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And the girl took him back? Ok.

Grumpyy:
In response to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/5508729/5-year-old-relationship-ended

Hello dear, I went through something like this a year ago but not in your position so let me share my story with you, it MAY help you connect the dots.

So fast rewind to 2013, I met my girlfriend when I was in 200L in the university. I've always been a reserved person, so when I met her, I wasn't really prepared to date anyone yet but her ingenuity attracted me. She was in 100L but then I also have this heightened, over bloated self respect that even as I am her snr by just a level, I still felt she was a child and needn't had to have anything to do with her. I was 18 then, mind you.

What drew me to date her was when I noticed my guys (not really friends) gawking at her. They all wanted to have a piece of her and I just felt I should step in and protect her kinda (yes my mind actually thought this).

I noticed she was always uneasy with me and that was a good sign, so I asked her out and she accepted. I got to find out that she was a virgin too, and before I knew it, I was so deep in love with her. We dated till I left school in 2016. I finished my service early 2018 and got a scholarship for masters in the UK so I left the country, June 2018.

For the 5 years we dated, we never had sex. We did other things of course but not sex. We made solid plans and I trusted her with my all my heart.

There was this guy amongst those my supposed guys that was never happy for me and my babe. He had wanted to ask her out before I blocked him, he would always talk about how he'd f....ck the living shit outta my GF to be, that she was voluptuous and the rest.. So when I started dating the girl, he was not happy, he pretended of course, but I could see through the ruse.

Fast forward to 2018 when I was just about to settle in the UK, I get a WhatsApp msg from this guy telling me he has something to say to me. He says he's been f...cking my babe and sent me her nude. For like 3 days, I shut down. I couldn't eat, I couldn't read, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't coordinate my head at all. I was so confused because before I left the country, i hadn't seen my GF for almost a year but we spoke every day, sometimes 3 to 4 times in a day. I knew all she was doing and where she was at every time of the day, so if it was true, then it means she was being highly smart to keep up with me and still cheat, and that was an evil machination.

I shut her out, I wasn't taking her calls anymore, I wasn't replying to her msgs anymore, I literally brought out my heart, locked it in a chest and threw away the keys on the high sea, I acted this believe me. Her sister called, her mum, her friends, my sister, everybody called me to know what's up but I never said a thing. For 6 months, I wouldn't tell anybody anything and I also felt she was being hypocritical when she knows exactly what she did.

By December 2018, I was still getting calls to explain what was the problem, by then I had already completed my morphing into Davy Jones so I opened up to my sister. I told her that the biatch was cheating on me with the least person I had expected her to. I sent my sis the picture, it was a soft nude picture (you get me) but it was still something. She too, she went mad and said she'd confront her. I told her not to bother that she was already dead to me. She still confronted her and here's the denouement..

When my sis confronted her with the evidence, she fell down and cried and rained curses on me. She swore she never sent that guy, that picture. The picture was sent to me. She even right there sourced for the guy's contact and called him and the demon said how could her BF not trust her. That he was teasing me and he said I was the one that shared the nude amongst my friends. My GF opened her WhatsApp and luckily the chat from the day she sent me the picture was still there. I couldn't see this particular chat on my phone. I still kept her WhatsApp history too. My best guess is that the day she sent me the picture, my phone was with this other guy and he took it and deleted the chat from my end.

I begged for forgiveness, I had to cry to her before she said Ok.. I couldn't call the guy cause I don't know what to tell him.

So my dear, it was a long story indeed but I'm sharing it with you so you'd ask him the direct question like "did you hear I cheated on you?", or "Did you hear I wished you bad?" People are spreading malicious rumours about other people, so ask him if he heard or he saw anything.

There's this chat going around now where a guy said he saw his GF through CCTV where she was been fondled by another guy, the guy may decide to just shut her out and she wouldn't have a clue as to why.

Also, check yourself... if you ever betrayed his trust in a seemingly contrived way thinking he'd never find out.

At the end of the day, nothing really is hidden under the sun.

Thanks.

LolaO
Rocktation
Farano
Lalasticlala

Pls which scholarship is that and how did you get it?

djoe21:
The only drift we get is you trying to tell us that you are an old man. Well, I hope you remember that the older you are, the closer you are to your grave

no o. You don't talk to an elder like that. What's wrong with you?

computergeek:
Ladies, no matter how much you love and trust a man, do not send him your nudes. Never do it. It will always find one way or the other to backfire.

Story. What you are advising is akin to telling them not to fall in love. Them no go hear you, sorry.

stupidity:
Exactly how I stupidly caused a breakup between two love birds.

When I was still in school, I’d plant a female slippers right out the door of my neighbor when I know he’s not around. His girl would come and think he’s inside banging and refused to open the door. (phone was still a rare commodity then) lol


Did it twice, the bae couldn’t take it and broke up with him.

Na only me know waten happen

It's not funny
Your a witch/wizard/assassin, but you dont know

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn
Always read niggarrr
Real niggarrrs read

make money.

Wow!!! We should never judge before confronting the other person.

Grumpyy:
Yes we are

Waoh I love happy endings

Heineken:
no o. You don't talk to an elder like that. What's wrong with you?

Hahaha. I love sarcasm

stupidity:
Exactly how I stupidly caused a breakup between two love birds.

When I was still in school, I’d plant a female slippers right out the door of my neighbor when I know he’s not around. His girl would come and think he’s inside banging and refused to open the door. (phone was still a rare commodity then) lol


Did it twice, the bae couldn’t take it and broke up with him.

Na only me know waten happen

no wonder ur username is stupidity

nuelsam:
Wow.....this notion is damn right
most black men just hate on emselves for no reason
Envious bunch of douchbags.....

And you just had to make it about black men, didn't you? Other races dont envy each other, right?
You need to work on your self-esteem

djoe21:
Hahaha. I love sarcasm

lol see you.

It shows we should not believe everything we hear from a third party, always seek for the right information from the very person involved, in that case the real truth will come out.

Everyone need to be careful. Early this year my closest nigga storm my girlfriend facebook page. Download her pictures and post it on his whatsapp status with a harsh tag #My queen, i will continue to love you till the end. when i saw it, i confronted my girlfriend immediately and she told me that she do not have my friend number neither are they friends on facebook. Argument ensued immediately between us which almost led to breakup. But to cut the story short, i later find out that my friend was only jealous of our relationship.
Always verify information before you react. Ask questions at the right time.

Grumpyy:
Yes we are

do you mind if i write a film script on your story

Mr100Dollars:
your conclusion is actually different from the Op story.

Lol, I tell you, with the way he's even generalising like he has been with all women.

The only thing I can deduce from your story Op, is She shouldnt have sent any nude pics to you in the first place, no matter the love.

Imagine your friends can even access your phone


Anyways just thank your God, she listened to you afterwards.

If I were the one it's over, whether you are in UK o, or Pluto? It's over.

Just imagine the attitude, smmmmmmmhhhhhhh

Investigate journalist... Lol

iAudio:
Op was 18 in 2013. That's when I gave up.

I joined nairaland in 2007, how old was the Op then?

You get my drift?

iAudio:
Op was 18 in 2013. That's when I gave up.

I joined nairaland in 2007, how old was the Op then?

You get my drift?

Methusellah... How you dey?

IamPlato:
do you mind if i write a film script on your story

Hmm, yes you are so free to do that.

Grumpyy:
Hmm, yes you are so free to do that.

do You Mind Me Having Your Name So That The story Will Be Dedicated and Credited To You

Grumpyy:
In response to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/5508729/5-year-old-relationship-ended

Hello dear, I went through something like this a year ago but not in your position so let me share my story with you, it MAY help you connect the dots.

So fast rewind to 2013, I met my girlfriend when I was in 200L in the university. I've always been a reserved person, so when I met her, I wasn't really prepared to date anyone yet but her ingenuity attracted me. She was in 100L but then I also have this heightened, over bloated self respect that even as I am her snr by just a level, I still felt she was a child and needn't had to have anything to do with her. I was 18 then, mind you.

What drew me to date her was when I noticed my guys (not really friends) gawking at her. They all wanted to have a piece of her and I just felt I should step in and protect her kinda (yes my mind actually thought this).

I noticed she was always uneasy with me and that was a good sign, so I asked her out and she accepted. I got to find out that she was a virgin too, and before I knew it, I was so deep in love with her. We dated till I left school in 2016. I finished my service early 2018 and got a scholarship for masters in the UK so I left the country, June 2018.

For the 5 years we dated, we never had sex. We did other things of course but not sex. We made solid plans and I trusted her with my all my heart.

There was this guy amongst those my supposed guys that was never happy for me and my babe. He had wanted to ask her out before I blocked him, he would always talk about how he'd f....ck the living shit outta my GF to be, that she was voluptuous and the rest.. So when I started dating the girl, he was not happy, he pretended of course, but I could see through the ruse.

Fast forward to 2018 when I was just about to settle in the UK, I get a WhatsApp msg from this guy telling me he has something to say to me. He says he's been f...cking my babe and sent me her nude. For like 3 days, I shut down. I couldn't eat, I couldn't read, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't coordinate my head at all. I was so confused because before I left the country, i hadn't seen my GF for almost a year but we spoke every day, sometimes 3 to 4 times in a day. I knew all she was doing and where she was at every time of the day, so if it was true, then it means she was being highly smart to keep up with me and still cheat, and that was an evil machination.

I shut her out, I wasn't taking her calls anymore, I wasn't replying to her msgs anymore, I literally brought out my heart, locked it in a chest and threw away the keys on the high sea, I acted this believe me. Her sister called, her mum, her friends, my sister, everybody called me to know what's up but I never said a thing. For 6 months, I wouldn't tell anybody anything and I also felt she was being hypocritical when she knows exactly what she did.

By December 2018, I was still getting calls to explain what was the problem, by then I had already completed my morphing into Davy Jones so I opened up to my sister. I told her that the biatch was cheating on me with the least person I had expected her to. I sent my sis the picture, it was a soft nude picture (you get me) but it was still something. She too, she went mad and said she'd confront her. I told her not to bother that she was already dead to me. She still confronted her and here's the denouement..

When my sis confronted her with the evidence, she fell down and cried and rained curses on me. She swore she never sent that guy, that picture. The picture was sent to me. She even right there sourced for the guy's contact and called him and the demon said how could her BF not trust her. That he was teasing me and he said I was the one that shared the nude amongst my friends. My GF opened her WhatsApp and luckily the chat from the day she sent me the picture was still there. I couldn't see this particular chat on my phone. I still kept her WhatsApp history too. My best guess is that the day she sent me the picture, my phone was with this other guy and he took it and deleted the chat from my end.

I begged for forgiveness, I had to cry to her before she said Ok.. I couldn't call the guy cause I don't know what to tell him.

So my dear, it was a long story indeed but I'm sharing it with you so you'd ask him the direct question like "did you hear I cheated on you?", or "Did you hear I wished you bad?" People are spreading malicious rumours about other people, so ask him if he heard or he saw anything.

There's this chat going around now where a guy said he saw his GF through CCTV where she was been fondled by another guy, the guy may decide to just shut her out and she wouldn't have a clue as to why.

Also, check yourself... if you ever betrayed his trust in a seemingly contrived way thinking he'd never find out.

At the end of the day, nothing really is hidden under the sun.

Thanks.

LolaO
Rocktation
Farano
Lalasticlala

Lucky guy, you are in UK at 24/25yo old

midnighter:
Lol dont mind him! The RedPill was a sleeping tablet that wont allow him to read and be normal

Haha haha... You should wake him up please

faithfull18:
Lol, I tell you, with the way he's even generalising like he has been with all women.

I tire for the guy i swear.

stupidity:
Exactly how I stupidly caused a breakup between two love birds.

When I was still in school, I’d plant a female slippers right out the door of my neighbor when I know he’s not around. His girl would come and think he’s inside banging and refused to open the door. (phone was still a rare commodity then) lol


Did it twice, the bae couldn’t take it and broke up with him.

Na only me know waten happen

Stupid man. And you have the gut to say this out; you have no shame, evil boy.

op your experience weak me.
However, this is where communication comes to play.
Ask the right questions if it would mend fences.

stupidity:
Exactly how I stupidly caused a breakup between two love birds.

When I was still in school, I’d plant a female slippers right out the door of my neighbor when I know he’s not around. His girl would come and think he’s inside banging and refused to open the door. (phone was still a rare commodity then) lol


Did it twice, the bae couldn’t take it and broke up with him.

Na only me know waten happen

Witches and wizards���

For the 5 years we dated, we never had sex. We did other things of course but not sex. We made solid plans and I trusted her with my all my heart.

Na here u take gawk 5 years and u no test men bro don't try dis kind tin again o in naija

You go be d last mugu on earth

djoe21:
The only drift we get is you trying to tell us that you are an old man. Well, I hope you remember that the older you are, the closer you are to your grave

and you follow suit my son. No one stays young forever.

The stupid person here is that your friend that had the guts to say to u that he has been sleeping with Ur babe.
I had one stupid friend like that. Everyone from my clique knew I had eyes on one of the prettiest girls in the department. This my friend knew too. The same Dumbo had the guts to come to my hostel to escort him that he wants to chyke the same babe too. That earned him serious dressing down amongst my guys. And I know he is capable of sending such a message like that Ur dumb friend did

djoe21:
The only drift we get is you trying to tell us that you are an old man. Well, I hope you remember that the older you are, the closer you are to your grave

Grave doesn't know age, guy.

Everyday is another day we escape death, younger people have died before those that were 'closer to their graves'

Grumpyy:
In response to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/5508729/5-year-old-relationship-ended

Hello dear, I went through something like this a year ago but not in your position so let me share my story with you, it MAY help you connect the dots.

So fast rewind to 2013, I met my girlfriend when I was in 200L in the university. I've always been a reserved person, so when I met her, I wasn't really prepared to date anyone yet but her ingenuity attracted me. She was in 100L but then I also have this heightened, over bloated self respect that even as I am her snr by just a level, I still felt she was a child and needn't had to have anything to do with her. I was 18 then, mind you.

What drew me to date her was when I noticed my guys (not really friends) gawking at her. They all wanted to have a piece of her and I just felt I should step in and protect her kinda (yes my mind actually thought this).

I noticed she was always uneasy with me and that was a good sign, so I asked her out and she accepted. I got to find out that she was a virgin too, and before I knew it, I was so deep in love with her. We dated till I left school in 2016. I finished my service early 2018 and got a scholarship for masters in the UK so I left the country, June 2018.

For the 5 years we dated, we never had sex. We did other things of course but not sex. We made solid plans and I trusted her with my all my heart.

There was this guy amongst those my supposed guys that was never happy for me and my babe. He had wanted to ask her out before I blocked him, he would always talk about how he'd f....ck the living shit outta my GF to be, that she was voluptuous and the rest.. So when I started dating the girl, he was not happy, he pretended of course, but I could see through the ruse.

Fast forward to 2018 when I was just about to settle in the UK, I get a WhatsApp msg from this guy telling me he has something to say to me. He says he's been f...cking my babe and sent me her nude. For like 3 days, I shut down. I couldn't eat, I couldn't read, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't coordinate my head at all. I was so confused because before I left the country, i hadn't seen my GF for almost a year but we spoke every day, sometimes 3 to 4 times in a day. I knew all she was doing and where she was at every time of the day, so if it was true, then it means she was being highly smart to keep up with me and still cheat, and that was an evil machination.

I shut her out, I wasn't taking her calls anymore, I wasn't replying to her msgs anymore, I literally brought out my heart, locked it in a chest and threw away the keys on the high sea, I acted this believe me. Her sister called, her mum, her friends, my sister, everybody called me to know what's up but I never said a thing. For 6 months, I wouldn't tell anybody anything and I also felt she was being hypocritical when she knows exactly what she did.

By December 2018, I was still getting calls to explain what was the problem, by then I had already completed my morphing into Davy Jones so I opened up to my sister. I told her that the biatch was cheating on me with the least person I had expected her to. I sent my sis the picture, it was a soft nude picture (you get me) but it was still something. She too, she went mad and said she'd confront her. I told her not to bother that she was already dead to me. She still confronted her and here's the denouement..

When my sis confronted her with the evidence, she fell down and cried and rained curses on me. She swore she never sent that guy, that picture. The picture was sent to me. She even right there sourced for the guy's contact and called him and the demon said how could her BF not trust her. That he was teasing me and he said I was the one that shared the nude amongst my friends. My GF opened her WhatsApp and luckily the chat from the day she sent me the picture was still there. I couldn't see this particular chat on my phone. I still kept her WhatsApp history too. My best guess is that the day she sent me the picture, my phone was with this other guy and he took it and deleted the chat from my end.

I begged for forgiveness, I had to cry to her before she said Ok.. I couldn't call the guy cause I don't know what to tell him.

So my dear, it was a long story indeed but I'm sharing it with you so you'd ask him the direct question like "did you hear I cheated on you?", or "Did you hear I wished you bad?" People are spreading malicious rumours about other people, so ask him if he heard or he saw anything.

There's this chat going around now where a guy said he saw his GF through CCTV where she was been fondled by another guy, the guy may decide to just shut her out and she wouldn't have a clue as to why.

Also, check yourself... if you ever betrayed his trust in a seemingly contrived way thinking he'd never find out.

At the end of the day, nothing really is hidden under the sun.

Thanks.

LolaO
Rocktation
Farano
Lalasticlala

While your story may be true for some instances I'll like to point out that , and I speak for the majority of cases , a lot of guys don't really need a reason to move on ( distance is a good enough excuse ). I really don't think her case is similar to yours as I have seen guys just blank a girl for the slightest of reasons , the excitement isn't there anymore and she has become a "regular" girl again. Anyways , your story was a good read all the same