Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,153,406 members, 7,819,440 topics. Date: Monday, 06 May 2024 at 04:22 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel (67762 Views)
My Aunty's Husband Always Grab My Breasts / My Husband Said I Should Leave His Home / My Husband Always Rubs Charm On His Manhood Before Sex - Wife (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) ... (16) (17) (18) (19) (20) (21) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by perrol(m): 12:51pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Once he's not beating you, just learn to keep silence when you see an aurgment coming. You can't do that for 3 month without seeing a positive result. Don't quit that marriage you are into now ; because you don't know what is outside. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Coolgent(m): 12:57pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
kweenkong: 1. Her husband took offensive for that singular act, she is not inder any obligation to bring food stuffs to her Inlaw besidesince the guy is agaisnt it why must she brings it. 2. I said too much attention not attention. U should understand that there is individual differences. NB: am married since 2014 without any serious issue, so I knw what am saying |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by mechanics(m): 1:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
It's well, you need not to retaliate, even if he's cheating on you, that does not also give you the freedom to cheat, what if you did it and it results to pregnancy, that will be a shame to you, just keep calm don't talk back at him when he's talking harshly to you, and be prayerful. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by GoodFaith: 1:25pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: Please send me the food stuff Dude has mental issue Get him HELP 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by LOMBARDY(m): 1:29pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Skmoda360:This is more than anger issues..am sure he didn't even love her to start with 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by LOMBARDY(m): 1:30pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Pavarottii:I don't get |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Lionpikin(m): 1:31pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
midnighter:Nah, I didn't say I got that from your post, you said he seems to be harbouring some resentment about something, that's what I thought too.... |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Beatswim: 1:33pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Frequently asked questions about marriages like this are... What was the foundation of this marriage? Was it borne out of lust or physical looks? Did u seek the face of God diligently before u said yes to him?do u guys worship in same church? Do u guys even share same faith? Anyway those questions are immaterial now... As it is now.. He seems not to value u at all anymore.. My advice is.. Seek help from God about him.. This is your second year for goodness sake |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Tunagee(m): 1:36pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
olabrinks: I love your comment. Am guilty of not exhibiting a lot of control in my marriage as the head, that's the reason for separation with my legally married wife currently. Am really regretting, and have been working on my verbal abusive nature while trying to appease my wife. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by midnighter(f): 1:37pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Lionpikin: Ok I understand you now 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Tunagee(m): 1:40pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
patitobeeb: That's the reason christianity is a religion of forgiveness. I don't care about other religions who don't forgive. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Klington: 1:43pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
OILOFGLADNESS:You're absolutely correct.. Family issues should be kept within reasonable family members. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by tessiko: 1:45pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Your husband has anger and pride issues, his type is usually angel outside but devil at home, you are lucky he does not beat you. You just have to study his mood respond only when it's necessary do not speak when he is angry. The same thing happens to my colleague but her saving grace was the intervention of their neighbor(her husband previously gossiped about him) so he was ashamed and that stopped the constant quarrel, beating and pack your things and leave. So if someone he wouldn't like to know about his bad manners intervenes he will stop. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by bayulll011(m): 1:51pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:i only read your comment then am forced to say something because i never wanted to quote any of the reply here. I can only talk here when i hear the husband side cos emotionally i can never conclude my words on what one persons narrate here. are you saying they didn't court at all,she never saw any of red flags in the man,does she continually do something that irritate the man,does she boast about her wealth to the man,and precise she sounds like an authoritarian that want to eat her cake and have it also wanna keep it in freezers. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 2:08pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
There is definitely room for maturity on both sides - it will come with time as you work through the issues. Its not unique to your home, most new marriages go through a similar phase to varying degrees. Seek the help of counsellors to fast track the maturity process or to learn skills and methods that will help. You have to keep forgiving each other endlessly, or you will not have a marriage for much longer. Talk less to external parties about your issues especially family members - as they wont be able to forgive your spouses lapses even after you have forgiven and let go. my 2 cents after 13 years in the game 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Stoicbaba(m): 2:20pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Well, I am just wording nonsense, hoping there will be sense in them... Sayings goes: No be who first call police, wins case... It's always good to hear from the other side... Most couple's quarrels are best settled by themselves, no 3rd party... Then, I will say this as well, My wife once asked me to help talk to her colleague, who has "an abusive" husband, who always ask her to leave the house, or he will leave... (amongst many other complains) Well, I hesitated before offering to talk to her, (as I knew her and not the husband)... A date was fixed and since we were far apart, we decided to talk on phone. She narrated how her husband was so bad to her, and not seeing anything good in her, etc etc... I sensed she had dropped off so many details, I had to let her know that it would be of no good for me to advise, when I didn't know the whole detail(this was me hoping to get any info that might represent a small percentage of the man's side of the story, as I can't go to him) Long story cut short, I realised there were these glaring issue (just from my few minutes of discussion o) - Inferiority complex (due to the fact that the man earns only about 2/5 of the woman's earning...and that she didn't help it by flaunting it, either intentionally or unintentionally...) - ego from both sides, as they fail to really understand there place in the home and the willingness to "submit" to create avenue for calm discussion, rather than heated argument... These amongst other little things... I tried to communicate this to her and it was very obvious that she felt that having work to provide more, the husband should understand and let go of some other things she "couldn't" do... So, my long story is summarize in this form... Each party should understand their place in a home(not house o), try to watch and understand each other's anger-triggered point and know how and when to reach across for meaningful discussion(with promises to actively adjust) There is very few men or women that are wicked... Something always led to something... Madam, just try and watch out for the best time to approach your husband with discussion and "pretend" if you can't completely submit to him... I am sure everything would be better(note,i didn't say fine, as that would be a lie) Remember, while it is a duty for both of you to raise that home, it is believed to be yours, as a woman to keep it,(as far as no violence is involved) ... Best of luck... Modified (seek counseling, but don't try to apply everything, directly into your home, yours is unique to you guys o... Lol) cheers 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Skmoda360(m): 2:21pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
LOMBARDY:You are not far from the truth.... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Tunagee(m): 2:33pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
omonikiba: Very brilliant comment coming from a female I guess. Though am separated with my wife, I for marry you for this brilliant comment. Very intelligent I had to read over and over again. God bless u 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Tunagee(m): 2:47pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
beeijeoma: God bless u dear |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by lollybizzu(m): 2:51pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ahahnow: But this did not reflect in your comment that I first quoted. But all the same, I wish you all the best. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 3:02pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
H |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by ahahnow: 3:03pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
lollybizzu: I wasn't talking about myself or my family in my initial comment. I was giving advice...which, the op asked for. I wasnt even speaking from a place of ill intent. You can in out of no where and began ranting. I'm already having a nice day so I don't need your well wishes. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Nobody: 3:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat:Your husband has a maiden |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by greatsodade(m): 3:20pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
LOMBARDY: two wrong don't make a right... the husband has his issues obviously but she saying she has started looking outside burst the bubble. in the case of the baby food, it is clear that when the man came back without buying the baby food, the lady started venting on him which he retaliated with those his usual words. he may be going through some hard times if she care about him that much she know but all she says is he insult me this or that. she surely disregard her husband as well and the man knows but she won't tell us that here. she is not telling the full story i bet you. Her mother buying them stuff... very good and nothing wrong with it at all and he should be thankful. but then again comes the woman , it is possible that she has being telling her mother that he does not take care of her and the mother being caring decided to send little thing she can which the husband find out and kicked against resulting to the argument. Finally nothing should justify cheating please... no need of her looking outside.... If she can't cope and make things work with her husband, she should leave the marriage and go outside fully make herself happy. because cheating would negate everything she said she won't what her child to experience. stop assuming your husband his cheating, if you find him doing such.... the decision is yours 100%, but on assumption and you have started looking outside... it shows even you too did not really love him from inception. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by greatsodade(m): 3:21pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Zhuhilat: two wrong don't make a right... the husband has his issues obviously but she saying she has started looking outside burst the bubble. in the case of the baby food, it is clear that when the man came back without buying the baby food, the lady started venting on him which he retaliated with those his usual words. he may be going through some hard times if she care about him that much she know but all she says is he insult me this or that. she surely disregard her husband as well and the man knows but she won't tell us that here. she is not telling the full story i bet you. Her mother buying them stuff... very good and nothing wrong with it at all and he should be thankful. but then again comes the woman , it is possible that she has being telling her mother that he does not take care of her and the mother being caring decided to send little thing she can which the husband find out and kicked against resulting to the argument. Finally nothing should justify cheating please... no need of her looking outside.... If she can't cope and make things work with her husband, she should leave the marriage and go outside fully make herself happy. because cheating would negate everything she said she won't what her child to experience. stop assuming your husband his cheating, if you find him doing such.... the decision is yours 100%, but on assumption and you have started looking outside... it shows even you too did not really love him from inception. |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by LOMBARDY(m): 3:22pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
greatsodade:Two wrongs don't make a right but 5 does abi? Until he starts getting physical with her then you guys will start saying why she didn't leave earlier |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Tunagee(m): 3:26pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
donprinyo: You can do better than this |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by sweetilicious(f): 3:46pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
With my level of maturity and ability to decipher what I want now,I know I don't want to walk in the shoes of bad marriages. Bad relationships drains. Imagine what bad marriages could do 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by PeaceNexus(m): 3:48pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Why would married people bring their marriage issues where waecites, jambites, postumites...undergraduates, artisans, politicians etc spend their time? You will get both the good and crazy advises that at the end of the day you are more confused and full of anger than before? |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Tunagee(m): 3:58pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
GogobiriLalas: Wicked guy |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by Tunagee(m): 3:59pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
midnighter: Guy no read post well |
Re: My Husband Always Tells Me To Leave His House During Quarrel by blank(f): 4:07pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Rubbiish: Rubbish and thrash. How will anything good come out of rubbish like you. Mumu. Abi the poster looks like the liability you kept in your house. |
(1) (2) (3) ... (16) (17) (18) (19) (20) (21) (Reply)
Man Laments As Best Friend Sleeping With His Wife Breaks His Bed (Video) / Makinde Pilot Sisters: Mopelola, Oluwaseun and Oluwafunmilayo / Estate Agent Impregnates His Friend’s Wife In Nasarawa (Photos)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 100 |