₦airaland Forum

jesmond3945:
read her story you would understand. when your inlaw would side you against the wellbeing of their daughter.

The appalling thing u stated is this:
"Do you know that marrying you out of the house is the greatest gift your husband gave to them."

Pussywar:
Easily laid when I want to be laid. Your attempt at slut shaming is poor. Try a again, dimwit

Not slut shaming dear. And thanks for agreeing at what I wrote earlier.

I don't just write because I want to catch fun, i write base on my observations in life, #LESSONSOFLIFE.

mignone:
The appalling thing u stated is this:
"Do you know that marrying you out of the house is the greatest gift your husband gave to them."

i am referring to the mindset of the parents. it is called indirect speech. look it up.

healthserve:
Marriage and God doesn't disapprove of liberty. And liberty isn't usurping authority.


Authority and Submission principles of Biblical standard doesn't relegate the female part to forced slavery and servitude. Product of bad spiritual mentoring. Show me anywhere I said ladies should not submit honor or respect their husbands

Typical Nigerian. When you're used to negative treatment, how would you ever agree to anything different.



All my sisters are done with child bearing. All. FYI


If the females are useless, did you know twice women were decoders in the history of Israel. Infact more than twice. David the wife of Saul. And Solomon brother wanted David's wife to gain access to the throne. Tell me if her mum has needsater would be comfortable providing them without hissing as her own mother ages?


Tell me if the husband runs into a problem how does he get financial support. Did your Bible not say two are better than one, that when one is down the other picks the fallen one back up ( albeit financially). Next time use your brain before you quote me.

Must she work for somebody to be a fulfilled woman?


Everyone is not same and every circumstance requires a peculiar solution.

The tune of the op signifies arrogance and pride hence the husband decoded the ends from the beginning.

Damilolacoker:
Trust me, I correct my daughter with so much love. I do not want to do an online business, i want a real job

U must be igbo. Marrying at 21. Im sure hes older like 39years old. Wen young guys asked u out, u rrfused. Manage ur wahala

LadyExcellency:
Must she work for somebody to be a fulfilled woman?

Everyone is not same and every circumstance requires a peculiar solution.

The tune of the op signifies arrogance and pride hence the husband decoded the ends from the beginning.

Not arrogant but impatient. She should finish what the man told her to do before asking for a bigger one.

If her fulfilment comes from working then the man is not supposed to stop her. However if bad manners is his reason then let her improve on her manners and approach him a second time.

midnighter:
Not arrogant but impatient. She should finish what the man told her to do before asking for a bigger one.

Impatient is inclusive but the wife is still a girl and may not withstand infidelity rampant in today's corporate Nigeria.

LadyExcellency:
Must she work for somebody to be a fulfilled woman?


Everyone is not same and every circumstance requires a peculiar solution.

The tune of the op signifies arrogance and pride hence the husband decoded the ends from the beginning.

Oh my world. Madam de madam you didn't tell me it was you nah. The queen herself. I'm used to the Madam handle. Been a while. How's work and family. You've never been a fan of this section. Seems you've given up on our favorite political section.

LadyExcellency:
Impatient is inclusive but the wife is still a girl and may not withstand infidelity rampant in today's corporate Nigeria.

She is not a girl. Anybody over the age of 18 is classified as a woman and an adult under our laws.

It is her right to work and he is wrong to deny her, especially since he already agreed with her plan. BUT for the sake of keeping her marriage and her home, she should try to amend the faults he is seeing in her so as to remain justified in her complaint.

Women even older than her still fall prey to job-related infidelity every day so that one is not an excuse. I dont see how you would misuse your authority as a husband to start oppressing somebody due to age. So why did he marry a 21 year old if he knows he cant cope with her

midnighter:
She is not a girl. Anybody over the age of 18 is classified as a woman and an adult under our laws.

It is her right to work and he is wrong to deny her, especially since he already agreed with her plan. BUT for the sake of keeping her marriage and her home, she should try to amend the faults he is seeing in her so as to remain justified in her complaint.

Women even older than her still fall prey to job-related infidelity every day so that one is not an excuse. I dont see how you would misuse your authority as a husband to start oppressing somebody due to age. So why did he marry a 21 year old if he knows he cant cope with her

In Nigeria, a 25 years old female is a girl by their wirings

She should work but as self-employed

LadyExcellency:
In Nigeria, a 25 years old female is a girl by their wirings

She should work but as self-employed

We are not talking about wirings. Stop generalising.

You dont know the OP so you dont have the right to suggest that she will automatically go and mess up just because of age.

I agree that she should go self-employed for now to avoid further punishment from the husband NOT because she is young. Her age is not relevant.

LadyExcellency:
In Nigeria, a 25 years old female is a girl by their wirings

She should work but as self-employed

I agree. If the husband can set her up fine. That's work nah. The idea of not working completely is what was being assumed and discussed throughout all these talks

healthserve:
Oh my world. Madam de madam you didn't tell me it was you nah. The queen herself. I'm used to the Madam handle. Been a while. How's work and family. You've never been a fan of this section. Seems you've given up on our favorite political section.

I dey oo. I wanted a better Nigeria for everyone irrespective of gender, tribe, religion and sexual orientation but Nairaland is not helping matters by allowing members to be aggregating our National faultlines thereby encouraging the politicians to underdevelop the country.

healthserve:
I agree. If the husband can set her up fine. That's work nah. The idea of not working completely is what was being assumed and discussed throughout all these talks

No I can't support making her a full-time house at this her age.

She must work, she needs experience and a place to utilize her talents

LadyExcellency:
I dey oo. I wanted a better Nigeria for everyone irrespective of gender, tribe, religion and sexual orientation but Nairaland is not helping matters by allowing members to be aggregating our National faultlines thereby encouraging the politicians to underdevelop the country.

I missed our intelligent back to back discussions. I'm also on my way out as the discussions are turning even my typically calm self to what I'm not. It's a rare observation that some of us want a nation for all, but then, the fault lines challenges the ability to make progressive decisions as they hinge in and around tribal and ethnic sentiments. Further plunging the nation in deeper and deeper.


BTW, how do you combine your professional work and family life. I recall you spoke about indulging in heavy industrial applications and installations.


Also, any plans to join the political class. The right way to effect that change is to join a team. I'm setting up one personally btw

LadyExcellency:
No I can't support making her a full-time house at this her age.

She must work, she needs experience and a place to utilize her talents

Then we're on the same page.

healthserve:
I missed our intelligent back to back discussions. I'm also on my way out as the discussions are turning even my typically calm self to what I'm not. It's a rare observation that some of us want a nation for all, but then, the fault lines challenges the ability to make progressive decisions as they hinge in and around tribal and ethnic sentiments. Further plunging the nation in deeper and deeper.


BTW, how do you combine your professional work and family life. I recall you spoke about indulging in heavy industrial applications and installations.


Also, any plans to join the political class. The right way to effect that change is to join a team. I'm setting up one personally btw

I almost joined politics but I came to understand that our political class don't want people that have conscience hence I don't belong there for now.

My work is still the envy of most Nigerians but making it big depends on indulging in corrupt practices with directors, contractors and politicians alike.

We all must not be corrupt, Nigeria needs incorruptible people as role models.

LadyExcellency:
I almost joined politics but I came to understand that our political class don't want people that have conscience hence I don't belong there for now.

My work is still the envy of most Nigerians but making it big depends on indulging in corrupt practices with directors, contractors and politicians alike.

We all must not be corrupt, Nigeria needs incorrigible people as role models.

I'm exactly on the same plane with you in all you discussed. There's need to deepen our already established prowess and understanding in every ramifications though. Not with the aim to join, but to stay ground and adept in their game plays so we can learn how to navigate the waters with great skill when the opportunity finally presents itself.


As for a political party, personally here. I'm looking for something with ideology. Not the typical PDP apc. To also Foster developments in our region. I feel and think like minds should have an e-meeting place as movement and momentum of like minds builds towards the next decade as things won't remain the same forever.


On the business angle, I'll send an email. I can't promise. But let's say January. I think there's a while lot that can happen in that sector but privately,I'll communicate for deliberations

Pussywar:
You sound dumb and desperate. I thought we got rid of these small boys in 2018.

Mumu, people dey comments you too wan comment abi?

Were dey person I quote?!!

Check very well even for your father's house you can never senior me. Idiot!!

Pussywar:
Please try and look down the meaning of feminism. You're embarrassing yourself. And try not assuming stuff about women's life in an attempt to be 'savage', you're not smart for a grown man.

No reasonable woman
Or a girl with good morals will use that Monika
Your user name says much about you
Coz you just embarrassed your hole life and any one banging you

Hizzy:
No reasonable woman
Or a girl with good morals will use that Monika
Your user name says much about you
Coz you just embarrassed your hole life and any one banging you

No reasonable man with good morals will use that moniker which says a lot about you. Obviously, you're a disgrace to manhood and you have no one to tell you. And its *whole not *hole, illiterate.

Ivebeenbanned:
No reasonable man with good morals will use that moniker which says a lot about you. Obviously, you're a disgrace to manhood and you have no one to tell you. And its *whole not *hole, illiterate.

Did you buy this case or are you her boy friend
You better run a way from her

Ivebeenbanned:
No reasonable man with good morals will use that moniker which says a lot about you. Obviously, you're a disgrace to manhood and you have no one to tell you. And its *whole not *hole, illiterate.

Guy run for you life this gal will kill or finish you b4 the middle of next year

Hizzy:
Did you buy this case or are you her boy friend
You better run a way from her

Do you have sense? smh

Ivebeenbanned:
Do you have sense? smh

I can't wast my precious time cleaning oshodi gutter

Hizzy:
I can't wast my precious time cleaning oshodi gutter

That's why you have chronic halitosis. Pig

Ivebeenbanned:
That's why you have chronic halitosis. Pig

Guy go care your Arthritis
Before you fall inside pit toilet
Go and visit your pussywar
Her pusssy need war

Hizzy:
Guy go care your Arthritis
Before you fall inside pit toilet
Go and visit your pussywar
Her pusssy need war

Mad funny . Mumu

SBL28:
You have to take some hard decisions. Your parents failed you by not fighting for you, it is now left to you to save yourself.

You should be doing something meaningful with your life. Why did he not marry a stark illiterate instead of imprisoning someone's daughter.

Go and start looking for a job and avoid getting pregnant at this period (that is what some men use to pin down their wives). If he wants to break the marriage because of that, let him. You can't just be sitting on your hands waiting for him to feed you for the rest of your life.


Edited to add for the slow pokes here yarning dust under my comment:

No sensible man will divorce his wife because she got a job. She can't be crying about not being able to do a job when she does not even have one in the first place. For how long will she continue to nurture her husband's insecurities?? She should look for a job that won't be too far, somewhere she won't have to close late so he won't have more ammunition to use against her.

Many older women today regret not standing up for themselves on time. The earlier the issue is trashed out the better.

How old are you, are you wiser than her parents? Op, take this advice at your own risk, you'll soon becomes single mother.

Stupid advice

jesmond3945:
i am referring to the mindset of the parents. it is called indirect speech. look it up.

I'm sorry I'd prefer nt to go further on this, it's not worth it.