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Mariangeles:
Have I ever given you any contrary impression?

crackkhaus:
The impression that you have a tendency to be vacuous? Oh yes.

Your comment showed it may have been a wrong impression afterall...

Mariangeles:
What you or anyone think or the impression you have of me does not matter.
I am who I am, and nothing can change that.
I have confidence in the principles that guide me, even if, according to you, " you have a tendency to be vacuous"

crackkhaus:
Well you did ask me a question, and all I did was answer.

Naanlong01:
He is alive and they are living together. His own case is the worst, he is a federal government pensioner who prefers to drink alcohol and play bet with the token government still pays him monthly and come home to eat from the food mamma manages to cook without his penny in it as a contribution. Am not in the same state with them.

Mariangeles:
You didn't have to be disrespectful.
It says a lot about your person.
It would not hurt you to give your opinion without insults, rather, it'll accord you more respect.
You're smart but not wise. Wisdom is profitable...

Naanlong01:
He is alive and they are living together. His own case is the worst, he is a federal government pensioner who prefers to drink alcohol and play bet with the token government still pays him monthly and come home to eat from the food mamma manages to cook without his penny in it as a contribution. Am not in the same state with them.

Naanlong01:
My people, i need advice on how to escape being a victim of a saying that ; one rich person among six other people that are poor, they are togetherly poor.
I am the only son and in-between two female siblings that are not doing well at all, i am 29 and planning to marry by next year but whenever i remember the enormous task of improving the living standard of my parents and two sisters, i'm always overwhelmed with thoughts and worries. Its not that i'm comfortable yet but i can feed myself and manage to save up 30k monthly while am still trying to expand my business to attain at least 100k monthly savings before the year ends, but the thought of how to help my family and who to start with beats me all the time.
So if you have been through this successfully, kindly help with tips. My babe is understanding and she is also my dream girl i don't want to loose her due to lack of desired attention because of my family needs, she needs me too.
I can't even dare tell them that am courting already.

lilyheaven:
If you continue to wait to see them stabilize, it means you will never marry. If your sister who is living with a man still request money from you, it means you will be the one to train her children in school.
The truth is that if you are not there, they will still survive.
After this covid-19 pandemic, don't send money for three months and you will be shocked how fine they will be.
Don't give yourself headache please, we live this life once.

ImaIma1:
I don't expect you to understand my comment. Hopefully the op is a Christian and must have stumbled upon that truth in the bible.

As for you, you can get married and treat your wife like an outsider or intruder. You will learn.

Naanlong01:
My people, i need advice on how to escape being a victim of a saying that ; one rich person among six other people that are poor, they are togetherly poor.
I am the only son and in-between two female siblings that are not doing well at all, i am 29 and planning to marry by next year but whenever i remember the enormous task of improving the living standard of my parents and two sisters, i'm always overwhelmed with thoughts and worries. Its not that i'm comfortable yet but i can feed myself and manage to save up 30k monthly while am still trying to expand my business to attain at least 100k monthly savings before the year ends, but the thought of how to help my family and who to start with beats me all the time.
So if you have been through this successfully, kindly help with tips. My babe is understanding and she is also my dream girl i don't want to loose her due to lack of desired attention because of my family needs, she needs me too.
I can't even dare tell them that am courting already.

Mizwisdom:
Are your sisters handicap? if not, are they educated? if they're educated why are you carrying all the load?


How can an able bodied be helpless because they're female? it doesn't make any sense to me, seems your parent raised weak women. My advice is for you to help them get jobs if you can otherwise let them go out and look for jobs. I don't know your background but Nanny jobs, Cleaning jobs and Security are always available. Everyone should be independent. Your parent had their youth to establish something for themselves but didn't, if they are in their sixties/seventies, all you kids should save up and establish a petty provision shop for them. Good luck

Naanlong01:
He is alive and they are living together. His own case is the worst, he is a federal government pensioner who prefers to drink alcohol and play bet with the token government still pays him monthly and come home to eat from the food mamma manages to cook without his penny in it as a contribution. Am not in the same state with them.

freecocoahubby:
It's you that will learn.
My prayer for you is that, if you ever get to have a son, may he choose his wife over you, may he completely abandon you and his siblings because of a strange woman he would call his 'wife'- then you can come back on Nairaland and repeat the same nonsense you've typed up here. Hypocrite!

freecocoahubby:
It's you that will learn.
My prayer for you is that, if you ever get to have a son, may he choose his wife over you, may he completely abandon you and his siblings because of a strange woman he would call his 'wife'- then you can come back on Nairaland and repeat the same nonsense you've typed up here. Hypocrite!

Mizwisdom:
People need to stop depending on kids financially, wise folks use their youth to work so that apart from funding their children's education they can also save up for their retirement so they won't be a burden on their kids. What about people who don't have children, who takes care of them in old age? it's from their savings and investments they live off their retirement years. Learn, and stop praying stupid prayer for people you've never met in real life

ImaIma1:
When I have my son, I will teach him the value of marriage and how he needs to put his wife first. And that's why he needs to be very careful with his choice of a wife. Do you think it is ordinary that a woman drops her name and family and takes on a man's name. That man has the obligation to care for her and see that no harm comes to her.

However your idea of marriage is that a man brings in a strange woman to intrude in his already "happy" family.

Thank God for my mother, God bless her soul. But she encouraged my brothers to put their wives first. And she lived her own life and didn't have to interfere with their lives.

By God's grace, my husband and I will build a life that doesn't make us dependent on our children for survival so much that we start fighting his wife.

If you call a wife a strange woman it means you also see your mum as a strange woman that your father is living with.

It is when things are not going well with a family that they come up with many stories of strange women...witches...and so on.

Mizwisdom:
[b]People need to stop depending on kids financially, wise folks use their youth to work [/b]so that apart from funding their children's education they can also save up for their retirement so they won't be a burden on their kids. What about people who don't have children, who takes care of them in old age? it's from their savings and investments they live off their retirement years. Learn, and stop praying stupid prayer for people you've never met in real life

freecocoahubby:
See her mouth. He's "obligated" to take care of her because she dropped her father's name (a man) to take up her husband's (another man's) name like a commodity.

"Independent" women who are forever cursed with bearing the names of the lords over their lives: MEN .. why not eat your motherfvcking father's name then. Your sense of entitlement is so repulsive! You confidently said man should take care of you because you move from one man's name to another?.. I've always had the belief that women on Nairaland are inherently stupid - and you gits repeatedly prove that to be factual!

From your rants, I can tell your husband puts his family first before you (as he should) and you are PRESSED about that.

Mizwisdom:
Lol my parents still collect their pension, they are 100% independent financially. I pray to be that way too, may I never be a financial burden on my children, but you shall be a burden on your irresponsible offspring, they will live useless lives and waste away doing hard drugs. You shall be a beggar in your old age, a destitute, begging for daily bread on the road. Amen. Good luck

ImaIma1:
As a wife, I am more entitled to my husband's money and wealth because have become one. If you like kill yourself.

Guess what! He is not one with his father, mother or siblings. He is one with me

You better live your life and leave your brother's wife to rest if you are one of those tormentors.

Pressed indeed. His father put his mother first and protected her and thankfully, he learnt from his dad. I don't have people fighting me because of my husband. We are all family and he gives everyone attention as needed.

So stop belly aching and crying like an angry child

freecocoahubby:
That gives it all away. That right there!

So you're one of those leaching parasitic wives who depend solely on their husbands - busy fighting spiritual battles with your husband's people because of money .. Hahaha
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Must suck to be you

Naanlong01:
He is alive and they are living together. His own case is the worst, he is a federal government pensioner who prefers to drink alcohol and play bet with the token government still pays him monthly and come home to eat from the food mamma manages to cook without his penny in it as a contribution. Am not in the same state with them.

freecocoahubby:
@OP

If you like, listen to stupid advise like this.

Your wife, no matter how much of an 'angel' she appears to be, will NEVER put you first before her own family - so if you like, you can choose to be as daft as your uncle and choose to make a woman (who can divorce you tommorow) a priority above your own siblings and parents. I can only wish you the best!

ImaIma1:
[s]Sorry I cannot help your family orientation. I didn't grow up in a setting where they think of spiritual battles or whatever else you come up with.

You can move on and discuss with someone else with your kind of orientation because I am done with this immature talk.
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egojeny1:
Op, abeg no let lafta kee me here.
I feel for u sha