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CAPSLOCKED:
YOU CANNOT DUMP SOMEONE WHO HAS ALREADY DUMPED YOU.
THE MOST THIS HALF-MAN CAN DO NOW IS TO BRACE UP AND MARCH ON..... OR SUICIDE. I'M SURE HE HAS THE LATTER ON HIS MIND ALREADY.
MAY HE REST IN PEACE (IN ADVANCE).

CAPSLOCKED:
YOU CANNOT DUMP SOMEONE WHO HAS ALREADY DUMPED YOU.
THE MOST THIS HALF-MAN CAN DO NOW IS TO BRACE UP AND MARCH ON..... OR SUICIDE. I'M SURE HE HAS THE LATTER ON HIS MIND ALREADY.
MAY HE REST IN PEACE (IN ADVANCE) .

Martinez39s:
Women don't love men. They have no love to give. They see men as utilities. They are only with you for what they can benefit from you. Sorry, she never loved you.

One thing I, Ubunja, and other red pill men have always told people is that never give a cheating ex a second chance. Women cheat and always keep cheating no matter how many times you forgive them. It hurts for many men but it's the truth, deal with it.

ubunja:
these modern day men crave the comfort zone. He'll move back with her and endure the crazy. All just because he can't stand being lonely for a short time while looking for someone to start afresh with.

God have mercy. It will be a pity if all the years he's wasted on that Lowlife female convinces him to stay with her. The Sunk Cost Fallacy at its best. Poor guy.

Lordapson23:
Do u pay attention to the priest's words when u attend a wedding? He'd always be like: Man, love ur wife.. Woman, respect ur husband...

Be rest assured that those words are based on the simple fact that it's easier for a woman to fall in love, hence her being told to respect her husband..

Now, as far i'm concerned, being in love with a man doesn't necessarily mean a woman cant cheat cos they get easily carried away, especially ones who loves attention..

We bachelors should only hope and pray we get to end up with THE ONE FOR US..

Cheers!

Yuneehk:
When did being alone become a problem? It never killed anyone. Besides, it'll only be for a short time. Well, it's his choice to make should he decide endure.

Martinez39s:
Must you counter ubunja? He never said being alone is a problem itself. Read his post again. If you still don't understand, that's your issue.

Martinelli35:
Am at a breaking point in my life.i need to find a way to move on,but it seems an unseen force keeps holding me back.
It all started almost 8 years ago while I was in my second year in school I met this lady who came seeking admission into my school.she stayed at my place off campus for a while at the behest of a close friend.we got close to the extent that when she got admission and I was in my third year we started dating.Initially there were issues,not between us but from external parties like my friends and family especially my mum to end the relationship.They all thought she was well below standards in many ramifications,but I didn't see what they were seeing.all I saw was a girl who cared for me and I adamantly remained faithful.i graduated a year before and even when we were serving we remained very close and we were still dating.we have had mini breakups and makeups and fights,but we have always pulled through.i loved her so much.And then in 2017 I found out that she cheated on me with someone she met on facebook.i was devastated,never felt pain like that in my life before,I was very tempted to move on but I couldn't,she begged and moved heaven and earth,promising it won't happen again,so I forgave her, choosing to see it as an unwitting mistake,as it wasn't in her character to do such.we got back on good terms,but then it happened a year later,this time under the influence of a close female friend I had warned her seriously about.i was ready to end it,but that unseen force held me back.i felt defeated.she begged and I forgave and we moved on.Fast forward to 2019/2020,i had plans to travel outside the country to further my studies,but my visa application got rejected twice in 2019.so I recently made another application to another country,of which I expect the whole process to take around six months.i had hoped to go over there and settle down and arrange for her to come meet me there.For the mean time I had lost my job and was on the lookout for a new one so I moved to her state where there was more opportunities to sought out one temporarily.initially I was staying in a hotel,but due to paucity of funds,I took her up on her offer to stay at her place till everything settled.i stayed there for two months and it was nothing short of hell,initially she was supportive,no job was forthcoming,and I was getting really low on funds,any funds coming my way was put into my travel plans.she just changed,someone I thought I knew for over seven years started degrading me in any way possible,I even later found out that she was seeing some guys.she denied it .someone who loved seeing slot started giving me the cold shoulder,I couldn't even touch her anymore.it was as if she now hated me because she thinks am broke.This was someone I had stood by,forgiven and supported for over 7 years.a girl I was ready to spend the rest of my life with,raise a family with.she now treats me like scum,like a nobody.Anytime I prepare to leave with my things,she changes back and begs and gives all sort of excuse and promises to change,but alas! just give her two days,it's back to square one.i do not want to continue with her again,but here is where the force holds me back.Am attached to her,I have known no other woman.i don't even know how to start over.i have tried,it doesn't work out.i don't know want to do.i have and want to leave,but don't know how to.what do I do? Nairalanders I need your help sincerely,no insults please.forgive my typographical errors and lack of appropriate punctuation,I typed in a hurry.

ubunja:
just shut up. You once told a guy here the same thing Martinez39 is telling OP:

Octopusssy:
You sef shut down.

I was referring to a particular woman in that post while Martinez was making a sweeping and satanic generalisation. There's a HUGE difference.

ubunja:
I told you to shut up.

ubunja:
leave her. I'm even agreeing with her but I guess she can't see that.

Martinez39s:
Must you counter ubunja? He never said being alone is a problem itself. Read his post again. If you still don't understand, that's your issue.

Davash222:
Firstly, you don’t love that Hoe. A guy that truly love a girl can never forgive her after cheating on him.

Secondly, don’t just break up with her now. You will lose. Be nice to her until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy her!

Freddykrueger:
Dude so in 8yrs you been straffing only one pvssy Holy Moses

Freddykrueger:
Dude so in 8yrs you been straffing only one pvssy Holy Moses

proclinician:
She's treating u whichever way because u let her. It's inconsequential

Omar09:
I don't know how you will just open a thread and won't read to understand what the thread is saying. It's quite appalling the level of your understanding and how low your reasoning quotient is. Did he ever say it was her vagina that is the problem?
You know I'm not against her trying out other guys, but what I am against is her holding this one down to try out other guys at this dude expense. Why won't she hold him down when husbands are scarce. I mean the real man. Not some nut job y'all give your pussy for free.

To Martinelli35 you have to man up or you will be used as trash. Never ever give a cheat a second time, cause she will still do it again. Man up and leave the house and her to. Tell her to her face that this is over and mean it. Cause each time you want to leave and she fakes a tear and you stay back, she laughs behind your back and gossip with your name to her friends of how weak you are. They joke about it. That is why sometimes when her friends come around and sees you, thru let out a giggle and a smirk. Cause they know the fo.ol you are ( had to use fo.ol to make you get what I mean and I'm not deliberately calling you one). Man up and leave the house, go look for a place and stay. Process your travel and leave. BTW whichever country you are looking to travel, check here on nairaland to avoid agents scamming you.

proclinician:
Did he say he was sleeping with other guys or not? Give me a reason why he should be angry she's sleeping with other guys.

Omar09:
If you can't figure that reason out by yourself I am afraid you are not as smart as you think. And you don't expect me to tell you that.

proclinician:
Pls eeh just go back to sleep. I wonder how smart u can ever be.

Martinelli35:
Am at a breaking point in my life.i need to find a way to move on,but it seems an unseen force keeps holding me back.
It all started almost 8 years ago while I was in my second year in school I met this lady who came seeking admission into my school.she stayed at my place off campus for a while at the behest of a close friend.we got close to the extent that when she got admission and I was in my third year we started dating.Initially there were issues,not between us but from external parties like my friends and family especially my mum to end the relationship.They all thought she was well below standards in many ramifications,but I didn't see what they were seeing.all I saw was a girl who cared for me and I adamantly remained faithful.i graduated a year before and even when we were serving we remained very close and we were still dating.we have had mini breakups and makeups and fights,but we have always pulled through.i loved her so much.And then in 2017 I found out that she cheated on me with someone she met on facebook.i was devastated,never felt pain like that in my life before,I was very tempted to move on but I couldn't,she begged and moved heaven and earth,promising it won't happen again,so I forgave her, choosing to see it as an unwitting mistake,as it wasn't in her character to do such.we got back on good terms,but then it happened a year later,this time under the influence of a close female friend I had warned her seriously about.i was ready to end it,but that unseen force held me back.i felt defeated.she begged and I forgave and we moved on.Fast forward to 2019/2020,i had plans to travel outside the country to further my studies,but my visa application got rejected twice in 2019.so I recently made another application to another country,of which I expect the whole process to take around six months.i had hoped to go over there and settle down and arrange for her to come meet me there.For the mean time I had lost my job and was on the lookout for a new one so I moved to her state where there was more opportunities to sought out one temporarily.initially I was staying in a hotel,but due to paucity of funds,I took her up on her offer to stay at her place till everything settled.i stayed there for two months and it was nothing short of hell,initially she was supportive,no job was forthcoming,and I was getting really low on funds,any funds coming my way was put into my travel plans.she just changed,someone I thought I knew for over seven years started degrading me in any way possible,I even later found out that she was seeing some guys.she denied it .someone who loved seeing slot started giving me the cold shoulder,I couldn't even touch her anymore.it was as if she now hated me because she thinks am broke.This was someone I had stood by,forgiven and supported for over 7 years.a girl I was ready to spend the rest of my life with,raise a family with.she now treats me like scum,like a nobody.Anytime I prepare to leave with my things,she changes back and begs and gives all sort of excuse and promises to change,but alas! just give her two days,it's back to square one.i do not want to continue with her again,but here is where the force holds me back.Am attached to her,I have known no other woman.i don't even know how to start over.i have tried,it doesn't work out.i don't know want to do.i have and want to leave,but don't know how to.what do I do? Nairalanders I need your help sincerely,no insults please.forgive my typographical errors and lack of appropriate punctuation,I typed in a hurry.

Olanrefront3355:
Well.


Everything you've posted happens and you're not alone, but a man dies but once.

You've done enough "forgiving" for someone you've not engaged/married, let it end now.

The way you will play this is; Do things that makes her happy on a "particular day" this day is particular to you because it's the day she'd loose you. Be sure she'd be leaving her house that "day" make her happy, plead for no reason, once she's gone, carry your loads and return home or find somewhere else to stay..


If you can, block her....

You've just been saved from going into a toxic marriage with a cheat and a materialistic lady.