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Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Gettreadyy(m): 7:39am On Jan 05, 2020
blessingsonflee:
Lastly, no matter how hungry you are , when your father in-law invites you to eat with him say “NO “! cheesy. No go think say dem like you na him maoke he tell you “come chop” . If you do , just know say na your last supper you chop so grin. Make dem no go tag you as hungry guy-man wey no go fit feed their daughter.

what if he insists ?

when I'm ready to visit my in-laws to be for the first time, I will go with an expensive alcoholic and non alcoholic wine as gifts with an average size cake.

my appearance alone will wow them and they will remove the thought that he is broke.

I Will be prepared, I will charm them with my words and actions.

while leaving i will give her siblings in the house some money and maybe her mother too defending (if I deem it fit) they may love me instantly.

But I ain't doing any of the things mentioned above because i want a baby mama. don't ask me why
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by ikwedim(m): 7:41am On Jan 05, 2020
The day I will go to pay my baby mama owns and they begin to ask me stupid questions, I will just stand up and go. Nonsense
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by tck2000(m): 7:41am On Jan 05, 2020
pocohantas:
Nice thread OP. Let me add,

How many are you in your family?

If he is the FIRST SON from a family of 10 and the last 3 are still in school. They will assume their daughter has 3 children before she born sef. The inlaws will most likely see her as a competition or stumbling block. It is not easy being married to the pillar of a home.

Your siblings?

Igbo fathers be like "Umunne gi kwanu?"
He doesn't just want to hear "ahu di ha mma", he wants to hear their profile too.

"Oh, my elder brother is a doctor in the US. My younger sister works with FIRS. The one after her is an engineer in Shell"...IMPRESSIVE!

Your daughter has chances of going to the abroad to give birth. Also, when everybody in a family is doing well, phone dey ring, family dey call, you no go dey fear to pick am. Christmas in the villa would be like getaway. Not, umu Remigius mere nka, ha me nka. Ana akoheri.

Where do you base?
Naija parents don't like their daughters going too far, especially Igbos. They want where they can easily come for omugwo. This far distance doesn't include abroad o. Abroad is not far at all.

It will also help them know where their daughter has been going all the while she didn't return home for ASUU strike.


If you wan see where Naija alpha male humble, take him to your father. E go ask you mumu question for doormot. Should I remove my slippers? You'll be like "baby just enter!!!" grin
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by tck2000(m): 7:44am On Jan 05, 2020
ValCon888:
Nonsense and ingredient questions. Money changes situations. Just drop your Range Rover or Bentley key on the sitting room table and you'll be the one questioning her father.

In fact, he'll be giving you answers without you asking any question.
lol Guy why?
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by tck2000(m): 8:09am On Jan 05, 2020
Munzy14:

Word!... cheesy

My family doesn't care about your wealth, what matters is are u educated... lol... operation eliminate stark illiterates...
just like my mum!
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by tck2000(m): 8:11am On Jan 05, 2020
Geophilip:
contact me for marriage past questions from 1914 - date
Igbo past questions 10k
Yoruba 5k
Hausa 1k
Hmm
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by prciouschika(f): 8:37am On Jan 05, 2020
cheesy
Dehindepgenius:
grin

My first meeting with my wife's parents was funny as hell. Thank God the old man has a sense of humor. I mistook him for the gardener, he was wearing gloves and trimming flowers when I arrived. I was like 'is your oga around?' He looked me over and said 'are you a clown or you just lack manners?' I realised who he was at that point. Then to worsen thing, at dinner I accidentally knocked a pitcher of water into his soup. My wife looked like she would faint. Today we are best buds. Inside life grin
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by GboyegaD(m): 8:48am On Jan 05, 2020
Interestingly, my wife's mum asked me to visit at the beginning of our relationship however, I turned it down cos I felt it was too early. Months after, I had to call her parents once in a while to get acquainted to them.

Suddenly, I missed her dad's call one Saturday and got a text that we needed to talk that weekend. We fixed a time for Sunday evening. His question was what are my plans for his daughter as he noticed we have been friends for a while. We went back and forth to ensure I understood the question properly and answered. He also asked if I know the daughter well enough.

15 months later, I called to ask for a convenient time I could call him. We picked the following night and I called to tell my intentions. The mother asked if I wouldn't be offended if she asked a few questions and I told her to. She asked if I have ever been married and if I have kids. The latter question was one I wasn't comfortable with as such my response was a bit rude. She asked my intentions for her daughter and our after wedding plans.
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Chukapage(m): 8:55am On Jan 05, 2020
pocohantas:
Nice thread OP. Let me add,

How many are you in your family?

If he is the FIRST SON from a family of 10 and the last 3 are still in school. They will assume their daughter has 3 children before she born sef. The inlaws will most likely see her as a competition or stumbling block. It is not easy being married to the pillar of a home.

Your siblings?

Igbo fathers be like "Umunne gi kwanu?"
He doesn't just want to hear "ahu di ha mma", he wants to hear their profile too.

"Oh, my elder brother is a doctor in the US. My younger sister works with FIRS. The one after her is an engineer in Shell"...IMPRESSIVE!

Your daughter has chances of going to the abroad to give birth. Also, when everybody in a family is doing well, phone dey ring, family dey call, you no go dey fear to pick am. Christmas in the villa would be like getaway. Not, umu Remigius mere nka, ha me nka. Ana akoheri.

Where do you base?
Naija parents don't like their daughters going too far, especially Igbos. They want where they can easily come for omugwo. This far distance doesn't include abroad o. Abroad is not far at all.

It will also help them know where their daughter has been going all the while she didn't return home for ASUU strike.


If you wan see where Naija alpha male humble, take him to your father. E go ask you mumu question for doormot. Should I remove my slippers? You'll be like "baby just enter!!!" grin
Mpa GI ojikwa ego?? It's only when the girls father is a rich ,strong or powerful man that the suitors usually shiver or when they're below ,the family social class.But if the Suitor is richer and more successful in all Ramifications even probably coming to do "poverty alleviation program" in the girls family or when his family is evidently richer Na to just enter parlor keep leg for table join and the woman's father will still be smiling sheepishly and be like "ah nwa m ibiala?" "Kedu afa gi" So as far as Igbo land is concerned na who get money pass dey do the Intimidation ,but if it's the girl's father that's richer and more successful then it's usually bloody ,e be like Oral exam.

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Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Ernerstdavid55(m): 8:56am On Jan 05, 2020
ValCon888:
Nonsense and ingredient questions. Money changes situations. Just drop your Range Rover or Bentley key on the sitting room table and you'll be the one questioning her father.

In fact, he'll be giving you answers without you asking any question.
chaii bad guy bad dat is money abuse
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by blessingsonflee(f): 8:58am On Jan 05, 2020
Except you are going with your own alcohol. Some in-laws can be difficult and choose to test you in anyway even with your money or how you look before giving their daughter out
Gettreadyy:


what if he insists ?

when I'm ready to visit my in-laws to be for the first time, I will go with an expensive alcoholic and non alcoholic wine as gifts with an average size cake.

my appearance alone will wow them and they will remove the thought that he is broke.

I Will be prepared, I will charm them with my words and actions.

while leaving i will give her siblings in the house some money and maybe her mother too defending (if I deem it fit) they may love me instantly.

But I ain't doing any of the things mentioned above because i want a baby mama. don't ask me why




Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by blessingsonflee(f): 9:00am On Jan 05, 2020
Kirinwa:


Like seriously? grin

yes o . I have heard stories
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by dangoteinlaw: 9:09am On Jan 05, 2020
Greatzeus:
All these questions won't be necessary if you are rich and successful. Your in laws to be will respect you,even if they will ask these questions at all their tone will be different, compared to a average earner or broke guy grin
" Being poor is the root of all evil, get money my ni ggas"...Rick Ross
I'm talking to the hol ghost in Bugatti lol Rick Ross
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by jidamsel43(m): 9:10am On Jan 05, 2020
xcelentattitude:


He seemed to me like a principled man.

Please tell us more about the father.
Her father asked if I was staying with parents or alone. I told him that I was staying alone though a room and parlour apartment. He nodded which suggested confirmation and affirmation. He asked if I smoked or drink . my answer was negative. He said he wouldn't have rejected me if I used to drink but he needed to be ascertain . So that if there would be any disagreement or misunderstood , the cause of disagreement will be easily detected. He then asked the mother to entertain me . In conclusion, he gave his consent and asked me to await the 'list' from them because their daughter is not for free. More so that they have also paid to many families too

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Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by dangoteinlaw: 9:12am On Jan 05, 2020
ValCon888:
Nonsense and ingredient questions. Money changes situations. Just drop your Range Rover or Bentley key on the sitting room table and you'll be the one questioning her father.

In fact, he'll be giving you answers without you asking any question.
as in eh Money is good Sha. Forget all those nonsense u see online about how you should keep selling pure water and praying to God, when marriage time come na him you go know how far. According to zlatan "what do u have to say when u don't have money"
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by MrBONE2(m): 9:25am On Jan 05, 2020
blessingsonflee:
Lastly, no matter how hungry you are , when your father in-law invites you to eat with him say “NO “! cheesy. No go think say dem like you na him make he tell you “come chop” . If you do , just know say na your last supper you chop so grin. Make dem no go tag you as hungry guy-man wey no go fit feed their daughter.

grin

Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Kirinwa: 9:37am On Jan 05, 2020
backbone503:


Its complexity lies in its simplicity.


God.
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by MrBONE2(m): 9:39am On Jan 05, 2020
Gettreadyy:


what if he insists ?

when I'm ready to visit my in-laws to be for the first time, I will go with an expensive alcoholic and non alcoholic wine as gifts with an average size cake.

my appearance alone will wow them and they will remove the thought that he is broke.

I Will be prepared, I will charm them with my words and actions.

while leaving i will give her siblings in the house some money and maybe her mother too defending (if I deem it fit) they may love me instantly.

But I ain't doing any of the things mentioned above because i want a baby mama. don't ask me why




grin
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Nostradamus: 10:09am On Jan 05, 2020
ValCon888:
Nonsense and ingredient questions. Money changes situations. Just drop your Range Rover or Bentley key on the sitting room table and you'll be the one questioning her father.

In fact, he'll be giving you answers without you asking any question.
That's if the father is a marlian.
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by lexy2014: 10:24am On Jan 05, 2020
pocohantas:


A roaring lion kills no game.

You better read and learn.

Let's just print a book and give to vendors to hawk at bus parks. Going to see ones in-laws to be doesn't have to be an exam or interview that u have to prepare for
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by lexy2014: 10:29am On Jan 05, 2020
Geophilip:
contact me for marriage past questions from 1914 - date
Igbo past questions 10k
Yoruba 5k
Hausa 1k

Bros no be small thing. D way d guy write d topic, e come be like say na exam
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by lexy2014: 10:32am On Jan 05, 2020
micronut:


Source: https://naijalocals.com.ng/meeting-you-in-law-for-marriage-6-likely-questions-to-expect-as-a-guy/

Everybody is now an expert and everything now has tips. Is meeting in-laws to be an exam or interview? Am surprised that u didn't add GMAT as part of d "likely questions".

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Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Gettreadyy(m): 10:51am On Jan 05, 2020
blessingsonflee post=8lrt5515312:
Except you are going with your own alcohol. Some in-laws can be difficult and choose to test you in anyway even with your money or how you look before giving their daughter out

let them keep testing... by the time she (their daughter) clock 30yrs and above sense will finally fall on them.

are your parents the type of in-laws that will frustrate their prospective son inlaw? I know why I'm asking.
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by COOLWYT: 10:56am On Jan 05, 2020
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Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Dehindepgenius(m): 10:58am On Jan 05, 2020
Kirinwa:


See gbege. Why you go eat for first meeting? Ojukokoro

My brother no one asked whether I wan chop or not. I was practically ordered to eat, and given my earlier gaffe when I arrived, I no just argue.

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Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by Nobody: 10:58am On Jan 05, 2020
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Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by nlPoster: 11:02am On Jan 05, 2020
lexy2014:


Let's just print a book and give to vendors to hawk at bus parks. Going to see ones in-laws to be doesn't have to be an exam or interview that u have prepare for


Nlers never cease to amaze me.
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by BrainSanitizer: 11:05am On Jan 05, 2020
Make sure you edit your social media accounts, especially Facebook before going to see your would-be inlaws.
If you know you know.
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by darediamond(m): 11:13am On Jan 05, 2020
ValCon888:
Nonsense and ingredient questions. Money changes situations. Just drop your Range Rover or Bentley key on the sitting room table and you'll be the one questioning her father.

In fact, he'll be giving you answers without you asking any question.

Abi ooo my brother.
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by darediamond(m): 11:17am On Jan 05, 2020
The questions applies if you do not appear RICH.

Appear Rich and those questions would disappear forever!!

Most Nigerian girls are well baked depreciating Liabilities by there Parents!
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by LINTUNE(m): 11:26am On Jan 05, 2020
pocohantas:
Nice thread OP. Let me add,

How many are you in your family?

If he is the FIRST SON from a family of 10 and the last 3 are still in school. They will assume their daughter has 3 children before she born sef. The inlaws will most likely see her as a competition or stumbling block. It is not easy being married to the pillar of a home.

Your siblings?

Igbo fathers be like "Umunne gi kwanu?"
He doesn't just want to hear "ahu di ha mma", he wants to hear their profile too.

"Oh, my elder brother is a doctor in the US. My younger sister works with FIRS. The one after her is an engineer in Shell"...IMPRESSIVE!

Your daughter has chances of going to the abroad to give birth. Also, when everybody in a family is doing well, phone dey ring, family dey call, you no go dey fear to pick am. Christmas in the villa would be like getaway. Not, umu Remigius mere nka, ha me nka. Ana akoheri.

Where do you base?
Naija parents don't like their daughters going too far, especially Igbos. They want where they can easily come for omugwo. This far distance doesn't include abroad o. Abroad is not far at all.

It will also help them know where their daughter has been going all the while she didn't return home for ASUU strike.


If you wan see where Naija alpha male humble, take him to your father. E go ask you mumu question for doormot. Should I remove my slippers? You'll be like "baby just enter!!!" grin
you eh grin
Re: Meeting Your In-law For Marriage: 6 Questions To Expect As A Guy by nlPoster: 11:28am On Jan 05, 2020
BrainSanitizer:
Make sure you edit your social media accounts, especially Facebook before going to see your would-be inlaws.
If you know you know.

Good conversation point.

You can look at each other's Facebook or whatsapp/instagram/any social media assuming it wasnt done prior to meeting. Although I'm sure Nigerians would rather do it covertly then openly.

Now for internet generation who already know everything about everybody, even to when the person took an early morning crap, how do they pretend they dont?

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