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Go and bath in a river. Go naqed

stupidity:
Go and bath in a river. Go naqed

ewu.

Goodmarlian:
ewu.

is like something is wrong with you. You want the small confidence you have to leave you completely??

Goodmarlian:
ewu.

I doubt your lack of confidence .

Riele:
I doubt your lack of confidence .

ok

You need to start believing in yourself and always see success at whatever you embark on, you still need to google and search materials on conquering fear. Nobody will help you except you are determined

Read your bible

Goodmarlian:
it has being like this since childhood though i had a really painful childhood ,growing up was really tough for me because i didnt grow up with my parents ,i was brought up by my uncle who lived in porthacourt he had two wives literally i was more like a houseboy living with my uncle going for errands incessantly as a result i recieved lots of bashing and insults whenever i do anything wrong meanwhile i was just 9years old.

insults were directed to me and my family on how my dad was a failure anf and many more this is where i developed poor self esteem and lack of self confidence they made me believe i was stupid and not good enough for anything i never knew the extent of the damage until my teenage year damnn it was far worse .i came to from to lagos 2005 so i came enrol in junior secondary school i had a hard time associating with friends because i believe i wasn't good enough i fear being seen as stupid as i was always called i turned introvert overnight even though i wasnt one.i really surfered emotionally because i was literally afraid of everything, i was always shaky whenever i am given task and most times i always fail to make matters worse i was so depressed.

to cut the long story short i started building my self esteem and confidence in my 20s because life experiences taught me the hard way i really improved myself really good, i read lots of books and articles online infact i later improved on my social life both with male and female.but here is the problem the old me still haunts me sometimes i just totally loose my confidence when under pressure or under test and its frustrating like whenever lots of people have hope on me fulfilling a task this fear and anxiety just grips me and it mostly leads to me failing that task.

how do i overcome this? thanks a lot.

I can understand you pains, OP I commend on building your self esteem as well as confidence. To help yourself, always associate with friends that will accept who you're and do not force yourself on people, this will hurt you more. Be calm, be a good listener, take a step at once and not two steps at time. Always believe that you can do it. Plan and schedule your tasks and goals. Try achieving them one by one.

You can do it.