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Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Afamed: 11:12am On Oct 19, 2019 |
AssistntBoyfrnd:Do the little gathering with your pastors, church members and if there is any family members around and move on. Don't allow any one to drag you back to any ancestry historical background 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by chinwezdasilva: 11:12am On Oct 19, 2019 |
The Lord will see you guys through this phase 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by twosquare(m): 11:14am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Why inviting unnecessary troubles? Do it the Yoruba way or Canadian way or anything...it's not compulsory you have to do it the Esan way if you don't know how ...just the simple way you want to do is okay and forget about this stuff of 'our ancestors' If you want to do it the English way too, fine... Just let it be simple. AssistntBoyfrnd: 3 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by wisdompeters35(m): 11:15am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Oga forget about the idea ur family abandon u. In esan land family is everything. A family must Stan for u. And if her family is uromi n are aware sorry my brother no other family can stand for her. I think it is now time for forgiveness or better still the perfect time for her family to perform their rite in her life. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by lomprico(m): 11:15am On Oct 19, 2019 |
perryy: go sidon 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Nobody: 11:15am On Oct 19, 2019 |
then perhaps u are better of just doing a court wedding.. I'm from Uromi and can categorically tell u that there's no way u can supposedly say u gave away ur sister without her father's people backing... the whole family clan and village network of a thing is a biggie in my place.. I see no absolute way u can escape the family and u better start looking 4 dem now and also start looking 4 money cos those elders are very cunning 9 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by twosquare(m): 11:16am On Oct 19, 2019 |
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Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by ehiking(m): 11:19am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Bro the best thing for you to do is to seek the help of elders at uromi not your pastor, esan traditional rite when it comes to marriage is simple, you inform the most eldest in the family, who then instruct a mediator to give the full list of what is required to the who be inlaw. Things required are not expensive. Neglecting the elders of uromi will pose serious danger in the future of your sister. Forget about what has happened in time past, Traditions must be adhere strictly. When consequences of neglecting the elders come NO PASTOR can pray it out. Because you have no legal ground. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by perryy(m): 11:19am On Oct 19, 2019 |
lomprico: I don siddon. But u will remember this day. Esan is the only place where they exhume corpse for proper burial when wahala start to dey shelle. I just pity the lady shall. She better have kids before getting married. Hmmmmmm. Esan , forget us when it comes to tradition jare. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by lopezoraclenet(m): 11:19am On Oct 19, 2019 |
I think Edo state is one the easiest and cheapest places in terms of finance to marry from. No big deal just few things meant for the father and mother, stand-in, the women, men and the youth. Which is less than 200k talking from experience cuz I married from Ekpoma close to Uromi. You can also relate with your uncles. Moving this to FP will be appreciated greatly. Thank you [/quote] 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Nobody: 11:20am On Oct 19, 2019 |
twosquare:what's wrong with what I wrote? |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Incandescent(m): 11:20am On Oct 19, 2019 |
perryy: Abeg ee 8 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Rubbiish(m): 11:20am On Oct 19, 2019 |
subtlemee:He got no family head from there bro 4 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by toprealman: 11:23am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Just forgive and forget. Rebuild the broken bridge.......involve your family bro.You won't regret it. That wedding list should be last on your list. Be the man.....rise above your "foes", whoever they are 3 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Muscholes(f): 11:25am On Oct 19, 2019 |
twosquare:. This is so true. Am from Uromi,we were also neglected by my family after the death of my dad but thanks to my mum, during my wedding we had to go back looking for my dad's family cos we were told that there will be no wedding without them. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Slimmy0: 11:25am On Oct 19, 2019 |
AssistntBoyfrnd: No uncle or Auntie?, you re not even from Esan but you want to give out your sister according to Uromi's tradion. Hhhmmmmm.... What is this world turning into? 3 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by legba1(m): 11:26am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Whats wrong with us sef.....he need simple info and we are here dragging the matter....whoever can help him should provide all the info he needs.... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Nobody: 11:27am On Oct 19, 2019 |
My village is some few minutes away from uromi. The best advice you will get here today has already been given .... Don't do anything remotely traditional. Do a court wedding and do a church wedding. Shikena. As long as she doesn't do trad marriage, she isn't married under their laws and so there is nothing that can happen to her. I had problems with my family too and I had to do traditional weddings twice just to get it right 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Slimmy0: 11:28am On Oct 19, 2019 |
legba1: Simple solution: Look for her uncle or Aunt. and let them giver her out according to Uromi tradition. 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by johnmattew: 11:29am On Oct 19, 2019 |
perryy:the adultery aspect is the most unique aspect of esanland.....most millennial thinks it's a joke. esanland got weird custom and tradition that esan people don't toy with. 4 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by johnmattew: 11:32am On Oct 19, 2019 |
go and meet her uncle.....esanland pride price is less than 50 naira..take some and return the other.we don't sell our daughters. if she is marrying an esan man,it is forbidden to commit adultery or insult her husband.the consequences could be madness,death or death of the kids...except she does some rites 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by ABCthings: 11:33am On Oct 19, 2019 |
I cannot tell you to forget traditions. But, think of what impact your decision will have in the future. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Slimmy0: 11:35am On Oct 19, 2019 |
AssistntBoyfrnd: Give her out according to Yoruba tradition, you are not qualified to give her out according to Uromi's tradition. My Opinion 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Reinvented: 11:35am On Oct 19, 2019 |
I am sure op has not told the full story. You said your sister's father is from Uromi and your mother too from Uromi. So, you mean Uromi people were not informed when your mother died? Who buried her? You and your pastor? Now that your sister is getting married you are asking for Uromi traditions. You mean your mother NEVER mentioned her village name to you? Pls leave all this matter about "nobody cared for us" Let your sister go and meet her family. What I can deduce is that you may not have informed your mother's relatives about her demise. Now it has cropped up for you to meet them. Sorry go to the people and seek advice. Not NL. Noone here will tell you he gave out his sister in marriage without family involvement. The ESAN people are very traditional and merciless when you trod on that tradition. I am telling you from what I know, not what I read. I am not esan by the way. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by faithfull18(f): 11:37am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Hmmn. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Slimmy0: 11:37am On Oct 19, 2019 |
InvertedHammer: Reasonable advice. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by amp01(m): 11:37am On Oct 19, 2019 |
perryy:I'm Esan, this guy matter tire me. No matter what, find out about the tradition list, and give what belong to them to them, don't play with tradition, is powerful. Your own to going to marry a wife, but her own, she is to be given out, at least,all the uncles are not BAD. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Greenback: 11:38am On Oct 19, 2019 |
AssistntBoyfrnd: Good..keep it that way. Greetings to your sister,our sister |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by johnmattew: 11:39am On Oct 19, 2019 |
AssistntBoyfrnd:my uncle and Aunt did more than this...yet,we forgave them. u can't avoid her father's people during marriage in esanland.u have no right to give her out...don't toy with esan tradition.the consequences could be deadly 3 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Kundagarten: 11:42am On Oct 19, 2019 |
As an Esan man I must advice you TEMPORARILY sue for peace at this time. Family is everything in our culture in Esan. I would advise for a successful wedding you need to make a temporary truce. The war or enmity can continue after the marriage ceremony but sadly family in Esan land are needed most in times of marriage and BURIAL. 4 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by midehi2(f): 11:43am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Slimmy0:Can't you read, the sister is from Uromi, giving her out must be involved with her family, if not she might have problems in the future, let him forgive and meet any of them, it must not be crowd, just a family member to stand in for her, the guy himself might even have problems sef by eating her dowry when he is not even from esanland 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In Uromi, Esanland. Please Share Tips by Kundagarten: 11:43am On Oct 19, 2019 |
johnmattew:Obhia ba I didn't read your post above before commenting but we seem to be saying the same thing. Family is paramount in Esan culture and tradition. 2 Likes |
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