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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 10:11pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Sterope: True. That's the worrying part. Too many possibilities. For example. If the next child requires an operation, or there's multiple needs that are equally important, can they be managed without issues? Asides financial aspect, there are too many possibilities.. Marriage is between a man and a woman. God help them. In the end, it's up to every couple to decide on a template for their marriage. If I were a woman and a man tells me such. I'll start placing demands straight up. Seen a Zenith bank woman the hubby told to stay at home, immediately she asked for 500k monthly salary. Hubby paid. She resigned to watching TV at home. If there's flex money, then no yawa 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by oonix(f): 10:21pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Damilolacoker:it shook me too.lol Stretching imaginations too far.kilode! |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by oshe11: 10:27pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:Same certificate that is more or less useless to some certain degree? More than 90% work so we can make money and nothing more Would she agree to work for free? Well, like U said "they can work things out" |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Skylee(m): 10:37pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Forward77:God bless you Bro. Advices like this is what keeps me on Nairaland. You didn't just advice the OP but every ladies who hope for a happy home 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 10:45pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:Thanks bae. Sorry for the short chat the other time, I was rushing to church. How are you doing. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Sterope(f): 10:47pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
The husband knows the kind of parents she has. It is the reason he has their support. midnighter: |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Candanyl: 10:47pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Chi59: how I just love you for this post 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 10:52pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
kingkakaone:I'm good |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Sterope(f): 10:56pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Exactly, people should do what works for them and men should not act like assholes because they would prefer their wives to stay home. healthserve: 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by doitforyou(f): 10:58pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
I agree, paying her a salary is also not ideal. That’s also a control tool. PerseDew: 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 11:32pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Newguyhere:Red flag. You're not a man. Your insecurity and slut shaming is disgusting 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 11:36pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
kingkakaone:Begging the man? He wants her to give up her career and she's the one to beg? Wow. Nigerian men have a long way to go. You people think women are still 'properties' bah? You go hear am for this century. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 11:40pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Sterope: Yes, I mean that's why she should be wise. She is already in a weak position |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 11:41pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Hizzy:Please try and look down the meaning of feminism. You're embarrassing yourself. And try not assuming stuff about women's life in an attempt to be 'savage', you're not smart for a grown man. 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 11:45pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Pussywar:Go and get married before you talk please. I don't have time for online gender battles. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 11:46pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Elina123:Not everyone is a patriarchy princess and that's okay. You Want to be a maid, go ahead...submissive 'wife material'. Just don't advice other women to be like that, in fact hide yourself well. It seems they didn't raise you to know that women aren't properties and you're still hiding behind religion to be dumb. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 11:47pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
kingkakaone:Did you get married before you talked? Please, be dense somewhere else. 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Augustap(f): 11:48pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
imam07:I'm torn between the choice of words to use on you, regarding your calling me a girl. I don't need the husband's side of the story... All I made was a straight judgement... How many stories posted here have two sides to it? Many parents will gladly ask their children to remain in toxic marriages simply because of societal judgements. Their popular slogan is "I endured it, why can't you"? Next time, look before you leap ... You don't even have to look where e no concern you; whether I am a girl or a lady is none of your business. 5 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 11:52pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Forward77:Hello, I just wanted to let you know that just because you got 600 likes doesn't mean you made any sense in your comment. Go and learn to be a proper responsible human being because like the other Lady said, your brain is mixed with fufu. Thanks 5 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 11:54pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
cococandy:I think that woman was being sarcastic. I hope so, cos i laughed 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 12:04am On Dec 19, 2019 |
lessonsoflife:So your brain just told you to come out here, bash women, display your toxicity and in the end make absolutely no sense? And you feel normal? 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 12:11am On Dec 19, 2019 |
demarc001:Shut up, please. Enough with the submission talk. When will y'all realise that doesn't happen anymore? If you need a woman to place herself under you to be confident, you're the weakest thing. Bye 4 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 12:11am On Dec 19, 2019 |
Pussywar: Nah, "that woman" was being 100% serious babe anything |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Goldenfinger5(m): 12:17am On Dec 19, 2019 |
SBL28: For you to give such kind of advice, I doubt if you're married yourself. And even if you're married, probably you're rebellious at home. Ask successful married couples what they do. Communication, love, submission, negotiation, sacrifice etc is the key and not this nonsense you call advice. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by doitforyou(f): 12:29am On Dec 19, 2019 |
Pussywar:lol at patriarchy princess, I have never heard it before but it’s very apt. Also, some of these (f)s are men. 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Pussywar(f): 12:38am On Dec 19, 2019 |
midnighter:Oooh. Them nigga bitches that hide behind the 'f' for attention. I see you. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by sweetilicious(f): 12:39am On Dec 19, 2019 |
SBL28:Women that are married to such insecure African men are the ones that finds it difficult to cater for the family if anything happens to the man.They can't even get a good job if they are older with no job experience. If they eventually start up a business if he is deceased,they tend to run it down.They always run around other men both old and young just to keep up with life and feed her children. Children has no choice than to fend for themselves in any means available.Of what economic importance and improvement is all this to our society? If you talk now,they will call you a feminist. God knows I will choke being with such an ignorant man. He can't give me such a burden. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 12:45am On Dec 19, 2019 |
The funny thing is that these people quoting human rights, female rights, telling her to fight for her rights are the same people who can't even tell the OP to correct herself. You're overlooking the important details just to push your own agenda. But you dont know that youre just being impractical by applying your principles INAPPROPRIATELY to the WRONG SITUATION . You cant quote rights to somebody who doesnt care! The man doesnt care, her family doesnt care, his family doesnt care. So who is going to listen to her speech? Begging or asking your husband for something doesnt remove anything from your body. It does not make you a "weak woman". It does not make you a fool. It simply means that you are smart enough to read your husbands emotions and respond to them instead of trying to force his hand. She mentioned that the guy doesn't like the way she relates with their daughter, but you people will never mention that side. Is the daughter not a human He accuses her of going too far when scolding their child, but it doesnt matter as long as she gets to power off to her office every morning. She mentioned that he is already unhappy with her to the extent that he doesnt eat her food, doesnt talk to her and no longer plays with her. Dont you think she should resolve some of that tension before embarking on the job crusade? She mentioned that people have told her that she is stubborn. Even from what she has written here we can see that it's somewhat true. Open business for you, no. Start online business while the baby is at school and make your own money, no. Must she go outside now now now? Can't you compromise and work from home to show the man that you have taken what he said on board? You people will not look at that side, just to tell her to rush outside and start looking for a job. The job he gave her to do with that baby, he's not okay with it but apparently that doesn't matter as long as she gets her dream job right this minute, at the ripe old age of 24 smh Keep feeding people unrealistic advice everywhere until you get somebody thrown out of her house |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by sweetilicious(f): 12:52am On Dec 19, 2019 |
Damilolacoker:Go for it girl.You are trying to be useful to him,your parents,your siblings, his siblings and to the society. No be prostitution or abomination you dey go do.You will forever regret not utilizing your youth age well in being productive. My aunt who worked in first bank was made to resign by her husband because he felt insecure of her job.With so many stories. 10 years down the line,the man called her jobless and useless to him as the burden is now too much on him.She practically told me she regrets her decision then as her colleagues are now earning higher and are at the peak of their career. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 12:57am On Dec 19, 2019 |
Pussywar: Lol is that all you've got? Pathetic smh |
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