subtlemee:
Meet the family head and get guidelines so you won't deviate and one uncle will just go and invoke ancestors

izibili44:
Morning,I am coming in on this because i am an uromi man.I have alot to say to you about what you want to do.I have taken upon myself to place your quote or words on the uromi forum where i belong.i await their contribution before i ill add mine.

AssistntBoyfrnd:
Dear Uromite/Esan people,

I will be giving out my half sister in marriage. She's uromi while I am yoruba. Same mother but different dad. We both orphans left to fend for ourselves since we were little. No family and we want to stay far away from them cuz they didn't care to take care of us.

I would appreciate if uromi/esan people can give advice on how to go about marriage rites in esan land. Traditional wedding list and the likes.

Thank you all.

Dov3:
My village is some few minutes away from uromi. The best advice you will get here today has already been given ....

Don't do anything remotely traditional. Do a court wedding and do a church wedding. Shikena. As long as she doesn't do trad marriage, she isn't married under their laws and so there is nothing that can happen to her.

I had problems with my family too and I had to do traditional weddings twice just to get it right

AssistntBoyfrnd:
Dear Uromite/Esan people,

I will be giving out my half sister in marriage. She's uromi while I am yoruba. Same mother but different dad. We both orphans left to fend for ourselves since we were little. No family and we want to stay far away from them cuz they didn't care to take care of us.

I would appreciate if uromi/esan people can give advice on how to go about marriage rites in esan land. Traditional wedding list and the likes.

Thank you all.

Mrpsly247:

what's the name of the forun

perryy:
. As an Esan man, if u don't meet family members now, in the future u and your sister MUST surely look for them. Don't argue, just mark my words. Esan no be Yoruba oooo. I told my ex wife about Esan tradition but she waved it off and went into adultery, but at the end , she knew what she saw.

FrLukas:


Wow. Is that your half sister's picture? Damn. Do you have another half sister?

SavageResponse:


Did you get you sister's permission before posting her pic here?

perryy:
. As an Esan man, if u don't meet family members now, in the future u and your sister MUST surely look for them. Don't argue, just mark my words. Esan no be Yoruba oooo. I told my ex wife about Esan tradition but she waved it off and went into adultery, but at the end , she knew what she saw.

AssistntBoyfrnd:


This isn't her pic. The mods put that there.

amp01:

I'm Esan, this guy matter tire me.
No matter what, find out about the tradition list, and give what belong to them to them, don't play with tradition, is powerful.
Your own to going to marry a wife, but her own, she is to be given out, at least,all the uncles are not BAD.

AssistntBoyfrnd:
Cc: bigfrancis21, odumchi, Fulaman198
Lalasticlala

Moving this to FP will be appreciated greatly. Thank you

Kundagarten:
As an Esan man I must advice you TEMPORARILY sue for peace at this time. Family is everything in our culture in Esan. I would advise for a successful wedding you need to make a temporary truce. The war or enmity can continue after the marriage ceremony but sadly family in Esan land are needed most in times of marriage and BURIAL.

Slimmy0:




No uncle or Auntie?, you re not even from Esan but you want to give out your sister according to Uromi's tradion.

Hhhmmmmm.... What is this world turning into?

AssistntBoyfrnd:
Dear Uromite/Esan people,

I will be giving out my half sister in marriage. She's uromi while I am yoruba. Same mother but different dad. We both orphans left to fend for ourselves since we were little. No family and we want to stay far away from them cuz they didn't care to take care of us.

I would appreciate if uromi/esan people can give advice on how to go about marriage rites in esan land. Traditional wedding list and the likes.

Thank you all.

amp01:

I'm Esan, this guy matter tire me.
No matter what, find out about the tradition list, and give what belong to them to them, don't play with tradition, is powerful.
Your own to going to marry a wife, but her own, she is to be given out, at least,all the uncles are not BAD.

benedictac:


I'm sorry for what you and your sister have gone through. God will see u guys through.

The Esan land marriage is not like the Igbos where u must come home to do the rites. You are now the father of that family, all you need to do is to look for person in her dad's family (we call it the spokesman (osuoma) he will represent the family wherever you wish to collect the bride price. He will be the one to collect the list and pass messages without u having a direct contact with the other members of the family.

On the day of wedding proper he will be the one to speak and not you. He will be the one to check everything is complete. Then after everything, he will take the ones that belong to the kinsmen to them.

But please look for the Christian one. At least the one that has the fear of God

Wish you all the best

Seaworthy:

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Seaworthy:
Please, tell me more about Esan people. Thank you.. I'm married to Esan woman.

Dov3:


Don't do anything remotely traditional. Do a court wedding and do a church wedding. Shikena. As long as she doesn't do trad marriage, she isn't married

Muscholes:
. This is so true. Am from Uromi,we were also neglected by my family after the death of my dad but thanks to my mum, during my wedding we had to go back looking for my dad's family cos we were told that there will be no wedding without them.