DenreleDave:
I think doing wedding is a bad idea. How can you spend your life savings on a woman when then end result is children and responsibilities. As in, I have seen many ladies that have been bleeped and bleeped several times, several body counts. So one man will come and spend his life saving on such woman.

How can a man spend all the money he has saved on a lady who is a virgin or not a virgin sef when he will still have to cater for responsibilities after wedding?

As in, my guys for there carry lady come sleep anyhow and later later, another man go carry this lady, wan kill himself untop her, they run helter skelter on top her. What do we guys tend to benefit in marriage, is it not just sex and probably kids (kids is both advantage for men n women) but again you get to carry responsibilities upandan.

I'm beginning wedding or even marriage is a scam sef, it's way of bringing a man into slavery.

Maybe baby mama is the way out, I'm beginning to reason with some guys Here on nairaland oooo.. Baby mama things

Guys wake up, I think this marriage and wedding only favors women, we men are at big disadvantage aswear


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bukatyne:
Weddings and marriages are a disadvantage to men?

Don't whine about it, just stay unmarried.

Because right now until you have an epiphany, you are very unmarriageable.

When the use of a thing is not know, abuse becomes inevitable.

Fortissimo502:


Myles munroe right there. Preach!

DenreleDave:
I think doing wedding is a bad idea. How can you spend your life savings on a woman when then end result is children and responsibilities. As in, I have seen many ladies that have been bleeped and bleeped several times, several body counts. So one man will come and spend his life saving on such woman.

How can a man spend all the money he has saved on a lady who is a virgin or not a virgin sef when he will still have to cater for responsibilities after wedding?

As in, my guys for there carry lady come sleep anyhow and later later, another man go carry this lady, wan kill himself untop her, they run helter skelter on top her. What do we guys tend to benefit in marriage, is it not just sex and probably kids (kids is both advantage for men n women) but again you get to carry responsibilities upandan.

I'm beginning wedding or even marriage is a scam sef, it's way of bringing a man into slavery.

Maybe baby mama is the way out, I'm beginning to reason with some guys Here on nairaland oooo.. Baby mama things

Guys wake up, I think this marriage and wedding only favors women, we men are at big disadvantage aswear


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Prognose:
Personally I agree with the op. It's difficult nowadays to see what the advantage is in marriage for men. Except maybe to have your own kids to pass on your genes or to boast to society that you're a responsible person. Men no longer live like Kings in thier own house. They provide food, shelter, clothing, gifts, sex, etc, and in return what do they get? Entitlement mentality, is sex food mentality, cook your own meals mentality. A woman wants to be a queen but won't want to treat her husband as a king.


Societal changes has scammed a lot of men. I would advise any male getting married to look very well before doing so. Don't marry for love. Marry with sense.

Toks2008:


If you check the history of my comments on this issue i have made it clear many times that But for Christ and the respect, love and fear I have for the creator of that marital institution....i will never think of marriage cos it is overrated.

But when I reason it out that it makes no sense sleeping around I just have to succumb and have a wife.

Mindfulness:


I wasn't raised like this so I disagree. I see it as a shared responsibility and in reality most women share this responsibility and have always done so. How many men in Nigeria can afford to feed the family without a woman's input? The difference is that men can have a family and a career but for a woman to combine both is a greater challenge and some of us are very passionate about our careers. We are ambitious too, you know.

RisenPhoenix:


I was kind of pointing out the advantages from the op's point of view. I understand he's a man. There is no doubt that women have the greater advantage in getting married. As for the clear career disadvantages to a woman, I do not consider those a minus. Unlike a man, a woman's career is a trifling hobby, not a responsibility . I believe in a man's responsibility for taking care of ALL the home's expenses. Any man who expects his wife to contribute to the household expenses has no right to gripe over the problems of marriage.
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Chubhie:
Perhaps, It could be the word marriage that is causing this panic. Replace the word marriage with partnership and see if the feeling of being scammed is still there.

RisenPhoenix:


As for the clear career disadvantages to a woman, I do not consider those a minus. Unlike a man, a woman's career is a trifling hobby, not a responsibility. I believe in a man's responsibility for taking care of ALL the home's expenses. Any man who expects his wife to contribute to the household expenses has no right to gripe

cococandy:


The blatant sexism.

I give props to the ladies who have the patience to be civil to you and folks like you. Trying to educate you.
Lord

RisenPhoenix:


Any man in Nigeria could feed his family if the family's collective tastes were limited to his income. It is mere dicontentment that often drives the need for multiple income sources.

No matter how ambitious or passionate a woman is about her career, it remains a hobby. When the family is out on the street for non payment of rent; or when the kids are sent home due to overdue school fees, the wife is not expected to take the responsibilty and so does not get any blame. It is the husband who gets the blame because the responsibility is all his; whether the woman helps out or not. A woman also has the luxury of thumbing her nose at her boss and resigning at the smallest slight and she will be applauded for doing this; but can a man say that he is tired of work and wants to resign before getting a more viable alternative ready? However much we try to imply equality, women in the work place remains culturally voluntary and not a necessity.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Would you consider training your daughters to whatever height they want?

No. Give them standard tertiary training until they can stand on their own two feet. Then if they want to further thier careers it will be thier responsibility, not that of thier parents.

Would you entertain your wife furthering her studies especially when it would inconvenience the home?

Inconvenience the home to what degree? If she wants to do a masters in another town but she has a breastfeeding baby she'll have to wait till the baby is independent (for me, about 5yrs old is ok). If however there are no kids and she wants to further her career then no qualms. It depends on the situation.


Would you accommodate your wife working a demanding job?

Sure! If she's comfortable with it, why not?


I am assuming you believe in traditional gender roles.

I responded instead of the person u quoted because I believe in traditional roles as well.

RisenPhoenix:


I don't put any personal value on a lady's civility. If she's civil, it's to her benefit not mine. And if she's uncouth, it's to her detriment not mine. Your write ups and way of thinking are nowhere near the category of those I would ever consider educative, thanks all the same.
Pass please.

RisenPhoenix:


Any man in Nigeria could feed his family if the family's collective tastes were limited to his income. It is mere dicontentment that often drives the need for multiple income sources.

No matter how ambitious or passionate a woman is about her career, it remains a hobby. When the family is out on the street for non payment of rent; or when the kids are sent home due to overdue school fees, the wife is not expected to take the responsibilty and so does not get any blame. It is the husband who gets the blame because the responsibility is all his; whether the woman helps out or not. A woman also has the luxury of thumbing her nose at her boss and resigning at the smallest slight and she will be applauded for doing this; but can a man say that he is tired of work and wants to resign before getting a more viable alternative ready? However much we try to imply equality, women in the work place remains culturally voluntary and not a necessity.

bukatyne:


When the use of a thing is not know, abuse becomes inevitable.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Would you consider training your daughters to whatever height they want?

bukatyne:

Would you entertain your wife furthering her studies especially when it would inconvenience the home?

bukatyne:


Would you accommodate your wife working a demanding job? I am assuming you believe in traditional gender roles.

Mindfulness:


Discontentment? In a country like Nigeria where millions suffer in poverty and can't afford three meals a day, school fees or healthcare?



As above.

RisenPhoenix:


I have met contented people happily living on less than minimum wage a month, and I have met discontented people making millions annually. The wife's attitude makes or breaks the home. If she has a contented nature, she will be fully supportive of the husband and make the home a happy place, even if it is constructed with plywood and rusty sheets of corrugated iron roofing. And if the wife is a malcontent, even Buckingham Palace will not be enough for her. Believe it.

RisenPhoenix:


I don't put any personal value on a lady's civility. If she's civil, it's to her benefit not mine. And if she's uncouth, it's to her detriment not mine. Your write ups and way of thinking are nowhere near the category of those I would ever consider educative, thanks all the same.
Pass please.

ibkayee:
If you don’t want to get married, don’t. But I keep seeing men on here go on about taking on financial responsibilities solely but most AVERAGE households I know run on a two person income, even if one person is earning more than the other. And this is ALONG with domestic responsibilities and taking care of the kids. I’ve never lived in Nigeria however so is it not like that over there? Are the majority of households only depending on the man financially?

freecocoahubby:



I just love this comment. You put her in her place

Thegamingorca:



Yup most depend on the man

RisenPhoenix:


I have met contented people happily living on less than minimum wage a month, and I have met discontented people making millions annually. The wife's attitude makes or breaks the home. If she has a contented nature, she will be fully supportive of the husband and make the home a happy place, even if it is constructed with plywood and rusty sheets of corrugated iron roofing. And if the wife is a malcontent, even Buckingham Palace will not be enough for her. Believe it.