There is this single mum living just beside our house (She is single because she left her husband, accused him of not being faithful and not taking care of the family, They are not officially divorced.)

Now, she has 3 daughters only, 2 very little girls about 5 and 6 years that has been given out as maids and another girl of about 15 years and she and her daughter due to hardship is squatting with another family, living in their house for free.

One day as i was looking out from our house, I noticed some rowdy movement inside the squatters room. Then after a while, the introverted girl rushed out of the house Tensed ( Very Afraid). I asked her Ogini! but she never replied. After a while, the landlord of the house came out of her room claiming to be angry and making phone call.



I later called the girl and asked her, she first denied that she is being abused but later agreed and also told me that she had been raped by him b4 then she pleaded with me that I shouldn't tell anyone.

I talked to her mom about it and she started shouting at her daughter that she has warned her severally to always lock herself up whenever she is out selling food (which she does for a living). She made the victim guilty. I stopped her but she continued by saying that the house they are living is their only hope and anything that will make them chased out of their will not be accepted. He warned me to keep shut and stay out of her family business,That i shouldn't involve the police or the man's wife or street youth. She insisted that doing such will ruin their life in the city. Even the victim also begged me to keep it down

I wanted to go to church to report to his pastor but on second thought, pastor will invite the man and question him and this will bounce back on the victims family.

If you were in my shoes, what will you do as i don't want to hurt the victims family the more?

1. Get evidence. ( Work with the girl and get incriminating evidence against the man)

2. Going to church is a waste of time. Report that beast to the appropriate authorities. He needs to face the full force of the law.

3. Save that poor child

SMH.
The society is getting more frustrating day by day.

It's saddening!.

There are government agencies you can report to that handle such cases. Don't tell any pastor, they will turn it into a family affair and blame it on the devil and the abuse will go on, same thing with the police.

peteruuu:
SMH.
The society is getting more frustrating day by day.

It's saddening!.

You need to see this introverted quiet girl. She is so disconnected from this world.

My advice to parents is to always consider your children before talking of divorce. Before maltreating your wife out of the house or before taking your children from your husbands house, ALWAYS REMEMBER THE CHILDREN

Omoh eh

go to government agencies

Hmmm
If ur not giving them a new accommodation please stay d f##k away from their business... Sometimes life isn't fair allow nature play it's cause..

nrexzy:
Hmmm
If ur not giving them a new accommodation please stay d f##k away from their business... [s]Sometimes life isn't fair allow nature play it's cause.. [/s]

My dear, this what i have been doing since Saturday last week (Too bad though) as i am still a student that came back for holidays in my Fathers house.

When I even talked to the victims father (Barber man). He told me that her mother is overwise and that is their cup of tea as his hands are totally off

In Lagos, report anonymously to DSVRT. That man is an eternal bastard

Shelloween:
1. Get evidence. ( Work with the girl and get incriminating evidence against the man)

2. Going to church is a waste of time. Report that beast to the appropriate authorities. He needs to face the full force of the law.

3. Save that poor child

The girl will never agree to work with me. She is very introverted and very afraid to talk, even her mum won't allow her.

She may even deny me when it turns to big case

franchasng:
It sounds strange to me; you left your husband because he doesn't treat you well, and you went to squat another man who is molesting you and your daughters and you can endure it, what more is foolishness than this

Who knows if her husband got tired of her because she was unfaithful and maybe whenever the husband tried to correct her, she doesn't listen, leading the man to start treating her unfairly, who knows Because such a woman than covers an act like this can do and undo

Well the woman is very wrong in scolding and intimidating her daughter but in the case of leaving her husband, From the way the man speaks, you will definitely notice that he frustrated the woman out of the house because she has no male child.

Some men will maltreat their wife inside but will pretend and play victim card outside.

nrexzy:
Hmmm
If ur not giving them a new accommodation please stay d f##k away from their business... Sometimes life isn't fair allow nature play it's cause..

I hope nature can play its course with you too, given the circumstances.

I don't even know what to say. Sad situation.

Donald95:


The girl will never agree to work with me. She is very introverted and very afraid to talk, even her mum won't allow her.

She may even deny me when it turns to big case

get genuine evidence first before u do anything

Poverty is the genesis of everything. from ur narration @OP The mother is a slut who will always trade her dignity and of her children just to stay comfortable, so you can't help the situation unless u are ready to bail them out of their condition... The Thought Of having a girl child in this insane enviroment scared the shit outta me, i'm afraid the girl's innocency has been exposed and may not come back.

Donald95:
There is this single mum living just beside our house (She is single because she left her husband, accused him of not being faithful and not taking care of the family, They are not officially divorced.)

Now, she has 3 daughters only, 2 very little girls about 5 and 6 years that has been given out as maids and another girl of about 15 years and she and her daughter due to hardship is squatting with another family, living in their house for free.

One day as i was looking out from our house, I noticed some rowdy movement inside the squatters room. Then after a while, the introverted girl rushed out of the house Tensed ( Very Afraid). I asked her Ogini! but she never replied. After a while, the landlord of the house came out of her room claiming to be angry and making phone call.



I later called the girl and asked her, she first denied that she is being abused but later agreed and also told me that she had been raped by him b4 then she pleaded with me that I shouldn't tell anyone.

I talked to her mom about it and she started shouting at her daughter that she has warned her severally to always lock herself up whenever she is out selling food (which she does for a living). She made the victim guilty. I stopped her but she continued by saying that the house they are living is their only hope and anything that will make them chased out of their will not be accepted. He warned me to keep shut and stay out of her family business,That i shouldn't involve the police or the man's wife or street youth. She insisted that doing such will ruin their life in the city. Even the victim also begged me to keep it down

I wanted to go to church to report to his pastor but on second thought, pastor will invite the man and question him and this will bounce back on the victims family.

If you were in my shoes, what will you do as i don't want to hurt the victims family the more?

Oga go straight to the domestic violence unit of your state, or if na Lagos, it’s easier, I was just there yesterday. Check my dairy or my signature for the full thing I went there fore. My signature is more explicit.

Ayotemide:
In Lagos, report anonymously to DSVRT. That man is an eternal bastard

I am in Aba, Abia State and those government agencies works only when they smell money.

Looking at the victims non-helpful poor mom, you will know they will definitely loose any case made against the abuser

Ayotemide:


I hope nature can play its course with you too, given the circumstances.

If u can't effect complete change don't start.

If u have been sexually abused would u want everyone to know?

Donald95:


I am in Aba, Abia State and those government agencies works only when they smell money.

Looking at the victims non-helpful poor mom, you will know they will definitely loose any case made against the abuser

Still do your best; the mother would place economic security over the well-being of her child; that is just crazy?

Try the ministry of women affairs, or any NGO fighting for rape causes; they can not all be dormant in Aba.

Donald95:


My dear, this what i have been doing since Saturday last week (Too bad though) as i am still a student that came back for holidays in my Fathers house.

When I even talked to the victims father (Barber man). He told me that her mother is overwise and that is their cup of tea as his hands are totally off

Just pray for them....
And if u know a good rehabilitation center for raped victims u can report the occurrence....
Maybe a good Samaritan might help support them..

nrexzy:


If u can't effect complete change don't start.

If u have been sexually abused would u want everyone to know?

Young Man.

I have it in good authority that you are a shallow minded and small thinking fellow. I would appreciate you getting something else to think on, Football or Barney maybe?

But as it relates to sexual abuse you clearly have no idea if you think silence should 'help' the victim.

please Gedifok.

Ayotemide:


Young Man.

I have it in good authority that you are a shallow minded and small thinking fellow. I would appreciate you getting something else to think on, Football or Barney maybe?

But as it relates to sexual abuse you clearly have no idea if you think silence should 'help' the victim.

please Gedifok.

And stigmatization is ur best solution
Don't forget she and her mum are squatters... When they are chased out of the house and to d streets how many more rape occurance would be prevented....
It's very simple if u can afford to provide them with accommodation feeding wouldnt be their problem.. Contact the poster and get more details other than taking it personal...
If u don't have a solution to their problem please invest ur time in other relevant issues...
Thank u

Donald95:


The girl will never agree to work with me. She is very introverted and very afraid to talk, even her mum won't allow her.

She may even deny me when it turns to big case

You really need to get her on board. Find means to. You need evidence to take that evil man down.

Donald95:


My dear, this what i have been doing since Saturday last week (Too bad though) as i am still a student that came back for holidays in my Fathers house.

When I even talked to the victims father (Barber man). He told me that her mother is overwise and that is their cup of tea as his hands are totally off

bold, this is what you get when you live in a society that blames women for everything and tells wives to be homebuilders while men are free to do as they please.

In sane societies the man would be forced to pay child support or be arrested but in Nigeria women are like lesser animals that take blame for husbands bad behaviour. Just imagine the comment the he goat made after his own daughter was raped.
The other day another guy started a similar topic to talk about a guy whose kids go around begging everybody while the father is busy denying they are his kids.


Nigeria is just paradise for useless and irresponsible fathers.

As for the topic if you have any way to financially help the woman or get her a job, house whatever I think you should do that. If she lives in abuja she should visit berekete family for the philanthropist ordinary Ahmed to help her. The guy will shock you with how well he can transform their lives, he takes things like this very serious. That is if the woman is ready to cooperate. He can also get the landlord arrested.

Oriyomin25:
Poverty is the genesis of everything. from ur narration @OP The mother is a slut who will always trade her dignity and of her children just to stay comfortable, so you can't help the situation unless u are ready to bail them out of their condition... The Thought Of having a girl child in this insane enviroment scared the shit outta me, i'm afraid the girl's innocency has been exposed and may not come back.

@ bolded part, So what is the father?

He was the same fool that started family he could not take care of and presently is washing his hands off an issue that involves his own children

but let's ignore him and insult the mother na, ABI? If he joins hands together with the mother they can work to defeat the landlord because he is male and men have upper hand in Nigeria. But he is playing ostrich.

If you must leave the father of your children, make sure it actually improves your and your children's situation. I don't see how her situation has improved if her 5 and 6 year old girls have been left at the mercy of strangers and her older one is being s.exually abused. Something doesn't sit right with me.

Donald95:
There is this single mum living just beside our house (She is single because she left her husband, accused him of not being faithful and not taking care of the family, They are not officially divorced.)

Now, she has 3 daughters only, 2 very little girls about 5 and 6 years that has been given out as maids and another girl of about 15 years and she and her daughter due to hardship is squatting with another family, living in their house for free.

One day as i was looking out from our house, I noticed some rowdy movement inside the squatters room. Then after a while, the introverted girl rushed out of the house Tensed ( Very Afraid). I asked her Ogini! but she never replied. After a while, the landlord of the house came out of her room claiming to be angry and making phone call.



I later called the girl and asked her, she first denied that she is being abused but later agreed and also told me that she had been raped by him b4 then she pleaded with me that I shouldn't tell anyone.

I talked to her mom about it and she started shouting at her daughter that she has warned her severally to always lock herself up whenever she is out selling food (which she does for a living). She made the victim guilty. I stopped her but she continued by saying that the house they are living is their only hope and anything that will make them chased out of their will not be accepted. He warned me to keep shut and stay out of her family business,That i shouldn't involve the police or the man's wife or street youth. She insisted that doing such will ruin their life in the city. Even the victim also begged me to keep it down

I wanted to go to church to report to his pastor but on second thought, pastor will invite the man and question him and this will bounce back on the victims family.

If you were in my shoes, what will you do as i don't want to hurt the victims family the more?

@Donald95,

I must commend you on your passion to right the wrong done to the girl (victim).

Unfortunately, the problem is multifaceted. The mother is so poor that she gave out her 5yr and 6yr old as maids. What possibly could they do?

It seems she is using the 15yr old as a bait to men to get help because it would have made more sense to give the 15yr as a maid and keep the two toddlers with her. Again, the 15yr old would be more useful to her helping in the shop than locked in the house. The rape could have been orchestrated between mother and landlord and only reacting because you are involved.

I am beginning to suspect the woman's story. If her husband was really irresponsible, why can she go back to her family if no hope in the city? Why can't she keep the kids with her family or worse case in-laws if she wants to remain to hustle? She left her husband without a plan knowing well that he was the sole provider.

The father is also irresponsible; even if he no longer wants the mother, what about his flesh and blood?

What can you do?

Get the girl closer to your elder sister or mother so they mentor her to ease some of the damage she is going through. You can also invite her for youth programs in the church: she is broken hearted and needs healing.

If you report the mother anonymously, they will just put those kids in foster care because their father doesn't want them and I do not know how good or efficient our foster care is.

Don't discuss anything with the mom again so she doesn't alienate the girl from you.

How about the toddlers used as helps?

So so sad.

Mindfulness:
If you must leave the father of your children, make sure it actually improves your and your children's situation. I don't see how her situation has improved if her 5 and 6 year old girls have been left at the mercy of strangers and her older one is being s.exually abused. Something doesn't sit right with me.

I very well agree with you.

The father was unfaithful and not taking care of the family.

At least, the kids were not helps and she did not have to mortgage her eldest for accommodation.

So sad.

She shouldn't let the case die down, let her speak for the sanity of the victim,rape case kills the self esteem of the victims. Report to the appropriate authorities, there is a guy on Instagram called Harrison, he will take it up once the information gets to him, they will be fine once they get him involved

bukatyne:


@Donald95,

I must commend you on your passion to right the wrong done to the girl (victim).

Unfortunately, the problem is multifaceted. The mother is so poor that she gave out her 5yr and 6yr old as maids. What possibly could they do?

It seems she is using the 15yr old as a bait to men to get help because it would have made more sense to give the 15yr as a maid and keep the two toddlers with her. Again, the 15yr old would be more useful to her helping in the shop than locked in the house. The rape could have been orchestrated between mother and landlord and only reacting because you are involved.

I am beginning to suspect the woman's story. If her husband was really irresponsible, why can she go back to her family if no hope in the city? Why can't she keep the kids with her family or worse case in-laws if she wants to remain to hustle? She left her husband without a plan knowing well that he was the sole provider.

The father is also irresponsible; even if he no longer wants the mother, what about his flesh and blood?

What can you do?

Get the girl closer to your elder sister or mother so they mentor her to ease some of the damage she is going through. You can also invite her for youth programs in the church: she is broken hearted and needs healing.

If you report the mother anonymously, they will just put those kids in foster care because their father doesn't want them and I do not know how good or efficient our foster care is.

Don't discuss anything with the mom again so she doesn't alienate the girl from you.

How about the toddlers used as helps?

So so sad.

Nice points. My problem is with the girl that refused to speak out and co-operate while being raped into depression. At least one of her uncle or Aunt could even take her up.

The mother kept her just for her to help in cooking the food she hulks around in wheelbarrow.

The father has already written them off because illiterates in our society still blames women when they produce only female children.

What i can do now is to pray for her

Donald95:


Nice points. My problem is with the girl that refused to speak out and co-operate while being raped into depression. At least one of her uncle or Aunt could even take her up.

The mother kept her just for her to help in cooking the food she hulks around in wheelbarrow.

The father has already written them off because illiterates in our society still blames women when they produce only female children.

What i can do now is to pray for her

...and also report the rapist, so he can be removed from society. If indeed he’s a rapist, they don’t stop at one victim, you have to do all you can to prevent an unsuspecting young woman from being this man’s future victim.

To start with, what part of the country do you reside?!

Let us take this matter up from there.