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There is no time to think further. The truth is, she set her friend up for you. I had experienced this sometime ago in a relationship. So, I dated two of them and left. Since this is happening in your marriage and not in a relationship, I wouldn't know what to advise.
If it were just a relationship, I would have advised that, you bleeped the two of them to your satisfaction and go your way. However, listen to elders.

redcliff:
If you read this as a man and your preek no charge, you cannot DO..

I swear. I enjoyed the tori

Guy you are wicked man, ooin, don't u have friends, if you don't want to do it ,can't you call your friends to come and assist you, ooin you are not doing well.

Overlordship:
Hello all, I got married to my wife 9 months ago and it has been a wonderful experience all through until her friend showed up two months ago. That was actually the first time I was meeting her as she wasn’t around for our wedding as she was doing her masters programme in South Africa. I knew she and my wife were closed as she was always talking about her best friend while we were courting.

She showed up at our house and I thought she came to visit and catch up with old times with my wife so I gladly welcome her. Later in the night, my wife told me she will be staying with us for sometimes while she gets a job. I was upset because we never discussed it before and I made my feeling known. Nevertheless, I had to give in since she said the friend also accommodated her in her room back at school for a session. So, I accepted her living with us and I felt it was only for a short time. We gave her the visitor’s room.

The first trouble started when I noticed her night gown barely covered her bum and sometimes were transparent with her boobs showing whenever she comes to the sitting room. I expressed my reservations about it to my wife and she dismissed it playfully that it was nothing and that what were my eyes wandering there for, so I let it go. Sometimes, she will enter her bedroom without knocking saying she wants to gist with her friend. And I will just stay on my side of the bed playing with my phone while the both talked. I noticed my wife doesn’t care, but I don’t want any issue with her so I accepted it with the hope her friend will soon leave the house.

I must admit that the friend was a bit useful in the house. My wife closes late than I, and her friend stays home when she’s not job hunting, so sometimes she would have cooked before we arrived. Though, I complained about this also, but wifey believe it was trivial. Her friend was intelligent and as times goes on, we talked on a wide range of topic while waiting for wife to come back from home so I stopped complaining about her to my wife.

It became so normal about her dressing that I accepted it like that. There was a day she came to our room to gist with my wife and playfully, my wife hit me with a pillow and before you know it, the three of us were throwing pillows about and playing like kids. They were both jumping on me and incidentally, I had a hard on as we were playin. I noticed her friend was slightly brushing her hand on me. I had to quickly stop and stylishly use the pillow to cover myself until I came down. I was really uncomfortable with the whole situation, but I didn’t complain to my wife again since I know what she will say. What I just keep asking my wife is when her friend was leaving.

The incident that happened two weeks really changed things. My wife took one week leave and decided to visit her parents outside the state we reside. I wasn’t okay with it leaving her friend alone with me, but she said I will just do fine. I tried to come home late for the first three days so I can completely avoid her, until the fourth day when she came into my room. I didn’t want to be rude by asking her to leave, so I asked her to sit down on the sofa in the bedroom. We first spoke about football, politics and other things. I can’t really say what happened, but in a lapse of judgement, we started kissing and then I had sex with her. I felt regret immediately and started apologizing to her for taking advantage of her. What she said really dazzled me. She said I shouldn’t be sorry as my wife never keep talking of our big I am and how sex was so great. And how she wishes her friend can experience what she was talking about.

My regrets turned to anger immediately and I asked her if she and my wife planned this whole episode just to confirm what my wife was boasting about. She denied being in cohort with my wife, but said something that devastated me. She said my wife wouldn’t mind as they sometimes share things together as they are besties for life right from their school days. I had to quickly exit the room to the balcony. We barely talked again until wife came back, though she tried to initiate some conversation, which I rebuffed. My wife further heightened my apprehension when wife asked if her friend really took care of me and that I couldn’t have missed her much since her friend was around. The dilemma now is that I can’t confront my wife about the incident as I will be admitting I slept with her friend. Her friend is also acting normal and I am afraid if she will inform her “bestie for life”. I have been thinking, what if they had been “Sex partners” before and I married a bisexual cos of the way they do play together. I had just been asking her when her friend was leaving and I don’t want to be forceful because of what happened between us.

Note, my wife has been a good wife. All my family member love her like she’s part of them and she is so comfortable with them. We never had any issues except this. I need advice on how to go on so I don’t destroy my marriage.

Out of experience, your wife is a bisexual... her friend is her best half of partner in sex.. so keep calm, everything will be fine. Just endure till her friend leaves cos if u try to use force, ur home will crumble. Just wait for her friend to get a job or help her get job just to get rid of her presence and not the act between ur wife n her friend.

osuofia2:
I DID PREFER NWAMAIKPE TO GIVE ADVICE ON THIS

God bless you bro...hate him or love him, he's got to tell the craziest truth in the craziest way....

Walahi this is fiction! Nollywood sh*t!

Op be a man and come clean, tell your wife that you slept with her best friend. You will either lose them both, gain them both or something in the middle.

Which of the episode is this? always love super story.

Overlordship:
Hello all, I got married to my wife 9 months ago and it has been a wonderful experience all through until her friend showed up two months ago. That was actually the first time I was meeting her as she wasn’t around for our wedding as she was doing her masters programme in South Africa. I knew she and my wife were closed as she was always talking about her best friend while we were courting.

She showed up at our house and I thought she came to visit and catch up with old times with my wife so I gladly welcome her. Later in the night, my wife told me she will be staying with us for sometimes while she gets a job. I was upset because we never discussed it before and I made my feeling known. Nevertheless, I had to give in since she said the friend also accommodated her in her room back at school for a session. So, I accepted her living with us and I felt it was only for a short time. We gave her the visitor’s room.

The first trouble started when I noticed her night gown barely covered her bum and sometimes were transparent with her boobs showing whenever she comes to the sitting room. I expressed my reservations about it to my wife and she dismissed it playfully that it was nothing and that what were my eyes wandering there for, so I let it go. Sometimes, she will enter her bedroom without knocking saying she wants to gist with her friend. And I will just stay on my side of the bed playing with my phone while the both talked. I noticed my wife doesn’t care, but I don’t want any issue with her so I accepted it with the hope her friend will soon leave the house.

I must admit that the friend was a bit useful in the house. My wife closes late than I, and her friend stays home when she’s not job hunting, so sometimes she would have cooked before we arrived. Though, I complained about this also, but wifey believe it was trivial. Her friend was intelligent and as times goes on, we talked on a wide range of topic while waiting for wife to come back from home so I stopped complaining about her to my wife.

It became so normal about her dressing that I accepted it like that. There was a day she came to our room to gist with my wife and playfully, my wife hit me with a pillow and before you know it, the three of us were throwing pillows about and playing like kids. They were both jumping on me and incidentally, I had a hard on as we were playin. I noticed her friend was slightly brushing her hand on me. I had to quickly stop and stylishly use the pillow to cover myself until I came down. I was really uncomfortable with the whole situation, but I didn’t complain to my wife again since I know what she will say. What I just keep asking my wife is when her friend was leaving.

The incident that happened two weeks really changed things. My wife took one week leave and decided to visit her parents outside the state we reside. I wasn’t okay with it leaving her friend alone with me, but she said I will just do fine. I tried to come home late for the first three days so I can completely avoid her, until the fourth day when she came into my room. I didn’t want to be rude by asking her to leave, so I asked her to sit down on the sofa in the bedroom. We first spoke about football, politics and other things. I can’t really say what happened, but in a lapse of judgement, we started kissing and then I had sex with her. I felt regret immediately and started apologizing to her for taking advantage of her. What she said really dazzled me. She said I shouldn’t be sorry as my wife never keep talking of our big I am and how sex was so great. And how she wishes her friend can experience what she was talking about.

My regrets turned to anger immediately and I asked her if she and my wife planned this whole episode just to confirm what my wife was boasting about. She denied being in cohort with my wife, but said something that devastated me. She said my wife wouldn’t mind as they sometimes share things together as they are besties for life right from their school days. I had to quickly exit the room to the balcony. We barely talked again until wife came back, though she tried to initiate some conversation, which I rebuffed. My wife further heightened my apprehension when wife asked if her friend really took care of me and that I couldn’t have missed her much since her friend was around. The dilemma now is that I can’t confront my wife about the incident as I will be admitting I slept with her friend. Her friend is also acting normal and I am afraid if she will inform her “bestie for life”. I have been thinking, what if they had been “Sex partners” before and I married a bisexual cos of the way they do play together. I had just been asking her when her friend was leaving and I don’t want to be forceful because of what happened between us.

Note, my wife has been a good wife. All my family member love her like she’s part of them and she is so comfortable with them. We never had any issues except this. I need advice on how to go on so I don’t destroy my marriage.

To be honest with you Sir, I know you feel confused about this whole issue and at the same time afraid to confront your wife and tell her the whole truth which is very normal as a human being to be skeptical about saying the truth. We all fine ourselves in this circle but I want to encourage you to tell your wife everything. Don’t forget nothing is hidden under the sun for eternity, someday it will come out and by then people and your wife will never trust you again. Besides u tried telling her how uncomfortable u were about her friends presence in the house. So pls Sir to cut long story short, take your wife to somewhere convenient and quiet and tell the whole truth. Tell her u never meant to hurt her and ur marriage this way, ask for forgiveness and the Lord God will take it from there. I hope your hands are clean though because hearing one side of a story is not my thing. If she loves u she will come around later after she must have calm down. If u don’t tell her then begin to enjoy how your conscience hunts you. That’s the strategy of the devil. I pray for your family to heal. To that friend u need to fling her away from ur wife and ur family for good.

You too should set her up and if she fell in them it is a win win for you both

Most men work hard to covertly keep sidechicks and here you are with a wife who made it easy for you and you're complaining.
Your wife is a wife material 100 yard, biko does she have a younger sister?


On a serious note, you're already in their trap so chill and watch their next step. Talk less, my man. That way, your bisexual wife and her lesbian partner will stop anticipating your next move and make mistakes.

Op don't get things mixed up. You can keep your marriage intact by talking heart tk heart with your wife, if you aren't concerned about her being a bi then discuss it with her openly and let her know your stand, hear her opinion and see how you can manage things. Yes it takes understanding to handle a bi woman and don't be deceived, your wife just wants to open up to you and be sure you understand who she is.

Most women you see in marriages today are bi's but will hide it till they are caught or till death. Talk to your woman, reach a level of understanding and get the rules in. If you want to break record then marry her friend as a second wife ........... Enjoy your limited time on earth.

lucky you, marry both, and dont complain, is ur luck, bestie for life

Bluezy13:
The woman I'm going to marry knows already that I won't think twice before sleeping with any mature female she will bring to the house to stay longer than 3 days.
She knows I won't cheat on her but not when she brings another lady to stay with us.

Anyways, she wouldn't dare.

my guyyyy.

no mind op e dey form vex, after e don bangg finished

What do you guys think bringing personal, private matters to NL. Just look at how irresponsible, unmarried kids will ALMOST DESTROY your marriage, that is if this is not a made up story, before this thread is finally closed. Besides, if you know what the devil is doing to your marriage nobody will ask you to RUN from sin.

i dont know why god always give the right people to the wrong person. this is the type of wife i dey find na. damn. god please do my own for me abeg

Brother you need to be wise with what step to be taken in this situation, I will advise you in 2 ways
1. See a marriage counselor on what to do,
2. Also see a neutral and real man of God for serious prayers if not but I pray otherwise will not happen in your home

Chop clean mouth, wish I had a wife like yours, wetin you wan confess for, you kill person...na she serve you food.

Guy don't worry very soon u will enjoy party

Overlordship:
Hello all, I got married to my wife 9 months ago and it has been a wonderful experience all through until her friend showed up two months ago. That was actually the first time I was meeting her as she wasn’t around for our wedding as she was doing her masters programme in South Africa. I knew she and my wife were closed as she was always talking about her best friend while we were courting.

She showed up at our house and I thought she came to visit and catch up with old times with my wife so I gladly welcome her. Later in the night, my wife told me she will be staying with us for sometimes while she gets a job. I was upset because we never discussed it before and I made my feeling known. Nevertheless, I had to give in since she said the friend also accommodated her in her room back at school for a session. So, I accepted her living with us and I felt it was only for a short time. We gave her the visitor’s room.

The first trouble started when I noticed her night gown barely covered her bum and sometimes were transparent with her boobs showing whenever she comes to the sitting room. I expressed my reservations about it to my wife and she dismissed it playfully that it was nothing and that what were my eyes wandering there for, so I let it go. Sometimes, she will enter her bedroom without knocking saying she wants to gist with her friend. And I will just stay on my side of the bed playing with my phone while the both talked. I noticed my wife doesn’t care, but I don’t want any issue with her so I accepted it with the hope her friend will soon leave the house.

I must admit that the friend was a bit useful in the house. My wife closes late than I, and her friend stays home when she’s not job hunting, so sometimes she would have cooked before we arrived. Though, I complained about this also, but wifey believe it was trivial. Her friend was intelligent and as times goes on, we talked on a wide range of topic while waiting for wife to come back from home so I stopped complaining about her to my wife.

It became so normal about her dressing that I accepted it like that. There was a day she came to our room to gist with my wife and playfully, my wife hit me with a pillow and before you know it, the three of us were throwing pillows about and playing like kids. They were both jumping on me and incidentally, I had a hard on as we were playin. I noticed her friend was slightly brushing her hand on me. I had to quickly stop and stylishly use the pillow to cover myself until I came down. I was really uncomfortable with the whole situation, but I didn’t complain to my wife again since I know what she will say. What I just keep asking my wife is when her friend was leaving.

The incident that happened two weeks really changed things. My wife took one week leave and decided to visit her parents outside the state we reside. I wasn’t okay with it leaving her friend alone with me, but she said I will just do fine. I tried to come home late for the first three days so I can completely avoid her, until the fourth day when she came into my room. I didn’t want to be rude by asking her to leave, so I asked her to sit down on the sofa in the bedroom. We first spoke about football, politics and other things. I can’t really say what happened, but in a lapse of judgement, we started kissing and then I had sex with her. I felt regret immediately and started apologizing to her for taking advantage of her. What she said really dazzled me. She said I shouldn’t be sorry as my wife never keep talking of our big I am and how sex was so great. And how she wishes her friend can experience what she was talking about.

My regrets turned to anger immediately and I asked her if she and my wife planned this whole episode just to confirm what my wife was boasting about. She denied being in cohort with my wife, but said something that devastated me. She said my wife wouldn’t mind as they sometimes share things together as they are besties for life right from their school days. I had to quickly exit the room to the balcony. We barely talked again until wife came back, though she tried to initiate some conversation, which I rebuffed. My wife further heightened my apprehension when wife asked if her friend really took care of me and that I couldn’t have missed her much since her friend was around. The dilemma now is that I can’t confront my wife about the incident as I will be admitting I slept with her friend. Her friend is also acting normal and I am afraid if she will inform her “bestie for life”. I have been thinking, what if they had been “Sex partners” before and I married a bisexual cos of the way they do play together. I had just been asking her when her friend was leaving and I don’t want to be forceful because of what happened between us.

Note, my wife has been a good wife. All my family member love her like she’s part of them and she is so comfortable with them. We never had any issues except this. I need advice on how to go on so I don’t destroy my marriage.

What makes you think your wife doesn't know already? See this one, your wife bring second wife come for you, you dey slow. Brothers in the room, a party is every man's dream. make i loud am?

spyapollos:
Guy you are wicked man, ooin, don't u have friends, if you don't want to do it ,can't you call your friends to come and assist you, ooin you are not doing well.

Oooin, Mr Macaroni.

You're doing well.

firstly am beginning to think your wife might be a bisexual...
secondly pray she doesn't show up with pregnancy after 3 weeks...very soon you will start having party

pansophist:
This is a typical case of the "slippery slope", where a single permitted event compounds into something bigger, and negative. The first mistake you made was allowing her to live in your place and look for a job, with a revealing dress, then sexually suggestive play (the pillow fight), then deeper by engaging in interlocution deeper and deeper. Its clearly a trap between them both of which sadly, you fell for it. One thing is clear, and it is that your wife knows you and her friend slept together. Infact few mins after the act.

Also, your wife is suspiciously not whom you thought you married. What kind of woman will jeopardise the integrity of her matrimony by inviting a friend over, downplaying your legitimate conplains about her provocative dressing and leaving you both to for days? She can be a lesbian, a bi, or have some ulterior motive, but she doesnt respect your home, you and the marriage. That is uncontestable.

As for sleeping with your wife friend, the mistake has been done, and you have to take necessary measures that will pronounce your regret, remorse and a need a a radical change of the whole scenario. Firstly, you should tell your wife, that's the honorable thing to do. Dont ever think she doesnt know, she knows. Tell her. Telling her means you're hiding nothing from her, and her reaction will let you know where you stand.

Expectedly, she should fight her friend and send her packing herself, because what friend betrays a friend by sleeping with her husband ? If she doesn't act like that, then you'll have your evidence. If she is an accomplice or not. Secondly, regardless if she chased her friend out, make sure she doesnt stay an extra night in the house. If she needs extra days to prepare packing out, rent a place within the interim for her, and let her stay until she leaves. Goodluck

Best solution ever proffered. Oga, let your wife know about it. by telling her, you will know by her actions whether her friend have told her. You are man, dont allow your emotion suppress your man-ability. Your wife have told her friend every of your weak points. That is why she told a week leave.

You should tell her. If you could two things are likely to happen.

1. She'd get mad and send her friend away in which case you will know she ain't what everyone thinks she's and you can get her to forgive your infidelity.
2. She will pretend to be hurt but still will not send her friend away in which case you have reason to be very very very very worried because it'd mean she's okay with it and, or planned/intended for it to happen meaning she's a lez and will expect you to be okay with it when she happens to swing wit bestie's boo/hubby in the future.

Either way you need to get your life together and it can't happen ever unless you tell you wife.

all of you are shouting lesbian up and dow are you sure its not even worse than that as for me i believe this a cult thing o

internationalman:
I didn't read the long story but all I know is whoever brings their problem to nairaland to get solution always ends up getting comments that will compound the problem..


Most of these people married folks are seeking solution from online are merely 17 year olds

You are wrong on that, I can assure you. Many people have brought their marital problems here and learned one or two useful things that helped them made what they considered best decision

stevmatt15:
But lesbians don't have sex with men.

Partial lesbian, they are bisexual
That guy Bleep up sha, the friend would have assisted the friend by getting a house for her
That will reduce the problem.

You are a dog and I can understand why women call men such. Your wife knew you are a dog and decided to give you the bait. No wife or girlfriend will leave her girl-friend alone with the husband or bf and travel out of the state.

Dog will be dogs..

Did your Wife set you up? Well I think so

Is your wife Bi-sexual/Bi-Curious? I think she is

Does your wife want a 3some? I don’t think she will mind

Where you wrong to sleep with your wife’s bestie ? You could have handled the situation much better, you fell too soon

Should you open up to your wife? I’m 75% sure she already knows

Smh!

Put their two belle and watch how everything sorts itself out!

Stranger than fiction. Almost too poetic. I will say it's a fantasy stuck in o.ps head.