0monnak0da:
shut dia!
Getaway you.
It will be very well with her.
Why are Nigerians such hypocrites?
Person way make me sleep cell 3 days if I get chance e go sleep 30 years
Come dry tell am say she for close her legs?

Ehn en?
Me I for close leg but she dey plan wedding of the year

Lafflaff catch monkey.
Wedding ko divorce ni?

You are deranged. You should be nowhere near the internet except within the walls of a mental facility. You are a mad woman.

Ok teacher please come and teach me English I will be happy. By the way I don’t want another child , im happy with my daughter and we are waiting for God to bless my guy with a good job so he can come and pay my pride price after that we will have as many kids as we want. We don’t want to give birth to kids we can’t afford

fpeter:
Your sister was right. You have ruined your life, simple English you can't even construct. What penis will do to you, you never see...look you look another pikin.

0monnak0da:
shut dia!
Getaway you.
It will be very well with her.
Why are Nigerians such hypocrites?
Person way make me sleep cell 3 days if I get chance e go sleep 30 years
Come dry tell am say she for close her legs?

Ehn en?
Me I for close leg but she dey plan wedding of the year

Lafflaff catch monkey.
Wedding ko divorce ni?

Who is this demented fellow? Please someone should take this one back to yaba. He’s not fully recovered yet.

DukeNija:


You are deranged. You should be nowhere near the internet except within the walls of a mental facility. You are a mad woman.

It’s clear ... he or she is a total mental patient.

Am I the only one that sees the wrong her elder sister did her by locking her up in the cell? How come nobody is talking about this?

Thank you

Meliian:


So what if she gave birth at 15? Some people can't have children till this day?

Meliian:


Her life isn't destroyed because her fiance dumped her. And her life can't be destroyed because she lost her job. People get dumped and fired everyday but life goes on.

Her job lost was because she lost focus.
And she lost focus because her fiancee dumped her
Everyone does not have the same amount of willpower
Everyone is not the same!

See entitlement

Ifyjos:
She was the breadwinner , she helped a distant cousin with money to start business, if she could help a cousin and why not me her blood sister?

Meliian:


Her sister got her locked up in a cell too! What are you people saying sef? What kind of sister does that? Can you order the arrest of your own family? Look, the both of them are culpable in this. The elder sister is every bit as sinister as the op. I hope they can forgive each other.

You are very right, her sister needs to work on her temper too. I can't justify the OP's actions, but I must say her sister brought this upon herself with her temper and the way she treated the guy. This should be a lesson to people who think they can treat people like crap and get away with it. easily.

ireneidiva:

You said your guy is a good guy. This is what good guys do? Good guys impregnate 15 year olds? Good guys frame people up?

E weak me small . Good guy indeed




On a more serious note @ op, with this your deadly attitude towards your loving sister ( because am sure your naivety won't let you know that your sister loves you, she hates your guy because she assumed that he has spoiled your life by impregnating you at 15), you won't go far in life . Not a curse pls even if it's a curse ,trust me you deserves it....born at 15 you are a waste already,you only modified your waste life with what you did to your sister.


Only solution you have is to go and confess to your sister and gather all your cohorts to right all the wrongs.

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

Agent.....

She wanted us to stay there longer than this but if it wasn’t for mom high blood pressure , We would have been there for a long time

Meliian:
Am I the only one that sees the wrong her elder sister did her by locking her up in the cell? How come nobody is talking about this?

Ifyjos:
Please if I get rid of him and are you going to take care of my child needs?

How your sister behaved after you got pregnant is how some if not most parents would have behaved if not worse. So would you have collided with your "good man" to harm your parents if they treated you like that?

From your original post, you were not remorseful and from your responses, you are still not remorseful and even with the advices scattered here on things to learn, you don't think you can achieve anything on your own. God will help your sis pull through it is your daughter I pity.

People afraid to give birth to girls and the ones with girls already should strive to teach their girls leadership values, how they should take up space in their environment and cement themselves in the society. (Zozobini Tunzi, Miss Universe 2019). That way even if they make a mistake you won't see them behaving like the OP who is just 20 but is patiently waiting for her baby daddy to make it before she can have a comfortable life. That would be totally inconceivable to them in such a scenario.

You will only be free when you speak out forget about the consequence but if you deside to die with the truth pls dont waist our time ....



Give us feed back when u apologise if it turns out good fine ,if it turns out the other way round drop your sisters number we will follow up and apologise for your sins .

Ifyjos:
God forbid, my daughter will be greater than me , the mistake that I did she won’t repeat the same . She will go to university , get a better job , get married and have kids and she will make me the proudest mother in the entire world

Proudest mother, so you know getting pregnant at 15 is a mistake ehn and your sorry ass of a baby daddy is a mistake too..you shouldn't have taken the prayer personal if you are so OK with your life and your baby daddy's

Ifyjos:
God forbid, my daughter will be greater than me , the mistake that I did she won’t repeat the same . She will go to university , get a better job , get married and have kids and she will make me the proudest mother in the entire world

You are a child who was abused at 15. You lack basic comprehension and social skills. I wasn’t even speaking to you but you responded. You need help and I don’t mean it in a bad way. Unfortunately, the only person who would have helped you is your sister. You ruined your life with your own hands. But it’s not too late because there’s hope with God. Apologize to your sister and ask God for forgiveness. Tell everyone what you did including her fiancée. God have mercy on your soul.

Meliian:
Am I the only one that sees the wrong her elder sister did her by locking her up in the cell? How come nobody is talking about this?

Because wrongs have grade, for what she did to her sister, her sister’s sin is acquitted
Continue being the victim if you want people to listen to you. Don’t go and plot someone’s murder!

Ifyjos:
She doesn't care about me because if she did want the best for me , she would would support me and my guy to be together and establish a business for us instead she wanted me to break up with him to become a single mom as if she would have marry me or even take care of my child the way her father does. That's something she cannot do because theres nobody that will take care of my child like her father. He has better plans but things are just difficult for him. He is a good man he can never ask me to kill any of my relatives because If that was the case then it would have kill my sister long time ago and I'm not stupid to do such things. Yes I know what we did was wrong but we only wanted revenge for her to feel the pain that she has been causing us but I just realised that it was the wrong path to take , which I'm regretting but that doesn't make us bad people please

If this story has any truth in it, then I’ll admit that I don’t even know what to type.What worries me is how entitled you feel.Your sister sounds like she’s just starting life herself, but here you are sounding like she’s supposed to mother you & your boyfriend by starting up a business for you & taking over your parenting responsibilities.You need to wake up & face reality, life is not a fairy tale.You can not tell someone what they should do with their money.What you need to do is drop your myopic view if life & start thinking ahead.That baby daddy you have, fo you see a future with him? Is he the kind of man you’d want for a husband, a guy who drinks , smokes & lives a thug life? Better get your eyes off that area & think of how you can further your studies because several years to come, you’ll regret the choices you made in your youthful years.You need to forget that guy & broaden your view of life? Have you considered going back to school? It’s not too late dear.If you are learned, you’ll get a man who will be worth that name to the letter.Better start thinking of your future.

Sarang:


Why would she hit her elder sister?
If I as much as think of hitting my “immediate” elder sister, I am a sorry ass!

I already reprimanded her for raising her hand at her sister. She's a very disrespectful girl. However, there are other ways to punish a rude younger one. Getting them arrested is psychotic. Op must come from a very bad home. They both need help.

Freehuman:
Onila has taken her trolling to another level. If you know , you know.

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GeniusWannabe:

Can you imagine? She's still trying to be cunning about it, not wanting them to know she's got a hand in this. She's not even repentant at all.

But truly, there is not much point in telling that elder sister what she did.

It sounds nice to tell people to "confess" but are you confessing to help the other person or just to relieve yourself of the guilt

She has to help her sister move on and find another fiance and job, thats just the truth.

Modified: This is what I couldnt express:

KingNom:
@ ifyjos: it is very very painful you had to go through the insults because of your errors.

Pst. Chris Oyakhilome says 'hurting people (most times) hurt others, BE DIFFERENT; don't allow your hurt make you hurt others'

What you need do is make amends. Use the same guys and girls to call your sister's fiance ANONYMOUSLY and apologize for lying about your sister. I pray he changes his mind and make amends with your sister.

If you come out and tell them, it'll further tear your entire family apart.

Do that for now and when things are restored you may with wisdom later confess to your sister.

You have a good heart, it's only that your were seriously hurt over the years and wrongly advised. Be strong and do the right thing dear

Kindly send me a PM let's help you and your fiance stand financially

Meliian:


Her life isn't destroyed because her fiance dumped her. And her life can't be destroyed because she lost her job. People get dumped and fired everyday but life goes on.

Why quote me? Just drop your comment and pass madam. I made a statement I understood very well, dont come here to comment over a statement I made without proper understanding. Please be properly guided.

Meliian:


I already reprimanded her for raising her hand at her sister. She's a very disrespectful girl. However, there are other ways to punish a rude younger one. Getting them arrested is psychotic. Op must come from a very bad home. They both need help.

Or maybe her sister had had it up to her neck
Everyone has their level of tolerance
A woman who would bring out her hard earned money to pay for someone’s child doesn’t struck me as someone who would arrest her sister because they fought.
Op smell of lies

Ifyjos:
Yes I cannot take care of her because I’m not working , I make people hair at home And the money is not enough. By the way I love him and he didn’t do anything wrong to me for me to get rid of him.

He’s preventing your growth madam. Everything isn’t love. Okay, what are his future plans and what are the steps he’s taking towards achieving them? Won’t your kids graduate from Nursery or Primary school? Won’t bills keep increasing? Do money crawl or run or jump to meet people at home? What are his short time and long time goals?
Contrary to people’s opinion that you are young, you and I are the same age, but I know what I want which clearly you don’t know what you want.
Take a look at you, what do you want? What step is your guy taking towards helping you achieve your goals? Seriously I’m really sad I don’t have the opportunity to meet you and like have a discussion with you.
Love isn’t all there is to a relationship my dear, you need sense, you need emotional and mental intelligence, you need to know when to walk away. Yes I know there’s a baby and you don’t want to be a single mother. But my dear, it’s better to be a single mother in your situation so you can make something out of yourself. Who told you when you make something with your life, guys won’t rush to date you even with your kids? Take a look at Linda Ikeji, she’s a single mother but you and I know hundred of guys would rush her if she should hint at searching for a boyfriend now and I’m not talking about good for nothing guys, I’m talking about already made guys.

See my dear, men love independent woman. If your guy situation should by chance turn around and he makes it, forget the love he’s showing you now, he would leave you without a second thought, because you are not growing yourself, you are busy preparing for the role of a wife and not the role of a woman. A woman can be anything. Groom yourself, that’s all your sister want, that’s why she is against you and your guy. Groom yourself, groom yourself, stop all this my guy and I. This time is for you to focus on yourself and your daughter. If you want to focus on your guy, go and get married to him already, if you are not married to him yet, please give 90% attention to yourself and your daughter.
If he’s truly a responsible man like you said, leaving him does not mean he has to stop taking responsibilities over his daughter, she’s his daughter. So if he refuses to take responsibilities over his daughter because you decide to leave him, then I’m sorry, but he’s not worth it to start with. I really wish I can have a personal discussion with you.

Ifyjos:
She doesn't care about me because if she did want the best for me , she would would support me and my guy to be together and establish a business for us instead she wanted me to break up with him to become a single mom as if she would have marry me or even take care of my child the way her father does. That's something she cannot do because theres nobody that will take care of my child like her father. He has better plans but things are just difficult for him. He is a good man he can never ask me to kill any of my relatives because If that was the case then it would have kill my sister long time ago and I'm not stupid to do such things. Yes I know what we did was wrong but we only wanted revenge for her to feel the pain that she has been causing us but I just realised that it was the wrong path to take , which I'm regretting but that doesn't make us bad people please
quote author=Wetlink post=85595381]You have a very cold heart Op. I fear who no fear you.
Any reasonable person in your sisters shoes will be mad at your boyfriend or were you expecting her to pat him on the back for putting her 15year old little sister In a family way?

Your sister genuinely cares about you and that's why she'll still opt to pay your baby's school fees yet you and your, 'good' boyfriend paid her back this way[code]

If this story is anything to go by then I'm really worried about YOU.
this boyfriend of yours Is a terrible influence. I fear that one day, he may suggest you kill anyone who is against your relationship and you will gladly oblige because to you, he has your interest at heart.

My heart bleeds for you, my heart indeed bleeds.

sister tell the truth at least u gon have peace on own even if family ends up hating u then its penance for ya deeds cos one day this truth will be revealed

Meliian:


I already reprimanded her for raising her hand at her sister. She's a very disrespectful girl. However, there are other ways to punish a rude younger one. Getting them arrested is psychotic. Op must come from a very bad home. They both need help.

She was probably frugal with the truth. There’s no way a sister will arrest her younger one for slapping her. They probably attacked her and all hell broke loose. They fought after the slap and I’m very certain her boyfriend joined forces with her to beat her elder sister.

Ifyjos:

My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but...

my dear, every new day you wake up. Always thank GOD you are not my younger sister. Cos i swear down, by now i would have sent you and the low life pedofile 6 foot below, feeding termites where you belong

Yes getting pregnant at 15 was bad but I don’t regret having my child because she is the best daughter Ever and I don’t want her to do the same , I want the best for her

Hestywhyt:


Proudest mother, so you know getting pregnant at 15 is a mistake ehn and your sorry ass of a baby daddy is a mistake too..you shouldn't have taken the prayer personal if you are so OK with your life and your baby daddy's

DukeNija:


She was probably frugal with the truth. There’s no way a sister will arrest her younger one for slapping her. They probably attacked her and all hell broke lose. They fought after the slap and I’m very certain her boyfriend joined forces with her to beat her elder sister.

I've thought of that too..she probably skipped that part to play the victim card here

Yes he did because he love me and he can’t let my sister beating me while he is there

DukeNija:


She was probably frugal with the truth. There’s no way a sister will arrest her younger one for slapping her. They probably attacked her and all hell broke lose. They fought after the slap and I’m very certain her boyfriend joined forces with her to beat her elder sister.