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Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 7:54am On Aug 29, 2023
I will make this as brief as possible.

There is a man living with 3 children, a teenage daughter and two sons. His wife is late.
He's about 45yrs old.
He does all kinds of menial job.. I mean anything, from riding okada to clearing grass or labourer for bricklayer..... anything at all to put food on the table for him and his children.

He's someone that usually come to me sometimes for advice. Last year I advised him to put his children in public school and he did.

Most times when you see him, he is always thinking and talking to himself now and he wasn't like this before.

Everyone have noticed that he's depressed.

The last few weeks have become worse, u see him walking up and down asking everyone if there is anything he can do to get paid.

Saw me yesterday and he just said " kini mo leshe oti su mi".

I looked at his teary eyes and I told him, I will get back to him.

I don't even know what to tell him anymore, cos I know almost all his struggles.

What advise can I give.

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by ahnie: 8:06am On Aug 29, 2023
He has really seen n gone thru alot.

If you have a TikTok account,I would advice you seek for his consent first,then feature him on your page that's if your fanbase is massive then hopefully he will get help from there.

But for the meantime if you have anything to give to him pls do not hesitate to be of help to him.

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Kriss216: 8:28am On Aug 29, 2023
Saw me yesterday and he just said " kini mo leshe oti su mi".

What does this mean in English?
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 8:37am On Aug 29, 2023
ahnie:
He has really seen n gone thru alot.

If you have a TikTok account,I would advice you seek for his consent first,then feature him on your page that's if your fanbase is massive then hopefully he will get help from there.

But for the meantime if you have anything to give to him pls do not hesitate to be of help to him.

Thx sis. Am not on TikTok. I am not a SM person like that.

I do what I can from time to time. The man is so nice and humble. You can't know him and don't want to help.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 9:43am On Aug 29, 2023
Kriss216:
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What does this mean in English?

What can I do, am tired.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Childfree: 3:30pm On Aug 29, 2023
Foodqueen:
I will make this as brief as possible.

There is a man living with 3 children, a teenage daughter and two sons. His wife is late.
He's about 45yrs old.
He does all kinds of menial job.. I mean anything, from riding okada to clearing grass or labourer for bricklayer..... anything at all to put food on the table for him and his children.

He's someone that usually come to me sometimes for advice. Last year I advised him to put his children in public school and he did.

Most times when you see him, he is always thinking and talking to himself now and he wasn't like this before.

Everyone have noticed that he's depressed.

The last few weeks have become worse, u see him walking up and down asking everyone if there is anything he can do to get paid.

Saw me yesterday and he just said " kini mo leshe oti su mi".

I looked at his teary eyes and I told him, I will get back to him.

I don't even know what to tell him anymore, cos I know almost all his struggles.

What advise can I give.

You didn't cite any specific problem how can anyone advice?

What exactly is bothering him hence the depression?

His wife's demise?
Inability to cater for himself and children?
Lack of job?

From what you wrote up there, I find it strange despite the number of things he can do yet it seems even basic feeding is a problem.

Did he lost his job as a result trying to patch things with okada, menial jobs or labourer or were this what he has been always doing to survive?

Why or what happened to riding okada? Isn't this what is putting food on the table for thousands of okada riders?

You mean he'll keep his bike at home and go to clear grass or do labourer work for small token when he can use his bike?

To help him you'll have to tackle the root of his problems.

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 5:14pm On Aug 29, 2023
Childfree:


You didn't cite any specific problem how can anyone advice?

What exactly is bothering him hence the depression?

His wife's demise?
Inability to cater for himself and children?
Lack of job?

From what you wrote up there, I find it strange despite the number of things he can do yet it seems even basic feeding is a problem.

Did he lost his job as a result trying to patch things with okada, menial jobs or labourer or were this what he has been always doing to survive?

Why or what happened to riding okada? Isn't this what is putting food on the table for thousands of okada riders?

You mean he'll keep his bike at home and go to clear grass or do labourer work for small token when he can use his bike?

To help him you'll have to tackle the root of his problems.




The man matter tire me.

He do collect okada from people to ride. Some days are good other days are terrible. Police do deal with okada riders alot in Ikorodu here.

He has collected HP twice that landed in task office.


I don't know what to say to him, that's why I bring it here.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Childfree: 7:30pm On Aug 29, 2023
Foodqueen:


The man matter tire me.

He do collect okada from people to ride. Some days are good other days are terrible. Police do deal with okada riders alot in Ikorodu here.

He has collected HP twice that landed in task office.


I don't know what to say to him, that's why I bring it here.

To be honest I was expecting to hear he lost his job or his business crumbled hence why he's in this situation.

If he is not serious with his life and also doing the right things, no matter what anyone does or advice given to him would be futile.

Definitely something is wrong somewhere. Person who's means of earning is riding bike yet he didn't buy a bike. All this year's what has he been doing? Hmm

He should desist from collecting people's bike, what if it got stolen or got damaged. No be more problem?
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Kobojunkie: 7:34pm On Aug 29, 2023
I suggest backyard gardening which his teenage daughter can maybe busy herself with when she is not in school. grin
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 8:57pm On Nov 11, 2023
cry cry

He passed last night, my heart is so heavy.

Wish I had done more.

What will become of his children after now.... Life is indeed very hard.

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by TheWinterBird(f): 9:01pm On Nov 11, 2023
^ That's sad. May he rest in peace.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Biglittlelois(f): 9:43pm On Nov 11, 2023
Foodqueen:
cry cry

He passed last night, my heart is so heavy.

Wish I had done more.

What will become of his children after now.... Life is indeed very hard.


This is sad, I did not expect this at all, may he find peace 😔
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by frozen70(f): 11:28am On Nov 12, 2023
Foodqueen:
I will make this as brief as possible.

There is a man living with 3 children, a teenage daughter and two sons. His wife is late.
He's about 45yrs old.
He does all kinds of menial job.. I mean anything, from riding okada to clearing grass or labourer for bricklayer..... anything at all to put food on the table for him and his children.

He's someone that usually come to me sometimes for advice. Last year I advised him to put his children in public school and he did.

Most times when you see him, he is always thinking and talking to himself now and he wasn't like this before.

Everyone have noticed that he's depressed.

The last few weeks have become worse, u see him walking up and down asking everyone if there is anything he can do to get paid.

Saw me yesterday and he just said " kini mo leshe oti su mi".

I looked at his teary eyes and I told him, I will get back to him.

I don't even know what to tell him anymore, cos I know almost all his struggles.

What advise can I give.

He needs a woman who will be a mother figure to the children and a companion to him.

He is lonely and suffering with no woman to calm his nerves down

That's my thinking though
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Kobojunkie: 1:04pm On Nov 12, 2023
Foodqueen:
cry cry He passed last night, my heart is so heavy. Wish I had done more. What will become of his children after now.... Life is indeed very hard.
WOW... see how taking on too many burdens take kill off a young man abeg! undecided

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by ahnie: 1:09pm On Nov 12, 2023
Foodqueen:
cry cry

He passed last night, my heart is so heavy.

Wish I had done more.

What will become of his children after now.... Life is indeed very hard.
So sad,I lost a dearest neighbor cum sister thru this way too
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Nobody: 2:54pm On Nov 12, 2023
People are really going through a lot these days.

It's a pity cry cry

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Day169: 3:08pm On Nov 12, 2023
Foodqueen:
cry cry

He passed last night, my heart is so heavy.

Wish I had done more.

What will become of his children after now.... Life is indeed very hard.
It's so sad to read..
Did he attend church or do you attend church?
.. the church can be a place of succor for his children if his family is not in the picture.

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by ahnie: 3:34pm On Nov 12, 2023
The church?
Trust me if they care fore the kids for a month the church will get tired of them,except a kind hearted spirited well to do individual takes them in and cares for them .
Day169:

It's so sad to read..
Did he attend church or do you attend church?
.. the church can be a place of succor for his children if his family is not in the picture.

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by QuinModah(f): 4:10pm On Nov 12, 2023
Foodqueen:
I will make this as brief as possible.

There is a man living with 3 children, a teenage daughter and two sons. His wife is late.
He's about 45yrs old.
He does all kinds of menial job.. I mean anything, from riding okada to clearing grass or labourer for bricklayer..... anything at all to put food on the table for him and his children.

He's someone that usually come to me sometimes for advice. Last year I advised him to put his children in public school and he did.

Most times when you see him, he is always thinking and talking to himself now and he wasn't like this before.

Everyone have noticed that he's depressed.

The last few weeks have become worse, u see him walking up and down asking everyone if there is anything he can do to get paid.

Saw me yesterday and he just said " kini mo leshe oti su mi".

I looked at his teary eyes and I told him, I will get back to him.

I don't even know what to tell him anymore, cos I know almost all his struggles.

What advise can I give.
Was this one-off?
Does he have a church he attends?
What about his siblings?
Does he have friends?
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by QuinModah(f): 4:11pm On Nov 12, 2023
Persephone1:
People are really going through a lot these days.

It's a pity cry cry
it's hitting everyone. If you see onions wey I buy for 50 naira Kai!!!
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by dbestuncle: 5:43pm On Nov 12, 2023
Foodqueen:
cry cry

He passed last night, my heart is so heavy.

Wish I had done more.

What will become of his children after now.... Life is indeed very hard.
Oh God!
Pls how did he die?
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 7:41pm On Nov 12, 2023
QuinModah:
Was this one-off?
Does he have a church he attends?
What about his siblings?
Does he have friends?

The only sibling he have came around this afternoon. People told him to take the children and look after them.

He refuse that he could barely take care of his four children in a single room. He only said he will check on them from time to time.

Everybody know say na lie.

The woman that gave them where they are staying is still ready to keep them there, but we know she might not be able to feed them.

The days ahead is going to be a longggg one.....

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 5:48am On Nov 13, 2023
ahnie:

So sad,I lost a dearest neighbor cum sister thru this way too

So sad.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 5:49am On Nov 13, 2023
frozen70:


He needs a woman who will be a mother figure to the children and a companion to him.

He is lonely and suffering with no woman to calm his nerves down

That's my thinking though

He's late now. The children are shattered.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by ahnie: 6:36am On Nov 13, 2023
Foodqueen:


He's late now. The children are shattered.
When nairaland was nairaland those good ol years, TEHN would have gone to make investigations,then takes up the case.

Not this nonsense nairaland has turned into now.

May his soul rest in peace!

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by frozen70(f): 7:29am On Nov 13, 2023
Foodqueen:


He's late now. The children are shattered.

A woman who is a mother figure will put things right in their lives

The main issue now where to find such woman
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by DeathToSimps: 9:29am On Nov 13, 2023
ahnie:

When nairaland was nairaland those good ol years, TEHN would have gone to make investigations,then takes up the case.

Not this nonsense nairaland has turned into now.

May his soul rest in peace!

Seun allowed Nairaland to lose its true value.
. Back then, there were sensible people on Nairaland.
Not anymore.

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Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Dodada: 3:36pm On Nov 14, 2023
DeathToSimps:


Seun allowed Nairaland to lose its true value.
. Back then, there were sensible people on Nairaland.
Not anymore
.

So, you're saying even YOU are not a sensible person.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 4:24am On Nov 19, 2023
May we not die when our children needs us most.

Any parent is better than no parent at all.

I saw the children yesterday, my heart bleeds.

Mama is trying, but how much more can she handle.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by bukatyne(f): 11:27am On Nov 19, 2023
So sad.

May God send helpers to care for the children. Amen.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Thazard(m): 3:42pm On Nov 19, 2023
Foodqueen:
May we not die when our children needs us most.

Any parent is better than no parent at all.

I saw the children yesterday, my heart bleeds.

Mama is trying, but how much more can she handle.
Please help me, i'm really starving.
Re: Your Opinion Is Needed Here... by Foodqueen(f): 3:49pm On Nov 19, 2023
Thazard:
Please help me, i'm really starving.

Eeya!!!

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