There's this girl in my church who loves greeting me. She was the first person to shake my hand and wished me happy new year during last year cross over. We started communicating and i got her number. I chatted her up on whatsapp and i introduced myself i later asked if she was in a relationship she said she broke up with someone she was dating this year January i asked why she said he doesn't have her time that she felt she was the only one in the relationship. She asked my relationship status too and i told her I'm single too.

She enjoys chatting with me even when I'm offline she would drop a note that i should beep her when I'm online. I have refractive error so my opthamologist told me to stop using phone/computer at night cause my eyes are too sensitive to glares but this lady would want me to come online at night to chat with her which i did every day. I would strain my problematic eyes at night just because i love her so much.

So i later told her how much i love her but she always laugh whenever i tell her this. There was a time she even told me to stop discussing love with her so i stopped asking her out. During the last valentine's day she didn't come online which was unusual of her i chatted her up the next day when i saw her online and i asked her why she was offline on feb 14. She told me her ex called her and settled things with her and now they are back together she said she wasn't expecting it. I asked her how she felt when he was settling things with her she said she was so happy and relaxed and i replied that's good.

Well, i withdrew immediately and stopped chatting with her, two weeks later she chatted me up and complained i have been ignoring her by not chatting or calling her. I told her i had been busy with some things. she later told me she wanted to discuss some things with me. She said her ex who settled things with her recently has been acting strange again and she does not understand him she told me to advice her i replied I'm not good at giving relationship advice i ended it by telling her to share it with her mum since her mum knows about their relationship.

This lady has been disturbing me since then. At times she would chat me up and tell me she has missed me so much. She really disturbed me last month with miss you so much this and that. I'm not just happy with the way she roused my feelings and ran back to her ex and i feel like someone's second choice which i don't like if her ex didn't act strange would she have come back to me.

Nairalanders please is it safe dating such lady?cause It's like she is now ready but I'm somehow scared. Please i need your advice.

65% of the fault is yours. You started off on the wrong note with the girl. You didn’t need to start by asking her if she was in a relationship or not. By doing so, it shows you like her and settled on her. As a game boy, you should have gotten to know her first or more before asking that.
Sadly, I wouldn’t blame her so much for getting back with her ex while she was still chatting with you. Sorry, you guys weren't in a relationship but “friends” However, she should have tried to know the direction of whatever is going on with you guys.

Ask her to sort herself out before initiating any form conversation with you. If she likes the guy, let her go with him. If she feels you guys can make something out of this “thing” then she should come clean and stick with you.

Don’t feel bad though, this is what will define the relationship. If she comes clean, toast(ask her out), if she accepts, THEN she becomes your babe.

Antiochus:
There's this girl in my church who loves greeting me. She was the first person to shake my hand and wished me happy new year during last year cross over. We started communicating and i got her number. I chatted her up on whatsapp and i introduced myself i later asked if she was in a relationship she said she broke up with someone she was dating this year January i asked why she said he doesn't have her time that she felt she was the only one in the relationship. She asked my relationship status too and i told her I'm single too.

She enjoys chatting with me even when I'm offline she would drop a note that i should beep her when I'm online. I have refractive error so my opthamologist told me to stop using phone/computer at night cause my eyes are too sensitive to glares but this lady would want me to come online at night to chat with her which i did every day. I would strain my problematic eyes at night just because i love her so much.

So i later told her how much i love her but she always laugh whenever i tell her this. There was a time she even told me to stop discussing love with her so i stopped asking her out. During the last valentine's day she didn't come online which was unusual of her i chatted her up the next day when i saw her online and i asked her why she was offline on feb 14. She told me her ex called her and settled things with her and now they are back together she said she wasn't expecting it. I asked her how she felt when he was settling things with her she said she was so happy and relaxed and i replied that's good.

Well, i withdrew immediately and stopped chatting with her, two weeks later she chatted me up and complained i have been ignoring her by not chatting or calling her. I told her i had been busy with some things. she later told me she wanted to discuss some things with me. She said her ex who settled things with her recently has been acting strange again and she does not understand him she told me to advice her i replied I'm not good at giving relationship advice i ended it by telling her to share it with her mum since her mum knows about their relationship.

This lady has been disturbing me since then. At times she would chat me up and tell me she has missed me so much. She really disturbed me last month with miss you so much this and that. I'm not just happy with the way she roused my feelings and ran back to her ex and i feel like someone's second choice which i don't like if her ex didn't act strange would she have come back to me.

Nairalanders please is it safe dating such lady?cause It's like she is now ready but I'm somehow scared. Please i need your advice.

Why did you limit your conversation to just chat?

Due to your health condition (Eye), I believed calling would have been the best option solution for you in this situation.

To her action, I believed she is still in love with her ex. The Ex is a priority and you're just an option when things aren't going well with the priority, the option is remembered.

When things are going smoothly with them you're being ignored but remembered when challenges arises.

If you're comfortable being an option to her, you can proceed because the EX would always be a ahead of you in her heart.

Also you need to understand something, your story didn't highlight meeting or setting up a meeting outside church, also you didn't show you're serious or bold enough to ask her out.

Never ever asked a girl for a relationship via chat or phone call, do it in person face to face. People can pretend over a chat, give false impression or hide there current state of mind but can't do it in person if you're observant and understand her.

You need to also up your game a bit, the EX is acting like a real man here.

Oga, leave woman before you die young. So all these Covid-19 no dey affect you?

my brother she has Daddy issue.

Play along with her and don’t ever ask her out again. DONT EVER ASK HER OUT AGAIN.


Everything will fall in place if you remove your mind from her and start talking to her freely.


One day, one very good day.

She’ll ask you.

“This wan you are not asking me out again, seems you have found another gir, who is the lucky girl?l”

BestAccessories:


Why did you limit your conversation to just chat?

Due to your health condition (Eye), I believed calling would have been the best option solution for you in this situation.

To her action, I believed she is still in love with her ex. The Ex is a priority and you're just an option when things aren't going well with the priority, the option is remembered.

When things are going smoothly with them you're being ignored but remembered when challenges arises.

If you're comfortable being an option to her, you can proceed because the EX would always be a ahead of you in her heart.

Also you need to understand something, your story didn't highlight meeting or setting up a meeting outside church, also you didn't show you're serious or bold enough to ask her out.

Never ever asked a girl for a relationship via chat or phone call, do it in person face to face. People can pretend over a chat, give false impression or hide there current state of mind but can't do it in person if you're observant and understand her.

You need to also up your game a bit, the EX is acting like a real man here.

I do call her there was a time i asked for meeting outside church as you've said but she told me she is always busy during the week. I even suggested weekend she said she used to do house chores during weekends and write lesson note cause she teaches in a secondary school.

Antiochus:


I do call her there was a time i asked for meeting outside church as you've noted but she told me she is always busy during the week. I even suggested weekend she said she used to do house chores during weekends and write lesson note cause she teaches in secondary school.

Move on and stop all communication.

If she can't make time out to meet or listen to you outside chat, she isn't worth it.

She has time to chat but doesn't have time to meet you.

MOVE ON BROTHER.

The other option on the table is to play her game with her but you need to be a step ahead of her always.

Engaged yourself in some productive activities, delay chat replies, tell her you're busy and find chat distracting and time consuming. Also let her know you can't keep staring at phone for long due to your eye condition.

Never initiate a meeting again, tease her alot, don't get yourself involved in her bf ish, kill all conversation related to any ish with her EX.

Starve her of the attention, when she send a chat, read but don't reply immediately. Reduce your long sentence reply to short words, create confusion etc.

She isn't yours, it is not your business to make yourself her.

PS: Find yourself a new babe, doing the above would draw her closer to you but never ever let her be a step ahead of you. Keep the unfair advantage to yourself.

She don "adviser zone" u...i go advice make e end 4 "shalom to shalom" things

stupidity:
Play along with her and don’t ever ask her out again. DONT EVER ASK HER OUT AGAIN.


Everything will fall in place if you remove your mind from her and start talking to her freely.


One day, one very good day.

She’ll ask you.

“This one you are not asking me out again, seems you have found another girl”

follow this advice , for me my advice would be to cut her off, or better still just take her as a normal friend, never you ever ask her out again, it's better to ask another reasonable lady out than asking the confused gal that has friend zoned u and playing draft with your emotion....and I would also advice u not to put love or woman matter for heart, take them lightly, focus more on building yourself and making money.

Antiochus:
There's this girl in my church who loves greeting me. She was the first person to shake my hand and wished me happy new year during last year cross over. We started communicating and i got her number. I chatted her up on whatsapp and i introduced myself i later asked if she was in a relationship she said she broke up with someone she was dating this year January i asked why she said he doesn't have her time that she felt she was the only one in the relationship. She asked my relationship status too and i told her I'm single too.

She enjoys chatting with me even when I'm offline she would drop a note that i should beep her when I'm online. I have refractive error so my opthamologist told me to stop using phone/computer at night cause my eyes are too sensitive to glares but this lady would want me to come online at night to chat with her which i did every day. I would strain my problematic eyes at night just because i love her so much.

So i later told her how much i love her but she always laugh whenever i tell her this. There was a time she even told me to stop discussing love with her so i stopped asking her out. During the last valentine's day she didn't come online which was unusual of her i chatted her up the next day when i saw her online and i asked her why she was offline on feb 14. She told me her ex called her and settled things with her and now they are back together she said she wasn't expecting it. I asked her how she felt when he was settling things with her she said she was so happy and relaxed and i replied that's good.

Well, i withdrew immediately and stopped chatting with her, two weeks later she chatted me up and complained i have been ignoring her by not chatting or calling her. I told her i had been busy with some things. she later told me she wanted to discuss some things with me. She said her ex who settled things with her recently has been acting strange again and she does not understand him she told me to advice her i replied I'm not good at giving relationship advice i ended it by telling her to share it with her mum since her mum knows about their relationship.

This lady has been disturbing me since then. At times she would chat me up and tell me she has missed me so much. She really disturbed me last month with miss you so much this and that. I'm not just happy with the way she roused my feelings and ran back to her ex and i feel like someone's second choice which i don't like if her ex didn't act strange would she have come back to me.

Nairalanders please is it safe dating such lady?cause It's like she is now ready but I'm somehow scared. Please i need your advice.

OP, you have to be careful so that you won't end up being friend-zoned or backup. Study her wella before you jump into the ship.

stupidity:
Play along with her and don’t ever ask her out again. DONT EVER ASK HER OUT AGAIN.


Everything will fall in place if you remove your mind from her and start talking to her freely.


One day, one very good day.

She’ll ask you.

“This one you are not asking me out again, seems you have found another girl”

Tiri gbosa for you.

If I were you, I will play along with her, bed her and move on. She is playing hide-and-seek games with you, comparing notes between you and her dude.

Antiochus:
There's this girl in my church who loves greeting me. She was the first person to shake my hand and wished me happy new year during last year cross over. We started communicating and i got her number. I chatted her up on whatsapp and i introduced myself i later asked if she was in a relationship she said she broke up with someone she was dating this year January i asked why she said he doesn't have her time that she felt she was the only one in the relationship. She asked my relationship status too and i told her I'm single too.

She enjoys chatting with me even when I'm offline she would drop a note that i should beep her when I'm online. I have refractive error so my opthamologist told me to stop using phone/computer at night cause my eyes are too sensitive to glares but this lady would want me to come online at night to chat with her which i did every day. I would strain my problematic eyes at night just because i love her so much.

So i later told her how much i love her but she always laugh whenever i tell her this. There was a time she even told me to stop discussing love with her so i stopped asking her out. During the last valentine's day she didn't come online which was unusual of her i chatted her up the next day when i saw her online and i asked her why she was offline on feb 14. She told me her ex called her and settled things with her and now they are back together she said she wasn't expecting it. I asked her how she felt when he was settling things with her she said she was so happy and relaxed and i replied that's good.

Well, i withdrew immediately and stopped chatting with her, two weeks later she chatted me up and complained i have been ignoring her by not chatting or calling her. I told her i had been busy with some things. she later told me she wanted to discuss some things with me. She said her ex who settled things with her recently has been acting strange again and she does not understand him she told me to advice her i replied I'm not good at giving relationship advice i ended it by telling her to share it with her mum since her mum knows about their relationship.

This lady has been disturbing me since then. At times she would chat me up and tell me she has missed me so much. She really disturbed me last month with miss you so much this and that. I'm not just happy with the way she roused my feelings and ran back to her ex and i feel like someone's second choice which i don't like if her ex didn't act strange would she have come back to me.

Nairalanders please is it safe dating such lady?cause It's like she is now ready but I'm somehow scared. Please i need your advice.

Never ask a girl who just came of a relationship out, brother you have been brother, uncle and friendzoned.

Antiochus:


I do call her there was a time i asked for meeting outside church as you've said but she told me she is always busy during the week. I even suggested weekend she said she used to do house chores during weekends and write lesson note cause she teaches in a secondary school.

you need to go on 21 days fasting first.

after that another 21 days prayer to Baba God to open your ability not to be a Samson

Antiochus:


I do call her there was a time i asked for meeting outside church as you've said but she told me she is always busy during the week. I even suggested weekend she said she used to do house chores during weekends and write lesson note cause she teaches in a secondary school.

you need to go on 21 days fasting first.

after that another 21 days prayer to Baba God to open your ability not to be a Samson

person no get ya time you dey form samson

Saintinoo:


Never ask a girl who just came of a relationship out, brother you have been brother, uncle and friendzoned.

it is called rebound

mrblessed:
If I were you, I will play along with her, bed her and move on. She is playing hide-and-seek games with you, comparing notes between you and her dude.

if the fly sticks around a woman with a broom in a hand.it will be get squashed at any time.