ambassadorgozie:


wia did u see breast in the post?

guy pls don't worsen my mood

Which stupid mood is that?

You claimed to be an introvert and you were rejected twice yet you still went on to touch the girl. A normal human being without any hidden agenda would have moved on after two advances but because something else is controlling you, you just had to try again. You should be thanking your stars it didn't involve police.

ambassadorgozie:


have learnt my lesson already,
tanx

have your boss been giving signs that she is interested in you in the past? If yes then you were setup.

ambassadorgozie:


have already accepted my fate, trying to move on

Ok Im sorry all thesame, it’s not like what u did was a crime bt it’s suggested Smtn not comfortable with ur boss and maybe she hasn’t seen ur behavior working with any female staff b4 to be able to know or judge ur good character in that regard so she assumed or believes the househelp more.

If there’s anybody who can vouche for ur credibility that wud help u out here. Cheers

*Why will a gal u don have any form of confrontation with before suddenly start screaming that u want to rape her?. Although some ladies are devils.
*Another question is why go close to her in a bid to convince her to eat or rest, with ur hands on her shoulders. I mean u guys don't know before and aren't friends.
* If ur intents are not to have sex with her why beg ur boss for forgiveness. Like You did something wrong.
I believe ur intention might not be to rape her but maybe lure her to have sex with her. Maybe u feel as at her level (a maid) she will fall easily.
Which ever the case is just learn from it and move on with ur life.

Too many dumb people live on this forum. You think his boss was stupid? No, she wasn't and being a lawyer too, you could see her legal wisdom in play. She gave him 2 options:
A) I invite the police (in other words, call for a police investigation)
B) I fire you
This guy chose B straight up. Because he knows he's not innocent, he knows a police investigation would find him guilty, so he jumps ship before things get too messy for him.

virgoquin:
According to his narration he said it was her shoulder he touched.

That can be classified as sexual harrasment and not rape, he harrassed her sexually

The bress was his next destination na. If the maid had just laughed or smiled, he would go straight to her bress. I better stop here, cos I'm already feeling somehow mentioning 'bress'.

How are you doing baiby? I need ur advice on an issue. How do we discuss?

DGoldenJenny:
what a pathetic story. My heart got broken as i read through.
The deed has been done man, wipe your tears and dust your shirts, That cannot be the end of your relationship with your Madam, i bet you: she will come along, just give her time( Time and distance heals).

The girl maybe reacting from her past experience(s). who knows her story too because from the look of thing you know her not hence my assumption.
Try and revisit this issue later long and clear the air, for i believe more secret shall be review and bigger truth awaits you .
However if you can, LET IT GO.

You made so much sense bro...

In as much as I feel for the op, who knows the girl's story too like u rightly said, this days no one can be trusted ohh, he obliged her to rest, she declined, he told her again to rest after an hour again, she declined yet again, then his conscience told him to stand up and touch her shoulder to convince her to eat or rest, wetin be him concern for the girl matter sef

Like someone else said

"na from clap dance dey take start"

My advice: ask for forgiveness from your boss and the girl, because the girl in question got scared I guess, move on... When you keep on going back to plead it might be perceived as him having other new motives

Either they tested you or had intention to relieve you of the work

MezieFresh:


Let's take this scenario out...

Let me even ask...
What is wrong in holding someone's shoulders... ?
If it was termed over stepping boundaries... That would sound better..

But sexual assault or rape?
For heaven's sake am lost...

But ladies do this... to guys and no one screams rape.

Beside the shoulder is not a private part...
One can tap you on the shoulder to get you attention.

This things are peculiar to different situations.

Ladies should stop all these false allegations.

pray if u are also an extrovert not to be transfered to the North bcoz dem go dey give u general beating every day. No jokes. Is this how u will be tapping Hajiyas shoulders due to familiarity?

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

when you told her to rest and she declined, you should have just left her. sometimes caring too much can put u in trouble. she knew what her madam brought her to do. your madam never trusted you and u gave her the perfect chance to sack u. she could be a deep feminist i suspect. it's a pity u fell victim to false accusation. next time, watch before u leap. when u speak to someone and the person is not interested, just stop to avoid embarrassment

You may not have rape in mind but why get unnecessarily close to her, to convince her to rest or eat? Eating or resting na by force, or are you an Enoch who weeps louder than the bereaved? If it is a set up, you fall mugu. If it was due to any form of naivety from her, you caused it. And who knows her past, how her last rape experience started and ended, perhaps another man used soft and persuasive ways to take her by force, and you are a man, so she was right in guarding against being fooled the second time. So, you are guilty.

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

Just like that....

That is why I don't give a damn about all these cleaners in my workplace. Somebody can not spoil the life am just starting....

ambassadorgozie:


d boss is a lawyer nd influential, i don't want to go dat way

You asked someone to rest and eat and the person said no. Why would you continue to bother her? Can't you face your business? A maid ought to be the one to bother you. Forget about the job and the rape. Learn. Don't bother or show care to a woman when she doesn't come to you.

Bro it is sad that you lost your job. But my guy, if truth is to be told, you ask for it tho.

Even if you take up this matter, based on your explanation, it is only logical that you actions has proven other wise eventhough your intentions might be honest.

You said you ask her to come and eat, she declined, after an hour, you ask her to at least take a break since she has been working all along, she declined again.

Thereafter you stood up, walk to her and rest your hand on her shoulder. My brother, in civilised country I no think say you go get the time dey this forum dey explain all these.

In as much as it hurts bro, you called for it. I will advise that you allow sleeping dog lie. Truth is no one accuse you of rape but your actions was what prompted the decision your boss took.

Another job will come your way and this event will definitely shaped you to be a more gentleman in the future.

LESSON: DO NOT PUT YOUR HANDS ON A WOMAN YOU ARE NOT FAMILIAR WITH TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH. USE YOUR MOUTH AND NOT YOUR HANDS.

Peace.

Some of you here accusing The OP no nothing of psychology..
How do u console or try to make someone reason with u..
Putting hands on one's shoulder is a way of telling someone u r helping or trying to convince dem to do something or listen to u..
Maybe the maid has been a victim of any sort of sexual abuse hence the reason she shouted immediately.. Well ur boss sef Bleep up sha..
And u say she be lawyer..
Awon lawyer oriburuku..
So she cant even get the truth outta her maid or ask simple questions like
Did he grab ur waist, did he grab ur boobs, did he push to the wall or to the floor, did he grab ur clothes?
Anyways my guy... Move on... I pray u find something better... Per adventure the truth comes out... Do not work for her again cos she has shown in time of situations like this.. She Wil never have ur back or reason with u

ambassadorgozie:


guy dis is d truth, i know wia to go if i want sex

.
Ashawo house dey dia to go nah....

We're u employed to feed her? if she didn't eat for the whole day how does that affect the food on your table? Well, it s a lesson you learnt in a hard way so that you will mind your business in your next endeavour.

SmileDance:
the maid is not evil jare.
You left your seat to go and touch a young girl that has already said no. The girl shout you come say she's evil. You expect her to smile and say stop... don't touch me na abi.

lol I thought as much as well ..but let's give him small benefit of doubt

ambassadorgozie:


according to her, nd which is true, i shouldnt hav gone close to her. dats why i apologized, i didnt text or apologize again

its fine bro.
Just chin up and move on. This isnt thr end of the road.
Its just an experience.
Its well

emperorzz:
I'm sorry but do you watch porn? Why? Because the settings appeared like a typical porn narrative, a grown house help is left alone with a young office assistant and then she didn't have to seduce him her vulnerability already did. Him on the other hand, feels she may be happy to have a working class secret lover like him, it's all too convenient. Only that this wasn't a porn shoot. He makes his move. Ekaette's has probably seen hardcore porn once or twice. She senses where all these will lead to. She remembers Okon in the village and the promises they made to each other. She thinks of her nice but high handed lawyer Madam. She's in her sacred office Chambers with a small devil. She's sees a red flag. She reacts.....

Sorry bro, you should never had gone close to her...except you are a cassanova, those ones never care about the humiliation they get sometimes from chasing after everything on skirt. They know they will always score 4 out of 10. The remaining 6 can bring anything, who cares.

guy you be porn addict oo

Freehuman:


Fine girl. Beware! That dude wouldn't hesitate to rape you if he has a chance.

you are a big disgrace

My brother, leave this thing and move forward with your life...

As an old man I tell you, the issue here is laying hands on a woman you are not friends or close to in the first place.

Your intent does not matter JUST DONT LAY HANDS ON A WOMAN YOURE NOT FAMILY OR FRIENDS WITH!

PERIOD!

Were u employed to feed her? if she didn't eat for the whole day how does that affect the food on your table? Well, it s a lesson you learnt in a hard way so that you will mind your business in your next endeavour.

Alphafeezay:



You are overstepping your boundary here calling someone dear, you like to dey overstep your boundary and also the lady might be a victim of rape so the trauma still hunting her.


Learn to mind your business and keep space from strangers.

Funny enough, ladies use the word "dear" mostly for men. Why don't men see this as overstepping boundary?.

OP you went too far if you ask me....Back in secondary school...I was moody one certain day and this friend kept asking me what was wrong, i kept telling him it was nothing....he kept pressing. He must have asked atleast 4 more times when i flipped and screamed at him to leave me alone...He got agressive and push me in the chest and we began fighting....My point is after telling the maid to eat and to rest....You should've just let it be. There's no way it couldve gone wrong at that point....but going as far as puting hands on her was a line you shouldn't have crossed for your own justification. You have learnt the hard way....chin up and press through..

StrongandMighty:
Let's hear her own side of the story first..
Una too dey lie for this forum

You harsh

Kotika:

Let me get your facts here:
You called her, she declined. You asked her to eat again, she refused. You then got up to touch her. Haba bros. You clearly went out of line. There was intention for indecent assault. What's worse is that it happened in the office. We can talk about the witch of a house help later but you were given another opportunity to know how to witches do exist in human form. Lest I forget, next time when accused of an offence, NEVER BEG! It's an admission of guilt. Rather get angry and resign, call their bluff and move on

u are right in a way,
tanx

Freehuman:


Fine girl. Beware! That dude wouldn't hesitate to rape you if he has a chance.

You dont have to announce that you are a fool, we already know you are a big fool.

StrongandMighty:


The only place you can see this kind of thing is in nollywood movies...
Is either you touched her inappropriately that made her raise an alarm, you've been wooing her and she refused or this whole story never happened.

it's utterly impossible for a girl u met for the first time to start shouting of rape when u got close to pat and comfort her to eat.
it's either the guy has been asking the said house maid out or there is something he isn't telling us.
no be kids dey this forum

StrongandMighty:
Let's hear her own side of the story first..
Una too dey lie for this forum

I swear, why would you force someone’s housemaid to come and eat your food. Fool and liar. Just tell us you liked.

Ebenezar2020:
it's utterly impossible for a girl u met for the first time to start shouting of rape when u got close to pat and comfort her to eat.
it's either the guy has been asking the said house maid out or there is something he isn't telling us.
no be kids dey this forum

He still had the guts to tell us about it