₦airaland Forum

merahki:
And as usual, driven by hypocrisy
Many people would not want to be the type of partner they want for their relatives and loved ones
Personally I would love a man to provide for me like silly, but for my brothers I would want their partners to be helpers, sharers, bringers to the table

Gender wars are silly to me
I don’t do it at all, I just live life, my own way. If I am in any union where I feel trapped or dehumanised? I bounce, no stories.
(Well I may be slightly too wild and free? Who knows? I might be lying my head off, so that what now? Who knows?)

bukatyne:
Hmmmmmmm.

merahki:
I can go on and on oo
I want and get periodic breaks but would want to skin my sister in-law alive if she ever suggested this to my brother
I don’t cook but how dare they not cook?
I don’t like vows but she must be yoked to my brother
And many more
I am simply, just terrible. I just said that sha, I am simply too honest and wild
I am a good person oo, I guess, but my sister in law has to be a saint
Well, I never do gender wars, have never been inclined to too. I do people not sexes

crackhaus:
People doer, please continue oo.
You never finish na

merahki:
And as usual, driven by hypocrisy
Many people would not want to be the type of partner they want for their relatives and loved ones
Personally I would love a man to provide for me like silly, but for my brothers I would want their partners to be helpers, sharers, bringers to the table

Gender wars are silly to me
I don’t do it at all, I just live life, my own way. If I am in any union where I feel trapped or dehumanised? I bounce, no stories.
(Well I may be slightly too wild and free? Who knows? I might be lying my head off, so that what now? Who knows?)

merahki:
That was my jokey way of leaning towards a humanistic approach to life (well, from an independent and not a member stance)
It’s not that kind of do (I don’t even know if I understood you properly)
Happy Sunday/December

merahki:
And as usual, driven by hypocrisy
Many people would not want to be the type of partner they want for their relatives and loved ones
Personally I would love a man to provide for me like silly, but for my brothers I would want their partners to be helpers, sharers, bringers to the table

Gender wars are silly to me
I don’t do it at all, I just live life, my own way. If I am in any union where I feel trapped or dehumanised? I bounce, no stories.
(Well I may be slightly too wild and free? Who knows? I might be lying my head off, so that what now? Who knows?)

merahki:
I can go on and on oo
I want and get periodic breaks but would want to skin my sister in-law alive if she ever suggested this to my brother
I don’t cook but how dare they not cook?
I don’t like vows but she must be yoked to my brother
And many more
I am simply, just terrible. I just said that sha, I am simply too honest and wild
I am a good person oo, I guess, but my sister in law has to be a saint
Well, I never do gender wars, have never been inclined to too. I do people not sexes

bukatyne:
With this awareness you should be a good SIL and not add to the Stats of evil SILs.

bukatyne:
With this awareness you should be a good SIL and not add to the Stats of evil SILs.

Fountainofyouth:
Must there be links, don't you have common sense

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

lavylilly:
Say most not all

lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

pocohantas:
Lets not deceive ourselves, it is a general problem. Whatever the men have become, the ladies are not any better.

Moral values be dropping everyday. It really doesn't make sense to single out one and leave the other. From what I see, plenty people no just get sense these days.

Beosten:
The society knows the devils called women before it invented a shaming system for the unmarried ones.

I waited so long to find a better woman and finally settled down with my wife when she was 36. I have a big certificate but there was no job. So I was riding okada for a living when she met me. She said she wanted marriage despite that I was an okada rider. Expenses skyrocketed after marriage and she failed to entertain any reason why I couldn't make more money. I got and opportunity and grabbed it. The job is in another town, about 30km away. I shuttle between work place and our homes easily because my bike is a good one. She became unhappy whenever I didn't return home if we closed late at night.

That means she enjoyed seeing me as a okada rider

WOMEN ARE NOT MEANT TO BE HAPPY IN MARRIAGE and no sane man should struggle to make them happy.

lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

mrwonlasewonie:
tuehhh. ...see the kinds of narcissistic men some women marry


So much for escaping the "go and marry crew"

LadySarah:
The 'now ' mothers can do something.
We train the girl child to behave lyk a girl while the male behaves as he wishes.

At the end,the properly raised girl falls into the hands of the badly behaved boy.

Have a neighbour who beats her 2 yrs plus daughter at the slightest provocation.She says''She is a girl,i have to correct her now.''but to touch the boy .Never.

I feel like knocking sense into her sometimes...

lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

Beosten:
I feel your pain...

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

Fadomero:
Don't blame men the country is turning something else under bwari