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computergeek:
I understand your sentiments, but all my actions were in good faith. I knew that a lot of people would misconstrue the issue, but that's okay. If you had read the first post, you would know we had a mutually beneficial agreement. I'll leave my office buy my son's lunch, drive to school and pick my son and her son, bring them home and he'll stay with her for about 4 hours.

You should notice I've been on this forum for three years and this is my first time of ever bringing an issue here. I didn't even consider creating a new account. I was distraught and needed advice as to how to fix the issue. I know she doesn't know about NL though.

About the mockery thing, that's one way to perceive it but it's not. I'm just stating facts. My family is not perfect but I'm not the one currently in the limelight.

Dear, the issue is that when we read about such things, we tend to make our own conclusions but when placed in the situation in reality, it becomes a different thing all together.

Please stop responding to ignorance. People are so unbelievably petty! They are nitpicking on complete irrelevancies and leaving the crux of the matter.

Ishilove:
Please stop responding to ignorance. People are so unbelievably petty! They are nitpicking on complete irrelevancies and leaving the crux of the matter.

Babe I tire for them o. Some ladies are really angry... Just imagine how angry she is that I was talking about my son. That MelaninGold abi wetin too dey vex say I mention say I dey drive

I shaa don't blame them. Women have been hating on each other since the dark ages.

cococandy:
She’s a virtuous woman.

By NL misogynistic standards.

Maybe she’s on this forum and reads the posts.
Doesn’t want anyone to call her olosho who can’t keep her marriage.

Kiddo

OP shey we tell you, that this is what will happen in the end but you were too stubborn to listen.

You were paying attention to certain comments here that were simply pretentious talking about arresting the man or beating him up forgetting that most people here will say anything to Garner likes even when they do completely opposite things in real life.

The society has the average females mind so fu-cked up, there is no redemption anytime soon.
Most women reading this will still act this way, forget all the braggadocios comment you read from the female monikers here.

Oya now you Don see am, history will always repeat itself, every single time.

Its all good tho you have learnt the hard way.

Donjazzy12:
You made it clear that he is by far closer to his dad than your lesbian ass! Keep sucking other women's rotten pussies instead of being close to your first Son, tomorrow, you look for who to blame!

My advice, focus on your own marriage which is falling apart because of your lesbianism!

Try and confess to your unfortunate husband the truth!

Men haf suffa!

Because you were not close to your father doesn't mean reasonable men don't want to be close to their sons. Who else to be the perfect role model for a son other than his father?
Don't project the failures in your own family unto another person's own.

yeyeosoronga:
Because you were not close to your father doesn't mean reasonable men don't want to be close to their sons. Who else to be the perfect role model for a son other than his father?
Don't project the failures in your own family unto another person's own.

Shut up! Father's are closer to their daughters why mother's are closer to their sons. Don't be a fool! That's why a home needs a father and mother. Grow up!

bukatyne:
I wish you were right.

ANY woman who wants to leave an abusive marriage will do so with or without a job.

Quote me anywhere.

So why do u think she doesn't want to leave?

SIRTee15:
You are wrong on this....
There's no oversabi....
At that stage, there has to be a 3rd party for sanity to reign in that house....
Whatever the case, the woman's death warrant has been postponed for a while....
The op action bought more time for the poor lady on this earth....
That is invaluable, maybe she can reassess the situation in her home n make a better judgement for her sake n her kids...
I believe in minding my business, but not in a matter of life n death....
The op did well, kudos to her....

So after getting the victim to the hospital, paying her bills, getting in touch with the friend she asked for, what else should the OP have done since it is a matter of life and death and not a time to mind one's business?

nawa oo

Donjazzy12:
Shut up! Father's are closer to their daughters why mother's are closer to their sons. Don't be a fool! That's why a home needs a father and mother. Grow up!

You know you're mad, and you have no body to tell you right?
Because you grew up in a dysfunctional home doesn't mean we all did. I know your father did a number on you, but shout out to great fathers out there teaching their sons how to be exemplary men.
Who'z your daddy?

femtex007:
Lets say. Love conquers all. Most of those divorcees are regretting their actions

love oshiii

computergeek:
I don't remember telling you that my husband beat me into the hospital. Even if we have issues or argue about something, he can never hit me. Trust me, some men are still like that. So let's focus on the one who was nearly blinded and killed, and forget about me.


Modified:
Please I think everyone should read the first post. A lot of people are here misconstruing the issue, saying that I'm painting a perfect picture of my marriage and my own life.

Some ladies here are really embittered. Why read a painful write up with the intent to find faults? It's not my fault I have a job and a car. My own marriage is not perfect cos no marriage is 100% perfect.

Some people are calling me out for talking about my son's activities. Read the first post and find out the trauma he went through when he saw that woman the first time.

Madam, I have read both original posts and I must say that I am impressed with your conduct. However, a lot of people are going through hard times and they might find it pretty hard to flow with and understand someone who they perceive is a bit better off than they are. As for the woman in question, I will agree with previous posters who advised you to keep your distance, for your own peace. I pray that God will grant you and your spouse the wisdom to make your own marriage the perfection you desire.

crackhaus:
So after getting the victim to the hospital, paying her bills, getting in touch with the friend she asked for, what else should the OP have done since it is a matter of life and death and not a time to mind one's business?

reporting to the police and involving a family member is a step in the right direction....
its immaterial that the case was withdrawn from the police....
The husband will be cautious now to exhibit his savagery tendency, at least for some time....
That's a lifeline for the woman....
It may provide an opportunity for her to review her situation without fear of receiving further blows....

SIRTee15:
reporting to the police and involving a family member is a step in the right direction....
its immaterial that the case was withdrawn from the police....
The husband will be cautious now to exhibit his savagery tendency, at least for some time....
That's a lifeline for the woman....
It may provide an opportunity for her to review her situation without fear of receiving further blows....

Even if it's the victim herself who requested for the case to be withdrawn?

yeyeosoronga:
You know you're mad, and you have no body to tell you right?
Because you grew up in a dysfunctional home doesn't mean we all did. I know your father did a number on you, but shout out to great fathers out there teaching their sons how to be exemplary men.
Who'z your daddy?

Shut up, I was talking to the lesbian who wants us to believe that her marriage is made in heaven. But like most foolish young men of nowadays who worship pussy, you dive into the conversation to make a total fool of your self as usual.
If you don't like the normal configuration of the family consider joining bobrisky in his trade!

Rozaytee:
love oshiii

See your big oral mouth

yeyeosoronga:
You know you're mad, and you have no body to tell you right?
Because you grew up in a dysfunctional home doesn't mean we all did. I know your father did a number on you, but shout out to great fathers out there teaching their sons how to be exemplary men.
Who'z your daddy?

That’s why you had to tell him this? A virtuous married woman for that matter

Jewessgratitude:
Hmmm.... Now Op... I didn't read the previous story but from what I read here I can get a picture of what the matter is all about. But Op, the tone of this your message gives you away as a mocker as in the tone is one of sarcasm and not sympathy. Even your actions towards her is not so pleasant, reason she refused further gestures from you.
I'll explain each part of all I describe up there about your actions and tone.

"Not Pleasant Actions": You immediately stopped dropping your children with her because of what she's passing through. Do you know how that makes her feel? Like Her family is some bad influence (of course they are) but you didn't need to make it so obvious. And to think all this while she's been looking after them at no cost,n ow you making it seem like shes a plague? On that note She has every right to refuse your gestures too.

If only you had bothered to read her initial post, you wouldn't have written this judgemental epistle. And to think that she actually posted the link...smh

Donjazzy12:
Shut up! Father's are closer to their daughters why mother's are closer to their sons. Don't be a fool! That's why a home needs a father and mother. Grow up!

Even though you may be right about what you wrote above, but it still beats my imagination how you can conclude that she's a lesbian and is not close to her son based on her write up. Like seriously!!! Someone that you don't even know personally, and you still went on to insult her.

Be very careful about what you post on social media, especially on a forum like this that you believe makes you anonymous.

Yinibixema:
That’s why you had to tell him this? A virtuous married woman for that matter

Who's virtuous?
You must be a dreamer

yeyeosoronga:
Who's virtuous?
You must be a dreamer

You’re a virtuous woman and God fearing

computergeek:
I don't remember telling you that my husband beat me into the hospital. Even if we have issues or argue about something, he can never hit me. Trust me, some men are still like that. So let's focus on the one who was nearly blinded and killed, and forget about me.


Modified:
Please I think everyone should read the first post. A lot of people are here misconstruing the issue, saying that I'm painting a perfect picture of my marriage and my own life.

Some ladies here are really embittered. Why read a painful write up with the intent to find faults? It's not my fault I have a job and a car. My own marriage is not perfect cos no marriage is 100% perfect.

Some people are calling me out for talking about my son's activities. Read the first post and find out the trauma he went through when he saw that woman the first time.

Just pray hard, so, that the devil that do attack marriages will not remember you. However, you're too proud. What concerns us with your job and car.

desoul2004:
Just pray hard, so, that the devil that do attack marriages will not remember you. However, you're too proud. What concerns us with your job and car.

You're dysfunctional and too jealous.

So I should not mention that I drive the kids to school or that I took her baby to work?

Go get something doing and it's not my fault you've been seeing only failed marriages your entire life. Just pray, so that the generational curse of poverty and marital failure following you would be broken soon.


Jobless fool.

computergeek:
You're dysfunctional and too jealous.

So I should not mention that I drive the kids to school or that I took her baby to work?

Go get something doing and it's not my fault you've been seeing only failed marriages your entire life. Just pray, so that the generational curse of poverty and marital failure following you would be broken soon.


Jobless fool.

Aunty, biko leave the little minded people alone, it's no longer shocking seeing the kinds of people NL bring together.

As for the battered wife that went back, please respect her wish and mind your business going forward. It's apparently her destiny, no matter how hard one protects people like that, they won't learn until they are absolutely ready to learn. May God help her and the rest of us. Well done, you did well.

crackhaus:
You are surprised she went back?

What did you think was going to happen especially with this particular story? I mean really.
I read all the comments on that thread all talking about police this, police that, some even talking about how boys should be arranged to go and deal with the man.
That's exactly what the internet does to people - they create another version of the world they live in and pretend that's how it is for real.

My comment to you then was simple - take your child out of the situation, call her friend who she asked for to come to the hospital, and then move on because you had done all you could do.

Meanwhile, you still don't know the full story like I noted on the other thread.
Now the woman is even trying to avoid you, lol. Classic.

Anyway, you try.

Oga wise man...you eyes don see o. Experience yi poju

sisisioge:
Aunty, biko leave the little minded people alone, it's no longer shocking seeing the kinds of people NL bring together.

As for the battered wife that went back, please respect her wish and mind your business going forward. It's apparently her destiny, no matter how hard one protects people like that, they won't learn until they are absolutely ready to learn. May God help her and the rest of us. Well done, you did well.

You're a wise woman Nne.

seunmohmoh:
97% is not because of money.

Is because of what ?

computergeek:
You're dysfunctional and too jealous.

So I should not mention that I drive the kids to school or that I took her baby to work?

Go get something doing and it's not my fault you've been seeing only failed marriages your entire life. Just pray, so that the generational curse of poverty and marital failure following you would be broken soon.


Jobless fool.

I don't exchange words with people on social media, for some reasons. Shalom.

desoul2004:
I don't exchange words with people on social media, for some reasons. Shalom.

And you call the stupidity you just displayed here what? Puke on yourself because you're nauseating...