better? Emotional/Verbal abuse is sometimes worse than physical ones, try to make amends if you can with you wife the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

Jadezion:
I have a similar experience. My marriage is 5 years. I have left only twice despite the constant tantrums...the first time was because he hit me mercilessly for the first time. Though he slaps me occasionally out of anger previously. The second is because he threatened like he always does and ask me to leave. I left , now he is begging and swearing to be a changed person. I am still scared and confused..

Kia, inside life, God please help me to be a good partner when the time comes so I can lay good Godly examples to my kids, and help my partner to be the same way. Amen

iammiracle1:
Stop been inspired because other women could endure and your wife couldn't, everyone has a limit to the level of disrespect they can take the fact that you don't beat her or that she doesn't lack isn't good enough, why not make conscious effort to actually do better? Emotional/Verbal abuse is sometimes worse than physical ones, try to make amends if you can with you wife the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

Thanks i appreciate

Tunagee:
Thanks i appreciate

Uwlc sir, you seem like a good man may God give you grace to make the right choices

LOMBARDY:
Two wrongs don't make a right but 5 does abi? Until he starts getting physical with her then you guys will start saying why she didn't leave earlier

She is free to leave if she feel that is the next line of action as her safety is more important don't get me wrong. but she saying she "feels" he is cheating and so she to has started looking outside. WHAT!!! this implies she could actually be the cause of the husband's action. believe me she is not telling everything. remember when we point a finger at someone, the remaining four is pointing back to us.

sexyyoyo:
Madam you really need to calm down , I have been married for twelve years now so don't think I have no experience.
You have to submit yourself totally, both of you can't be a goat , one has to be a sheep while the other is a goat . if your man call you names and asked you to leave his house and you also left, then something is wrong with you . do you really think its a good thing packing your stuffs and leaving your matrimonial home ?
So long he is not beating you , why must you pack out ?
All the names he call you, is it a true reflection of your character ?if not , why are you bothered ?
One of you have to sacrifice for the marriage to work .
As you both grow , you tend to understand each other the other .
The worst mistake of your life is to start giving attentions or thinking there are better men out there .
Don't fool yourself or make yourself a subject of ridicule .
Sit down and stop packing out . stay put in your marriage and make it work .
Your only complain is the names he do call you .
Do you go hungry in his house ?
Are you lacking any other thing ?
No marriage is perfect but please make yours work .
I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in and it shall end in praise .

Thank you for you wisdom.

Breaststroke:
Hhmm Tunagee, I read your comment and sexyyoyo's own, I think what both of you don't understand is the importance of words. Words are extremely important they can make or break us, heal or wound us, destroy us or bring us life, health and happiness.

Let me give you an example of how words can have an effect on people. My current boss is rude, condescending and very disrespectful in her speech towards people. This attitude has caused us 2 competent staff, who resigned because they got sick and tired of that sort of treatment. We are currently short staffed and suffering, one of those people came highly recommended to our organization and she's very good at what she does too so it was truly a loss/blow to lose her.

An entire dept of a sister company we are supposed to work closely with, deliberately refused to work with us because of how our boss spoke to their boss during a meeting. That dept actually told us 'You guys think you can insult our boss and still expect us to collaborate with you and assist you with intel you need? " It was only our boss who spoke words that didn't sit well with them, but a whole dept of more than 10 people ganged up against us to make our working lives difficult.

Some of us weren't even aware of the meeting which caused this issue, until members of that dept informed us of their collective decision to deal with us. Are you seeing the damage words can do? Stay with me I'm not done yet. Recently after a round of job interviews, my boss's choice candidate for a certain role within the organization, declined the offer made to him. He informed us afterwards that he made inquiries about our boss and received negative feedback from 3 different people about the boss, which informed his decision to not take the job. Negative (but true) words spoken about my boss caused us another competent worker.

Our organization pays really well but I can tell you that my colleagues and I are unhappy because of how our boss talks to us and how we see her treat others via her speech. We are constantly doing damage control with vendors, clients and other business associates because of her, her speech and attitude.

Most of us are trying to leave and we are actively helping each other to do so sef. Now please pause for a moment and think about this, if employees of an organization are unhappy and want to leave a good paying job, because of how the CEO regularly talks down to them, how do you think a spouse would feel? Mind you we only relate/interact with her 5 days of the week but a spouse is bound to you for a lifetime.

Everything I wrote up there is not fiction, it's the reality of our lives at organization XYZ and we are grown men & women (some with families of their own) Don't underestimate the importance or power of words. What do you think scripture means when it says "The power of life & death is in the tongue"

My boss has verbally and effectively killed morale, initiative, confidence and composure with her words. We now work like robots doing whatever she wants or says, even when we know the outcome won't be successful, but hey no one wants to be at the receiving end of her harsh & disrespectful words so...........There are some things worse than a beating and words are one of such things. The heavens and the earth were made by the words of God's mouth...... words not magic, can you see how important words are?

I think your wife and my colleagues left because they got tired and realized this is unhealthy, I don't have to put up with this anymore. The expectation that, the party suffering verbal abuse should stay and work on their relationship is unfair & biased. The person with an attitude problem via speech, should work on themselves and make adjustments. You can't continuously hurt people with your words and expect things to be rosy.

Please note, the paragraph above is not judgment. I am not judging you, it is just an honest reflection of my thoughts about the situation with your wife and my own boss.

Create a new gmail account forward this write up to your igorance so call Boss

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

From the topic, you believe it is your husband's house.

So why can't he send you out?

chikitobabe:
Madam,I will advise u to take a walk out of that marriage,emotional abuse is the worst punishment any one cn give to a person
People outside dnt understand it except the sufferer, it will get to a point you begin to question ur self worth .u begin to see urself as a failure yet people wont see it that way.
These type of men are narcissistic,they hv no empathy, no conscience, and they only tell you sorry to keep u staying while they manipulate and treat u bad.
They find solace in the hands of women out there cos they do not want any emotional attachment either frm you or them.
Thank God you have a child.
6 years of my life was wasted cos people said make it work and I stayed and it still didnt work, rather I was defeated emotionally.
So my dear,pick your child, get something doing and move on.
Trust m u need to be emotionally healthy for that angel God has given to u.

Trust m ,men like this dnt change

I am happy you had the strength to move on with your life, that is something so difficult for many women to do. I wish you success in your new found peaceful life

Personally I have heard cases of men misbehaving like the one you mentioned and they rarely change. Their wives just stay and put up with abuse till old age because she is scared or what society would say or she is scared of losing her children.
The irony of advice from the men critisizing you is that they can NEVER advice their fellow man to stay and tolerate abuse and maltreatment from a woman. But when it comes to women these men think anything goes, they think women were created to be their doormats that tolerate every sort of rubbish in patience while praying for their useless husbands.

Women who the same men claim to be softer and more emotional, so called weaker vessels, are the same ones supposed to bear the most painful emotional blows. Not the so called unemotional men who logically should have better capacity to recover from hurt if they are indeed less emotional than women.

Another irony is that they are the heads of the family, so called leaders who should be in charge, but 80% of the time they are the ones doing stupid shít to destroy peace and unity in their families, while women who are told to be submissive followers are expected to build homes and pray for everybody and keep the family together.

It's only in marriage that followers are consistently told to do the work of their inept leaders as if it is normal.

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Tunagee:
That's the reason christianity is a religion of forgiveness. I don't care about other religions who don't forgive.

Since you don't understand I keep mute

Mstick:
Madam you wouldn't get any reasonable advice on here , they will ask you to endure because most of them saw there fathers doing same to their mothers and she endured and they do same to their wives.They will see nothing wrong with your husband cheating rather they will bash and insult you.


Think about yourself and what do YOU want.

Is your brain paining you?

My dear sorry. I do feel he is a spoilt papered prat. How do u tell ur spouse to leave over nothing?
If u guys were merely dsting i wud have said leave. However you cant continue living like this as he might mean it one day and brin in another woman!
Give him another warning and make sure both families know you have warned him to desist from his threats. If he does it again make sure you leave for a month..n subsequently 2 or 3 months when he does it again!

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.