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Sometimes, I wonder who pushes a nonsensical content to front page. I don't have to give reasons why this write is stupid and myopic, many other comments have justified its stupidity. From what I just read, it can easily be deducted that a lady can have more than one boyfriend but if the op has a girl who agrees to go out with another man, I bet he'll be the first to complain. People go just carry one eye take dey see the whole world. If a woman tells you 'no' in a subtle way of 'I have a boyfriend', you should be glad enough because you didn't get the definite truth of 'I'm just not into you'. She for even 'brotherzone' you, that's the best thing to do to a one eyed person like you. MTCHEEW... Nonsense and ingredients

iwantolive:
God bless you.i am a male but i do tell girls the same thing,even my girl friend.You are not mine until we are married

so you mean your girlfriend is free to f**k around as she likes abi?

habsydiamond:
Oro Agba!!! Some of them no go even get boyfriend but go still claim am just to make one think that she's not an abandoned project.. women for be course to study in the university.. e for be like 10unit course where A will be for God, B for genius, C for very good, D for average student. Ladies I hail thee!!!

I seconded

Pettyprincess:
So you trying to say a lady should have many boyfriends as possible because she is not committed yet,like seriously?
No be bf dey turn fiance then husband?
If you in committed relationship it is expected that both partner should be faithful to each other!! I'm not talking about all this children relationship that they don't even know where it's heading to.That's why ladies should date men not boys!!!

in rare cases

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

You approached a woman? Are you a lesbian?

Your husband is just another guy like your boyfriend. The only difference is that you guys are recognized as a couple. Nothing else.

In fact, when he gets tired of you, he WILL walk away (break up with you) just like a boyfriend, except the guy has low self esteem or inferiority complex. All he needs to do is to send court papers to you.

About the children part, Davido has how many children now and how many wives sef? Any two fūcking beings of opposite sex can fūck and get a child.

You still want better explanation on why that thing called marriage is a sham? Good luck with carrying marriage on your head like gelato

Mehn some of y'all have lived f*cked up lives to have this type of mentality. Even the worst of psychologists would tell you that intimate relationships are built on principles, one of them is trust, the other is loyalty. If you are in a relationship with someone and you fully trust that person and completely loyal, why the f*ck would you want to tell another guy that you are free? This is the same type of mental fuckery that f*ckboys use to prey on innocent girls nowadays, it's the same mentality that has turned some Nigerian girls into waste bins. If you still see a girl of 25 years as too young to have a boyfriend then do the world a favor and ERASE yourself, your type of ignorance is too much for this world!

No Sense from this post atall....


Having a boyfriend means... being in a committed relationship... or must they spell it out.

DTC2:

Bf and Gf this days looks childish. Breakups has increased.

Children play bf/gf

Real men look for a wife

Do not quote me

aswear....dis bf and gf thing just tire me na just court and marry be d best....I dunno who invented it sef

Thanks for this. But sometimes the use of English and the meaning of it counts. Some don't even know the difference.

ericsmith:
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I just can't comprehend ur point of view fully, tried to reason along buh saying a boyfriend is not a husband should also apply to fiance.. except you don't wana agree there are so many r/ship that broke even after engagement ring.
Life is a process, one stage/level leads to the other. without boyfriend who you for call fiance .... committment as no time frame, engagement don't jus happen, commitment frm both parties or one of the parties as to trigger it.
According to your write if only marriage deserves commitment, then i ask how do we get to that level without commitment. can two unserious minds metamorphous to a couple, even if a gurl kips 10 bf u just av to take one serious @least

and besides of you say you have a man friend won't people think it is someone far older than you...

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

stop being ignorant its boyfriend that leads to husband. U expect me to just jam a girl then just marry straightup abi?

abbey621:
Mehn some of y'all have lived f*cked up lives to have this type of mentality. Even the worst of psychologists would tell you that intimate relationships are built on principles, one of them is trust, the other is loyalty. If you are in a relationship with someone and you fully trust that person and completely loyal, why the f*ck would you want to tell another guy that you are free? This is the same type of mental fuckery that f*ckboys use to prey on innocent girls nowadays, it's the same mentality that has turned some Nigerian girls into waste bins. If you still see a girl of 25 years as too young to have a boyfriend then do the world a favor and ERASE yourself, your type of ignorance is too much for this world!

loud it abeg, is it not a step at a time. All dz mumu girls sayin rubbish na una wey dem go use buy benz las las

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

As much as u attempted to make sm sense u failed to strike an essential balance.

A lady must show a certain level of commitment and honesty to her bf to be counted or found worthy to be a fiancée and same with the guy aswell, it will be ridiculous to wife a gal who has been doing a free for all party or activity. I’m sure u as well the assumed potential real husband as u call it wud be worried, if she jumping around so easily and freely when Ure dating her unless u will meet her 2day and marry or propose 2 her 2moro. If not a time period will be needed to access her and during that period my bro u are still a toaster or at best a boyfriend whom u carelessly describe as an unserious fellow inclusive of urself the new toaster aka hubby in waiting. Lol

Now what I think u shud say or have said is a gal shud know when and how long to be exclusive to a guy in a relationship to access the certain direction of such relationship because sm relationships are clearly going nowhere and possibly need a Change.


There is nothing wrong in a gal saying she has a boyfriend bt there is smtn wrong if she doesn’t know the level of her relationship and how she relates with other potential suitors who maybe serious. Marriage isn’t the only end goal bt a great relationship. Why? because there are bad marriages also. So thinking a man proposing to u is an achievement pls think again.

Sm husbands are wolves and worse than sm boyfriends. The genuineness of the relationship leading to marriage is the goal.

What is this one saying?

My God... How do I unread these crap.. Damn..

I for loss my (GOLD)hubby then with dis boyfriend mentality.single dis post above make sense ooh.shine ur eyes

Menance:
whether you announce it with a megaphone or not girls will keep having boyfriends just for sex sake.

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Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

Confused Op. Confusing post.

Wait,.are you a male or female?

As for the boyfriend thing it may or may not work out. So it doesn't mean girls should start friending every tom, dick , and Harry. And thats for those who still believe in fooling around with boys.

Secondly having a fiance is not an assurance that you have a husband. even nowadays, having a husband is not an assurance that you have a husband. If you know you know. These things are not absolute so take them as they come or leave them like that.
No be that one dey do me this early afternoon. Na how I go take make money be like human being and be happy dey do me now.

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

Nearly i for be a victim of bf nonsense but God save me.wen am wit silver (boyfriend)while the pure Gold dat am rejecting then is now my husband.ladies use ur head ooh.

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

This is just so meaningless... No b boyfriend go turn husband

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

What if the man just wants some coochie? And she doesn't give outsiders her coochie, only her boyfriend?

Godsonkemz:
I once met this lady of 24yrs old. Very beautiful to my taste. When i asked her out for a committed relationship, she told me that she has a boyfriend, not even a fiance. Though I like her honesty but i considered her response as an unwise decision because as a smart lady you don't close other doors simply because an uncommitted boy wants to turn you to his girlfriend or bed mate. If eventually the relationship fails to lead to the altar after wasting so many fruitful years servicing the man for another woman and by the time she clocks 35, she starts visiting prayer houses seeking solution whereas she's the one who turned down genuine offers that came her way when she was younger and blossoming like fresh ripe banana.

Let's assume this girl accepts your committed relationship proposal, and few weeks later meets another man who's even more committed than you, and proposes to her with a car and diamond ring so she comes to you one day and let you know she's no longer interested. You'll also tell nairaland how you once met a girl who doesn't know what she wants. Respect her decision, she might be in a relationship for a good reason best known to her.

In pidgin:

If to say we take and obey instruction on how God want relationship between man and woman to be, we for no dey confused like this by now.

see confusion na. Some people will be with bf e go reach until she old. Some people go be with bf, im go marry the girl. Girls just dey blunder with confusion, sister if the bf marry you, na your luck, if him turn you to 'old woman' gf, na your luck.

but why hang womens fate like this and say we should just accept like that.

This op is a "YEYE BOI FRIEND OR HUSBAND " bro go find work , i can see u have none

OP you are not a real niggarrr.

ericsmith:
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I just can't comprehend ur point of view fully, tried to reason along buh saying a boyfriend is not a husband should also apply to fiance.. except you don't wana agree there are so many r/ship that broke even after engagement ring.
Life is a process, one stage/level leads to the other. without boyfriend who you for call fiance .... committment as no time frame, engagement don't jus happen, commitment frm both parties or one of the parties as to trigger it.
According to your write if only marriage deserves commitment, then i ask how do we get to that level without commitment. can two unserious minds metamorphous to a couple, even if a gurl kips 10 bf u just av to take one serious @least

dis is jst so true jare....no matter wah u cal him..e.g.bf..fiance..mgu..maga..bestfriend....he would b ur husband if he is meant to...jst keep ur existin relationship...nd mak friends...

spiritedtete:
No Sense from this post atall....


Having a boyfriend means... being in a committed relationship... or must they spell it out.

And the BS made front-page

The writer forgot that success is a process... If that is how he views it, then why should you be angry when your girlfriend cheats on you! Useless thought

... Not everyone dating are having sex. My friend and I have been dating since year one in the university and I have never had sex with her. It depends on you, please correct that motive.

lazinny:
What is even wrong with humans in this part of the world? I honestly don't get. A girl having a boyfriend at 25 is now a bad thing, at what age is she now supposed to have one? At 13?

Marriage evolves from a relationship not the other way round. You don't wake up on day and decided you want to get married then go about looking for a spouse, like say Na car you wan buy.
You'll only end up with someone as desperate as you are.

People should be careful the kinda advise they read online.

coming from a guy?
I'm impressed

Pointless thread. Do you engage or marry a woman the moment she agrees to be in a relationship with you