PapaAdanna:


Na wetin fit u

So after telling her severally and she declined and you thought after u must have put ur hands across her shoulder, she would oblige?

Onye ara

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

AntiWailer:


Imagine things going that way and u send the kind of chat this guy sent in defence ?

We are not arguing that shiits don't happen, of course they do

Openbusiness:
Too many dumb people live on this forum. You think his boss was stupid? No, she wasn't and being a lawyer too, you could see her legal wisdom in play. She gave him 2 options:
A) I invite the police (in other words, call for a police investigation)
B) I fire you
This guy chose B straight up. Because he knows he's not innocent, he knows a police investigation would find him guilty, so he jumps ship before things get too messy for him.

dnawah:
u 4k up o! I remember one day my hand mistakenly touch a girl breast and I told her sorry but she was shouting.i gave her a dirty slap and case closed.

czarr:
Wetin carry your hand go her shoulder ...i no trust you guy

sammyscholar:
Your message is not strong enough to acquit you. And, you didn't disappoint the woman in the first place, unless you had the intention of raping the maid truly.


See this:


"Ma, all my life, I have always worked to protect my integrity. This is important to me, for it is from it that I derive joy and pride. I did not and do not have evil, devilish intention (not even as grave as sexual assault) towards your maid; for that was never my way of life and I never pray it does!

The mistake I made, Ma, was that I tried to take a "good gesture' too far! I went too far out of my way to show hands of care! But I was only moved to care and assist a person I was meeting for the first time.

Although I don't know the lady's experience: she might have had a 'rape' or a 'near-rape' experience in the hand of somebody who first showed normal care as I did before, and that might have prompted her to act the way she did. I think that might have resulted in her feeling of insecurity and paranoia as I see it to be.

I know that in life, things happen. I have taken her reaction to my innocent gesture in good fate, and I have learnt to adjust in my relating and interacting with people. But, ma, I wanted to clarify: it is not in my thought, let alone my intention, to assault her, either sexually or in any other form. Despite all that occurred, I leave her with my best wishes. I wish her best in life.

I still remain my faithful self,
Your Name."


This is powerful than what you sent her. But, listen, if you truly had the intention fulfilling your bodily lust on the maid, just own up and let the matter sleep.

MiddleDimension:


my dear, that's how it happens! so when you hear stories of men getting sacked from their place of work, you should know better now than cricifying them!

and i think we me should begin to not be quiet on this otherwise it will keep happening!

when you said you were depressed not because you were sacked, but because you were accused of that which did not even come to your mind, i had to nod my head in agreement because it happened to me too!

the point is that if women are that body conscious, then it is their job to stay away from the society!

alot of people call me introvert too and i completely understand what you have said here.
i also guess that you are a gentle man like myself and that's why you tried to get her to eat something as part of ''treating het like a lady''. my dear, you are not alone.

Barryp:

Did this happen in Abuja?
Is your boss from the south east?
Is she also a Pastor?
Answer these questions asap

awwfar:
if you're being truthful ehn ,it's not really easy to proove your innocence in that kind of mess ..so I don't blame your boss for not believing you ...just leave everything to God ,move on already, karma would surely deal with that evil maid.

signeddocuments:
Just imagine this scenario, a girl who was purposefully dressed for a mission to seduce a man and she is naturally blessed with two big breasts and big yansh cleaning and mopping for a long period of time and you are there watching her and salivating to touch those big oranges. she is not your sister nor your mother or even your daughter, and you think you will not fall into the well arranged temptation.You are a man and not a wood. Tell us the truth and the truth shall set you free. It is a lesson, even the Bible say we should flee from every appearance of evil..... . You fell woefully into the temptation. It could happen to any man except you flee the scene. How do you know that she is maid?

MiddleDimension:


the boss is a woman, and in cases like this female judges will bever understand it, and they always believe men are bad people.

it was also two women that sacked me too because they are in position of power

ambassadorgozie:


tanx my guy,
some hav started calling me rapist here
gosh

mrpaedo:

Like I said,ignore them.They are just projecting their mindset onto you.Many of them would have squeezed the maid's boobs if they were in a similar situation as you were.They are the sick ones NOT you.
All you were trying to do was put the maid at ease in terms of a superior/subordinate relationship.I have seen lots of nigerian males do the exact thing but the maid and her madam over reacted.The problem is from them NOT you.
So rest your mind

ambassadorgozie:


tanx for understanding,
i will stop being nice especially to women,
dis has really taught me a great lesson

ambassadorgozie:


d boss is a lawyer nd influential, i don't want to go dat way

ambassadorgozie:

it might be true at d bolded, cos she screamed immediately my hand touch her shoulder

Lamanii22:
That lady was sent from the pit of hell... Damn... No evidence, no nothing... Sometimes it's good to be mean sef... Too much kindness isn't good... I'm really sorry you were accused wrongly and sacked all at once.. The lord would provide a better job for you Hun..

HarunaWest:
This OP is a blaady liar..He wanted to handle breast. Awon Press Club

Meanwhile, who else noticed the abbreviations and bad Grammar that OP text to his boss. You work for a lawyer and you send this kinda sh*** to her..I think this is the reason you were fired.

Mypeople2:
That is very bad .OP you will need a lawyer if you want to succeed in this case.When the lawyer threatens the maid, she will confess

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

AwkaetitiBabe:
What's d injustice here? Him getting fired or d maid who got harassed?

AMI3:


i believe the guy may b innocent.

the guy must have sympathised with these reason:
she is a maid,
she did eat when she suppose to eat ,
relax when she suppose to relax
looking at her and her age being a maid is worrisome .

and the guy being a compassionate guy was just trying to extend the hand of kindness to her but she took it wrongly.

I hate working for people. even when rhe guy was begging hee