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CHoccolaTE:
Honestly
Imagine the nonsense women are putting up with.
Op
If you don't leave him you just have to prepare to keep treating STDs and then settle for a life of bitterness and resentment then in his old age he will retire from his prostitutes and expect you to welcome him back with open arms like a good wife.

Marriage can be so scary.......

InDistress:
My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

Madam,

Please LIVE your life for you and not for anybody else.
So because your neighbors and friends gossip, you should stay in a marriage like that?
You want to put a front and pretend all is well whereas it is not true? Please wake up o before you end up where you don't wanna be.
These people you putting up a front for will continue to live their lives no matter what,God forbid, if "anything" happens to you.
May baba God give you the strength to overcome this and be the mother to your kids to the point they will be able to stand on their own. (If you are yoruba, it simply means, "e ma se iya omo yin pe, e si ma sin won de ibi ti eru ko ti ni bawon".

*There was a story about a young woman on front page some weeks back whose husband allegedly beat to death while pregnant whose father told to go back the husband despite all the visible evidences. Your case might not be a physical abuse o but are you happy in the marriage?

It is well.

rain21:

since you said you don't want to leave cos of the kids and your dad( which in my opinion is not a valid excuse)., then try as much as possible to ignore him.stop going through his phone, WhatsApp messages and the rest. stop policing him, stop bothering yourself with who he is with and where he is at. you are doing too much and wearing yourself out.
direct all this energy to your kids and your business.ignore him and all his activities totally.you can't change a grown ass adult.your kids deserve your 100% attention now,stop chasing shadows..stop the building project,if he needs the house then he should complete it himself.
stop being intimate with him and if you must, insist he uses protection.your health should be your priority.,take care of you.

It's not a valid excuse for op to stay bc of her kids. It's a bad excuse. You don't stay in a bad marriage bc of children, geez, you leave bc of them. Read her post again. Asides him being a chronic ho, the marriage has other issues, but let's suppose she falls sick n dies (God forbid) from an illness he gives her, you think this man is going to take care of them kids ? Is he taking care of them now ? It's not a valid excuse for her to stay bc of her Dad's conservativeness either, this one no be reason na

You don't want another man to raise your children so you probably want another woman to. Madam carry your cross and keep treating STDs until you finally die of one, since you cannot use your brain to decipher the handwriting on the wall after 12 years, I doubt you ever will in this life.

You have herpes. Keep praying

He is a sex addict and a polygamist, you either divorce him now and move on, or stop having sex with him and start keeping relationships outside while you two remain together to raise the kids pending the time they are matured enough and you can officially seperate

mikezuruki:
Nollywood

Abi, damn only one man they lash women like these, bought 2 way ticket bla bla, abegi yes some men are irresponsible but dont distroy or give the already dented marriage institution more bad names.

No offense, Devil has sent his nephew to you and u have married him... He enjoys spending time and money outside.. and does not enjoy anything with u. That man is not a husband. He was sent to frustrate u, make ur life a hell till u wake up one day and decide to kill urself.

This is not marriage.
No need to make noise once u are fed up just hand him divorce papers and leave with ur kids. Let him go and enjoy his sickening life.
No need to explain anything to him.

THIS MAN WILL SHORTEN YOUR LIFE SPAN IF U DONT DO SOMETHING.


THANKS.

base on your write up, I will blame you for everything that's happening to you. you saw all the signs from the beginning but ignore them because he's an abroad base guy. you busy showing him off to your friends rather than watching his character.

Keemsleek005:
Abi, damn only one man they lash women like these, bought 2 way ticket bla bla, abegi yes some men are irresponsible but dont distroy or give the already dented marriage institution more bad names.

The man doesn’t stay here yet have a secretary here. Lol

Irresponsible, you said, to whom? You or his whores, this life is give and take, you can't give hi what he wants, (between your legs) and he is getting it even at a higher price in another place. You pushed him outside and now you are crying foul, except from fxcking and sex what do a man marries a woman for in the house. I marry you, you don't fxck me, won't I get fxcked from another woman? OK because your pxssy is gold plated, I should go and die before you will fxck me, naaaaa woman, bitches hoes, slaymamas and oloshos out there are selling the same "black hole" for five hundred naira,


You were talking about "HIV" , there is now anti retroviral drugs which if you use it you will keep living and keep fxcking on your who.red as usual, you were talking about herpes, if it has no cure it can be maintained from spreading.

As for me I don't blame the man, I blame you the woman for no taking care of your husband, the uncatered for dog might later become a stray.

You neglected your husband and he took care of himself so stop crying wolf, woman, you have two options
1. Go back to when you married and how you always loved each other how he proposed to you and loved you and you also loved him back and make amends

2.leave him alone and move on.

But this issue is not the guys fault, body no be firewood!!!

Hmmm...you have herpes now. How grand! HIV, gonorea, herpertities, etc are there fa. I can't even spell them!

Aunty, if you want no one else raising your kids now, you won't really have a say in that when one of his "gifts" to you become deadly. May God help you.

Yen yen yen

Cry me a lagoon.

For a woman to marry a man whose sex orgy video she watched, that's the height of irresponsibility.

So I put it to you that you're as irresponsible as your husband. Just that in your case you matured overtime whereas your husband hasn't.

No offense, but it's your choice.
You weren't coerced.

LadySarah:
You have herpes. Keep praying

Please can you share the link to this post?

This man doesn't respect or love you. I will suggest you should report him to people he values and let them talk sense into him, I pray he listens.

This is the reason why I will never patronize callgirls as a single guy!!

That man is a chronic Client of Escorts..

He is addicted to having sex with different size and shapes even before Marriage..

Marriage can't change him..

Call me a sadist, but my advice is amicable Divorce..

Japa Japa.

Op, may you not contract HIV or CoronaV (Amen)

CHoccolaTE:
Divorce him before he gives you HIV

Wht exactly is making you stay with him?
He doesn't provide or spend time with the family
He isn't faithful
He is putting your life at risk


Why are you delaying your seperation?

why won't you mind your business?
You are advising them to break up,what about the children?
She should stop behaving like a mother to the man and start behaving like a girlfriend to her husband.
Some women forget how to be a girlfriend,sister and ashawo to their man.
When you behave like a mother to a man,you became counterfeit because his biological mother is the original mother.
She should switch to girlfriend status to her man and the man will turn to boyfriend chasing her.
Women sef

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

HIV is knocking at the door, leave now that you can. Health is Wealth, you have to be alive to take care of your kids

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

madam pls try being a girlfriend to your husband,from your story,I realize that out of care for your man,you started behaving like his mother.
He has money and he feels like he has money,be a girlfriend and flex with him.
Sometimes we men feel like flexing and it annoys us or dampen our spirits when your wife who is supposed to be your girlfriend start behaving like your mother reminding you of children school fees and house rent as if the man don't know his responsibility.
If you divorce him you will regret it,
If you are my wife and you want to divorce me after about two kids,I will shout hallelujah,you know why? because am freeeeee like a bird.
The woman alone will have to take care of the kids even though the man may be sending money,it won't be easy for the woman.
Be the girlfriend,ashawo and sister to your man and see how things change for your good.
Trust me.
When I had problem with my wife, people advised her to leave me, people also advised me to leave her but together both of us are regretting it.

InDistress:
My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

It is better you make it a family tradition..

Divorce him!!

Your Children will be great in life...

slimjohn2k5:
Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness

That line touched me because u r fasting for the wrong reasons. Why not fast that God change him from womanizing which is the problem we all see here

Imagine!

Olunmercy56:
Dear Lord, please help me choose for the bone of my bone husband, I must not make any silly mistakes I'm just tired of these marriage crisis stories

Are you ready??
If yes, don't rush!
If no, keep improving yourself!

I stopped reading @

As at the time we got married he had NOTHING

because that is the first lie and I don't have the appetite for more.


Every living person has something and I am sure he didn't marry you on credit

InDistress:
What do I stand to gain from distorting facts? As a matter of fact, there is a lot I intentionally exempted but I'm focusing on his philandering which is the big deal.




His parents are late. And that's all the responsible people in the family. His elder brother is a renowned philanderer who separated from his wife over 30yrs ago. Infact news broke some months ago that he impregnated a lady. This is a man that's almost 70. His sisters are not particularly comfortable with me as they said their brother doesn't finance them anymore since he married me.



The house is in the village, in his own portion of the family land. So this is undoable.



He most likely won't accede to this as he has the mindset tgat women should not be allowed any sort of power. He moves with people that think alike too and they advise him.



About being a red puller, he isnt the most confident man around. What he lacks in confidence, he uses money to cover up. Those girls he sleeps with, I honestly don't think he can woo them without throwing money at them. Worse So is the fact that I'm far more physically attractive than them.

to be frank with you, you are not married at all. You know why, your union was constructed on the premise of family interests and not that you guys love and understand each other. Then your husband sees you as the mother of his kids and nothing more. No man who loves his wife will think of another woman let alone sleeping around. If you were in America, you would have been a dead woman long time ago. I noticed that your prayer points was about his business and not that the man would start loving you which is more important than money. Infact your man needs deliverance, he is possessed by satan.

I no pit read flenty, next tofic fleece

snitchbitch:
Irresponsible, you said, to whom? You or his whores, this life is give and take, you can't give hi what he wants, (between your legs) and he is getting it even at a higher price in another place. You pushed him outside and now you are crying foul, except from fxcking and sex what do a man marries a woman for in the house. I marry you, you don't fxck me, won't I get fxcked from another woman? OK because your pxssy is gold plated, I should go and die before you will fxck me, naaaaa woman, bitches hoes, slaymamas and oloshos out there are selling the same "black hole" for five hundred naira,


You were talking about "HIV" , there is now anti retroviral drugs which if you use it you will keep living and keep fxcking on your who.red as usual, you were talking about herpes, if it has no cure it can be maintained from spreading.

As for me I don't blame the man, I blame you the woman for no taking care of your husband, the uncatered for dog might later become a stray.

You neglected your husband and he took care of himself so stop crying wolf, woman, you have two options
1. Go back to when you married and how you always loved each other how he proposed to you and loved you and you also loved him back and make amends

2.leave him alone and move on.

But this issue is not the guys fault, body no be firewood!!!

. Insensitive comment

Marriage o. Chai. I dey fear

Uhmmm �, you can continue with him if you will help him get back his sense .
Remember that you can also divorce him cause of his infidelity.
But no religion support remarrying after divorce.
It's your choice, just Live your life fulfilled, that's it!

eni4real:
Are you ready??
If yes, don't rush!
If no, keep improving yourself!

Thanks, I'll not rush

CHoccolaTE:
Divorce him before he gives you HIV

Wht exactly is making you stay with him?
He doesn't provide or spend time with the family
He isn't faithful
He is putting your life at risk


Why are you delaying your seperation?

.. And you believed this story?.