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danot1030:
Marriage is not for the kids

blank:
You go hear am today.

afroxyz:
people.like you are only comparable to demons.

Yea, DEMONS.

the man tried to avoid altercation by going to the living room. she still followed him there to instigate him.

He reacted and you say he has no right? well, ok.


But what gives the woman the right to follow him and further instigate him despite his efforts to avoid any conflict?

is he not a human being? Doesn't he have a tolerance threshold?

Now the man starts apologising after his stupid act. throughout the night and the first thing she does is call her parents.?

well, ok. she may be right.

But what sensible MIL would come to take the daughter out of her husband's house?

She didnt even come to settle the matter but came prepared to take the wife out of her matrmonial home despite the mans pleading?

How can you crucify the man for reacting without blaming the person that caused the action?

Like I said: You are a demon.

afroxyz:
people.like you are only comparable to demons.

Yea, DEMONS.

the man tried to avoid altercation by going to the living room. she still followed him there to instigate him.

He reacted and you say he has no right? well, ok.


But what gives the woman the right to follow him and further instigate him despite his efforts to avoid any conflict?

is he not a human being? Doesn't he have a tolerance threshold?

Now the man starts apologising after his stupid act. throughout the night and the first thing she does is call her parents.?

well, ok. she may be right.

But what sensible MIL would come to take the daughter out of her husband's house?

She didnt even come to settle the matter but came prepared to take the wife out of her matrmonial home despite the mans pleading?

How can you crucify the man for reacting without blaming the person that caused the action?

Like I said: You are a demon.

Dupalmer:
O yeah wh0res deserve some slacks

Pussywar:
Not all, your mother doesn't.

Dupalmer:
Evidently you are from a family of whoremongers. I dedicate your future insults to your family and generations.

xendra:
SMH

2am? when it's not business?
she sabi shout, person like me wey no fit shout I no go open door atall. you wee sleep there.

anyway give it time and go back to begging her she would have calmed down and thought about her life, she will come back. unless she is convinced living without you is what's best for her.

Emmanuelhector:
slap is normal in marriage

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

Dupalmer:
In as much as I don't support domestic violence, your effort at apologizing and sincerely promising not to repeat it is more than enough to make you guys come back to normal if she's a reasonable woman.
don't call or beg her anymore else she will see a good stance to manipulate your sorry ass forever.
She will come back in a matter of days if you ignore her but if she doesn't, find a way to make yourself happy. You can't kill yourself over a trouble she ignited. She will loose if she tries to make it a hard or competitive game.

There are many ladies young and old with very good character that will be willing to marry as second, third and even fourth wife.

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

yomi007k:
Op. You no try o.
That timing was not responsible. What if your wife went for a wedding or church program and came back at that time. Be consoderate.

Hitting her was adding insult to injury. It means you don't respect her or how she feels.


The best thing you can do is keep apologizing. She is hurt. Try and understand that.

dokyOloye:
Will the wife also write an agreement she will never harangue him with her mouth again or you think its perfectly normal for her to subject the man to verbal harrassment?
You know how maddening it can be when a woman is dissecting you with her mouth and following you everywhere even when you leave the each place for her?
Do you know ppl kill each other just b/c of words of the mouth?
I don't support men keeping late nights regularly but its perfectly normal to hang out late once in a while,say twice in a month.I'm married, I do that, my wife doesn't complain.
In face,we sit together and gist about my waka d following day,d runs girls in d club,who took who home,etc.
I hate it when you ppl think you can say or do whatever you like and there will be no repercussions,that verbal harrassment or misyarn is what makes males fight and kill themselves sometimes but somehow you ppl believe you can talk and abuse your husband the way you like without consequences ever

GraGra247:
Op, Please don't listen to this stupid advice.

Op you committed two crimes.

1. You came back home by 2am - a thing I'm certain you won't tolerate from your wife.

2. When she complained you had the guts to slap her to the extent she bled from her mouth and nose.

You deserve to be in jail.

Go and buy goat and 5 cartons of drinks to appease your inlaws and your wife else she shouldn't come back to you.

dokyOloye:
Will the wife also write an agreement she will never harangue him with her mouth again?
You know how maddening it can be when a woman is dissecting you with her mouth and following you everywhere even when you leave the each place for her?

edoman2016:
Is your wife from a single home? What's your father in-law reaction about the whole thing?

crackhaus:
That you meant all of it does not make them less comical.

fatymore:
Stop quoting me

ImaIma1:
People that constantly beat their wives, it also started as a first time. Besides, some women have 0 tolerance for physical abuse and would react quick and even seemingly over the top. It could be to make sure he thinks twice before he allows the devil enter him again.

crackhaus:
Stop giving me reasons to.

Ekene161829:
I did something I really regret. My wife and I have an amazing marriage, 2 years of marriage and we are blessed with a 7-month-old baby girl.

She is 28 and I almost 33. Last Saturday I got invited to go out by some of my work friends , I got home late 2am, so madam wasn't happy. She was yelling at me, throwing hands and screaming at me. I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going which made me angry.

I took the back of my hand and gave her a slap on the mouth. She cried out and held her face and started crying and her lips was bleeding. I didn't intentionally hurt her, I just wanted to calm her down since ignoring her was not working. I said sorry, and I was literally on my knees begging her. I tried to hold her but she refused.
The rest of the night was me repeating apology or i didn't mean to hurt you. She ignored me . She went into our room and locked the door.

She was in there for a long time and the next morning, her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.

I feel so ashamed and I've never done anything like this before and I never thought I would. I don't want to loose my wife and baby. I need both of them back. Should I attempt to contact her?

What do I do?

fatymore:
must you reply

crackhaus:
Perhaps it's because I find you interesting in a comical way.

SilvanusII:
I hope someone has dragged you for this blatant display you wrote. Judging from the number of likes u have garnered, I seriously doubt that.
The thing with you abusers is you just need your victims to take your starting slaps lying down. After that, its home free. You progress to beatings and then eventually killing the poor women.
She didn't overreact. She set the precedent against subsequent abuse.
I really don't know who give some of u morons phones

shestrong:
I can't believe u had over 500 likes for this unreasonable comment, so he should go marry a second or third wife over what ? instead of advising him to properly manage d situation. is that ur idea of marriage? mtchewww

madridguy:
First, sorry to hear about the death of your brother. I'm not trying to refresh your memory but how come you didn't help your brother in sending away the dragon? I'm sure the nagging GF is alive now probably settled with another man enjoying life.
You should have act as a mother and send the beasts away. Once again, sorry for the loss.

fatymore:
Sebi you said I have low IQ abi

shestrong:
Very reasonable comment.

crackhaus:
Well it was just a suspicion on my part, but now that it seems you won't let it go, I take back my suspicion.

Fair enough?

Ekene161829:
I did something I really regret. My wife and I have an amazing marriage, 2 years of marriage and we are blessed with a 7-month-old baby girl.

She is 28 and I almost 33. Last Saturday I got invited to go out by some of my work friends , I got home late 2am, so madam wasn't happy. She was yelling at me, throwing hands and screaming at me. I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going which made me angry.

I took the back of my hand and gave her a slap on the mouth. She cried out and held her face and started crying and her lips was bleeding. I didn't intentionally hurt her, I just wanted to calm her down since ignoring her was not working. I said sorry, and I was literally on my knees begging her. I tried to hold her but she refused.
The rest of the night was me repeating apology or i didn't mean to hurt you. She ignored me . She went into our room and locked the door.

She was in there for a long time and the next morning, her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.

I feel so ashamed and I've never done anything like this before and I never thought I would. I don't want to loose my wife and baby. I need both of them back. Should I attempt to contact her?

What do I do?