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tripplephi:
Hmmm you have strong points sir, BUT we must understand one thing, NIGERIA IS AN EXAGGERATIVE STATE, meaning we go to the extreme with whatever we copy from the western world.

also sir I NEVER SAID LOVE FADES, my narrative was simply to attack what we call LOVE, for BUTTERFLIES WILL ALWAYS FLY AWAY, and all the horniness and hormones will calm down.... THIS IS WHERE LOVE IS REDEFINED (if from the beginning it was not defined). LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, but a FILLING- LOVE is not feeling I need you, but taking the responsibility of joyfully FILLING a need in you no matter what.
Love is a herculean responsibility and choice despite age, circumstances, body shape, odour and health/financial status. The ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY has subtly but deeply ruined and perverted the definition of Love for our generation. So it is painted as EROTIC FINANCIAL freedom rather than RESPONSIBILITY, SACRIFICES, CLEAR TRANSPARENT COMMUNICATION, BATTLES, VICTORIES and some losses, etc.

SUBMISSION sir, has been grossly misunderstood and mistaken for SLAVERY. Hence HOUSEWIVES soon see themselves as SEX SLAVES or BABY FACTORIES. This is why our society is filled with damaged adults. Many even value their moms' far more than their fathers' because they spend more time with the Mother than they even see their busy workaholic father.

Let me balance SUBMISSION in a bit. Submission is simply MUTUAL RESPECT, yes o. Women are powerful and men must respect that they process things differently. Women must understand that MEN are not only powerful, they are the PILOT/CAPTAIN of the SHIP... AS Such decisiveness is in our nature and we are meant to be LOGICAL. Women are meant to be emotional. AND ALLOWING EACH OTHER BE WHO THEY CAN BE FOR THE PEACE AND UNITY IN THE HOME, IS ACTUALLY SUBMISSION. Where submission got misunderstood was in the simple quest for CONTROL. Most men and women need to master the art of our grand mothers, the art of LEADING WHEN YOU ARE NOT IN CHARGE.

Equality is also misunderstood. Being EQUALS do not mean having same responsibility or being TWINS. So the simple BALANCE of all things is this....

MEN SHOULD LET WOMEN BE EMOTIONAL LEADERS
WOMEN SHOULD ALLOW THEIR MEN BE LOGICAL

then both should compromise for each other with UNDERSTANDING.
Children from such homes will be sooooooooooooo balanced and very fast achieve greatness in Life because they would know how to handle things from their area of strength and how to work with people no matter how damaged the people may be.

I hope it is simple and easy for anyone reading to apply.
Swinger60

philip0906:
Bullocks!

Because it is 2020, means submission should be thrown out the window? Go and look for a man, who'll lick your azz and then when you're tired, you can kick his butt out.

ALL successful marriages EVERYWHERE in the world, has always been a blend of; Husbands loving their wives and been faithful and wives in turn, submitting to their husbands.

2020, 2030, 2040 will NEVER change this fundamental principle that has been applied to ALL successful marriages.

That you're forming woke, won't change that. So shove your lonely, feminist, sadistic and senseless opinion, up your butt.

Ivebeenbanned:
[s]Sad sad man. Whoever hurt you did a good job. And you wish submission was a thing. In 2020? Lmao. You might as well go back to being a caveman. Won't be surprised that you're a rapist. Proud oppressor. Eww[/s].

philip0906:
Common sharap! You dey form man hater...ozwor!

Loneliness wan kee you finish...bingo!

Ivebeenbanned:
[s]Boo hoo. Save your tears for years after your marriage when you come here to tell us your wife is not longer washing your ass after you take a shit
These women faking submissive are dealing with y'all and I loooove to see it.
Go learn to cook and be a romantic, responsible man so your marriage will last. Toxic masculinity has no place in 2020. Lazy pig. Your father failed[/s].

philip0906:
You ramble rouser...love has failed you, you have turned to man hating as an anti depressant..
Ediota

Gladly, life doesn't revolve around your lonely, sadistic, failed and miserable loveless life to be taken serious...

I only quoted you to remind you that you're a looser already and make mockery of your whinning, groaning and gnashing of teeth.

Even your elders in the game of man hating, are gradually fading into oblivion or retracing their steps...you are still a learner

Bingo!

tripplephi:
Hmmm you have strong points sir, BUT we must understand one thing, NIGERIA IS AN EXAGGERATIVE STATE, meaning we go to the extreme with whatever we copy from the western world.

also sir I NEVER SAID LOVE FADES, my narrative was simply to attack what we call LOVE, for BUTTERFLIES WILL ALWAYS FLY AWAY, and all the horniness and hormones will calm down.... THIS IS WHERE LOVE IS REDEFINED (if from the beginning it was not defined). LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, but a FILLING- LOVE is not feeling I need you, but taking the responsibility of joyfully FILLING a need in you no matter what.
Love is a herculean responsibility and choice despite age, circumstances, body shape, odour and health/financial status. The ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY has subtly but deeply ruined and perverted the definition of Love for our generation. So it is painted as EROTIC FINANCIAL freedom rather than RESPONSIBILITY, SACRIFICES, CLEAR TRANSPARENT COMMUNICATION, BATTLES, VICTORIES and some losses, etc.

SUBMISSION sir, has been grossly misunderstood and mistaken for SLAVERY. Hence HOUSEWIVES soon see themselves as SEX SLAVES or BABY FACTORIES. This is why our society is filled with damaged adults. Many even value their moms' far more than their fathers' because they spend more time with the Mother than they even see their busy workaholic father.

Let me balance SUBMISSION in a bit. Submission is simply MUTUAL RESPECT, yes o. Women are powerful and men must respect that they process things differently. Women must understand that MEN are not only powerful, they are the PILOT/CAPTAIN of the SHIP... AS Such decisiveness is in our nature and we are meant to be LOGICAL. Women are meant to be emotional. AND ALLOWING EACH OTHER BE WHO THEY CAN BE FOR THE PEACE AND UNITY IN THE HOME, IS ACTUALLY SUBMISSION. Where submission got misunderstood was in the simple quest for CONTROL. Most men and women need to master the art of our grand mothers, the art of LEADING WHEN YOU ARE NOT IN CHARGE.

Equality is also misunderstood. Being EQUALS do not mean having same responsibility or being TWINS. So the simple BALANCE of all things is this....

MEN SHOULD LET WOMEN BE EMOTIONAL LEADERS
WOMEN SHOULD ALLOW THEIR MEN BE LOGICAL

then both should compromise for each other with UNDERSTANDING.
Children from such homes will be sooooooooooooo balanced and very fast achieve greatness in Life because they would know how to handle things from their area of strength and how to work with people no matter how damaged the people may be.

I hope it is simple and easy for anyone reading to apply.
Swinger60

Ivebeenbanned:
Logical gender wrote this shit. Lmfao. Y'all really think highly of yourselves.

tripplephi:
IF YOU ARE AN EMOTIONAL GENDER, simply write yours.

Your comment benefits no one unless it can help us understand you better.

SassyGem101:
Well...I'm not married but I'll say...the hardest part is having to wake up everyday of your life to the same face which tends to become boring. Now no matter the initial butterflies in your belly thing, you'll get bored at some point and the only thing that can keep you going is your commitment to be with them and the fear of God. If you lack this two virtues, there's going to be a big problem especially if you are the type that likes meeting new people.


Another part it gets hard is where the niti gritty of marriage hits you. Like taking care of the responsibiity of the home especially the financial aspect. In fact before you know it, you'll wear out to the point you won't even remember how you guys started. This is not to scare you but its a fact I've seen in many homes that has made me begin to plan my marriage life in a way I won't have to be totally caught up in that hard part. Hmm....let me just stop here.

Please on a more serious note, if you must marry, prepare your mind to face these things otherwise you'll freak out before it even begins. Or stay away from it.
I have seen a lot of marriages and I wonder what happened to the initial " I love yous" and all that. Though still learning.


Dem say, nor be eye wen person take do girlfriend and boyfriend na him dem dey take do marriage ooo.

byinks:
I wish all husbands were as ball less as you..

The typical male sees side chicks and away match as right of passage

Ekakamba:
Person wey get sense go press Ctrl + S for him brain after reading this.

Davesaves:
So because it's 2020 u shouldn't submit to ur husband? pls sister forget marriage.. it's not ur calling ( i'm being very honest here)

Davesaves:
So because it's 2020 u shouldn't submit to ur husband? pls sister forget marriage.. it's not ur calling ( i'm being very honest here)

tripplephi:
Well, I do not know what you mean by LOVE in your own language, BUT LET ME BE BRUTALLY HONEST....

The dreadful part where ALL BUTTERFLIES HAVE EITHER DIED OR FLOWN AWAY and HORNnINESS is now a memory AND THE PRESENCE of your spouse feels like a burden cos singleness become so so attractive again like a LIFE GOAL, yet you have to just KEEP FAKING IT AND DOING EVERYTHING when you know it is no longer how it felt like in the beginning.

its Haaaarrrd