Ideally, decision-making should come from husband and wife but the question remains, should it be all decisions?

Decision-making should come from the wife and husband because you have become one. Not many people practice this law in Nigeria and Africa as a whole.

Some people still practice the old way beliefs that a man must be the one to have the final say in any situation even without consulting the wife.

Someone asked if there’s a need for a man to take permission from his wife before bringing in his siblings.

I believe you have to consult your wife and take permission before bringing in any of your siblings because she owns the house, but a friend of mine said if he is to ask for permission for doing something, it shouldn’t be about bringing in his blood.

We all have different views and I’d like to hear yours.

So guys, Does A Man Needs Permission From His Wife Before Bringing Any Of His Siblings To Live With Them?

Let’s hear from you.

Depending in who is paying the house rent.

If the man is the one paying the house rent, then he only needs to inform his wife and NOT a matter of taking permission. Even if you are squatting your friend, if 3rd party is coming in, you need to inform your squatter.

The old wat that the OP mentioned is still better than your so called new ways where husbands and wives are seen as equal. You get married in the morning and start having problems from wedding night and eventually separate and divorce in the social media.

The Bible says "wives respect your husbands, and husbands love your wives" and not the other way round.

A man has to let his wife know some of the sensitive decisions he makes.

That's how family should be.

It's about understanding

It depends on the setup u run in your home...

But a normal human being should tell his wife 3rd party is coming and let her agree....cos u see all this vag!na people ehnnn...they can make life hell for u and ur family member with all your money

If you want peace don't let siblings live with you. When see finish enters, wife will complain about husband's siblings; husband will complain about wife's siblings. Will tell my future wife that if she brings her sister to live with us, she should just know that i have married that one too

He needs her understanding to bring them or jettison the idea, not permission, where principle reigns supreme over expediency, regardless of whether or not he's the breadwinner of the family. Where expediency reigns supreme over principle, however, he won't necessarily need neither her understanding nor permission, if he's the reigning champion in the union, but will surely need permission if the wife is the reigning champion in this regard.

Mind u,there are still homes,where wives brought in husbands relatives without his consent...the only thing,that can cause issues to arise.is after speaking ill about his own siblings.the wife will reject such idea,whether informed or not.

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Her permission is needed cuz its both their houses, especially when the woman is also contributing financially in the home.

I am sure some mails will not like this comment as usual, especially the ones that demand that their wives provide in the home while they treat her like a subhuman and order her submission and respect.

StreetFight:
Depending in who is paying the house rent.

If the man is the one paying the house rent, then he only needs to inform his wife and NOT a matter of taking permission. Even if you are squatting your friend, if 3rd party is coming in, you need to inform your squatter.

The old wat that the OP mentioned is still better than your so called new ways where husbands and wives are seen as equal. You get married in the morning and start having problems from wedding night and eventually separate and divorce in the social media.

The Bible says "wives respect your husbands, and husbands love your wives" and not the other way round.

@bold:

Money, money, money!

@OP:

Normal or ideal couple should discuss and reach a conclusion on such matters.

If he's a man who takes his wife's comfort into consideration, then yes, he needs his wife's permission/agreement to bring in a relative to come live with them.

For a girl/lady/woman, your comfort/space is everything.
When in your father's house, you have that natural sense of rights/entitlement to your own space that no one can invade without your permission (not even your siblings), no matter how big or small it is.
Your husband should be able to give you that also.

Nobody likes to feel invaded/cramped.
One's personality need to be considered in this kind of situation too.
Some people are naturally more accommodating than others, that doesn't mean that the latter are bad people.

Some men need permission and some don't.



There are no general rules. All rules have exceptions.

The mood in the family keeps changing too.


Naturally after giving birth to a new baby, you can expect visitors any time.

Also if the husband is used to keeping his siblings in the house before marriage, the wife would be used to it.

Under certain circumstances, the wife too can say no.


Remember when Sarah asked Abraham to get rid of a family member and Abraham was reluctant, God told Abraham to listen to his wife. (Genesis 21: 9-14)

Yes, he does. Making such decision without consulting with his wife beforehand means he has little to no love or respect for her, otherwise he ought to communicate with her about it to make sure she's okay with the idea.

Ardar:
Her permission is needed cuz its both their houses, especially when the woman is also contributing financially in the home.

I am sure some mails will not like this comment as usual, especially the ones that demand that their wives provide in the home while they treat her like a subhuman and order her submission and respect.

Even if the woman is not contributing, it should be a concensus, they will both bear the responsibilities in one way or the other.

A man is has to let his wife know some of the sensitive decisions he makes.That's how family should be.

chatinent:
A man is has to let his wife know some of the sensitive decisions he makes.

That's how family should be.

you think so

it's necessary to inform the wife. permission is not the right word in this case

Put yourself in the woman's shoes and then answer the question.

mariahAngel:
If he's a man who takes his wife's comfort into consideration, then yes, he needs his wife's permission/agreement to bring in a relative to come live with them.

For a girl/lady/woman, your comfort/space is everything.
When in your father's house, you have that natural sense of rights/entitlement to your own space that no one can invade without your permission (not even your siblings), no matter how big or small it is.
Your husband should be able to give you that also.

Nobody likes to feel invaded/cramped.
One's personality need to be considered in this kind of situation too.
Some people are naturally more accommodating than others, that doesn't mean that the latter are bad people.

you nailed it,

men we forget the big picture especially if the woman doesnt work she will spend more time with relatives and if she doesnt like them they will see fire and abuse etc

then think of family expenses with the added number of people

then self entiltlement from relatives were they expect everything to done for them while wife busy around to please them

Oizee:
it's necessary to inform the wife. permission is not the right word in this case

....Very correct.

kmaster007:
Ideally, decision-making should come from husband and wife but the question remains, should it be all decisions?

Decision-making should come from the wife and husband because you have become one. Not many people practice this law in Nigeria and Africa as a whole.

Some people still practice the old way beliefs that a man must be the one to have the final say in any situation even without consulting the wife.

Someone asked if there’s a need for a man to take permission from his wife before bringing in his siblings.

I believe you have to consult your wife and take permission before bringing in any of your siblings because she owns the house, but a friend of mine said if he is to ask for permission for doing something, it shouldn’t be about bringing in his blood.

We all have different views and I’d like to hear yours.

So guys, Does A Man Needs Permission From His Wife Before Bringing Any Of His Siblings To Live With Them?

Let’s hear from you.

...The word permission sounds too strong and the meaning in this context implies that the man has no say in his home.
It is very necessary to seek for your wife's opinion on such issues but it does not mean taking permission.
The most important thing for both is to know their boundaries and respect such.

Husband and wife should be one, your wife's views, agreement and acceptance matters. By taking dicisions without informing, and holding her views as equally important means treating her as a stranger and even a servant, A wife is not a servant but an helpmeet, it is important, that important decisions in your home as a husband should not be taken alone, even if you know the right thing still seek for hers after then you can lovingly make her know why things should be the way you want.

Discussing issues with your wife as a man does not mean seeking permission. Having someone from the extended family to come live with the couple, be it from the man's side or the woman's side needs to be extensively discussed by the two because the presence of such relative in their home will alter things in terms of finance, sleeping arrangement, feeding, loss of personal space as there are things a couple can no longer spontaneously do because of the presence of a relative in their home etc. For there to be peace in the home, both of them need to be on the same page regarding it

Most times, having siblings come live with a couple has kind of caused strains in marriages and it is not even healthy! Couples if they are in a position to, can contribute in helping their siblings in settling in else where.

JONNYSPUTE:
...The word permission sounds too strong and the meaning in this context implies that the man has no say in his home.
It is very necessary to seek for your wife's opinion on such issues but it does not mean taking permission.
The most important thing for both is to know their boundaries and respect such.

but wat if she said no to Ur request

kmaster007:
but wat if she said no to Ur request

...That is where understanding comes in. Before you engage her in such talks,you would have made sure that all the bottle necks must have been sorted out. So she saying no to your request is a kind of brewing trouble to the family which she wouldn't want.
But if she says No and stand by it,then the next action depend on the man of the house. The way I handle mine might not be good for another man.

For peace to reign, yes. You don't want a situation where your wife and relatives is always at loggerheads just because one person fail to do the right thing in the beginning. Many broken homes you see today are caused by inhouse conflict stemming from lack of understanding between two parties. Hence, agreement is important. Gone are the days of making decisions without informing your partner.

JONNYSPUTE:
...That is where understanding comes in. Before you engage her in such talks,you would have made sure that all the bottle necks must have been sorted out. So she saying no to your request is a kind of brewing trouble to the family which she wouldn't want.
But if she says No and stand by it,then the next action depend on the man of the house. The way I handle mine might not be good for another man.

wat do you think d man suld do and how did you handle urs... if I may ask

kmaster007:
wat do you think d man suld do and how did you handle urs... if I may ask

...That's a private matter

Not permission pe se but inform her of your decision and both of you must agree before you bring her. The home belongs to both of you therefore you don't have the sole right to take that decision alone.

Try and make her see reasons ( cogent one) why you want to bring this person in if you feel she might kick against it.

Decision-making in marriage is done by the couple. If you don't carry your wife along, you will fail. Talk to your wife and make her see reason why your siblings should come and stay with you or better still hire a place for them to avoid that 'entitlement mentality 'of it's my brother's house and begin to undermine your spouse. Av always adviced young men to hire a place before getting married and not marry into a family compound except none of your siblings are living there.

It not called permission.
You should call your wife and inform her of your decision and explain to her why.
If she doesnt agree, she will give you good reasons why she doesnt want it.
Dont just bring someone over like that, without informing her.