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|I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Overlordship: 12:51pm On Feb 14|
Hello all, I got married to my wife 9 months ago and it has been a wonderful experience all through until her friend showed up two months ago. That was actually the first time I was meeting her as she wasn’t around for our wedding as she was doing her masters programme in South Africa. I knew she and my wife were closed as she was always talking about her best friend while we were courting.
She showed up at our house and I thought she came to visit and catch up with old times with my wife so I gladly welcome her. Later in the night, my wife told me she will be staying with us for sometimes while she gets a job. I was upset because we never discussed it before and I made my feeling known. Nevertheless, I had to give in since she said the friend also accommodated her in her room back at school for a session. So, I accepted her living with us and I felt it was only for a short time. We gave her the visitor’s room.
The first trouble started when I noticed her night gown barely covered her bum and sometimes were transparent with her boobs showing whenever she comes to the sitting room. I expressed my reservations about it to my wife and she dismissed it playfully that it was nothing and that what were my eyes wandering there for, so I let it go. Sometimes, she will enter her bedroom without knocking saying she wants to gist with her friend. And I will just stay on my side of the bed playing with my phone while the both talked. I noticed my wife doesn’t care, but I don’t want any issue with her so I accepted it with the hope her friend will soon leave the house.
I must admit that the friend was a bit useful in the house. My wife closes late than I, and her friend stays home when she’s not job hunting, so sometimes she would have cooked before we arrived. Though, I complained about this also, but wifey believe it was trivial. Her friend was intelligent and as times goes on, we talked on a wide range of topic while waiting for wife to come back from home so I stopped complaining about her to my wife.
It became so normal about her dressing that I accepted it like that. There was a day she came to our room to gist with my wife and playfully, my wife hit me with a pillow and before you know it, the three of us were throwing pillows about and playing like kids. They were both jumping on me and incidentally, I had a hard on as we were playin. I noticed her friend was slightly brushing her hand on me. I had to quickly stop and stylishly use the pillow to cover myself until I came down. I was really uncomfortable with the whole situation, but I didn’t complain to my wife again since I know what she will say. What I just keep asking my wife is when her friend was leaving.
The incident that happened two weeks really changed things. My wife took one week leave and decided to visit her parents outside the state we reside. I wasn’t okay with it leaving her friend alone with me, but she said I will just do fine. I tried to come home late for the first three days so I can completely avoid her, until the fourth day when she came into my room. I didn’t want to be rude by asking her to leave, so I asked her to sit down on the sofa in the bedroom. We first spoke about football, politics and other things. I can’t really say what happened, but in a lapse of judgement, we started kissing and then I had sex with her. I felt regret immediately and started apologizing to her for taking advantage of her. What she said really dazzled me. She said I shouldn’t be sorry as my wife never keep talking of our big I am and how sex was so great. And how she wishes her friend can experience what she was talking about.
My regrets turned to anger immediately and I asked her if she and my wife planned this whole episode just to confirm what my wife was boasting about. She denied being in cohort with my wife, but said something that devastated me. She said my wife wouldn’t mind as they sometimes share things together as they are besties for life right from their school days. I had to quickly exit the room to the balcony. We barely talked again until wife came back, though she tried to initiate some conversation, which I rebuffed. My wife further heightened my apprehension when wife asked if her friend really took care of me and that I couldn’t have missed her much since her friend was around. The dilemma now is that I can’t confront my wife about the incident as I will be admitting I slept with her friend. Her friend is also acting normal and I am afraid if she will inform her “bestie for life”. I have been thinking, what if they had been “Sex partners” before and I married a bisexual cos of the way they do play together. I had just been asking her when her friend was leaving and I don’t want to be forceful because of what happened between us.
Note, my wife has been a good wife. All my family member love her like she’s part of them and she is so comfortable with them. We never had any issues except this. I need advice on how to go on so I don’t destroy my marriage.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Ladylite: 12:55pm On Feb 14|
Ha missimelda01 come and epp us on this if you are not too busy with your boo
You have entered valentine trap. Soon you will be having threesomes.
If you want it to stop. Bring a man to your house and call him your bestie... So the both of them can hook up and leave you alone. Then you and your wife can gracefully send them out by helping them gather some fund and get them their own accommodation FAR FAR away from your place.
Your wife really wants a threesomeeee without saying it verbally so she won't look like a sluttttyyy chic that she actually is. Ensure you get a male counterpart o.
FYI your wife is secretly cheating on you....
Get a bug on phone and hidden CCTV in the house. You will discover lesbiaan activities.
I wish you knew this before the marriage. Many lesbiaansss allow themselves marry and hang out to commit their heinous lewd acts under such guise because as long as it's same sex their husbands can't suspect a thing.
I hope when the both women get pregnant for you, you can shoulder it.
This matter will END once you inform family. But I know since you are enjoying it, you won't do it.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by daviddelly(m): 12:57pm On Feb 14|
sorry dude buh your marriage is about to crash, act fast now,your wife nah bi-sexual ,if you no you no
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by healthserve(m): 12:58pm On Feb 14|
I read it all.
Joke or real this matter pass me I swear. Let me invite the elders here.
Oya o elders Joke or real tuck mouth Daddytime Pansophist FranchasNg Crackhaus
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Marvyx(m): 12:59pm On Feb 14|
Oboy... The kind of stories we see here nowadays. Anyway.. If this isn't fiction, I'll be damned shocked to the core. Lemme wait for the elders to advise or detectives to unravel mysteries.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by thorpido(m): 1:01pm On Feb 14|
This friend has to leave your house.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by daddytime(m): 1:01pm On Feb 14|
You are quiet about the "do" as if you are sure she hasn't told your wife how it all played out.
They'd both be laughing at your hypocrisy and lame attempt at being a faithful husband.
You are obviously the third force in this same-sex relationship or swinging friends.
If I were you, na to marry her join my wife sef make everybody happy.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by kenodrill: 1:04pm On Feb 14|
Oga your wife is bisexual.she and her friend are both lesbians.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by otipoju(m): 1:10pm On Feb 14|
There is one case i am witnessing now oo.
I just feel sorry for the guy if he marries the girl.
|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by funmisticqueen2(m): 1:14pm On Feb 14|
Overlordship:your wife and her friend have to be lesbians
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by internationalman(m): 1:17pm On Feb 14|
I didn't read the long story but all I know is whoever brings their problem to nairaland to get solution always ends up getting comments that will compound the problem..
Most of these people married folks are seeking solution from online are merely 17 year olds
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by iLegendd: 1:22pm On Feb 14|
You're complaining too much. I guess you're a pastor-to-be. Also, you act like a weak man because of the statement, "But I don’t want any issue with her so I accepted it."
Real men want issues while their wives pray for no issues. A relationship where the man does not want issues hardly last. It's more like saying, "I'm afraid of my wife because she is the boss."
I have told men countless times to learn 3 skills, else their marriages or relationships will NEVER last and those skills are
1. How to handle women skill
2. How to make money skill
3. How to manage money skill
You probably have skill 2 and 3, but lack skill 1. They are playing a game and I know the game. Go learn about women and psychology.
When your wife's best friend gets married, your wife will 100% sleep with her friend's husband whether you like it or not. The swinging has already started. They may not even be bisexual or lesbians, but swingers. Though, they exhibited the "bi" attributes.
Extra info: I didn't want to say this because it will make you depressed, but I'll reveal it. Your wife is 100% currently sleeping with another man.
That person is probably her ex and he is so great in bed, but as a bad boy, that young man refused to commit, so she dumped him and got married to you before she hits menopause.
She has been cheating with him, but she felt she has betrayed you, so she used her friend to set you up to equalize the cheat.
Now, she no longer feels remorseful. She is so happy the equation is equal. She can now sleep with that young man or those young men day and night without feeling like a LovePeddler or a cheat.
Afterall, she'll say to herself, "I have been with these men and slept with them countless times before I met you. Moreover, you too slept with my friend, so no biggie."
Your wife gained 3 things
1. She is no longer feeling remorseful
2. She is still having the best sex of her life behind your back as she has been having before meeting you
3. If you catch her and accuse her, she will tell you the story of how you first cheated on her with her best friend and paint you as an unfaithful husband
Note: Her best friend has already told her even though they are both acting as if they didn't know what happened. It's all staged. Best friends reveal things to each other they can't even reveal to their parents or spouses. The bond between besties is unexplainable — especially the ones I like to call 'partners-in-crime.'
Women love different sweet dicks and your woman now has the privilege to get as many as she wants without remorse. Why? You did it too and she knows you'll still do it again and again.
She now has the belief that, "For my husband to cheat with my best friend and think I don't know, he can actually cheat with other women, especially his ex, so why shouldn't I cheat with my ex too? After all, if you do me I do you, man no go vex."
Final Tip: Just watch how happier your wife will be nowadays because a huge burden has been lifted off her shoulder. It's just like someone who accidentally killed another woman's child and out of fear, hurriedly buried the child. She will be restless while pretending to be happy — as she silently prays for no one to ever find out. All of a sudden, she woke from sleep and realized it was just a dream.
Do you know how relieved she will feel? That is exactly how your wife is feeling. She believes she can happily fly now like a free bird.
Las las, if yawa gas, she go say na you start am, but truly, she is the one who started the cheating and confided with her partner-in-crime, best friend, to switch the game and make you look like the bad person.
Truly, you are finally the bad person because you weren't man enough to control your marriage and who comes in or how many days a visitor is allowed to stay. That statement you made above is still making me angry. How can a real man say, "But I don’t want any issue with her so I accepted it?"
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Skmoda360(m): 1:25pm On Feb 14|
Your wife is a bisexual my bro and she came with her partner to come stay with you guys....
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Fountainofyouth(f): 1:33pm On Feb 14|
You should leave nairaland since you are a 90 year old innit?
Op, threaten your wife by telling her its either you leave the house for them or the friend leaves,
As for the sex thing, you are stupid for fvcking her, when you know you're getting hard on and whatnot with the friend, why didn't you move out and live with a friend or hotel till your wife gets back? You clearly have no tangible reason to have fvcked her mister, tell your wife and free yourself of the guilt.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by McCoy662(m): 1:36pm On Feb 14|
They are coming to tell you to go and make money.
Well, I think you should tell your wife that you are not longer comfortable with her staying with you. If possible, offer to help her pay for an apartment, your wife's reaction will tell you if they have anything going on between them
Besides, if ur wife don't deny you sex, then maybe she's just a low level bisexual and may not be something to worry about. Soon, she will be a mother and she will appreciate sense more.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Mykel51(m): 1:42pm On Feb 14|
Good Script !
I would produce it for you. Tony Umez would be the Husband, Genevieve the Wife and Ini Edo the wife's friend.
Movie Title: My Two Wives
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Jersuiyjoe(m): 1:50pm On Feb 14|
just almost what I wanted to say.
|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by dominiick(m): 1:51pm On Feb 14|
This matter is a serious one
The elders are coming
Let me comment my reserve
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Jersuiyjoe(m): 1:53pm On Feb 14|
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Parrie(m): 2:06pm On Feb 14|
she manipulated you to have sex wit her,and u fell for.Now u have open a new chapter of trouble, becus it will be hard for you to send her away. you will live wit the fear that she might tell your wife wat happen while she was away. believe it or not there must be a reason your wife travel knowing that she left her and her hubby in de same house.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by 0KNM(m): 2:07pm On Feb 14|
Ogbenutan! Don’t know what to say.
Let me pretend I didn’t read this
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by MickzyDonald(m): 2:08pm On Feb 14|
Please what's the title of this movie because they showed it on African magic Yoruba but i wasn't paying attention to it because i didn't like Yoruba movie's
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by bluebay(m): 2:08pm On Feb 14|
I think your wife is Having an affair outside too and she wants her friend to keep your mind off things with they both know about...
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by pansophist(m): 2:08pm On Feb 14|
This is a typical case of the "slippery slope", where a single permitted event compounds into something bigger, and negative. The first mistake you made was allowing her to live in your place and look for a job, with a revealing dress, then sexually suggestive play (the pillow fight), then deeper by engaging in interlocution deeper and deeper. Its clearly a trap between them both of which sadly, you fell for it. One thing is clear, and it is that your wife knows you and her friend slept together. Infact few mins after the act.
Also, your wife is suspiciously not whom you thought you married. What kind of woman will jeopardise the integrity of her matrimony by inviting a friend over, downplaying your legitimate conplains about her provocative dressing and leaving you both to for days? She can be a lesbian, a bi, or have some ulterior motive, but she doesnt respect your home, you and the marriage. That is uncontestable.
As for sleeping with your wife friend, the mistake has been done, and you have to take necessary measures that will pronounce your regret, remorse and a need a a radical change of the whole scenario. Firstly, you should tell your wife, that's the honorable thing to do. Dont ever think she doesnt know, she knows. Tell her. Telling her means you're hiding nothing from her, and her reaction will let you know where you stand.
Expectedly, she should fight her friend and send her packing herself, because what friend betrays a friend by sleeping with her husband ? If she doesn't act like that, then you'll have your evidence. If she is an accomplice or not. Secondly, regardless if she chased her friend out, make sure she doesnt stay an extra night in the house. If she needs extra days to prepare packing out, rent a place within the interim for her, and let her stay until she leaves. Goodluck
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by oglalasioux(m): 2:09pm On Feb 14|
You allowed your wife to bring in her lesbian partner into the house. The seductive dressings and moves are for your wife not for you. Your wife is the butch (husband).
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by punisha: 2:15pm On Feb 14|
Man's wonderfully blessed with a bisexual wife who is OK with sharing her hubby and a possible threesomee!!
Man's also fuckeed up cos man's never gonna have peace of mind the rest of his life knowing he is married to an oloshoo.
Man is also a slimy cheating he goat... Who won't stop cheating on his wife anytime soon.
Man's blessed n cursed same time...inside life.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by gingercrazy: 2:18pm On Feb 14|
OP I honestly don't know what advise I can give to you. this is some serious sh!t you got yourself into.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by PatriotTemidayo: 2:29pm On Feb 14|
Your wife was a Lesbian. She just set a trap for you and you jumped right into it.
She wanted party but she needed to to have something on you. Now you can't say no.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Zombiekiller010: 2:32pm On Feb 14|
Be careful, either set up or not, Be careful
|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by dinachi(m): 2:42pm On Feb 14|
Overlordship:Foolish man, your wife is a lesbian and has been a lesbian under your nose, fucking and enjoying her lesbian partner why your foolish self like most men failed to notice anything!
My dear I am sorry for you, you married a lesbian. And let me tell you, your wife will rather dump your clueless ass than her real lover who truly satisfies her!
Now that they have roped you in, watch as they are free to explore themselves in front of you, if you make any noise your lesbian wife will divorce you and claim that you committed adultery with her friend and the pain drove her to lesbianism!
That's how women lie, she will cry while saying it and a lot of men, you know most young men are mostly foolish will support her and blame you!
They set you up!
Install coded cameras in your house, and observe your wife sucking her bestie pussy!
Confront your wife, ask her directly if her friend is her lesbian partner, keep a hidden camera and recording device nearby
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by CosmicJames(m): 2:52pm On Feb 14|
The man is a beta and the wife knows it.
He is helpless! He has made two big mistakes already.
He can't even threaten his wife at this stage.
The best he can do is to continue from where he stops.
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|Re: I Suspect My Wife Is Setting Me Up With Her Friend by Bluezy13(m): 2:55pm On Feb 14|
The woman I'm going to marry knows already that I won't think twice before sleeping with any mature female she will bring to the house to stay longer than 3 days.
She knows I won't cheat on her but not when she brings another lady to stay with us.
Anyways, she wouldn't dare.
I hate temptation.
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