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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by davodyguy: 9:29pm On Jan 29, 2020
Freddykrueger:
OP where do you belong undecided
Middleman
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by sosa993: 9:29pm On Jan 29, 2020
VeeVeeMyLuv:
My brada if u try to manifest this Alpha male characteristics in the presence of naija police, sorry will be your name.

Just be flexible,

Switch between alpha to zigma (if at all anything like it exists) personality as occasion demands. Be a good actor.



grin cheesy you don kill me with laugh.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Papanwamaikpe: 9:29pm On Jan 29, 2020
Preshy561:
Well written, but all those qualities without money? Huh
Common get away!

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Amumaigwe: 9:30pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship

Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

Always a hit maker. Tonye, I hail ooo.
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by bukatyne(f): 9:31pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship

Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

grin
AfroKnight:


You just had to quote the lengthy post.

Emabinu grin cheesy wink
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by xbox360: 9:32pm On Jan 29, 2020
Yes ohh, u gat to be an alpha male
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 9:33pm On Jan 29, 2020
With all these your write up and grammar, nah money be the real meaning of an alpha man..
.for example, MC oluomo of oshodi is an alpha man, irrespective of his job, he can date the hottest babe in town and even Bleep her tire... as long as money dey. No money , no alpha man.
Our generation ladies can sleep with anything for money.....

Tueh!

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by steve6: 9:35pm On Jan 29, 2020
Ok
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by AfroKnight: 9:35pm On Jan 29, 2020
bukatyne:


grin


Emabinu grin cheesy wink

You want a piece of me? You want to try me?

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 9:37pm On Jan 29, 2020
If you know what an anima or Animus is, you would know itsi best to intertwine the two and use them when necessary rather than follow quo for alpha male or beta male
Wise up

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Helicobacter: 9:38pm On Jan 29, 2020
persinpapa:



Last last..if u get money, ur alpha Male traits go sharp
If you like be an "omega" male, as long as u get money..... grin grin
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by DharnielDee(m): 9:39pm On Jan 29, 2020
i think SAMSON was a alpha male but latter perish
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by bukatyne(f): 9:39pm On Jan 29, 2020
AfroKnight:


You want a piece of me? You want to try me?

Are you meat or material? undecided

If not for the consideration of others on this thread, I will quote the OP again tongue grin cool
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Thazard(m): 9:39pm On Jan 29, 2020
Proudly a Beta male...But Tonyebarcanista the way you paint us isn't really how we are...Your write up is one sided...

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Jman06(m): 9:40pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:

That's the point! Being passive is weakness and a turnoff for a man
A turnoff to you but not a turnoff to me and to some other people!


Are you aware that some men in an attempt to live up to expectation of people like you end up making a mess of themselves and their relationships

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 9:41pm On Jan 29, 2020
Honestly it baffles me, too much YouTube videos have finished their well being, all of them wanting to become alpha males don't wanna accept the fate that they ain't ready to be committed in a relationship, cause if you really want to then I think it comes with compromise, but to the men out there giving up your dreams cause of a partner isn't all worth it, instead you'll tell them, it's up to them to decide if they'd love to be with someone like that or not, if they don't give them sometime, and if they still don't then move on, it's not because you're waiting for them to validate you or something, is just to create more room for growth.
Preshy561:

Some of you who call your fellow guys pussy think it means weakness?
Something that strong enough to pull out a human being, undergo so many pressure and still bounces, a place you came out from, is what you think means weakness? It really shows you are a representative of such weakness.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by AfroKnight: 9:44pm On Jan 29, 2020
bukatyne:


Are you meat or material? undecided

If not for the consideration of others on this thread, I will quote the OP again tongue grin cool

Toripe o je eyin ni o. I ready to fight before.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Papanwamaikpe: 9:44pm On Jan 29, 2020
Jgoldie:
Trash
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And more Trash
busybody
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by MissJoy29(f): 9:46pm On Jan 29, 2020
healthserve:



Na so na wink


I nondeybuse this type food play
I trust you!
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by stevenakp(m): 9:46pm On Jan 29, 2020
Find a partner that compliments you and you'll be okay. I don't believe there is a man that is fully Alpha or fully Beta. One of the traits (according to the OPs opinion) is just predominant.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by healthserve(m): 9:46pm On Jan 29, 2020
MissJoy29:

I trust you!


You're on a men's thread don't forget
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by royallord1(m): 9:47pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:

Of course, you should know where I belong
Gamma male undecided
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by MNDY(m): 9:50pm On Jan 29, 2020
Preshy561:

Some of you who call your fellow guys pussy think it means weakness?
Something that strong enough to pull out a human being, undergo so many pressure and still bounces, a place you came out from, is what you think means weakness? It really shows you are a representative of such weakness.

Aunty take it easy. Have you not also heard the one someone is called dic.khead as an insult too? It is not only womanliness.

You ladies always claiming discrimination.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Ogilinsaka: 9:50pm On Jan 29, 2020
Papanwamaikpe:
I swear. Me too dey avoid there oh! I just stick to my ashawo thread. Na there real niggas dey grin

Bros abeg which is one is Ashawo thread...? I wan run go there sharp...
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 9:51pm On Jan 29, 2020
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TonyeBarcanista:

Of course, you should know where I belong




Op there are tew many threads stating the meritable sides of alpha male, does it mean been an alpha doesnt av demerit or downsides/limitations, we don hear d gud side can we hear d bad side, awon omo beta wants 2know grin
healthservice
martinez39s
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by bukatyne(f): 9:52pm On Jan 29, 2020
AfroKnight:


Toripe o je eyin ni o. I ready to fight before.


Not vex o.

I don't want any mark on my skin o! cool
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by gcof(m): 9:53pm On Jan 29, 2020
My people hustle and make money ooo...make you no come online dey claim alpha male. Alpha male tag no dey pay bills o
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Papanwamaikpe: 9:55pm On Jan 29, 2020
Ogilinsaka:


Bros abeg which is one is Ashawo thread...? I wan run there sharp...
I don't know how to share link. Just check my post you'll see it. I usually comment there.


BTW, guys there no dey smile oh! Na savage full there grin
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:57pm On Jan 29, 2020
DharnielDee:
i think SAMSON was a alpha male but latter perish
Samson was a Beta male sir!

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by eyinjuege: 9:57pm On Jan 29, 2020
Sadly, many do not know what it means to be an alpha male, and I doubt even the OP knows.
Alpha males on NL only has to do with romantic relationships. That's when the alfa comes out, when they only compare themselves to women.
OP just tried to ridicule those with 6 packs, forgetting the high level of discipline and self control it takes to keep fit with a good and healthy body.
Many so called alphas on here just bitch and bitch about- yen yen yen yen yen. Is the world so much a battlefield?

What of professionally? Why do we exclude the professional lives of these alpha males when it is a very important part of their personality? Why do we just limit alpha males to just sexual relationships?
Who is an alpha male professionally? Is he one of those in here not sure where his next source of data will come from, but you will hear them yapping about on NL - yenyenyenyenyen.
How does he go about his personal development? He doesn't joke with that at all.
The true alphas do not talk much, they are go getters and know that excuses can never win wars.
They are actually the best set of people to be in a relationship with. Not because they are bossy, but you can trust them to make the right decisions majority of the time. They always pursue the common goal, and not their selfish interests. They always ACT and make sure the lives of those around them are better.

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