Antina:


Real murderer don't go around planning and telling their future husband the plan

Oh yes murderers do plan. They plan the details of which method they will use. And while she may not have it in mind to do so now, clearly she considers it an option in future for her to have such a detailed explanation concerning it.

DanTunde:
I had to create a new account to post this.
I was having a discussion with my fiancee the other day, I asked her what if we got married and I beat her one day. She laughed and said, that any day I would raise my hand on her she would either poison me or ruin me so bad.
We have been dating for 2 years now, and our wedding is scheduled for April.
Since she said this, I have been having a serious rethink. What if she means what she said, cause my fiancee is pretty determined?

Why are you thinking of beating her.....work on yourself

DanTunde:
we might have a hot quarrel and I beat her out of anger. This things happen

The idea of beating an adult, your wife for that matter is a no, no for me. Don't even try it. If you thinking that way, it means you are not wise. Wise men don't engage their wives in a physical combat.
Use emotional and attitudinal beating instead. It is more painful, and it reset their brains than physical beating.

Next time, learn to ask questions upside down. You will get a fair answer.

For example, jokingly ask her what if you didn't beat her if she does something really bad, will she think you really love her?

RisenPhoenix:


Op was playing with his fiancee and asked what she will do if he beats her. Is that a crime? Real wife beaters don't go around planning and telling their future wife the plan.

Even if he was serious about beating her, are you now equating beating with murder? Her response was too well thought out and detailed to be mere play. She will do it because she has thought about it for long. His question did not provoke that response. It is entrenched in her mind as the best option should the situation occur.

Tell me, if your wife or gf asks you what you will do if she cheats, will you state that you will poison her if that is not what you will really do?

wife beaters don't go around planning and telling their future wife the plan.




U agree with you 100%

Antina:


Real murderer don't go around planning and telling their future husband the plan

Also true... Both the man and woman are just joking....

fatymore:
I once told a guy like that. Alaye Japan.

you shouldn't have said so... In as much as I know you won't hurt him, but people read meanings to words either literally or metaphorically...

ireneidiva:

She was joking about the poison na.

are you the fiancee?.. People should stop joking about such responses.. Both the man and the woman no get sense!

babyfaceafrica:
are you the fiancee?.. People should stop joking about such responses.. Both the man and the woman no get sense!

I was being sarcastic.

RisenPhoenix:


Just leave them jaare. You give them logical points, they respond emotionally. When you make a joke to your future wife and she starts explaining how she will poison you, what poison she will use, how that type of poison affects the body, which type of food best hides the taste, the exact pot she will use to cook it and how she will pretend to be crying when your relatives come; continue thinking of her as your future wife. It is not yesterday that husband killing started and it is not tomorrow that it will stop.

You are definitely the owner of this situation.... OP didn't put all these details ooo

Anyway, I think the lady is better off without you. If you beating your wife is a possibility, she needs to flee...as far away as she can.

RisenPhoenix:


Yes. Would be murderers are a problem. Anyone who feels that taking the life of another is the best option for redress is a problem to herself and to society. Thank God he started it so he can make an informed decision concerning marrying her, otherwise we will wake up one day to another Maryam Sanda or another Yewande Oyediran epic.

Oga, so men don't beat their wives to death abi

smh

chivera018:


This one is not even married and he is already planning how to beat his wife.

As in I think youths in this country have lost it! People are planning how to do great things, spiritually, financially, etc with their spouses, this one is thinking of how to beat his wife like WTAF?!

DanTunde:
I had to create a new account to post this.
I was having a discussion with my fiancee the other day, I asked her what if we got married and I beat her one day. She laughed and said, that any day I would raise my hand on her she would either poison me or ruin me so bad.
We have been dating for 2 years now, and our wedding is scheduled for April.
Since she said this, I have been having a serious rethink. What if she means what she said, cause my fiancee is pretty determined?

You are an idiot. Why would even nurse such thought in the first place?

Mobree:


You are definitely the owner of this situation.... OP didn't put all these details ooo

Anyway, I think the lady is better off without you. If you beating your wife is a possibility, she needs to flee...as far away as she can.

The details she put are sufficient to prove my point. The ones I added were for emphasis.

Whether she flees or not was not the question. The op's misgivings are the topic here.

djon78:


I wonder oo. And some people are supporting him. Why should a sensible man ask such question in the first place.
I'm fact the Lady should kukuma stay away from such man.
Men that entertain such thoughts are very weak men. I am a man, and there is nothing a woman will say that will make me raise my hand to beat her. I never saw my dad do that.
It's an aberration.
There are many more ways to handle a woman. But when a man nurses an idea to beat a woman, that man is a complete scumbag and a low life.
That's why ladies should be very watchful, run very far from a woman beater. He is not a man at all.

Ladies be very careful and observant. Just like this op, they will show there true colors. Be warned!!

thank you my brother

babyfaceafrica:
you shouldn't have said so... In as much as I know you won't hurt him, but people read meanings to words either literally or metaphorically...

The guy is even on Nairaland.. Lmao.

He would be reading this and be Calling me devil

DanTunde:
we might have a hot quarrel and I beat her out of anger. This things happen

Haaaaaaaa
The world � has ended

piippa:
I advice you dump her. Some discussions exposes people. She will eventually do that and even if u don't beat her or you tend to do something else she will surely retaliate in other ways.

Are you for real? He should dump her over banter?! It's not like she said it with anger.

correctguy0900:


I mean i hardly respond here, but the same level of response come from people is quite tempting not to ignore.

Is totally bad raising hand against anybody, man or woman alike.

I have had my girlfriend pushed me ones and almost fell because i wasn't balanced on the ground. But she was stressed and i offended her real bad. We were both wrong, but i can't imagin poisoning her as a consequence of raising her hand on me. She wasn't proud of her reaction, and i understood we are sometimes just being human.

Moreover, poisoning sounds real cold blooded, and he's gonna be eating her food.

It's best she said what was on her mind.. She only said that so the guy wouldn't try to raise his hands on her... We should all just try to make peace reign in our homes... When she nags, just go to the other room...

RisenPhoenix:


Op was playing with his fiancee and asked what she will do if he beats her. Is that a crime? Real wife beaters don't go around planning and telling their future wife the plan.

Even if he was serious about beating her, are you now equating beating with murder? Her response was too well thought out and detailed to be mere play. She will do it because she has thought about it for long. His question did not provoke that response. It is entrenched in her mind as the best option should the situation occur.

Tell me, if your wife or gf asks you what you will do if she cheats, will you state that you will poison her if that is not what you will really do?

Small pikin is doing this one

Oluneutral:



What kind of play is that? Na from clap dance dey start!
He too has been thinking and ruminating on it for long before spewing it out jokingly. I swear, he wasn't expecting the girl's response, the response was a rude shock to him.


But, if you insist the guy was just playing by asking that question, then, the fiancee was probably playing with her response too.

Score=1:1

EOD.

Chop kiss jare

elektra:
LOL!
You better leave her alone before you go and die. Go and marry a woman that will let you beat her to death.

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TheGreatIYANU:


As in I think youths in this country have lost it! People are planning how to do great things, spiritually, financially, etc with their spouses, this one is thinking of how to beat his wife like WTAF?!

Ah swear
The idiot is not even thinking of how to live happily and move forward with his wife, instead he is planning how to panel beat her

DanTunde:
I had to create a new account to post this.
I was having a discussion with my fiancee the other day, I asked her what if we got married and I beat her one day. She laughed and said, that any day I would raise my hand on her she would either poison me or ruin me so bad.
We have been dating for 2 years now, and our wedding is scheduled for April.
Since she said this, I have been having a serious rethink. What if she means what she said, cause my fiancee is pretty determined?

My ex did it severally and after the last one I tipped the police that I have info on a BADOO suspect with evidence and they came looking for him. He left without looking back.thqt was the beginning of freedom and peace in my life.up till now he is still afraid of me,he never knew I could go to that extent.

Don't push a woman to the wall through violence or abuse because most retaliation gets ugly.its better you walk away in peace or stay off.

DanTunde:
we might have a hot quarrel and I beat her out of anger. This things happen

Hot quarrel indeed

So my fiancee told her elder brother about our discussion, he invited me and was threatening me that he won't let me marry his sister unless I sign an undertaking before our wedding can go on. I reminded him of his sister that said she would poison me, he shouted and told me I deserved it if his sister should poison me for beating her.
I told my fiancee that i am calling of the wedding, she hasn't even returned my call or said anything about it. It is like she moved on so quickly like I meant nothing to her even though we have been dating since 2 yrs.

DanTunde:
I had to create a new account to post this.
I was having a discussion with my fiancee the other day, I asked her what if we got married and I beat her one day. She laughed and said, that any day I would raise my hand on her she would either poison me or ruin me so bad.
We have been dating for 2 years now, and our wedding is scheduled for April.
Since she said this, I have been having a serious rethink. What if she means what she said, cause my fiancee is pretty determined?

That question was really uncalled for

With her response, don't dare try it

DanTunde:
So my fiancee told her elder brother about our discussion, he invited me and was threatening me that he won't let me marry his sister unless I sign an undertaking before our wedding can go on. I reminded him of his sister that said she would poison me, he shouted and told me I deserved it if his sister should poison me for beating her.
I told my fiancee that i am calling of the wedding, she hasn't even returned my call or said anything about it. It is like she moved on so quickly like I meant nothing to her even though we have been dating since 2 yrs.

Walai, I love that your fiancee and her brothers die....

This is how every sane family should be. With this type of family, no room for physical abuses from awon cowards who couldn't face Anthony Joshua or their fellow men but will be flexing muscles with their wives.

I'm very sure you never expected your fiancee and her family's reactions.

She has moved on from a potential beast, you too move on to weaklings you will like to have as wife.

EOD.

A man who is bold enough to tell a lady he can entertain the possibility of beating her is equally as deadly as the lady who can entertain the possibility of murder...Dude if you know what is good for you run like a mad dog. A lady who can reply like that will have a very bad mouth and a very bad mouth will push you into raising your hands one day and that would be your funeral!

Lamanii22:



It's best she said what was on her mind.. She only said that so the guy wouldn't try to raise his hands on her... We should all just try to make peace reign in our homes... When she nags, just go to the other room...

And if there is no other room what should he do? Relocate to the roof? Your statement makes an excuse for verbal excuse but punishes physical abuse. That's not wise at all. Ladies are fond of running their mouth like tap and expecting the everything to go fine...inasmuch as physical abuse is shunned so also verbal and psychological abuse from women towards men should also be shunned!

efficiencie:


And if there is no other room what should he do? Relocate to the roof? Your statement makes an excuse for verbal excuse but punishes physical abuse. That's not wise at all. Ladies are fond of running their mouth like tap and expecting the everything to go fine...inasmuch as physical abuse is shunned so also verbal and psychological abuse from women towards men should also be shunned!

If there's no other room... He could go outside and breathe... Take fresh air.. Then come back later...

Loool, you too sign the undertaking noow. You think any family that has lost a daughter to domestic violence will overlook that statement.

What I find baffling is that you do not see anything wrong in what you said and thats worrisome. You are having a rethink about about the wedding because of her reaction to a statement you made and you think she wouldnt think deeply about the statement she reacted too?

You called off the wedding and you are now worried she has not said anything about it and that she has moved on, probably hoping she would cry and beg.

Some people do not take issues like this lightly and your fiancee and her family seem to be among that category.

Young man get in a heated argument with her and hit her now that you guys aren't married, hit her a couple of times, then be on the lookout, whatever she has in store will show symptoms. [color=#770077][/color]