Youngjohnosas:
You are a pathetic and pained fool. Edo women are one of most hardworking women in Nigeria.in my church alone I can count up to 10 women that have built houses with their petty trading and made it look that their husbands built the houses.

I don't see anyone that wouldn't elope with ur baby with this nasty attitude u are putting up. if I may ask, where are you from? be proud to say it so we can start from there.

Richy4:
And u are showing us pictures with nice wedding gown and suits..U should have posted the 13k suit to encourage the readers more haba!!!

elektra:
I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

womenareapes:
"wedding is the last and first experience in your lifetime"

Yeye

What of divorce?


Get away from us you women of shallow minded and fish brain likeness

All you women ever think of is marriage


marriage marriage

No single business proposal is on ya mind!

Just how to carry your frustration and dump on one man

Marriage is a big scam

MoonandStar:


I think is her desperation to get married and the love he has for the guy that make her to accept the low budget wedding because deep down she wanted it and she's clamouring for it now which is obviously her real self still wanting to showcase her flamboyant lifestyle.

OkunrinMeta:


There are 180million people in Nigeria. So if she is 1 in a million, there are 180 people just like her. Most of them young and about half of them would be female.

shege45:
forget, dem dey do wedding multiple times

Legaldruglord:


Edo women are only hardworking in house chores oh . Lets be guided .

Funkybabee:



Marriage is a scam in your family. Ode

jidamsel43:
Yoruba ladies over to you. Can you accept this kind of wedding?

If your wife to be is understandable , it is possible to achieve this but ladies nowadays do not want to settle for SURULERE ( struggling) again, they prefer OLORUNSOGO (high class).


To convince a lady to accept this in Lagos , you have to be on 75 days marathon fasting .

safarigirl:


The North has the most ethnic groups in Nigeria, there are over 60 distinct ethnic groups in Northern Nigeria, so no, that title does not belong to South South.

You did not say "MOST of the South South" you said "MOSTLY the South South" I hope you know these terms are NOT the same.

Less than 10 of the ethnic groups in the North ask for kidneys and livers, but you overlooked them to mention South South, where even the five or so that ask for kidneys and possibly, possibly have the most alarming figures for bride price in Nigeria. I, for one, know that a Kalabari bride is more expensive to marry, than anyone from the much maligned Imo State, and let me not speak on Ikwerre.

The North is where you find brides with chicken change, aside Hausa/Fulani, no other ethnic group in the North has high requirements for a bride.

We4all:


Your story is quite inspiring, and I'm glad things worked out for you. But encouraging people to tow your path doesn't hold sway, cos it may backfire. I know a guy who did something similar, and 10 years down the line, he is poorer than he was.

The truth is, if you can afford a flamboyant wedding, by all means, do it! This is because, weddings are memorable, and are expected to take place once in a life time.

There are three chapters in one's life:birth, marriage and death. If people celebrate births and funerals, then weddings shouldn't be less celebrated.

Nevertheless, if you can't afford a loud wedding, then opt for something small with few guests. But make it simple and classy, and don't be like the OP, cos serving his guests biscuits was in bad taste.

Being poor is one thing, planning right is another. @OP, you shouldn't have entertained your guests with biscuits,(cos I assume they were all adults). Instead, 2 mudus of rice served in take away packs could have done the magic. And if there was less money for malt, then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.

The problem most Nigerians have when it comes to weddings is that, while they can afford to cater for only 50 guests, they end up inviting 500, just so they can have more contributions from them.

If your budget can only entertain 50 people, then plan for that number and don't end up inviting more numbers so you don't serve them biscuits just like the OP.

lawman88:


I wish I get the mind to do like the OP....

My people na celebration and flamboyant wedding all of them want but no one will assist financially

passey:
My closest dude spent #200k...
Gave the wife #150k to buy clothes for herself.
Paid dowry of #30k
Paid #20k for some traditional rites.

Gave the woman the Ddick and they are married with two beautiful kids...

Now, they worth more than #100m!

elektra:
I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

Richy4:


haba!! Lord have mercy...

SecretSpy666:


We did not even use suit. Just plain white material we sewed...

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

SecretSpy666:


She has to agree........the future is bigger......don't use your future to settle debts

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Youngjohnosas:


one even after building the house bought a bus for her husband for commercial purpose.

elektra:
I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

Wettoid123:


I believe you are a lady and you are talking like these have you not been attending other people marriage celebration how was it, or you are the very cheap one that will not even organise reception in his marriage celebration?
Please value yourself so that the man you get married to will value you,,I know men very well that same man will tell you tomorrow was it upto #50k I spend in marrying you? Women should be wise.