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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:59pm On Jan 29, 2020
ericsmith:
k

Op there are tew many threads stating the meritable sides of alpha male, does it mean been an alpha doesnt av demerit or downsides/limitations, we don hear d gud side can we hear d bad side, awon omo beta wants 2know grin
healthservice
martinez39s
Do you think there are any downside?
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by OBku4(m): 10:01pm On Jan 29, 2020
angry
All these stupid stupid topics!
No go make money. Dey there dey analyse alpha, beta, gamma.
Ndi ala!

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by OyinO: 10:01pm On Jan 29, 2020
This is the most factual, truthful, valid, accurate and real post I've read on nairaland. Very correct and professional analysis.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Sanquine(m): 10:01pm On Jan 29, 2020
Preshy561:
Well written, but all those qualities without money? Huh
Yoruba people will say "Pabo lo jasi"
It ended in vanity

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by OyinO: 10:02pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship

Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista


This is the most factual, truthful, valid, accurate and real post I've read on nairaland. Very correct and professional analysis. Thumbs Up!
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Iziq(m): 10:04pm On Jan 29, 2020
Is it possible for a beta-male to be converted to an alpha-male? To some extent it maybe genetic, just saying sha.
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by OyinO: 10:06pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship

Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista



For the first time in nairaland, I read a relatively long post, and realised that every single line of sentence is perfectly correct.
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by bluecircle470: 10:06pm On Jan 29, 2020
Irrelevant and clueless topic
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:07pm On Jan 29, 2020
gcof:
My people hustle and make money ooo...make you no come online dey claim alpha male. Alpha male tag no dey pay bills o
You will some day realise that life is not about money...

Meanwhile, Alpha males guys that doesn't take their hustle lightly.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Martinez39s(m): 10:12pm On Jan 29, 2020
ericsmith:
k




Op there are tew many threads stating the meritable sides of alpha male, does it mean been an alpha doesnt av demerit or downsides/limitations, we don hear d gud side can we hear d bad side, awon omo beta wants 2know grin
healthservice
martinez39s
There is no down side to being an alpha.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Martinez39s(m): 10:15pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:

You will some day realise that life is not about money...

Meanwhile, Alpha males guys that doesn't take their hustle lightly.
Don't mind him. When people like him are hopelessly stuck in the blue pill matrix or they can't counter any fact from red pill men, they will resort to shaming language.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by zmpp(f): 10:16pm On Jan 29, 2020
Iziq:
Is it possible for a beta-male to be converted to an alpha-male? To some extent it maybe genetic, just saying sha.

a beta male who has been broken several times can only become a member of the angry men's rights activists known as red piller or MGTOW after realizing that his weakness was his undoing
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by MichaelSokoto(m): 10:18pm On Jan 29, 2020
Baba don leave politics tinz enter luv, romance, woman wrappa tinz!
hehe... e nor easy
grin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 10:22pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:

Do you think there are any downside?



i believe their is nothing in life with an advantage that won't av a coresponding disadvantage or downsides, in life every tin in twos
1. They are very hard to understand ... they only understand one thing ..there way.
feel free to add yours.
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TemmyT002(m): 10:23pm On Jan 29, 2020
Bla bla bla
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Realtalk20: 10:25pm On Jan 29, 2020
All alpha makes pls stand up and be counted

cool
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Seventy7kings: 10:27pm On Jan 29, 2020
Preshy561:

Some of you who call your fellow guys pussy think it means weakness?
Something that strong enough to pull out a human being, undergo so many pressure and still bounces, a place you came out from, is what you think means weakness? It really shows you are a representative of such weakness.
aunty, are you an alpha-female? grin
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by MissJoy29(f): 10:30pm On Jan 29, 2020
healthserve:



You're on a men's thread don't forget
That's how you lots also descend on our threads and derail them. tongue
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by ImaIma1(f): 10:30pm On Jan 29, 2020
So you mean martinez39, astroG and the likes are not alphas but just female bashers and oppressors. Lol...it's not like I have not always known.

Alpha, beta...nothing new. The alphas are just like cholerics and the betas...probably phlegmatic or melancholy. Everyone cannot be ine way. We all compliment each other with our differences. Lifting alpha or omega over other personality type is just being unreasonable.

But then again, it seems this is the current trend and everyone wants to associate.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by healthserve(m): 10:31pm On Jan 29, 2020
MissJoy29:

That's how you lots also descend on our threads and derail them. tongue


You don dey use " you lots kwanu ", okay o
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by osazsky(m): 10:31pm On Jan 29, 2020
gcof:
My people hustle and make money ooo...make you no come online dey claim alpha male. Alpha male tag no dey pay bills o
u guys will just be shouting make money make money what has money got to do with relationship settle down on time and from there build something do u huzzle more than don jazzy of mohit records y his he not married and yet he is approaching 50 and who told u that if u have money u will find a perfect wife grow up...

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by damienwayne(m): 10:32pm On Jan 29, 2020
Sorry but I’d rather be an Omega Male.
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Youngsage: 10:34pm On Jan 29, 2020
iLegendd:
Even though I didn't read, I like the title.

Hello bro, how do I reach you please? Need some help with Amazon publishing
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by zmpp(f): 10:35pm On Jan 29, 2020
ImaIma1:
So you mean martinez39, astroG and the likes are not alphas but just female bashers and oppressors. Lol...it's not like I have not always known.

Alpha, beta...nothing new. The alphas are just like cholerics and the betas...probably phlegmatic or melancholy. Everyone cannot be ine way. We all compliment each other with our differences. Lifting alpha or omega over other personality type is just being unreasonable.

But then again, it seems this is the current trend and everyone wants to associate.

those ones, the red pillers and MGTOW, are not alpha males. they are angry men's rights activists. they are broken beta males who have realized that their weakness was their undoing
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:36pm On Jan 29, 2020
Martinez39s:
Don't mind him. When people like him are hopelessly stuck in the blue pill matrix or they can't counter any fact from red pill men, they will resort to shaming language.
cheesy cheesy Which one is red pill
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Xclusiveme: 10:36pm On Jan 29, 2020
Characteristics of Beta Male
1. They gossip/bitch a lot
2. They masturbate/view porn
3. They are afraid of starting a relationship
4. They are so nice
5. They don't cheat when in a relationship
6. They don't workout
7. They are so romantic in bed
8. They laugh a lot
9. They sometimes depend on people to carry out their task
10. They are shy in some circumstances
11. They have low testosterone


Characteristics of Alpha Male
1. They don't fucking care about one's affair
2. They have real sex with a woman
3. They are not afraid of getting rejected
4. They are not so nice
5. They cheat a lot in a relationship
6. They workout
7. They are so rough in bed
8. They hardly laugh
9. They do task on their own even tho its difficult
10. They are so bold and confident in every circumstance
11. They have high testosterone


Tips to be an alpha male
Don't give a Bleep about all this and live your life

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by healthserve(m): 10:36pm On Jan 29, 2020
ImaIma1:
So you mean martinez39, astroG and the likes are not alphas but just female bashers and oppressors. Lol...it's not like I have not always known.

Alpha, beta...nothing new. The alphas are just like cholerics and the betas...probably phlegmatic or melancholy. Everyone cannot be ine way. We all compliment each other with our differences. Lifting alpha or omega over other personality type is just being unreasonable.

But then again, it seems this is the current trend and everyone wants to associate.


Hahahhaa you have cramps dear wink
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:37pm On Jan 29, 2020
ericsmith:




i believe their is nothing in life with an advantage that won't av a coresponding disadvantage or downsides, in life every tin in twos
1. They are very hard to understand ... they only understand one thing ..there way.
feel free to add yours.
I agree! Alpha males can be very difficult to understand. They are sometimes tagged arrogant for not tagging along with the crowd

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by healthserve(m): 10:37pm On Jan 29, 2020
Martinez39s:
Don't mind him. When people like him are hopelessly stuck in the blue pill matrix or they can't counter any fact from red pill men, they will resort to shaming language.


Hahahaha

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Miarose: 10:37pm On Jan 29, 2020
Finally, men bashing men thread. I love it.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:38pm On Jan 29, 2020
Xclusiveme:
Characteristics of Beta Male
1. They gossip/bitch a lot
2. They masturbate/view porn
3. They are afraid of starting a relationship
4. They are so nice
5. They don't cheat when in a relationship
6. They don't workout
7. They are so romantic in bed
8. They laugh a lot
9. They sometimes depend on people to carry out their task
10. They are shy in some circumstances
11. They have low testosterone


Characteristics of Alpha Male
1. They don't fucking care about one's affair
2. They have real sex with a woman
3. They are not afraid of getting rejected
4. They are not so nice
5. They cheat a lot in a relationship
6. They workout
7. They are so rough in bed
8. They hardly laugh
9. They do task on their own even tho its difficult
10. They are so bold and confident in every circumstance
11. They have high testosterone


Tips to be an alpha male
Don't give a Bleep about all this and live your life



This is so wrong Sir

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