pocohantas:


Nah, don't be. I actually know that much shouldn't be expected from a Nigerian horseband. I might only type otherwise to ruffle feathers. Unlike you, nothing they do surprises me...

That said, I am still waiting for Philip0906 to surprise me. Maybe you can help me beg him.

BrainSanitizer:


This matter is complicated.
She was diagnosed of the illness after her second delivery according to her. But there's more to it.
Postpartum (Puerperal) psychosis usually results in women who have a history of bipolar disorder. Her parents must have known that she has that issue before marriage. They should've informed the man about it. Unfortunately, some people dismiss it as just "mode swings". It's not just mood swings, it's a dangerous indicator of what is to come. I believe the man has this information that's why he's angry.
It's a pity she's going through this. I wouldn't wish my enemy to go through postpartum psychosis. Thank God she's made it through.
@Op Alooone, you need to find a way to talk to your husband. He probably intends to have more children but the thought of impregnating a wife who's going to be psychotic after birth is extremely difficult to accept. Suicidal tendencies are very high and you know what that means. If the two of you can work it out to be content with the kids you already have, then you should be fine.
Lastly, be prayerful. I mean very prayerful. If you settle it spiritually, trust me, it'll be easier than you can ever imagine.
May God be with you.

DMerciful:
So you want her to be alone for the rest of her life? Or you dont know the children will eventually leave to pursue their own lives? She is also not expected to be in her parents house forever!

Alooone:
I got married to my husband in 2013, we are blessed with 2kids (a boy and a girl)

In 2017, barely 2 weeks after giving birth to our son I was diagnosed with puepurium psychosis. A kind of mental illness that afflicts women that have just given birth and since it has been from one medication to another..

Now since after my diagnosis my husband has been a source of emotional, verbal and physical abuse... He blames my parents for everything as he feels "cheated " feeling that they knew all about my "sickness " before we got married and kept it from him.....

He felt I was a liability and feels he is too young to shoulder such... There was nothing my husband didn't do to frustrate me...

So around June this year I left my home for my father's house and have been there since, now since I have been there my husband hardly calls when he does he wants to speak with his children. He doesn't call my parents to ask about my well-being or that of his kids.

Sometimes I feel abandoned, now the issue is that the love I have for him is beginning to reduce, sometimes I feel like letting him go and starting all over. Other times I want to stay cos I think of my children's future.

As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms have gone as am typing this now I have a job with a small private school and planning to either proceed with my masters or start a nursing programme.

So please I need your advice. Should I let him go?

chival:


You are so right. I have noticed there's an increasing number of men who are cold and mean, and it all stems from their upbringing. The onus falls on us to trim down the number of apathetic men by raising our boys to be compassionate and kind hearted.

MedicH:


No. You're wrong.

Marriage is for better for worse pls.

I wonder if you can spot the difference.

Pls learn how the comparative and superlative forms of adjectives work.

Alooone:
I got married to my husband in 2013, we are blessed with 2kids (a boy and a girl)

In 2017, barely 2 weeks after giving birth to our son I was diagnosed with puepurium psychosis. A kind of mental illness that afflicts women that have just given birth and since it has been from one medication to another..

Now since after my diagnosis my husband has been a source of emotional, verbal and physical abuse... He blames my parents for everything as he feels "cheated " feeling that they knew all about my "sickness " before we got married and kept it from him.....

He felt I was a liability and feels he is too young to shoulder such... There was nothing my husband didn't do to frustrate me...

So around June this year I left my home for my father's house and have been there since, now since I have been there my husband hardly calls when he does he wants to speak with his children. He doesn't call my parents to ask about my well-being or that of his kids.

Sometimes I feel abandoned, now the issue is that the love I have for him is beginning to reduce, sometimes I feel like letting him go and starting all over. Other times I want to stay cos I think of my children's future.

As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms have gone as am typing this now I have a job with a small private school and planning to either proceed with my masters or start a nursing programme.

So please I need your advice. Should I let him go?

faithfull18:

Hahahaha , I saw that and decided to leave it that way, still gets me confused anyway, I try to avoid using it.

Thanks for the correction anyway.

bukatyne:


If he has not verbally indicated interest to end the marriage, give it a second chance.

He has told you his pain point: he thinks your parents deceived him into the marriage.

You both need to go for therapy and clear his grievance.

You can get medical journals about your condition and connection with child birth, the symptoms and solutions. Also arrange for him to speak with your doctors on the causes, triggers, solutions and after care.

You should also be medically certified that you are fine.

Goodluck.

MedicH:


adjective good..............bad

comparative form better.........worse (marriage) comparing two outcomes

superlative form best...............worst (e.g the best thing that happened, or the worst thing that happened) chosing the best from three or more


you're welcome

that's how it's used

Amanee:



Who says she'll be alone? Open your eyes and wake up to reality. Divorced women are getting snapped up into loving relationships and marriages especially if the woman has achieved something with her life and learnt from the past.


And what's so miserable about being alone? Better to be alooone than to stay married to an ignorant and miserable psychopath

Alooone:

I never had it before, the sickness was diagnosed barely two weeks after delivery

Cutehector:
But why did you keep such medical information from him before you both got married? That's not fair in my opinion.

onegig:



More reason I really don't get women in Nigeria and their overjoy to just get pregnant.

If I were to be a woman . God knows I would fuxkkking stay away from.pregnancy.

You loose your body, you are burdened for 9months and even after that you either get depressed and suicidal from post partum depression or this above. Add to the risks of childbirth and the stress of sleepless night tending to babies.

I can't really wrap my head why women are so joyous to go through all these multiple times. Like are you guys masochists and love pain and trouble so much?

DMerciful:
She need to make attempt to fix the marriage first. Are you going to tell the next man that you left your previous marriage due to mental illness? If you dont tell him and he finds out, will he not say he was betrayed just like her husband is saying now? Supposed the new husband want his own kids, would she oblige and risk recurrence? You can see its getting complicated!

Alooone:

Thanks he Does'nt want to Hear anything about hospital cos he feels it's spiritual but what pains me is the way he sees my ailment as more or less God-given "excuse " to jump ship

Alooone:
I got married to my husband in 2013, we are blessed with 2kids (a boy and a girl)

In 2017, barely 2 weeks after giving birth to our son I was diagnosed with puepurium psychosis. A kind of mental illness that afflicts women that have just given birth and since it has been from one medication to another..

Now since after my diagnosis my husband has been a source of emotional, verbal and physical abuse... He blames my parents for everything as he feels "cheated " feeling that they knew all about my "sickness " before we got married and kept it from him.....

He felt I was a liability and feels he is too young to shoulder such... There was nothing my husband didn't do to frustrate me...

So around June this year I left my home for my father's house and have been there since, now since I have been there my husband hardly calls when he does he wants to speak with his children. He doesn't call my parents to ask about my well-being or that of his kids.

Sometimes I feel abandoned, now the issue is that the love I have for him is beginning to reduce, sometimes I feel like letting him go and starting all over. Other times I want to stay cos I think of my children's future.

As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms have gone as am typing this now I have a job with a small private school and planning to either proceed with my masters or start a nursing programme.

So please I need your advice. Should I let him go?

safarigirl:
is his behavior that of a born again? Or do you people just ask this question every time?

You should not tag anyone that behaved so repulsively as born again, unless you think this behavior is what obtains with born again people.....then again, I know a lot of fake born again Christians

Amanee:



I won't waste my energy on this oga

Nobody is paying me to be an NL Dr Phil, I've said my bit. If you don't agree, that's your headache not mine

Have a good day.

Alooone:
I got married to my husband in 2013, we are blessed with 2kids (a boy and a girl)

In 2017, barely 2 weeks after giving birth to our son I was diagnosed with puepurium psychosis. A kind of mental illness that afflicts women that have just given birth and since it has been from one medication to another..

Now since after my diagnosis my husband has been a source of emotional, verbal and physical abuse... He blames my parents for everything as he feels "cheated " feeling that they knew all about my "sickness " before we got married and kept it from him.....

He felt I was a liability and feels he is too young to shoulder such... There was nothing my husband didn't do to frustrate me...

So around June this year I left my home for my father's house and have been there since, now since I have been there my husband hardly calls when he does he wants to speak with his children. He doesn't call my parents to ask about my well-being or that of his kids.

Sometimes I feel abandoned, now the issue is that the love I have for him is beginning to reduce, sometimes I feel like letting him go and starting all over. Other times I want to stay cos I think of my children's future.

As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms have gone as am typing this now I have a job with a small private school and planning to either proceed with my masters or start a nursing programme.

So please I need your advice. Should I let him go?

onegig:



More reason I really don't get women in Nigeria and their overjoy to just get pregnant.

If I were to be a woman . God knows I would fuxkkking stay away from.pregnancy.

You loose your body, you are burdened for 9months and even after that you either get depressed and suicidal from post partum depression or this above. Add to the risks of childbirth and the stress of sleepless night tending to babies.

I can't really wrap my head why women are so joyous to go through all these multiple times. Like are you guys masochists and love pain and trouble so much?

bukatyne:


If he has not verbally indicated interest to end the marriage, give it a second chance.

He has told you his pain point: he thinks your parents deceived him into the marriage.

You both need to go for therapy and clear his grievance.

You can get medical journals about your condition and connection with child birth, the symptoms and solutions. Also arrange for him to speak with your doctors on the causes, triggers, solutions and after care.

You should also be medically certified that you are fine.

Goodluck.

chival:


You are so right. I have noticed there's an increasing number of men who are cold and mean, and it all stems from their upbringing. The onus falls on us to trim down the number of apathetic men by raising our boys to be compassionate and kind hearted.