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LordKO:
Yes. However, there's a very thin line between being emotional and being subjugable. Every human being falls under one of the following psychological profiles:

- Every man/woman who has a healthy psychological profile (a strong-minded person) is always emotional (thoughtful and considerate).

- Every man/woman who has a low psychological profile (a feeble-minded person) is always subjugable (servile and foolish).

- Every man/woman who has an unbalanced/insane psychological profile (a head-strong person) is always unemotional (thoughtless and inconsiderate).

Through someone's psychological profile, which any gifted person can easily dissect within few moments, regardless of any kind of glossing, the gifted person can automatically know the other person's moral and emotional quotients and by extension can accurately/almost perfectly forecast what they can do/cannot do at any given time in any situation, either in the present or in the future, subject to circumstances.

chriskosherbal:
Nice one LordKO..I can relate with this very well.

Lamanii22:
Never let your emotions be shown... Try as much as possible to hold it back...

GboyegaD:
There is no crime in being emotional and don't make people affect your psyche negatively. It is normal for you to feel whatever you feel and express it, you owe no one how you live it express your life.

RisenPhoenix:
Don't bottle up, it can depress you in the long run. But learn not to care. With your attitude, many people will take advantage of you. In Nigeria, our selfishness is supreme, and our sorry is totally meaningless.

pocohantas:
That heart you wanna fake-harden is the reason some of your brothers have committed suicide. They bottle up a lot inside.

Emotional people are not as bad as people make them. In fact, they are hardly ever the problem because they take their time to react or take major decisions. The problem should be the people who try to take them for a ride.

However, you shouldn’t be a pushover or an erratic guy. I have met persons who are not necessarily emotional, but they are erratic. People still call them the former when they display their madness.

lecoeur:
that's why Its hidden within me, with that someone can't easily take advantage of me.

RisenPhoenix:
In that case, you are repressing your emotions. It is the habit of people who get depressed and even commit suicide. Don't repress. Just stop caring about people. It is difficult for an intelligent person with a high EQ to do that, but it comes easier with practise. Learn to say no. Learn to assert your self respect and don't be so forgiving when it is clear that a slight to your person is deliberate.

lecoeur:
As for the NO aspect I'm already working on it, even though I don't always feel comfortable saying it

Nnaabros:
This is absolutely wrong. You seriously need a lecture in Emotional Intelligence.

Those emotions are the essence of your humanity. They're what makes you human. Denying them means denying your humanity.

What you need to learn is how to manage your emotions and express them properly, rather than allowing them overwhelm you or suppressing them completely.

Nnaabros:
This is absolutely wrong. You seriously need a lecture in Emotional Intelligence.

Those emotions are the essence of your humanity. They're what makes you human. Denying them means denying your humanity.

What you need to learn is how to manage your emotions and express them properly, rather than allowing them overwhelm you or suppressing them completely.

sassysure:
If u don't want to be a victim of high blood pressure, show that u are human.
Men cry too.
I will never come within miles of any man who hides his emotions well.
He can kill and bury me in less than an hour.

Even Buhari upon how emotionless he is still showed small emotion when he told Jonathan to stop killing boko haram people.

sassysure:
If u don't want to be a victim of high blood pressure, show that u are human.
Men cry too.
I will never come within miles of any man who hides his emotions well.
He can kill and bury me in less than an hour.

Even Buhari upon how emotionless he is still showed small emotion when he told Jonathan to stop killing boko haram people.

crackkhaus:
Why would you want random men to show their emotions to you?
Only your husband and brothers should do that around you.

My personal philosophy about being emotional as a man is to identify the people who I can be vulnerable around, people with whom I can bare every single emotion I'm feeling.

Not everyone deserves that honour to see a man at his most vulnerable emotional state.

It's why some people will describe Mr. X to be very tough & hard-as -shells, nothing gets to him, not easily broken...yet his wife will be secretly smiling & finding it funny just because she understands they don't know and see the part of him that is a big bag of vulnerability - she is the only one who sees that part of him, perhaps his parents and siblings as well.

That's what makes a man a man as regards being emotional. He can't just go about showing every non-essential person how vulnerable and emotional he is - even the crying you mentioned is absolutely not for public viewing, we keep that shít restricted to the presence of those who are dearest to us...that's if the tears have to come out.

sassysure:
Don't even go there.
There are men who ought to be family members or friends etc who rarely shows emotion. I have phobia for people like that and I will make sure we will never cross path in this life and next

Men cry in public too. Nothing wrong with that at all.
It's not done always but if the ocassion call for it, show that u are not made of stick. It will not remove anything from u.

Hmm, HBP is real o.
If u suppress your emotions, it will burst out the wrong way. Not good at all

lecoeur:
Hello nairalanders

This might sound like a kinda girlie talk but I'm a guy a real one...
I discovered I'm too emotional and I think it's a problem because it's been said that as a guy/man you're always how to feel hard emotionally like you're not meant to feel shit, but mine is a different case....
The thing is, I care much about people, I'm in a way generous, harsh words hurt me a lot, I'm more of an introvert, I detest hurting anyone, A simple sorry softens my heart (if anyone does me wrong) and I hardly get angry but whenever I'm angry it's not cool at all.
All these are hidden deep and you can't notice.
As a man to be, do I need the hard kind of emotion/conscience and how do I develop it?

LordKO:
What most people don't know is that it's only someone who's emotional, who can make a rational/logical decision - and being emotional is different from having an abnormal emotional quotient. Humans are emotional beings

crackkhaus:
Why would you want random men to show their emotions to you?
Only your husband and brothers should do that around you.

My personal philosophy about being emotional as a man is to identify the people who I can be vulnerable around, people with whom I can bare every single emotion I'm feeling.

Not everyone deserves that honour to see a man at his most vulnerable emotional state.

It's why some people will describe Mr. X to be very tough & hard-as -shells, nothing gets to him, not easily broken...yet his wife will be secretly smiling & finding it funny just because she understands it's a front and they don't know that part of him that's a big bag of emotional vulnerabilities - she is among the few who have seen that part of him, perhaps his parents and siblings as also.

This is what makes a man a man as regards being emotional.
He can't just go about showing every non-essential person how vulnerable and emotional he is - even the crying you mentioned is absolutely not for public viewing, we keep that shít restricted to the presence of those who are dearest to us...that's if the tears have to come out.

bukatyne:
Every emotionally intelligent person should imbibe this.

crackkhaus:
You're still not getting it.

That you don't see them being emotional does not mean there aren't people who see them when they are.
It's just not you.

Every emotionally healthy person has their place of solace and complete exposure - if you're not seeing them in that state, it simply means they have not registered you as a person who they should be vulnerable around.
For every man who has mastered his emotional state, there is always that one person, sometimes a few more, with whom they let everything loose.

That's not suppression, it's knowing when to suppress and when/where to break down.