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Why are you telling us all these? You already feel like something is rotten in Denmark so confront him and get to the bottom of it. There's no smoke without fire

Hmmm.Madam,something is brewing here. I don't quite get why your hubby should be so attached to these girls. He owes your marriage a whole of responsibilities,especially emotionally and psychologically. These excuses he's giving sound weak and unconvincing. I don't want to you feel worse than you are already,but the signs are too glaring. You both need to see an elder both of you respect. Or you sit him down and have a deep conversation with him. Best of luck.

Man with three wives....

No. He's both thoughtless and tactless - liberty without decorum is a disease.

Your husband has joined the dark side.

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Breaststroke:
To be honest with you, all I could think of was Biodun Fatoyinbo and COZA things downloading while reading your story.

It may turn out to be an Ese Walter kind of saga (a consensual affair) or another type of affair entirely.

This is rather funny than annoying lol
But come to think of it..

yeyeosoronga:
Your husband has joined the dark side.

How many day and night prayers will bring him back?


He probably hasn't joined yet but he is blowing off the candles that should guide him.

He has joined the bad gang( beard gang) go and watch war room

LordKO:
No. He's both thoughtless and tactless - liberty without decorum is a disease.

The liberty is indeed too much that you can sense little bits of disregards from them to him (even me).
My hubby is a tough boss, once he speaks all the staff obey but now, he has to speaks thrice before these twins even make a move.
And it is beginning to show on other staffs too.

I just don't seem understand. Is it empathy or he is now fond of them.

Born2Breed:
Man with three wives....

Ah ah ah. I reject that

Confused11:
How many day and night prayers will bring him back?


He probably hasn't joined yet but he is blowing off the candles that should guide him.

He is already sleeping with my baby, and perhaps even a 3.some with the twin sister. He is now their sugar daddy.
I'm not sure how you can win an errant husband back, but the earlier she nips it in the bud, the better..
When it quacks like a duck, it IS a duck

you are the major cause of this whole saga.
permit me to say
you've notice all this and decided not to take any decisive action due to the fact you claimed to be CALM and then allowing him to eat his cake and then have it back on a golden tray.

You trust him, I don't trust him.
I hope they are not having a party yet.
Confront him and see to it that he reduces his closeness with them, you don't trust a goat with a yam.

Confused11:
The liberty is indeed too much that you can sense little bits of disregards from them to him (even me).
My hubby is a tough boss, once he speaks all the staff obey but now, he has to speaks thrice before these twins even make a move.
And it is beginning to show on other staffs too.

I just don't seem understand. Is it empathy or he is now fond of them.

You don't command his full respect, this isn't your fault but his own fault - you haven't done any thing wrong. He lacks dignity/he's gradually losing his dignity.

You just have to politely call him to order and remind him of the consequences (negative) his actions and inactions will bring to the marriage. When you do that, he'll sit up if he has ever had good amount of altruistic interest towards you - he isn't naturally altruistic, citing his thoughtless and tactless attitude so far - and if the marriage is sacrosanct to him.

The bulk of the work is on his desk not yours, a sane adult shouldn't be forced to take to conscientiousness before doing so.

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Wow! Your husband is already fucnnking either or both of the girls. I am so awed by his stiipidity. Pele...he had to drag you into a dirt situation like this without consideration of your feelings! Chai.

You have allowed your husband to get away with a lot of NANSENSE. You say you trust him right? Pfffttt. A man behaves like this when he has no respect for his wife. Otherwise he won’t have the liver to be carrying on with this rubbish over-familiarity that he is doing with those girls in public glare. He really is disrespecting your martial vows. As you have been told by others here, you better address this issue NOW before both girls would become pregnant for your hubby, then you would realised that you should have addressed the issue much quicker.

You can as well tell him that if this were you carrying on with 2 men like this WOULD HE LIKE IT? THE SAYING DO ON TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE DONE TO YOU COMES TO MIND. I really don’t’ get it; when a spouse brings a particular attitude that they are not happy with to the open; WHY DO SOME MEN/WOMEN FIND IT SO DIFFICULT TO DROP OR ADJUST THAT ATTITUDE SO THAT IT WOULD NOT CONTINUE TO HURT THE OFFENDED SPOUSE? HUH!!! Talk this issue out now before people make you a laughing stock and your hubby will also not be spared either as he will be laughed at and seen as someone who is easily manipulated by 2 young ladies.

Madam. Is your husband taking care of you? Taking his responsibilities towards you seriously? Respectful towards you and your family?
If yes, then leave matter alone. Stop rocking the boat. No one will suffer it at the end but you.

Confused11:
The liberty is indeed too much that you can sense little bits of disregards from them to him (even me).
My hubby is a tough boss, once he speaks all the staff obey but now, he has to speaks thrice before these twins even make a move.
And it is beginning to show on other staffs too.

I just don't seem understand. Is it empathy or he is now fond of them.

Apart from the emotional distress your husband is causing you, this here is proof of his gross misconduct. Been there, done that...and I can say for a fact there is no good reason under the sun for the boss to be too close to female staff, no reason whatsoever.

Your husband is slowly losing his respect in that office and if you know what is good for you, tell him to change his ways - if he won't do it for you since he obviously doesn't care how you feel, then he should do it for himself and for his own self-respect.
Not to mention these girls are just 19...goddamnit, 19!

He doesn't know what is happening.
There's probably a gossip already going round amongst the staff about him and it won't be good for him and his reputation when he has to start explaining himself to his superiors - I'm a jovial person, I'm a jovial person...that's how queries will start flying left, right, and centre over things that don't concern him until he is fired or forced to resign out of shame.

Your problem at this point will not just be a randy husband, but a jobless randy husband.

he is not a responsible man. invite him to this thread to come and learn how to be responsible from the few men who have commented on this thread

Him leaving twin A to now latch onto twin B shows that he's the problem, not the twins. Even if you manage to get him to leave twin B, he will still find another girl to latch onto. He simply lacks dignity [for once I agree with you, LordKO], lacks respect for you and your marriage vows, as well as a sense of responsibility as a married man - because a married man with sense should know he shouldn't be toucy-feely towards other females like he's doing.

the day you ask this man to choose between you and "his baby", thats the day you will realize that all this time, you were in fact SINGLE

theButterfly:
Him leaving twin A to now latch onto twin B shows that he's the problem, not the twins. Even if you manage to get him to leave twin B, he will still find another girl to latch onto. He simply lacks dignity [for once I agree with you, LordKO], lacks respect for you and your marriage vows, as well as a sense of responsibility as a married man - because a married man with sense should know he shouldn't be toucy-feely towards other females like he's doing.

Maverick lady, henceforth you'll continually agree with me.

Madam, the rest of us can't contribute to the thread since you've deleted your story, it is well.