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fatymore:
Okomi, you are blessed to have me

funny

a non commited partner is not always commited financially to other party.
my brother, she doesn't love you.
she's seeing you as PROBABLY an option.

An elder bros i told about this said this same thing about commitment. Thank you

bolafez:
a non commited partner is not always commited financially to other party.

my brother, she doesn't love you.

she's seeing you as PROBABLY an option.

Threedoorsdown:
i had to make her understand that we are all different and i did not earn as much as her ex. i can only do according to my capabilities moreover, she knows i am the one that supports my siblings so enough responsibility on me

Why didn't she marry her ex

Fish brain everywhere. Go and give thanksgiving now you have ended it. God saved you from a devourer.

Go through the following threads >>

https://www.nairaland.com/5322792/ubunjas-miseducation-how-women-gold

https://www.nairaland.com/5520205/ubunjas-miseducation-chosen

https://www.nairaland.com/5251159/ubunjas-miseducation-choosing-girl

https://www.nairaland.com/5520169/ubunjas-miseducation-no-green-lights

Threedoorsdown:
Hello Everyone

i just feel the need to share this, i may be wrong on my thoughts or submission but i'm open to corrections and suggestions if any

My GF( of almost a year) and I are working and comfortable . i have a white collar job while she is her own employer . I support her by giving monthly allowance and also helping out on any other needs she may have as a normal guy does to the woman he loves. In situations where i cannot offset the full bill, i give her a significant amount while she adds the rest . Few times she has fueled my car( about 2 to 3 times), other than this she hardly supports me whenever i'm down financially except lending money to me a few times and i pay back at the appointed time . One time we had issues and she threatened to call soldiers on me if i do not refund the money she lent me, i had to pay up before time.

Apart from the fact that she seems proud and ungrateful for the things i do( she once told me i gave her a meagre 20K monthly , money that cannot buy material while her then ex gave her over 50k bla bla bla. ), our major issues started when i became worried that she hardly supports me financially whenever i'm in need ( support here means lending me money o). whenever i ask to borrow money from her, she then gives excuses of bank application network and stuffs like that. i complained and confronted her on her lack of empathy and supporting a man who she claims to love and plan to get married to in the nearest future.

when we argue about this, she tells me that she has discussed this with people and they said i'm entitled to her money. This was after she once told me that she had sworn never to assist any BF financially except her husband because two of her exes who she did things for ended up marrying other women. she says she sees how her friend's BFs do EVERYTHING for them and wish her own also did EVERYTHING for her. she also said she envied her brother's fiancee because he does everything for her( the girl is from a very humble background and does not work, still a student)

i explained to her that i'm in no way interested in her money but i need to know and be rest assured that the lady i'm about to get married to , is willing to support me in our home and not just watch me to suffer when i need help at times and also to show that she can be a pillar. i told her if she could not commit financially while we date, how would she do so in the marriage. This is still someone not ready and willing to accept a modest and less expensive wedding as she feels otherwise since wedding is a once in a lifetime thing she should have a she was not ready to commit rather said we should end things. i agreed and we ended it

i brought this here to know if i was wrong to have complained about her lack of commitment or i did not reason well on the matter . i believe love comes with sacrifices for our partners

Keep loving her and keep spending on her, you need to man up and always remember that it's always your fault. Oshisco.

On a serious note, visit this topic of mine
https://www.nairaland.com/5150034/boys-get-here-mumu-must

Take care.

WOW, i went through them. it is actually educating

thanks Bro

Youngzedd:
Why didn't she marry her ex

Fish brain everywhere. Go and give thanksgiving now you have ended it. God saved you from a devourer.

Go through the following threads >>

https://www.nairaland.com/5322792/ubunjas-miseducation-how-women-gold

https://www.nairaland.com/5520205/ubunjas-miseducation-chosen

https://www.nairaland.com/5251159/ubunjas-miseducation-choosing-girl

https://www.nairaland.com/5520169/ubunjas-miseducation-no-green-lights

Threedoorsdown:
WOW, i went through them. it is actually educating

thanks Bro

You're welcome. Go through other of his threads.

Good luck.

This is why I say dating a Nigerian girl na total rubbish. They nor get any usefulness. If a naija babe get 5million for account nd u wen dey form boyfriend get just 200k, she go pocket ha 5million, help u chow ur 200k. She dey find guy wen go do everything for ha, even ha papa sef nor do everything for ha, so who are you? Bros wise up nd stop giving bitches ur money.

Threedoorsdown:
Hello Everyone

i just feel the need to share this, i may be wrong on my thoughts or submission but i'm open to corrections and suggestions if any

My GF( of almost a year) and I are working and comfortable . i have a white collar job while she is her own employer . I support her by giving monthly allowance and also helping out on any other needs she may have as a normal guy does to the woman he loves. In situations where i cannot offset the full bill, i give her a significant amount while she adds the rest . Few times she has fueled my car( about 2 to 3 times), other than this she hardly supports me whenever i'm down financially except lending money to me a few times and i pay back at the appointed time . One time we had issues and she threatened to call soldiers on me if i do not refund the money she lent me, i had to pay up before time.

Apart from the fact that she seems proud and ungrateful for the things i do( she once told me i gave her a meagre 20K monthly , money that cannot buy material while her then ex gave her over 50k bla bla bla. ), our major issues started when i became worried that she hardly supports me financially whenever i'm in need ( support here means lending me money o). whenever i ask to borrow money from her, she then gives excuses of bank application network and stuffs like that. i complained and confronted her on her lack of empathy and supporting a man who she claims to love and plan to get married to in the nearest future.

when we argue about this, she tells me that she has discussed this with people and they said i'm entitled to her money. This was after she once told me that she had sworn never to assist any BF financially except her husband because two of her exes who she did things for ended up marrying other women. she says she sees how her friend's BFs do EVERYTHING for them and wish her own also did EVERYTHING for her. she also said she envied her brother's fiancee because he does everything for her( the girl is from a very humble background and does not work, still a student)

i explained to her that i'm in no way interested in her money but i need to know and be rest assured that the lady i'm about to get married to , is willing to support me in our home and not just watch me to suffer when i need help at times and also to show that she can be a pillar. i told her if she could not commit financially while we date, how would she do so in the marriage. This is still someone not ready and willing to accept a modest and less expensive wedding as she feels otherwise since wedding is a once in a lifetime thing she should have a she was not ready to commit rather said we should end things. i agreed and we ended it

i brought this here to know if i was wrong to have complained about her lack of commitment or i did not reason well on the matter . i believe love comes with sacrifices for our partners

I have the same issue nd ,may nt marry my gf for this reason.

Am nt rich and ant always solve all my financial p. So if sh can't b of help now, I it wen children that divides a woman's love arrive that sh will support...?

Plz dump her

Threedoorsdown:
Hello Everyone

i just feel the need to share this, i may be wrong on my thoughts or submission but i'm open to corrections and suggestions if any

My GF( of almost a year) and I are working and comfortable . i have a white collar job while she is her own employer . I support her by giving monthly allowance and also helping out on any other needs she may have as a normal guy does to the woman he loves. In situations where i cannot offset the full bill, i give her a significant amount while she adds the rest . Few times she has fueled my car( about 2 to 3 times), other than this she hardly supports me whenever i'm down financially except lending money to me a few times and i pay back at the appointed time . One time we had issues and she threatened to call soldiers on me if i do not refund the money she lent me, i had to pay up before time.

Apart from the fact that she seems proud and ungrateful for the things i do( she once told me i gave her a meagre 20K monthly , money that cannot buy material while her then ex gave her over 50k bla bla bla. ), our major issues started when i became worried that she hardly supports me financially whenever i'm in need ( support here means lending me money o). whenever i ask to borrow money from her, she then gives excuses of bank application network and stuffs like that. i complained and confronted her on her lack of empathy and supporting a man who she claims to love and plan to get married to in the nearest future.

when we argue about this, she tells me that she has discussed this with people and they said i'm entitled to her money. This was after she once told me that she had sworn never to assist any BF financially except her husband because two of her exes who she did things for ended up marrying other women. she says she sees how her friend's BFs do EVERYTHING for them and wish her own also did EVERYTHING for her. she also said she envied her brother's fiancee because he does everything for her( the girl is from a very humble background and does not work, still a student)

i explained to her that i'm in no way interested in her money but i need to know and be rest assured that the lady i'm about to get married to , is willing to support me in our home and not just watch me to suffer when i need help at times and also to show that she can be a pillar. i told her if she could not commit financially while we date, how would she do so in the marriage. This is still someone not ready and willing to accept a modest and less expensive wedding as she feels otherwise since wedding is a once in a lifetime thing she should have a she was not ready to commit rather said we should end things. i agreed and we ended it

i brought this here to know if i was wrong to have complained about her lack of commitment or i did not reason well on the matter . i believe love comes with sacrifices for our partners

Bro, quietly move on with your life.

A woman like that is dangerous for the future. Be warned!!!

Threedoorsdown:
WOW, i went through them. it is actually educating

thanks Bro

3 doors down.

"you love me but you dont know who I am"

you mean you pay her monthly allawee for been your gf? wow omo girls dey enjoy some mumu boys o.....the last girl dat suggested such to me, after insulting all her family members i blocked her. pay gf allawee....e dey do me to beat you.

Coolcalmcollect:
you mean you pay her monthly allawee for been your gf? wow omo girls dey enjoy some mumu boys o.....the last girl dat suggested such to me, after insulting all her family members i blocked her. pay gf allawee....e dey do me to beat you.

lols no vex sir. I saw it as support in my own little way.

Kennyprince:
Bro, quietly move on with your life.

A woman like that is dangerous for the future. Be warned!!!

she is dangerous actually. Now i remember one time i got angry at her for something she did, i never knew her sister was recording me as i raised my voice. This babe never deleted this video. At a point she used it to threaten me that she will put it online to ruin my life.

bigpicture001:
I have the same issue nd ,may nt marry my gf for this reason.

Am nt rich and ant always solve all my financial p. So if sh can't b of help now, I it wen children that divides a woman's love arrive that sh will support...?

Plz dump her

i had broken up with her. Please also do same, this types will never allow you become wealthy. They are the type that will watch you suffer and beg and struggle while they build houses and buy lands while being married to you

Threedoorsdown:
Hello Everyone

i just feel the need to share this, i may be wrong on my thoughts or submission but i'm open to corrections and suggestions if any

My GF( of almost a year) and I are working and comfortable . i have a white collar job while she is her own employer . I support her by giving monthly allowance and also helping out on any other needs she may have as a normal guy does to the woman he loves. In situations where i cannot offset the full bill, i give her a significant amount while she adds the rest . Few times she has fueled my car( about 2 to 3 times), other than this she hardly supports me whenever i'm down financially except lending money to me a few times and i pay back at the appointed time . One time we had issues and she threatened to call soldiers on me if i do not refund the money she lent me, i had to pay up before time.

Apart from the fact that she seems proud and ungrateful for the things i do( she once told me i gave her a meagre 20K monthly , money that cannot buy material while her then ex gave her over 50k bla bla bla. ), our major issues started when i became worried that she hardly supports me financially whenever i'm in need ( support here means lending me money o). whenever i ask to borrow money from her, she then gives excuses of bank application network and stuffs like that. i complained and confronted her on her lack of empathy and supporting a man who she claims to love and plan to get married to in the nearest future.

when we argue about this, she tells me that she has discussed this with people and they said i'm entitled to her money. This was after she once told me that she had sworn never to assist any BF financially except her husband because two of her exes who she did things for ended up marrying other women. she says she sees how her friend's BFs do EVERYTHING for them and wish her own also did EVERYTHING for her. she also said she envied her brother's fiancee because he does everything for her( the girl is from a very humble background and does not work, still a student)

i explained to her that i'm in no way interested in her money but i need to know and be rest assured that the lady i'm about to get married to , is willing to support me in our home and not just watch me to suffer when i need help at times and also to show that she can be a pillar. i told her if she could not commit financially while we date, how would she do so in the marriage. This is still someone not ready and willing to accept a modest and less expensive wedding as she feels otherwise since wedding is a once in a lifetime thing she should have a she was not ready to commit rather said we should end things. i agreed and we ended it

i brought this here to know if i was wrong to have complained about her lack of commitment or i did not reason well on the matter . i believe love comes with sacrifices for our partners

Stop being a nag Sir!

She has told you her kind of person and what she wants from her man. It is left for you to decide whether you can fit in or not.

You appear like one that nags a lot though!

You willingly decided to date her and I believe it js left for you to decide whether you want to remain with her or not. If you can't take action for your life, don't think people's opinion will help you

Threedoorsdown:
lols no vex sir. I saw it as support in my own little way.

omo no give am again I take God beg you, save the money for bank....you sef imagine am na 20k times 12 month....240k aiye ooo you gave your babe my house rent equivalent per year.

TonyeBarcanista:
Stop being a nag Sir!

She has told you her kind of person and what she wants from her man. It is left for you to decide whether you can fit in or not.

You appear like one that nags a lot though!

You willingly decided to date her and I believe it js left for you to decide whether you want to remain with her or not. If you can't take action for your life, don't think people's opinion will help you

thanks. But read again, you ll see where i said i ended things and you'll see reason i gave fro bringing this here.

Threedoorsdown:
Hello Everyone

i just feel the need to share this, i may be wrong on my thoughts or submission but i'm open to corrections and suggestions if any

My GF( of almost a year) and I are working and comfortable . i have a white collar job while she is her own employer . I support her by giving monthly allowance and also helping out on any other needs she may have as a normal guy does to the woman he loves. In situations where i cannot offset the full bill, i give her a significant amount while she adds the rest . Few times she has fueled my car( about 2 to 3 times), other than this she hardly supports me whenever i'm down financially except lending money to me a few times and i pay back at the appointed time . One time we had issues and she threatened to call soldiers on me if i do not refund the money she lent me, i had to pay up before time.

Apart from the fact that she seems proud and ungrateful for the things i do( she once told me i gave her a meagre 20K monthly , money that cannot buy material while her then ex gave her over 50k bla bla bla. ), our major issues started when i became worried that she hardly supports me financially whenever i'm in need ( support here means lending me money o). whenever i ask to borrow money from her, she then gives excuses of bank application network and stuffs like that. i complained and confronted her on her lack of empathy and supporting a man who she claims to love and plan to get married to in the nearest future.

when we argue about this, she tells me that she has discussed this with people and they said i'm entitled to her money. This was after she once told me that she had sworn never to assist any BF financially except her husband because two of her exes who she did things for ended up marrying other women. she says she sees how her friend's BFs do EVERYTHING for them and wish her own also did EVERYTHING for her. she also said she envied her brother's fiancee because he does everything for her( the girl is from a very humble background and does not work, still a student)

i explained to her that i'm in no way interested in her money but i need to know and be rest assured that the lady i'm about to get married to , is willing to support me in our home and not just watch me to suffer when i need help at times and also to show that she can be a pillar. i told her if she could not commit financially while we date, how would she do so in the marriage. This is still someone not ready and willing to accept a modest and less expensive wedding as she feels otherwise since wedding is a once in a lifetime thing she should have a she was not ready to commit rather said we should end things. i agreed and we ended it

i brought this here to know if i was wrong to have complained about her lack of commitment or i did not reason well on the matter . i believe love comes with sacrifices for our partners

Another puss man spotted.Bros Don't let the love you have for a woman overruled your brain.

Threedoorsdown:
Hello Everyone

i just feel the need to share this, i may be wrong on my thoughts or submission but i'm open to corrections and suggestions if any

My GF( of almost a year) and I are working and comfortable . i have a white collar job while she is her own employer . I support her by giving monthly allowance and also helping out on any other needs she may have as a normal guy does to the woman he loves. In situations where i cannot offset the full bill, i give her a significant amount while she adds the rest . Few times she has fueled my car( about 2 to 3 times), other than this she hardly supports me whenever i'm down financially except lending money to me a few times and i pay back at the appointed time . One time we had issues and she threatened to call soldiers on me if i do not refund the money she lent me, i had to pay up before time.

Apart from the fact that she seems proud and ungrateful for the things i do( she once told me i gave her a meagre 20K monthly , money that cannot buy material while her then ex gave her over 50k bla bla bla. ), our major issues started when i became worried that she hardly supports me financially whenever i'm in need ( support here means lending me money o). whenever i ask to borrow money from her, she then gives excuses of bank application network and stuffs like that. i complained and confronted her on her lack of empathy and supporting a man who she claims to love and plan to get married to in the nearest future.

when we argue about this, she tells me that she has discussed this with people and they said i'm entitled to her money. This was after she once told me that she had sworn never to assist any BF financially except her husband because two of her exes who she did things for ended up marrying other women. she says she sees how her friend's BFs do EVERYTHING for them and wish her own also did EVERYTHING for her. she also said she envied her brother's fiancee because he does everything for her( the girl is from a very humble background and does not work, still a student)

i explained to her that i'm in no way interested in her money but i need to know and be rest assured that the lady i'm about to get married to , is willing to support me in our home and not just watch me to suffer when i need help at times and also to show that she can be a pillar. i told her if she could not commit financially while we date, how would she do so in the marriage. This is still someone not ready and willing to accept a modest and less expensive wedding as she feels otherwise since wedding is a once in a lifetime thing she should have a she was not ready to commit rather said we should end things. i agreed and we ended it

i brought this here to know if i was wrong to have complained about her lack of commitment or i did not reason well on the matter . i believe love comes with sacrifices for our partners

You can't complain when you have an option, someone called soldier for you by your own babe. Guy you fvck up. Unless this is fake. Go and find a level headed matured babe.

Threedoorsdown:
Hello Everyone

i just feel the need to share this, i may be wrong on my thoughts or submission but i'm open to corrections and suggestions if any

My GF( of almost a year) and I are working and comfortable . i have a white collar job while she is her own employer . I support her by giving monthly allowance and also helping out on any other needs she may have as a normal guy does to the woman he loves. In situations where i cannot offset the full bill, i give her a significant amount while she adds the rest . Few times she has fueled my car( about 2 to 3 times), other than this she hardly supports me whenever i'm down financially except lending money to me a few times and i pay back at the appointed time . One time we had issues and she threatened to call soldiers on me if i do not refund the money she lent me, i had to pay up before time.

Apart from the fact that she seems proud and ungrateful for the things i do( she once told me i gave her a meagre 20K monthly , money that cannot buy material while her then ex gave her over 50k bla bla bla. ), our major issues started when i became worried that she hardly supports me financially whenever i'm in need ( support here means lending me money o). whenever i ask to borrow money from her, she then gives excuses of bank application network and stuffs like that. i complained and confronted her on her lack of empathy and supporting a man who she claims to love and plan to get married to in the nearest future.

when we argue about this, she tells me that she has discussed this with people and they said i'm entitled to her money. This was after she once told me that she had sworn never to assist any BF financially except her husband because two of her exes who she did things for ended up marrying other women. she says she sees how her friend's BFs do EVERYTHING for them and wish her own also did EVERYTHING for her. she also said she envied her brother's fiancee because he does everything for her( the girl is from a very humble background and does not work, still a student)

i explained to her that i'm in no way interested in her money but i need to know and be rest assured that the lady i'm about to get married to , is willing to support me in our home and not just watch me to suffer when i need help at times and also to show that she can be a pillar. i told her if she could not commit financially while we date, how would she do so in the marriage. This is still someone not ready and willing to accept a modest and less expensive wedding as she feels otherwise since wedding is a once in a lifetime thing she should have a she was not ready to commit rather said we should end things. i agreed and we ended it

i brought this here to know if i was wrong to have complained about her lack of commitment or i did not reason well on the matter . i believe love comes with sacrifices for our partners

She won’t behave any differently even when you’re married to her. Free the matter find someone that’s more into you willing to invest in your growth not just financially alone. She’s not into you.

Anyone believes this can believe anything.

Run!!

thanks

willanderson:
She won’t behave any differently even when you’re married to her. Free the matter find someone that’s more into you willing to invest in your growth not just financially alone. She’s not into you.

Threedoorsdown:
thanks. But read again, you ll see where i said i ended things and you'll see reason i gave fro bringing this here.

Okay Sir! Since you have ended things, it is now up to you to move on instead of bringing it hear as a topic for discuss.

BTW you did well by calling it a quit