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Re: My Four Children Not Mine by frozen70(f): 9:39pm On Dec 17, 2019
IyaTola:
This is from a radio station program "Who cares" 99.3fm Sunday 15th December, 2019
His 52yrs old Civil Engineer his wife a Pharmacist 50yrs old met in 1993 and married in 1995 both raised four children 21yrs 19yrs 16yrs & 13 yrs respectively to the best of their abilities

Until October 2018, he discovered that all four children are not his biological children after DNA test proved that his not in any way related of the children that meant his world to him

On the 20th September 2019, my 3rd child who happened to be female was critically ill in the hospital, the doctor informs us she need an urgent blood transfusion, my wife and I were in the hospital and we both decided to get our blood tested inorder to know who had the same blood group with our daughter, but none of us had the same blood group with our daughter, fortunately for us our first son came in and he happened to be a match. I was innocent of the whole thing because I didn't know the implication of a child not matching the either of the parent's blood.

After the whole thing was taken care of the doctor called me privately to ask me if I was the real father of my own daughter, at first I was furious at the question but I calmed down to answer the question of course why would you be asking me such question, he went ahead to explain how a child can have either of the parents blood group. I was confused and ask what he was trying to tell me and he said is either am not the father of my child or my wife is not the mother because one of is suppose to match, but since none was a match there is problem. I didn't take it seriously because it was sounding odd to me. When I informed my wife about it her answer was "don't mind that stupid doctor".

After 3 days, our daughter was discharged from the hospital, my mind was no longer at rest because I didn't know what to do, I went back to the doctor ask for advice on what I should do, he told me if I want to be sure of everything I should have paternity test done on my daughter, when he mentioned that to me I almost collapsed because I know what that means, it was too much for me to handle, I had to be a man and face whatever will happen. I ask if I could do so for the remaining three he said that would be a good idea if I can afford it. I decided to take the bold step even though it was not easy. He advice me of two places and the cost and their prices. Confidentially, a friend had told me of an advert of DNA on Facebook about a company where they offer the cheapest DNA paternity test in Nigeria.

I booked an appointment with my four children with the doctor. I asked her how accurate the result is 99.99% if I am the father and 0% if I am not the father. When we all arrived at the office, she told me to come in alone and asked me of my story and if I was ready for this because the result could be either way and especially 4 children involved, the eldest is 21yrs old, at first I was scared and she asked me of I wanted to take time to think about it before making the decision. I was surprised and asked if she does doesn't want money, she answered with a smile "Sir it not all about the money I think of my clients physiological well being first". I had to be man and told her I was ready and asked her when the result be ready she said, "it will be ready in 5 working days because she was yet to start the analysis in Nigeria so for now she send the sample to her partner company in Canada"

The waiting period seems like a forever me, when the result came in she told me to come for it. I was scared but at the same time wanted to know the truth. When I got to her office counselling began even before I was given the result, I just knew the worst has happened but I didn't expect to it be all my children that I have laboured for all my life giving them the best in Life.

Unfortunately when I open the result all children were not mine three sons and one daughter. I couldn't hold it as a man I broke down in tears the trauma was too much for me. When I got home I called my wife and showed her the results she denied evwrything, to make myself happy. I called the doctor with an angry tone and told her if she was sure of this results she was calm and told me she was very sure of the results and referred me to other places I can do the test. I didn't know what to do and went to the doctor that advice me to go for the parternity test, when he saw the result he said, "it can't be a mistake because DNA can't lie and that the 22 locyle region is the highest in paternity test". I was more convinced and went back home and told my wife if she doesn't tell me the truth that I will go to the church pastor and show them the result, after hearing me say that she broke down in tears and confession started. She had all my suppose-to-be-children for the same man that was why our son has the same blood group with the sister. She has refused to tell me the man and the reason why she did was she did.
We are yet to tell the children and our family. Am in great shock and don't know what to do, the doctor that did the DNA has been of helpful with counseling.
Men out there you need to be vigilant.
At this critical stage, just weep over it and move on

Don't tell your children and don't break your family by telling

The effect on the children will be worst than what you passed through and at old age, non will look after you since you are not their father

As for your wife, just let the sleeping dog lye

This is a top secret both of you will keep for you to be happier on earth

It has happened it has happened

Protect your family by keeping the secret
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by culf: 1:42am On Dec 18, 2019
Saintmary:
Have you not heard of cases where a woman got another man to impregnate her so she can cover her husband's secret of impotence?
she is not covering anything, what she did is not for the husband my dear, its for herself. some ladies are too desperate.

I heard of a lady that got pregnant from outside and gave birth, now she is disturbing the guy to get her pregnant again but the guy is dodging her.

There is no reason for such, some couples wait for years before having their kids while others adopt.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Saintmary(f): 2:09am On Dec 18, 2019
culf:
she is not covering anything, what she did is not for the husband my dear, its for herself. some ladies are too desperate.

I heard of a lady that got pregnant from outside and gave birth, now she is disturbing the guy to get her pregnant again but the guy is dodging her.

There is no reason for such, some couples wait for years before having their kids while others adopt.
Did you think I was supporting such actions?
I was just stating what happens in this society.
Their marriage and its peculiarities is of little concern to me.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by culf: 2:16am On Dec 18, 2019
Saintmary:
Did you think I was supporting such actions? I was just stating what happens in this society. Their marriage and its peculiarities is of little concern to me.
OK dear, I thought you were trying to give reason why she did that.
I luv your last sentence though it's good to learn from others mistake.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 7:37am On Dec 18, 2019
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Saintmary:
Mr Man, their family, their children, their business.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 7:38am On Dec 18, 2019
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Prognose:
And to make matters worse for the ladies, DNA tests have reduced in cost. You can now get your paternity test done for as low as N250k.

I tried marketing the kit once at a new generation bank. If you see the way the women eyed me eh, if they had daggers I may not have escaped unhurt that day.
grin
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 7:40am On Dec 18, 2019
culf:
she is not covering anything, what she did is not for the husband my dear, its for herself. some ladies are too desperate.

I heard of a lady that got pregnant from outside and gave birth, now she is disturbing the guy to get her pregnant again but the guy is dodging her.

There is no reason for such, some couples wait for years before having their kids while others adopt.
Rumors.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by culf: 10:38am On Dec 18, 2019
IyaTola:
Rumors.
not rumor, the person the young man was asking for advice was the one asking us to help him on what to tell his friend.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by AFONAMARO: 11:01am On Dec 18, 2019
bukatyne:
Incase you have not noticed, I do not have the time for juvenile discussions especially with peeps who do not have idea about life. undecided

I am also not responsible for your mistrust in women. You can resolve your mummy issues and leave my moniker off your whinning.

Those posts you quoted were a discussion with someone and if you are not intelligent to follow them, stay clear.

If you understand resolution tactics, you should know ideally that if DNA test proofs a man not the father,
they should test the mother if she is also their mother
. Baby switching is not a new thing.
So you mean they should test the mother after she had admitted to be adulterous?

She should do that in her father's house
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by babyfaceafrica: 1:28pm On Dec 18, 2019
frozen70:
At this critical stage, just weep over it and move on

Don't tell your children and don't break your family by telling

The effect on the children will be worst than what you passed through and at old age, non will look after you since you are not their father

As for your wife, just let the sleeping dog lye

This is a top secret both of you will keep for you to be happier on earth

It has happened it has happened

Protect your family by keeping the secret
As for the wife, just let sleeping dogs lie?



Are you serious at all?.. Four kids for another man in over 24 years of marriage and we should let sleeping dogs lie?. THIS is the highest form of betrayal.... Never ever will I sleep in the same house with such fellow again.. If heavens will fall, let it fall
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by frozen70(f):
babyfaceafrica:
As for the wife, just let sleeping dogs lie?



Are you serious at all?.. Four kids for another man in over 24 years of marriage and we should let sleeping dogs lie?. THIS is the highest form of betrayal.... Never ever will I sleep in the same house with such fellow again.. If heavens will fall, let it fall
If you consider the age of the parents and the effects on the children

The out come will be to difficult to control

Do you want to advice the man to chase her and the adult children away and start afresh from pampers till when

These are the things I considered before saying that

In as much as their biological father is no where to be found and he is not in the picture or making claims

What else ❓

Their father has invested so much in those children, some families have them but the secret remains secret
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by peacefulhome(f): 7:29pm On Dec 18, 2019
This is not a new thing. If federal government declare DNA for all family free of charge. I can assure you, just two percentage will pass this test. This is most common among men that always insist that their partner must get pregnant before marriage. Men think and stop giving unnecessary pressure on your partner.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 10:10am On Dec 19, 2019
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peacefulhome:
This is not a new thing. If federal government declare DNA for all family free of charge. I can assure you, just two percentage will pass this test. This is most common among men that always insist that their partner must get pregnant before marriage. Men think and stop giving unnecessary pressure on your partner.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Nobody: 10:58am On Dec 19, 2019
What is the cost of fertility test?
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 11:12am On Dec 19, 2019
180K for himself and the kids
Tosinayoko:
What is the cost of fertility test?
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by crackhaus: 12:45pm On Dec 19, 2019
Prognose:
And to make matters worse for the ladies, DNA tests have reduced in cost. You can now get your paternity test done for as low as N250k.

I tried marketing the kit once at a new generation bank. If you see the way the women eyed me eh, if they had daggers I may not have escaped unhurt that day.
cheesycheesy

Once some women hear DNA test, all their electrodes will start experiencing high current discharge - I don't know whether it's because they are never sure who actually got them pregnant. grin

Bukatyne
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Prognose: 3:16pm On Dec 19, 2019
Tosinayoko:
What is the cost of fertility test?
Fertility test for who? Male or female?
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Prognose: 3:16pm On Dec 19, 2019
IyaTola:
180K for himself and the kids
Did he mean paternity test?
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by bukatyne(f): 6:11pm On Dec 19, 2019
crackhaus:
cheesycheesy

Once some women hear DNA test, all their electrodes will start experiencing high current discharge - I don't know whether it's because they are never sure who actually got them pregnant. grin

Bukatyne
DNA test is an question of the woman's fidelity na, what do you except?
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Allsingles: 6:46pm On Dec 19, 2019
DGeneral123:
Haaaaaaa shocked

Fear Woman
Then Fear Devil

I say... After Woman Fear Devil

On the day of Judgement, Devil will open his mouth down in surprised, when he hears what some women has done. Then, he will know he is just an APPRENTICE.

WOMEN I FEAR THEM DIE.
You have killed me ooo
Women are too much but how can the devil be an APPRENTICE for them
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by DGeneral123(m): 10:21pm On Dec 19, 2019
Allsingles:
You have killed me ooo
Women are too much but how can the devil be an APPRENTICE for them
yes na
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Liposure: 4:25am On Dec 20, 2019
bukatyne:
DNA test is an question of the woman's fidelity na, what do you except?
hi am a big fan of yours.u are a great source of inspiration 2 women around d world.i ve learnt a lot from u.God bless u
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 7:40am On Dec 20, 2019
Yes
Prognose:
Did he mean paternity test?
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 7:41am On Dec 20, 2019
Allsingles:
You have killed me ooo
Women are too much but how can the devil be an APPRENTICE for them
Can build and at the same time destroy you. From Adam to Samson to Abacha but to mention a few.
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Allsingles: 10:56am On Dec 20, 2019
IyaTola:
Can build and at the same time destroy you. From Adam to Samson to Abacha but to mention a few.
You got.
I really understand you
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by DoubleEngine007: 12:13pm On Dec 20, 2019
chriskosherbal:
The one that surprises me is how can you live in the same house with your husband knowing fully well that those kids he tot was his aren't his & you stare into his eyes for 24 years, eating and dining with him goooosh this is worst than stabbing me with a knife.

Indeed the heart of a human is desperately/deceptively deep and wicked.
You never know women.. Their heart strong pass men own,in keeping secrets...
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Timbuktuo: 12:51pm On Dec 20, 2019
bukatyne:
Is the man impotent? undecided

I find it strange, the four kids for one man.
Couldn’t the woman have flushed out her husband’s children?

Did it occur to you that the woman never loved the man and loved and wanted children only for the true father of the children in the story?
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by Timbuktuo: 12:54pm On Dec 20, 2019
bukatyne:
You intended is aware sha.

Because it is lack of trust especially when she hasn't given you a reason not to.
The wife in this story didn’t give her husband any reason to doubt her fidelity, yet, here we are with four full grown bastárds

Only a foolish man would not carry out a paternity test in the modern era. Trust is earned
Re: My Four Children Not Mine by IyaTola(op): 1:57pm On Dec 20, 2019
Timbuktuo:
Couldn’t the woman have flushed out her husband’s children?

Did it occur to you that the woman never loved the man and loved and wanted children only for the true father of the children in the story?
nansense
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