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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Encapsulate: 12:39am On Dec 05, 2019
D's women n deir inferiority complex. Dem don come again ooo
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Ivebeenbanned(f): 12:40am On Dec 05, 2019
lagosminded:

From the start of the relationship, men will tell you they’re looking for a wife material - which mostly means - good cook, manage a home, peaceful home take care of kids etc. Nigerian men don’t pretend this is what they want. Nigerian girls play this role well while dating and reverse when they get married.
Because Nigerian women are pressured to act all princessy and submissive just to get the ring and get the 'Mrs' title. So they show you want to see, when they have the ring, they become themselves, and that to you people is wrong. When a woman wants to have a mine of her own, its wrong. That's why I'll never pretend to no nigga for no shit. A good wife according to you is one that can cook and take care of kids yen yen yen. Job that is meant for both parents. Yet you're not toxic.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Timbuktuo: 12:41am On Dec 05, 2019
OruExpress:
Young Nigerian men hate women. their fathers felt they as men were better than women, but the young actually hate them.

I wouldn’t say we hate women. We certainly have no love for them, though.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Ivebeenbanned(f): 12:43am On Dec 05, 2019
emmaodet:


Which girls were trained to behave like girls? And boys behave badly?
Is it not the so called properly trained women we see today cheating ridiculously? Sucking dìcks, smoking shishas, clubbing and drinking heavily? Having sexx orgies? 2somes, 3somes etc runs girls/aristoes/slay mamas who are just looking for the slightest excuse to expose there bodies?
So much for really training a girl child, So much.

Martinez39
Pansophist
Franchasng
Ubunja
You must be a boomer. The women are having sex with animals, abi? Men are not 'not' well behaved for having threesomes and smoking shisha and opening packs for the world to see. Your misogyny flew out. Be proving her point.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by emmaodet: 12:48am On Dec 05, 2019
Ivebeenbanned:

You must be a boomer. The women are having sex with animals, abi? Men are not 'not' well behaved for having threesomes and smoking shisha and opening packs for the world to see. Your misogyny flew out. Be proving her point.

We are still saying the same thing that women are as bad as men.
So women should not be seen as better saint.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Ivebeenbanned(f): 12:58am On Dec 05, 2019
emmaodet:


We are still saying the same thing that women are as bad as men.
So women should not be seen as better saint.
excuse me sir, what's wrong with having sex? Why are you people such hypocrites? I've never smoked shisha, but going around calling people who haven't hurt you by the lifestyle they chose indecent or unmarriageable doesn't make sense. Everyone has a taste. People are attracted to smokers. Young people don't discriminate like older people. You people need to stop with this African culture shit talk. All these traditions and beliefs that are just peer pressure from dead people. We don't want it anymore because it's ugly. Let people live.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by iammolise(m): 12:59am On Dec 05, 2019
1StopRudeness:


Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should not talk or they can’t have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..
If U're a dude; 2 cold Goldberg 4 ur head gbosa!
If U're a pussy; may better husband follow u gbabeh!

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by AloyalNigerian(m): 1:16am On Dec 05, 2019
Alexaonfleek:
shioor shocked
How many guys of nowadays want to suffer like their fathers.Were father's then yahoo boys
Do u still go to the farm now
Uncle sufferhead

I'm not supporting the guy you quoted, but please, going to the farm is not suffering. Change that belief

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by emmaodet: 1:32am On Dec 05, 2019
Ivebeenbanned:
excuse me sir, what's wrong with having sex? Why are you people such hypocrites? I've never smoked shisha, but going around calling people who haven't hurt you by the lifestyle they chose indecent or unmarriageable doesn't make sense. Everyone has a taste. People are attracted to smokers. Young people don't discriminate like older people. You people need to stop with this African culture shit talk. All these traditions and beliefs that are just peer pressure from dead people. We don't want it anymore because it's ugly. Let people live.

Excuse me ma, alot of things are wrong with people having indiscriminate sex especially when not legally married.
Because alot of people are doing it and they are not hurting anybody does not still make it look good ma and am not an hypocrite, what is bad is bad.
Whoring is as bad as crime.
As prostitution is to women, so is crime to men.
And moreover, who told you they are not hurting anybody? You need to look farther than just what you are seeing, look at the ripple effects - homes destroyed due to an unfaithful partner, relationships damaged, images dented and so many more.
If you don't see anything in young unmarried people sleeping around then am sorry can't chat with you anymore.
Let us look it this way - even though we kill thieves everyday, you and i know the biggest thieves are the politicians, business moguls, government workers. Are they all hypocrites for stoning and killing a petty thief? Yes
And because of that, should be close down the whole police stations in nigeria and start allowing everybody steal since the biggest thieves are the leaders? No because everywhere will be in Chaos.
So we need the police for shaming and harassment to curb the situation.
Likewise proustition - Yes, we all are hypocrites who fvck and sleep around but that is still not a yard stick not to control it and throw it open.
It will be disaster.
Martinez39

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Biingoo: 1:42am On Dec 05, 2019
Beosten:
The society knows the devils women can become before it invented a shaming system for the unmarried ones.

Lmao
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by joepepsy(m): 2:51am On Dec 05, 2019
The day you stop to use guys as ATM machines the day guys will take you serious.
lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Chelseafan99: 2:52am On Dec 05, 2019
Another feminist. Ever since women came into being the world has never been the same.
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by pacespot(m): 3:31am On Dec 05, 2019
If men have become randy I have no problem with that. My only problem is when the randy men turned their randiness into making demands from women like those lecturers caught having sex with their female students for marks. We tend to chastise one gender for one lustful act and forget that they cannot commit that act without the help of the other gender.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by gbagyiza: 4:17am On Dec 05, 2019
frozen70:


You made a valid point my dear

Men has become what our fore fathers couldn't do out of shame

A man that loses his worth, strength and pride shouldn't vent his anger on his woman

Am glad women are sensing dangers and walking out, marriage it is not a prison or correctional home

It's supposed to be a love field where true love guides our activities, actions, words and deeds

You have not been married that's why u r saying all this. I don't support domestic violence but i tell u most women r troublesome. Most of d genesis of all these problems lies on the pressure a woman always put on man. Women should be supporters, encouragers n learn to live with their husbands happily in d face of financial challenges. But when the man is passing through a difficult time, they will be pressurizing him n making trouble every day. Truth be told things r not easy with people now in this country.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Hypocrit: 4:43am On Dec 05, 2019
I have noticed the bad hypocrisy of the OP. First, by a reporter; secondly, by one of her post. Which might be because she has a very short memory and lack good analytic power. Her type is the reason for increase battery and divorce. My apologies though.



To the Post.
1. The high cost of the commodities called most WOMEN (real and nominal cost) in recent times.
2. The low value of the buyers called most MEN (real and nominal value) in recent times.

This is as a result of the absence of love in many supposed homes (houses) because, marriages in recent times is mostly comparative, and taken as:

1. Poverty/hunger alleviation scheme ( for mostly non working women)
2. Banking/saving scheme (for mostly working women).

Every other anomalies found its root from the above with very few uncommon exceptions.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by chewwie(m): 4:52am On Dec 05, 2019
And this will continue as long as these modern day feminists continue challenging their husbands and men in general. The day any girl will raise her leprosy hand and slap me, I'll break off the arm and use it to beat her
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by OruExpress: 5:12am On Dec 05, 2019
Ivebeenbanned:

You must be a boomer. The women are having sex with animals, abi? Men are not 'not' well behaved for having threesomes and smoking shisha and opening packs for the world to see. Your misogyny flew out. Be proving her point.

lol ele ke gbasara ngi maka boomer
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by OruExpress: 5:21am On Dec 05, 2019
Timbuktuo:


I wouldn’t say we hate women. We certainly have no love for them, though.

its hate. Nigerian men often express vengeful happiness when bad things happen to women. Rape, assault, etc.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by oloyede90(m): 5:28am On Dec 05, 2019
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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Ladycewhy(f): 5:35am On Dec 05, 2019
lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.
key word suffer ,you think their mothers suffered willingly? You think their mothers were happy suffering? Maybe the ladies of today saw what their mothers had to go through and choose not to go that route because at the end it wasn't worth all the suffering. There just has to be another way to enjoy marriage other than the so called suffering you are proposing or are women only designed to be suffer head for men?

Heck i wouldn't want to go through what my grandma went through,in those days it was a taboo to leave your husband's house in my tribe and guess what? My grandma was a victim, she endured and suffered. She and my grandpa were like cat and rat,she was betrothed to him at a young age and had to stay put. It was traumatic for her. If that is the suffer you want ladies of today to suffer, please let your sisters and daughters do so ,stop wishing suffering on other people's daughters.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by bluebay(m): 6:01am On Dec 05, 2019
Ivebeenbanned:

Your abusive father must be proud. I pray to God you marry one that has physical strength equal to a man's. Funny how you people are quick to assume its every woman you can beat anyhow
My father was never abusive neither has he had physical.encounter to with my mom. Too bad you are a orphan ND that's why you easily involves someone's father to any conversation... I feel your pain my child.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by BackToLife: 6:04am On Dec 05, 2019
It was far better than now few years ago when everyone never gave up on efforts to maintain sanity, Satan is fighting Humanity. Marriage is not to blame, allowing ourselves to descend low and become senselessly immoral is to blame. Everyone that is currently fvcking someone that is not his own wife or her own husband is already destroying the future Marriage of that person. Shame on you if you don't stop being enslaved by your satanic selfishness.
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Eroms4life17(m): 6:14am On Dec 05, 2019
Fyi0:

Stupid thing. Women have also become more bitchy, disrespectful, hoey etc than before.
Bitch
My brother why are your responses to people so acidic, full of vile and hate?? Nor go commit suicide ooo. Am still observing you.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by unmask: 6:16am On Dec 05, 2019
24kmagic:


Women are the problem, not the men. Men simply go with the flow. You have the power in your hands to get the man of your dreams all to yourself.

At times when I see a girl and her boyfriend walking down the street, what I usually ask myself is na wetin this guy tell this girl whe make her gri for am?

There's this guy I know, he managed to finish secondary school only. Since then, he's been at home forming street guy. No job, no skill, no certificate. All what he knows is play bet9ja, smoke and fvck. At at 30 ooo. Funny thing is he got many girls falling for him. The question is why? Even in sch, we all know that the so called classy girls were reserved for the cultists. In the event that these girls end up with such guys, how far do you think that union will last?

Taste = 0

Ask an average lady what she wants in a relationship.

Good preek
Money

Once a guy knows you're with him for any of these two things, you're already his slave. And you know how masters treat slaves.

Take the Babcock girl story as an example. The boy is a drug addict on rehabilitation, but he still has her mumu bottom cos of good preek. Even on a hospital bed, she couldnt miss an oporrunity to taste his preek. Should that pretty girl even be involved with a drug addict in the first place? Do you think a marriage between these two people will last the test of time knowing that good preek was the foundation? Most of the ladies are just confused beings. Expect more devorce cases as time goes on.

So many things to type but let me stop here.
I don't get your point. The girl liking a drug addict is that a bad thing....or can't she be in the relationship for the sex alone? Did she say she wants to marry the guy?
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by bonnyhope: 6:32am On Dec 05, 2019
lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

Ladies are not ready to be submissive as well, men may have their own bad sides but ladies these days are something else.
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by bonnyhope: 6:40am On Dec 05, 2019
Ladycewhy:
key word suffer ,you think their mothers suffered willingly? You think their mothers were happy suffering? Maybe the ladies of today saw what their mothers had to go through and choose not to go that route because at the end it wasn't worth all the suffering. There just has to be another way to enjoy marriage other than the so called suffering you are proposing or are women only designed to be suffer head for men?

Heck i wouldn't want to go through what my grandma went through,in those days it was a taboo to leave your husband's house in my tribe and guess what? My grandma was a victim, she endured and suffered. She and my grandpa were like cat and rat,she was betrothed to him at a young age and had to stay put. It was traumatic for her. If that is the suffer you want ladies of today to suffer, please let your sisters and daughters do so ,stop wishing suffering on other people's daughters.


Be honest enough to use your parents, why are you using your grandparents instead?


Is it a crime to say your mum suffered?
Naija ladies form with everything

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by FocusedB1h(f): 6:44am On Dec 05, 2019
lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers[color=#000000][/color]. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.
Exactly and I love this new generation of women.
We are not our mothers who stayed back and tolerated all sorts of abuse just to answer Mrs.
What men won’t want for their sisters, they shouldn’t wish it on another woman.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by generationz(f): 6:47am On Dec 05, 2019
lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. [s]Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers[/s]. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by brownlolly(m): 6:52am On Dec 05, 2019
cococandy:
The same posters who shame single/divorced women and make useless comments about children raised by single moms also wonder why women care about the opinions of the society?

The synaptic gaps seem to be enormous.
I’m guessing anything to hate on women flies. Even if it means dancing on both sides of the argument simultaneously. Sigh.

The Koko of the story to you ladies is simple. Have sense! Men are not out to judge anybody cos there's so much to be done rather than looking into other people's matter. At the same time, as long as one is thinking about settling with a life partner, one should be held accountable for his/her actions and moral standing.
So girls want to have fun, and they spend their youthful days doing wild things with several guys while the upcoming young men are hustling. By the time the young men are settled and comfortable, same girls run back to them and want to spend the rest of their well spent lives with these same young men. It can't work my dear. Don't be selfish.
Men know the ones that deserve to be treated like queens.
Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Timbuktuo: 6:54am On Dec 05, 2019
OruExpress:


its hate. Nigerian men often express vengeful happiness when bad things happen to women. Rape, assault, etc.

It’s all in your head. We definitely don’t revel in such misfortunes as ràpe and assault. But it’s okay to believe what you want grin

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Re: Men Have Become More Randy, Intolerant And Abusive Than Before. by Nathseun(m): 7:03am On Dec 05, 2019
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