Kevsmart88:

All these for a woman's love? I really don't wanna judge how old you are with this comment but I would advise you put all of those efforts into making more money and being a beta version of urself and see her chase U around...women naturally are endeared to men who can provide security in all ramifications but fail to understand one thing- tables can turn sometimes in life and that's where true love and virtue come into play...To the OP keep striving, someday believe me U would overcome...

MajorWarren:
That’s sad to hear man, what is it about women that change them once they start earning way more than the man.
Just move out of the house give her some space and hustle hard man. I hope it works out between you guys later but even if it doesn’t, your kids are probably old enough to remember their dad as a loving, caring man.
You can always come back for them or try be in their lives but give your wife the space, you don’t need that much toxicity right now.

strungup79:


Thanks man. I really appreciate the love. My kids know their dad as the fun loving, jovial and playful disciplinarian. God willing I'll be back on my feet. I'm not lazy

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

lilwetdick:


.

strungup79:


You are just like my wife. If marriage is about control, why marry? Why not stay on your own? Making money is not about hustling, if it was i'd be earning over three times what my wife earns. Luck, favour also plays a role. Maybe God just wants to show me who I married.

Elder010:


you are a foollllllllllll

strungup79:


Thanks man. I really appreciate the love. My kids know their dad as the fun loving, jovial and playful disciplinarian. God willing I'll be back on my feet. I'm not lazy

Elder010:


between you and funmisticqueen i don't know who is more foolish in this forum

MajorWarren:
That’s sad to hear man, what is it about women that change them once they start earning way more than the man.
Just move out of the house give her some space and hustle hard man. I hope it works out between you guys later but even if it doesn’t, your kids are probably old enough to remember their dad as a loving, caring man.
You can always come back for them or try be in their lives but give your wife the space, you don’t need that much toxicity right now.

funmisticqueen:
for saying the truth? Or not telling all you testosterone laden apeshits who only think with their joystick what you want to hear or stroking your China doll egos.

Elder010:


you still wonder why no man who is not mad wants to befriend or marry you even after begging in this forum. bitterness will kill you if you no take time

LordKO:
If you're a Mech. Engr. with at least 2 years previous work experience in the petroleum industry, send me a PM immediately.

As for your wife and her recent attitude, it's obvious that you've been living with a frenemy all this while. Only few men are lucky, and can be lucky, to marry virtuous/submissive women. Since she's of the small-minded stock, you've to master the art of treating small-minded people and mete out same to her - if you aren't small-minded like her too.

I'm a mechanical engineer, pls here is my no 08114521124

MajorWarren:


Don’t worry you got this champ. She’ll soon realise she lost a good man. God bless.

funmisticqueen:
It wasn't the women who changed, it was simply a role reversal. And men do not like the experience being in a woman's shoes. So they cry and wail that they are being emasculated because they can't take what they mete out to womem

movement2020:
Marriage has it's high and lows. Uncle, this is your very low,pls,try and use wisdom to keep it intact. Your predicament would pass oneday and someday. The struggle makes the home one to emulate which the children would be proud of.

Call her, let her know your thoughts and feelings. Don't nag, don't constitute a nuisance either. Just accept was fate brought before you and as I said, seek for divine wisdom so that when the tremor stops, you both would have learnt, trained the kids and be glad you sacrificed.

Please, always remember, the end matters alot and every thing can never be rosy all the time. It is time to see the other side of your wife and learn what money turn people into. Take it as a way your creator is using to teach you the lessons of marriage, woman and life.

MajorWarren:


What are you on about? The man said she doesn’t discuss decisions with him anymore instead she goes to her parents, which means prior to the “role reversal” he pretty much consults his wife before making decisions.
There are other instances in his post that show he’s being disrespected cos his earning dipped.

funmisticqueen:
Lots of beautiful, single older women with children do not bother to remarry. Have you ever wondered why?

Peace of mind is more important than having some phallus around the house who thinks he's a 'good man' and God's gift to women.

MajorWarren:


And lots of beautiful, single older women with children wish to remarry but can’t.
Have you ever wondered why?

funmisticqueen:
you are assuming things @ bolded. That is not objective at all.

funmisticqueen:
yes, they either truly enjoyed their previous marriage and want a repeat of that or don't like to be alone, are past childbearing age, or need a man to financially cater for them.

strungup79:
I'm 42 help.

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn. My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home. Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming. My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.
My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible. We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge. She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect. She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her. Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

strungup79:


You are just like my wife. If marriage is about control, why marry? Why not stay on your own? Making money is not about hustling, if it was i'd be earning over three times what my wife earns. Luck, favour also plays a role. Maybe God just wants to show me who I married.

Blakjewelry:

Clear your head and stay focus. This is the point I was trying to raise when people talk about broke guy issue. So what happened if things go wrong in the future, our parents where true to each other no matter the situation or condition. Just try and dust yourself up, just believe you can do it again, being frustrated will only keep you from achieving your goals, I pray 2020 smile on you