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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 10:31pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
And about correcting your daughter, you have to tell us what about your parenting he doesnt like because you havent given enough information. I dont really want to believe that he prefers his daughter to pee all over the floor so is it that you shout at her unnecessarily or what Some women do go overboard with discipline because the blame and shame will be on them if the child turns out to be useless. Are you sure youre correcting her from good intentions or out of your own vanity? 2 years old is rather early for "scolding" dont you think At the same time going to check on her at school everyday is quite ridiculous, so maybe he is setting the scene for spoiling and future "Daddy's girl" because I personally dont understand that unless he doesnt trust the nursery teachers. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Amumaigwe: 10:31pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker: No be you dey find advice for Nairaland? A forum with both the sound and the demented? Welcome sister. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 10:32pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28: It's now becoming a norm now for men in the name of marriages to deliberately ruin women lives. They don't know. They do this deliberately. That's what surprises me. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Crochet: 10:32pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
I cant laff , dude you are funny . Newguyhere: |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 10:34pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker:A simple instruction - Watch this movie - WAR ROOM - DOWNLOAD IT. THAT IS ALL YOU NEED. I TELL YOU, YOU WON'T REGRET IT. THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by imam07: 10:34pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28:Did u grow up under your legitimate parents? Because i cant just understand why u are giving such devilish advice. Abeg the pained woman is talking about marriage here, not just boys and girls relationship. 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 10:35pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Fufu wey don spoil. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 10:35pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
imam07: No, i grew up under yours. 7 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 10:38pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Elina123: You have a point. BUT you forgot that the man is actually in the wrong here. He promised her something and now he has gone back on his promise, is there anything Christian about failing to keep your word, to your wife for that matter Theres actually nothing Christian about manipulating and bullying your wife so Christianity is not a basis here. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 10:39pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve: Yes, they pretend during courtship. Once they have succeeded in marrying them, they start bringing out different archaic rules. Just like in OP's case, they had an agreement before marriage, only for him to turn around and change mouth. Is that not wickedness? 15 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by kushme: 10:39pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Just like Newguyhere said, work kee you there... You want to flirt with all the wankstaz in the office abi.. You better listen to your husband, be his property and stop following all these useless, confused, bitter and dirty women words of mouth.. Don't allow society and some thirsty men deceive you, they (most of the men supporting women equality) are vampires who would gladly wish to have a taste or a lick of your bloody coochie too, after leaving your husband's house.. And would later dump your stubborn ass for the next emancipated single mother after several raw dogging.. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 10:39pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28:And what makes you think such decisions against the man's wish will not later break the union? My dear, I won't ask you to be a full-time house wife since its not your thing, your parents especially your mother advised you well if you ask me, because the only way to man's heart is to fully respect his authority anything other than this will definitely not work, remember you can't have two captains in a ship. Lastly, find a way to talk things over with him, don't say it like you're competing with his authority to make final decisions in the family, if he refuses whenever you talk about it politely, you're a woman, use your feminism, but always give him that feeling that you're under his authority but that you really wish to work. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 10:40pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28: It is o. I've seen many and the hell they put my sisters through. Ladies should be wise o. You did an excellent job in that your comment. Don't blame the ones that abuse you, they don't know. The crux of the matter is many men are Using marriage to destroy their wives lives and purposely. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Dalby(m): 10:42pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28:The bible that you are so quick to refer to says thou shall not steal...is the bible controlling you? |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Amumaigwe: 10:43pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28: First try get yourself a serious man and see if you will see things the same way again. 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Conceptman: 10:43pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
If I'm the Op I will take this advice, I know of a family who are currently going through same issue, as a woman u need to understand that some men really have their fears and if u find your home very pleasing and always a happy place why would you want to cause problem to ur marriage, she should find the peace she threw away before someone else find it, if the man wants to set a business for her then it's advisable she go with that, the fears of most men is their wife's working place and the safety of the woman is what the husband is scared of. Forward77: 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Leebeedo(m): 10:44pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
If all you said is true, then I'm sorry to say YOU MARRIED A BOY 10 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by BravoDe: 10:44pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker U married too early 22yo and you're married, hmm 5 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Yoighaman(m): 10:44pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker: First, I commend your write-up, I enjoy reading posts from intelligent people. Second, please sit him down and explain to him that life can have an happenstances, let him understand he can kick the bucket tomorrow, what then happens to you and the daughter he loves so much since he wants you to sit at home. Third, please convince him to allow you work and have some earnings, it can also amount to a huge form of support to him. Lastly, keep your head intact, a man would always be a man, once you don't contribute anything to the home financially and he has financial challenges, you become irritable, please don't wait until things dip that low. Not all men can retain their sanity in such situations. We wish you all the best. Once again, post aptly written, nice one. 5 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 10:44pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:Sometimes I wonder what women like you really wants, if the asks you to be doing the work while he sits at home, you'll call him lazy, now the man is saying let me be the man and work, and you're still saying no. Women like you always claim that it's the man's duty to provide for the family, which the man is simply doing, so what else do you want to go out there to do? 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by kevotek1000(m): 10:45pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker: Firstly, I appreciate your efforts in trying to seek advice to resolve issues currently facing your marriage. You said '' I love him but on this issue, I refuse to agree with him''. Men that don't like when women who argue or refuse to obey their instructions. I see you as a type that Nag or don't obey direct orders. If you love him then respect his decisions. Your parents were right after all, be submissive and respect him... They are better ways to sweet talk things to your husband without not engaging in an arguments with him. Probably your characters and behavior towards him was the reason he refuse you from working. When you are submissive.... God may touch his heart to reason with you but if you're not their is no way you can over ride his decision. Men has pride and honour, if he can't control you his wife then the marriage isn't going to work. Auntie apply wisdom. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by dasparrow: 10:45pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
beezyblaze: I don't think the average Nigerian knows what marriage is to be honest. This is why Nigerian marriages come across as master-slave relationships, with the husband being the master and the wife being the slave. It is only in a master-slave relationship that a man will go against what he agreed on with his wife before marriage and then come up with new set of rules that were not agreed upon after getting married. This is why I can never trust Nigerians. Wuruwuru is in your genes! 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by imam07: 10:46pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28:hmmm definitely people commenting against your advice are right. You really show d world wht u are made of. I pity ur husband. That is if u wish to hv |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by luminouz(m): 10:46pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Marriage issue AGAIN? There is like 10 topics on this on FP today.. Free us naaaaaa... 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 10:47pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Desric: Shut it. His attitude is toxic. Read beyond the lines. Also, because I see many rights and wrongs on both sides I almost did not comment beyond that he's holding his wife a prisoner in the guise of marriage. Healthy marital relations is a sideways relationship and not vertical horizontal, master slave relationship. Go and learn the difference. 14 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by YorubaKing: 10:47pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28: Lady, You're sure not OK... That the parents advised her to respect her husband is a problem, abi? You get mental problem, I swear! Olofo! 5 Likes
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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Dalby(m): 10:48pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:These things you discuss before marriage. So if you are not able to agree every one goes their way... |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Amanda4life: 10:49pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Forward77: Please women who work , are they actually stubborn? 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 10:49pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Dalby: True. I've ended a relationship on the same plane. But, the marriage is still early to have this discussion |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by seuncyrus(m): 10:50pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Totally off topic , no offence but I honestly think 21 is too young for anyone to get married . If you'd been working before you got married, this won't have been a problem. Your husband is just insecure, he knows you're still very young and maybe easily swayed cos outside is not smiling at all... it's all left to you to find a way How come nairaland is filled with so many sad marriage tales this past few days. What the f**k is going on - in Ariana grande's voice Enough with the sad tales please, some of us never marry abeg ...these posts are not encouraging at all 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Dalby(m): 10:50pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:This is her side of the story Bros always remember that!!! |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Emmanuelcann: 10:50pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
[/quote] To be sincere, I feel a business is the better option for a wife than a job. My wife was a banker. I gave her maximum support but I was never at ease with the situation. Consider that option if possible. |
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