Sanchez01:

You miss the point totally. The North is about 95% homogenous; belief system, tradition, food, origin and culture, etc. The same cannot be said of the ethnic groups and tribes in the South South. Ancestry, belief system, foods, culture, etc, are not in way related. It is why the Ibibios are known for notorious bride price costs and their Anang sisters don't follow that line of thought. It is why some sub-groups of the Urhobo people will ask a groom-to-be to pay N65 while some others N120. Edos? Totally different.

You see why I stated that the South South is the most diverse compared to other regions in the country?

The North which mainly consists of the Hausas/Fulanis have their bride prices tied to education. You might want to do your little research on this. The illiterates among them might request for little or nothing but the child of an influential individual would see the partner-to-be bring gold jewelries and boxes filled with clothes.

Regardless, that of Imo, specifically Mbaise is on a whole new level. I lived in the East and can attest that the Ibibios are the only ones that can match or come close to Mbaise's neck and throat approach when it comes to weddings.

this is highly untrue. Only Southerners parade this belief of the North, and it is quite sad and insulting.

I have lived in the North for 14 years+ and I can tell you that this statement is wrong. 95% of the North is not homogenous and certainly not where it concerns marriage. The way the Hausa/Fulani ethnic groups have marriage ceremonies is distinctly different from what obtains in Gbagyi land, or in Jabba, Marghi, Nupe, Okun, Idoma, Nupe, Tiv or Eggon land.

There may be slight similarities (something that equally exists among ethnic groups in the South), but they each have their own distinct traditions that are not tied to the Hausa/Fulani.

Abeg no talk this thing where non-Hausa/Fulani people dey.

If it is culture and traditions, many parts of the South-South have similar cultures, food, even their languages have similarities, same applies in the North, but 95% homogenous is doing a huge disservice to the millions of non-Hausa/Fulani Northerners.

I have friends from many parts of the North and none of them have mentioned anything about bringing gold and a box of clothes. The highest I have heard is a set of boxes. Gold is a requirement exclusive to the Fulani especially, I certainly don't know any Idoma or Tiv family that have asked for gold.

elektra:
I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

My dear, this is a perfect, i always think of this too every time, all this fighting, complains etc

Nobody noticed something, the OP is liar...

Pictures of the wedding then and you/madam nor or..... You know the rest....

Sarang:


Ana akogheri

Meaning what?

Richy4:
And u are showing us pictures with nice wedding gown and suits..U should have posted the 13k suit to encourage the readers more haba!!!

Last last I sha admire them. Expensive or cheap I don't believe in big wedding. I only want to see people I know in my wedding.

Your story is inspiring and lovely

But I am not going to advice myself nor my brothers or sisters to follow suite.

Did you say you married with a salary of 18k? Holeeshiii

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....
;gD

Wow! This is fantabulous!! God bless your new home.
I'm super impressed because the lady is from Rivers State.
When will this type of wedding happen in IMO State?�

Wow nice one ...... i don't like celebration and party

Wow, touching story, it was truly the hand of God.

He who find a WIFE has found a good thing and such shall obtain mercy, blessings and favour from God.

Na igbo gals n south south gals I de pity. Dose people na for sale

Joystark:
I've always disliked elaborate weddings.

God willing, I'd like to wed before less than 20 people. Close friends and family.
Less money, less stress, less noise.

It's not in your call alone, marriage involves parents.

You don't know your mother inlaw, she could be a complete extrovert with so many friends who will make sure her friends grace her son's wedding.

Your own mom too will bring her own drama and invite people you dunno, your cousins, your friends, neighbours etc

before you know what's happening , the wedding of 20people has turned to 200. It's not as easy as we make it seem. Even Banky W testified to this.

From personal experience of that of my sis, If not for the concept of using Strictly by IV Invitation, the wedding we planned for 500 guest would have hit 1000....

ONLY THE WISE CAN UNDERSTAND THIS OP

abumeinben:



Bros....na so wedding spose be. I nor know why person go dey spend millions for wedding. Money wey couple spose spend for 2 years, dem go splash am one day.

That's not how weddings are meant to be. Can ou serve your guests biscuits at your wedding? Must he marry at that time? Why not save more?

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

You could have spent a bit more especially for decent food and you would still be fine and still be able to rent a two bedroom 3months after, buy a car and build your house.

I have attended a parlour wedding before with just about 30 people. They did a court wedding then moved to their sitting room. They just made sure there was enough food to go round

Wettoid123:


Meaning what?

You trash talking

We4all:


Your story is quite inspiring, and I'm glad things worked out for you. But encouraging people to tow your path doesn't hold sway, cos it may backfire. I know a guy who did something similar, and 10 years down the line, he is poorer than he was.

The truth is, if you can afford a flamboyant wedding, by all means, do it! This is because, weddings are memorable, and are expected to take place once in a life time.

There are three chapters in one's life:birth, marriage and death. If people celebrate births and funerals, then weddings shouldn't be less celebrated.

Nevertheless, if you can't afford a loud wedding, then opt for something small with few guests. But make it simple and classy, and don't be like the OP, cos serving his guests biscuits was in bad taste.

Being poor is one thing, planning right is another. @OP, you shouldn't have entertained your guests with biscuits,(cos I assume they were all adults). Instead, 2 mudus of rice served in take away packs could have done the magic. And if there was less money for malt, then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.

The problem most Nigerians have when it comes to weddings is that, while they can afford to cater for only 50 guests, they end up inviting 500, just so they can have more contributions from them.

If your budget can only entertain 50 people, then plan for that number and don't end up inviting more numbers so you don't serve them biscuits just like the OP.

SecretSpy666 and most people conveniently avoided this post . So much truth in it but instead they are stuck on how to wed with 20naira.

Whatever you guys do, don't serve biscuits to your guests. If you cannot afford decent food, maybe it's a sign that you shouldn't wed yet.

Good For u

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elektra:
I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

I like that... please can I have your contact cos I'm looking for a wife like you.

[quote author=SecretSpy666 post=85672129]I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.


In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

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Wow! Am happy for you too!
I wish to meet a man of my dreams someday, I will not mind if he’s rich or poor to start a home with him, no matter how small our home is going to be at the beginning.
For me, the most important thing is that he most be a born again and has the fear of God.
I’m an educated hardworking girl and I wish for a guy that’s doing same too.

after wedding, you are gonna start popping out offspring that you would train with 2 naira,,
bros hustle oo

Sarang:



You trash talking

Is the fact am saying maybe you are into lagos marriage too cheap brat like you your husband will use you to play football that is if you are even married.

lanocfoods:
I hope you've replaced the 1,500 ring?

We are still using it. I will post our marriage pictures later

wow, I am encouraged....


Northern sides got humble background....

a youth corp member once posted on this forum of how one of his students in junior school got married and was invited. from that, and with this , I can draw an inference that marriage in that part of the country is not viewed the way it is in southwestern region where elaborate wedding is entertained.

Your testimony is inspiring and please don't forget to appreciate your inlaws, that's how true parents suppose to behave. Is not about money but when you see future in the life of your daughter n her suitor, don't hesitate to bless their unity.