Pavore9:


Ignorance is motivating him and stop bringing the devil into the situation. She does not need any deliverance, it is not spiritual. It is no sin in leaving a marriage that is toxic and nurtures loss of human dignity.

pocohantas:
Your husband is only being human. Not everyone can handle a mentally ill partner, even though we all hope to have a partner who can do that for us.

Most times I have seen sick married women- they were always shipped back to their parents house for proper care. The ones with elderly kids were moved to their sons house. Nothing new there. How it changed the dynamics of their marriage is what I don't know. However, they never ended their marriages.

LegendaryLover:
ABOUT THE ILLNESS:
(a) is there no total cure or it can only be managed?


MARRIAGE:
maybe u guys could sit and talk with some1 he respects. then bare ur heart. help him see ur parents didn't know.


I think love is missing in that marriage; God's kinda love. That the only thing that can help couples be truly there for each other in tough times.

e.g husband losses job and wife divorces. wife is unable to get pregnant and husband leaves the marriage.




IS HE BORN AGAIN?

luluosas:
You think so? I pray you don't fall a victim of satanic manipulations in your entire life. But if you ever do, Jesus is waiting to deliver you right there.

wany:

Sis,
You fall my hand for this your write up.how many women leave their sick husband to his misfortune, please tell me.mean while she developed this illness giving birth to their second child.
@op your husband is insensitive and inconsiderate, and it also shows there is no love between you two.follow your heart if your heart says stay then stay and endure but if not then move.God please save women from inconsiderate and loveless union ijn.

Youngsage:


@ bolded, please what does it mean?

And if it can be corrected by an operation, any reason why you haven't yet? Pardon my inquisitiveness

bukatyne:


That is why they need to invest their youth in husbands who would stand by them.

wany:

You fall my hand for this your write up

bukatyne:


That is why they need to invest their youth in husbands who would stand by them.

sassysure:


Sòpido is what we call high heels

When I'm 100% sure I don't give birth again,I will do that.
There is so much involved and I want to correct all once and for all

LegendaryLover:




boy, don't be silly.


i'm entitled to my say. So stop quoting me and make ur own submission about the thread.

Pavore9:


In this given case, it is irrational thinking that is at play and leave satan out of it.

richPHAROAH:
shut up, dont talk shit publicly. say it in your house to your family

bukatyne:


If he has not verbally indicated interest to end the marriage, give it a second chance.

He has told you his pain point: he thinks your parents deceived him into the marriage.

You both need to go for therapy and clear his grievance.

You can get medical journals about your condition and connection with child birth, the symptoms and solutions. Also arrange for him to speak with your doctors on the causes, triggers, solutions and after care.

You should also be medically certified that you are fine.

Goodluck.

pocohantas:


I don't think it has much to do with investing. Lots of them are not very good with things that overly connects with their empathetic side. Anything that makes them look weak or emasculated. That is why a typical Naija man can only think of things money can buy as the ultimate. On your birthdays it would be a phone, cake or car (if he has so much money)- nothing out of the box.

Same man would never wash your clothes even if you are vomitting blood. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but the former makes his feel alpha, the latter doesn't.

Which Nigerian man has time to be packing urine of a sick wife, cleaning poo, reminding her to take drugs, preparing special meals for her failing health, washing her clothes and pants?

He will just ship her to her parents, her old mother will do that or the son's house- where yet another woman (his WIFE) would be obligated to do it. Women still fair better as primary caregivers, irrespective of their regular insane moments.

OP's own seems extreme because he wasn't sending money and asking of her wellbeing while she was with her parents. If he did both, I am sure OP as a Naija woman, would most likely not have issues with the arrangement.

Cutehector:
But why did you keep such medical information from him before you both got married? That's not fair in my opinion.

onegig:



More reason I really don't get women in Nigeria and their overjoy to just get pregnant.

If I were to be a woman . God knows I would fuxkkking stay away from.pregnancy.

You loose your body, you are burdened for 9months and even after that you either get depressed and suicidal from post partum depression or this above. Add to the risks of childbirth and the stress of sleepless night tending to babies.

I can't really wrap my head why women are so joyous to go through all these multiple times. Like are you guys masochists and love pain and trouble so much?