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See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by kennybabs1980: 11:38pm On Feb 19, 2020
Chuks is a great guy, a good friend of mine in my office. He's happily married as far as I'm concerned. His wife is a school teacher and they have two kids. But I noticed that a particular beautiful lady comes to check on him in the office at least once a week. I asked him about the lady last week, he said she's just a friend. When I probed further, I discovered that the lady is a single mother of two and works as a nurse. That's last week.
Today he called me by himself and told me he's dating the lady and that his wife caused it. He said his wife has timetable for sex, he can't touch her at anytime he like, she complains a lot and tells him sex is not food. He said there are times she won't allow him to touch her in a whole month and that this causes a lot of arguments in their home incessantly. He said he made up his mind to stop this incessant arguments this year and therefore went for this beautiful single mother who has been satisfying him sexually since January. I told him I didn't agree with his solution to his wife's attitude if its true and he told me he had peace since he ventured outside his matrimonial home to get regular sex and that his wife hasn't ask from him since he stopped asking her for sex since January. Since I ain't in his shoe, I couldn't really prevail on him to stop?
Is this a genuine reason for adultery?
Can't he make more effort to sort things out with his wife?
Can't this strange lady cause trouble for him in his family?

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by dawnomike(m): 11:43pm On Feb 19, 2020
Inasmuch as i understand his 'sexual frustration' to some extent... It is not enough excuse to have a mistress

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Adgideon(m): 11:46pm On Feb 19, 2020
Well the wife is the cause of his going out that is if he is saying or telling you the truth adultery is not the solution, the home might be broken if the wife gets know keep talking to him ,
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by wwwkaycom(m): 11:50pm On Feb 19, 2020
kennybabs1980:
Chuks is a great guy, a good friend of mine in my office. He's happily married as far as I'm concerned. His wife is a school teacher and they have two kids. But I noticed that a particular beautiful lady comes to check on him in the office at least once a week. I asked him about the lady last week, he said she's just a friend. When I probed further, I discovered that the lady is a single mother of two and works as a nurse. That's last week.
Today he called me by himself and told me he's dating the lady and that his wife caused it. He said his wife has timetable for sex, he can't touch her at anytime he like, she complains a lot and tells him sex is not food. He said there are times she won't allow him to touch her in a whole month and that this causes a lot of arguments in their home incessantly. He said he made up his mind to stop this incessant arguments this year and therefore went for this beautiful single mother who has been satisfying him sexually since January. I told him I didn't agree with his solution to his wife's attitude if its true and he told me he had peace since he ventured outside his matrimonial home to get regular sex and that his wife hasn't ask from him since he stopped asking her for sex since January. Since I ain't in his shoe, I couldn't really prevail on him to stop?
Is this a genuine reason for adultery?
Can't he make more effort to sort things out with his wife?
Can't this strange lady cause trouble for him in his family?
Like one of my friends used to say, marriage is overrated, marriage is a scam, honestly, let him continue to enjoy himself so that he won't just hurt himself by continuing to cope with that sadist he got hooked to.
My opinion, No apology.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:54pm On Feb 19, 2020
no matter what flimsy excuses he would bring to the table.... he should either:
A) divorce his wife 1st and have all the sex/marry that other lady afterwards... or better yet
B) he should tell his wife that if she doesnt accept his sexual demands, he will get a mistress. case closed!

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Diamond23(f): 12:01am On Feb 20, 2020
kennybabs1980:
Chuks is a great guy, a good friend of mine in my office. He's happily married as far as I'm concerned. His wife is a school teacher and they have two kids. But I noticed that a particular beautiful lady comes to check on him in the office at least once a week. I asked him about the lady last week, he said she's just a friend. When I probed further, I discovered that the lady is a single mother of two and works as a nurse. That's last week.
Today he called me by himself and told me he's dating the lady and that his wife caused it. He said his wife has [/b] timetable for sex, he can't touch her at anytime he like, [b] she complains a lot and tells him sex is not food. He said there are times she won't allow him to touch her in a whole month and that this causes a lot of arguments in their home incessantly. He said he made up his mind to stop this incessant arguments this year and therefore went for this beautiful single mother who has been satisfying him sexually since January. I told him I didn't agree with his solution to his wife's attitude if its true and he told me he had peace since he ventured outside his matrimonial home to get regular sex and that his wife hasn't ask from him since he stopped asking her for sex since January. Since I ain't in his shoe, I couldn't really prevail on him to stop?
Is this a genuine reason for adultery?
Can't he make more effort to sort things out with his wife?
Can't this strange lady cause trouble for him in his family?
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Can't stop laughing at d bolded. Once u get married to a teacher everything will v schedule and measurement
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by kabe1: 12:07am On Feb 20, 2020
kennybabs1980:
Chuks is a great guy, a good friend of mine in my office. He's happily married as far as I'm concerned. His wife is a school teacher and they have two kids. But I noticed that a particular beautiful lady comes to check on him in the office at least once a week. I asked him about the lady last week, he said she's just a friend. When I probed further, I discovered that the lady is a single mother of two and works as a nurse. That's last week.
trouble for him in his family?

You're friend's approach makes a lot of sense to me. Some women have become "ireasonable".

If the side chick can bring him peace of mind, let him continue.

That's what I also do.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by DaHrNn0001: 1:07am On Feb 20, 2020
It's actually very hurtful finding yourself in that situation but never a justification for cheating. But in true sense of it,a lot of men has resorted to this cus our wives refused being our wives and therefore resorting to this... I'm equally in that shoes but I've made up my mind to be diligent but how long can it last when I have needs too
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by cococandy(f): 1:07am On Feb 20, 2020
As long the excuse is acceptable to him when his wife wants a side dude , then all’s good.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Foodqueen(f): 3:42am On Feb 20, 2020
Most men are complaining about the same thing up there..
Na waoh!!!
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Hed0nist: 5:55am On Feb 20, 2020
Would you rather your friend dies of stress from arguing every day? Especially when ordinary sex is the problem? Mind your business guy. Someone has found a working solution and you're worried. Are you really his friend? grin

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by chatinent: 6:09am On Feb 20, 2020
He's an infidel! That is no justification. That's sexuality immorality, which is forbidden in all religions.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by lilyheaven: 7:13am On Feb 20, 2020
A cheat is a cheat, he is never going to change, he didn't notice his wife sex application before marriage, because he was enjoying it outside.
Imagine, he found himself a nurse as a side chick, he won't let her go ooo, there punna dey sweet. Or you can start a midnight prayer for him.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by snitchbitch: 7:27am On Feb 20, 2020
the older women grow, the greedier they become, they usually believe that their pvssies are worth a million dollars but prostitu.tes sell them on the street for N500 everyday!!!

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by CosmicJames(m): 7:34am On Feb 20, 2020
chatinent:
He's an infidel! That is no justification. That's sexuality immorality, which is forbidden in all religions.
But denying her husband sex is unforbiden? I hear you

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by CosmicJames(m): 7:38am On Feb 20, 2020
cococandy:
As long the excuse is acceptable to him when his wife wants a side dude , then all’s good.
The condition must be the same then.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 7:48am On Feb 20, 2020
The wife is not ready yet. She has not said what is wrong with her. Or she didn't have a proper orientation about marriage. If this case gets to the church, family, etc,she will be blamed for being foolish. Though the man will be reprimanded for taking the wrong approach.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Nn3muka(f): 8:11am On Feb 20, 2020
Same topic of discussion for Very poor Nigerians.
It's either you people are raping your house helps, sleeping with step children or cheating with anything in a skirt.
So many of you are bereft of ideas that can alleviate your status but here we are discussing mundane things.
I tire for una

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by wwwkaycom(m): 8:41am On Feb 20, 2020
Nn3muka:
Same topic of discussion for Very poor Nigerians.
It's either you people are raping your house helps, sleeping with step children or cheating with anything in a skirt.
So many of you are bereft of ideas that can alleviate your status but here we are discussing mundane things.
I tire for una

You better get off here if you have nothing tangible to contribute, you that have great ideas, how far have you gone in alleviating your status? How far have you gone in becoming a better lady who isn't only waiting on a man to pay all bills while you waste away in idleness, rubbish!

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Nn3muka(f): 8:55am On Feb 20, 2020
wwwkaycom:
You better get off here if you have nothing tangible to contribute, you that have great ideas, how far have you gone in alleviating your status? How far have you gone in becoming a better lady who isn't only waiting on a man to pay all bills while you waste away in idleness, rubbish!

Stale undecided
Don't you guys have any other thing to say?
I understand that all the women in your life are soo dependent and sleep with men for money but some of us are not in same WhatsApp group like them.

You sef that is talking, have you eaten today? Can you afford to feed yourself? Are you busy or just busy on Nairaland? Have you paid your bills let alone afford to pay a babes bill.
Abeg shift make I see road

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Mizwisdom(f): 9:54am On Feb 20, 2020
So because of sexual time table he decided to commit adultery? is this what he will tell Jesus on judgement day?
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by spongeisback: 9:56am On Feb 20, 2020
My colleague got infected with HIV BY HER HUSBAND.

Very hardworking,beautiful and calm lady! She has been coughing non stop for months even if she takes drugs it still comes back, she was asked to go for a test on Monday and she did. HIV positive.


Nobody deserves to go through this. Over 60 percent of sexually active nigerians don’t use condoms and I can bet that single mother of two also have other partners.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Vyolet(f): 10:11am On Feb 20, 2020
Everytime Sex Sex Sex, una no dey tire?

The nurse is giving you steady because she is not yet your wife, wait until she gets comfortable, you will know she is worse than your wife.

My pain is the numerous STI's you are exposing your wife to, do you even know how many more guys are fucking that nurse? Gosh !
Busuru.
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by infotainment(m): 11:18am On Feb 20, 2020
kennybabs1980:
Chuks is a great guy, a good friend of mine in my office. He's happily married as far as I'm concerned. His wife is a school teacher and they have two kids. But I noticed that a particular beautiful lady comes to check on him in the office at least once a week. I asked him about the lady last week, he said she's just a friend. When I probed further, I discovered that the lady is a single mother of two and works as a nurse. That's last week.
Today he called me by himself and told me he's dating the lady and that his wife caused it. He said his wife has timetable for sex, he can't touch her at anytime he like, she complains a lot and tells him sex is not food. He said there are times she won't allow him to touch her in a whole month and that this causes a lot of arguments in their home incessantly. He said he made up his mind to stop this incessant arguments this year and therefore went for this beautiful single mother who has been satisfying him sexually since January. I told him I didn't agree with his solution to his wife's attitude if its true and he told me he had peace since he ventured outside his matrimonial home to get regular sex and that his wife hasn't ask from him since he stopped asking her for sex since January. Since I ain't in his shoe, I couldn't really prevail on him to stop?
Is this a genuine reason for adultery?
Can't he make more effort to sort things out with his wife?
Can't this strange lady cause trouble for him in his family?
The truth of the matter is that many marriages are stable because of the presence of side chicks. As far as the wife sees no evil and hears no evil. grin grin grin grin

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by UjuJoan2: 11:38am On Feb 20, 2020
Whatever works for him . . . To each his own!
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by crackkhaus: 11:45am On Feb 20, 2020
You should be glad he trusted you enough to tell you. Do you know how many married men have side-chics somewhere? You will be surprised.
Most of them, their wives will swear they have the best husbands because he cooks, helps around the house and does not give them any issues, not knowing it's because someone is giving him peace outside.

Just tell him to make sure he always uses protection. Apart from STDs, side-chics have a habit of deliberately getting pregnant just to elevate their status - nothing guarantees absolute power over a married man than having a child for him which both of them are keeping secret.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by crackkhaus: 11:51am On Feb 20, 2020
infotainment:

The truth of the matter is that many marriages are stable because of the presence of side chicks. As far as the wife sees no evil and hears no evil. grin grin grin grin
They don't know..

There are two things that make a Nigerian home stable and peaceful - It's either the man is very religious and serves God faithfully which translates into happiness and peace, OR the man simply acts a fool by overlooking a lot of things but keeps one or two lady friends outside for his peace of mind.

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Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Bola146(f): 11:54am On Feb 20, 2020
embarassed Very bad of him... why not tell the wife and be frank about it? Maybe the sex life of the man is poor undecided or he should make her happy... HIV is real
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by content208: 12:03pm On Feb 20, 2020
cococandy:
As long the excuse is acceptable to him when his wife wants a side dude , then all’s good.

Too much use of relaxer has a way of making many women talk and act dumb.
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by cococandy(f): 12:09pm On Feb 20, 2020
content208:


Too much use of relaxer has a way of making many women talk and act dumb.

Right? cheesy

Must be relaxer fueling all this nonsense talk on this thread . Hehehe
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Mobree: 1:02pm On Feb 20, 2020
The guy probably doesn't know how to love his wife properly. He should ask her why she hates sex and then take it from there.
Re: See His Reason For Having A Mistress Outside Marriage by Gloriagee(f): 1:36pm On Feb 20, 2020
And he's happily married as far as your concerned while cheating. Only God knows wat happily married means to Nigerians!!!

kennybabs1980:

Chuks is a great guy, a good friend of mine in my office. He's happily married as far as I'm concerned. His wife is a school teacher and they have two kids. But I noticed that a particular beautiful lady comes to check on him in the office at least once a week. I asked him about the lady last week, he said she's just a friend. When I probed further, I discovered that the lady is a single mother of two and works as a nurse. That's last week.?
Can't this strange lady cause trouble for him in his family?

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