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Re: Ok by jesmond3945: 5:57pm On Apr 06, 2020

southniyikaye:
8 years, 8 solid years of sacrificing my effort, support, care was shattered in just few minutes.
Got her as my girlfriend in 2012 and we got married in 2016.
Have been the one taking care of both of us since then, worked, and sacrificed my all. Almost died because of her 4times not gonna go into details.
She was arrogant, stubborn and disrespectful but I was able to keep those attitudes in check.
We go two kids together and have been doing my best as a man, they never lack anything. But last year things got worst and she have to go stay with her parents this year Feb while I aquat somewhere trying to get my life together and start all over.
Am this type of person that put people above me, I put even strangers needs above mine, am 300% soft and take things to heart, a confirmed simp like ubunja will call it.(I wish the redpill will actually be a tablet to swallow) cos all I read couldn't help me cos I take things to heart too much, have taken this relationship to the heart.
The fact that I gat kids and a understanding wife still kept me going not minding the financial problems I have cos I believe one day things will change for the better.
I don't have friends, right from sec sch days, that's how have been, 1 man squad have been my thing. I can stay indoor for years without going out, I am not gonna feel it a bit. Enough of the stort(but just letting you know the type of person I was.)
2days ago so I was chatting my wife and telling her things gonna be okay soon that I am hopeful and I want us to restrrategise and plan for our future and that of our kids, I said a lot of of things that can shape our future but I was wounded by the answer she gave me like
WHATEVER SUIT YOU
tried to make her smile
And she was like, any problems?
Her answers, her attitude, her behavior was so cold to me, like someone who was already tired but just don't know how to say it.
I know she always want to live a flashy life, a life without stress, worries and pain.
Believe me, I can vouch for her, she is not promiscuous, but the way she spoke was like she already found an alternative or someone was already talking to her and she is almost convinced or sort of.
Have been shattered since then and I just feel like I was gonna have an attack. It really hit me so hard.
Maybe if I had been a bad boy from inception, It won't affect me this much. I can't just think straight, high BP, couldn't eat.
Pls guys advice me am going insane sincerely.
Eight good years and I can swear on my life, I have never cheated not even flirt cos I find it extremely difficult to cheat.

Cc ubunja

And yes I spent almost 10hours going through all ubunja's topics, tried to form the hard guy and just wave everything off and move on and pretend like it never happened but I can't.
Wish REDPILL WAS ACTUALLY A TABLET I COULD USE.

Cc rocktation
Cc farano

She has since stopped replying my messages and chatting me
And I always see her online

you dont need any ubunja nonsense. You need to work hard for your kids. Dont ever seek validation from anybody even your wife. Try and climb higher. Get more skills, try canadian express entry, develop proposals for business. Pray to Jesus for guidance but you have to work hard. It would be alright.

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Re: Ok by Zikyke(m): 6:07pm On Apr 06, 2020

No be small thing oo

Re: Ok by Zeal0000007(m): 6:13pm On Apr 06, 2020

Millenniumlady:
How on earth she allow you play her up to this level is what i don't understand well i'm glad she's starting to think like a real lady and i think the best thing for her right now is to divorce you and move on cause no woman deserve to be in this terrible situation.....hope she finds love again from a REAL MAN

sista weldone ur mates are supporting their men with good advices, finance, prayers , care and love etc. be deceiving ursef.

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Re: Ok by Doyin400l(m): 6:32pm On Apr 06, 2020

Sorry bro just work on your skills. I prefer digital skills that can give you decent income.

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Re: Ok by Millenniumlady(f): 7:02pm On Apr 06, 2020

realokopi:
Seems like you're obsessed with me, right?
Are you in love with me?? Say it out and stop being weird

Even on a death thread i can never fall in love with a military personnel.

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Re: Ok by Nobody: 7:10pm On Apr 06, 2020

Then what's your problem with me??
Do you need money to eat?? Because I know hunger can cause depression...

Millenniumlady:
Even on a death thread i can never fall in love with a military personnel.

Re: Ok by doris4u(f): 8:46pm On Apr 06, 2020

southniyikaye:
8 years, 8 solid years of sacrificing my effort, support, care was shattered in just few minutes.
Got her as my girlfriend in 2012 and we got married in 2016.
Have been the one taking care of both of us since then, worked, and sacrificed my all. Almost died because of her 4times not gonna go into details.
She was arrogant, stubborn and disrespectful but I was able to keep those attitudes in check.
We go two kids together and have been doing my best as a man, they never lack anything. But last year things got worst and she have to go stay with her parents this year Feb while I aquat somewhere trying to get my life together and start all over.
Am this type of person that put people above me, I put even strangers needs above mine, am 300% soft and take things to heart, a confirmed simp like ubunja will call it.(I wish the redpill will actually be a tablet to swallow) cos all I read couldn't help me cos I take things to heart too much, have taken this relationship to the heart.
The fact that I gat kids and a understanding wife still kept me going not minding the financial problems I have cos I believe one day things will change for the better.
I don't have friends, right from sec sch days, that's how have been, 1 man squad have been my thing. I can stay indoor for years without going out, I am not gonna feel it a bit. Enough of the stort(but just letting you know the type of person I was.)
2days ago so I was chatting my wife and telling her things gonna be okay soon that I am hopeful and I want us to restrrategise and plan for our future and that of our kids, I said a lot of of things that can shape our future but I was wounded by the answer she gave me like
WHATEVER SUIT YOU
tried to make her smile
And she was like, any problems?
Her answers, her attitude, her behavior was so cold to me, like someone who was already tired but just don't know how to say it.
I know she always want to live a flashy life, a life without stress, worries and pain.
Believe me, I can vouch for her, she is not promiscuous, but the way she spoke was like she already found an alternative or someone was already talking to her and she is almost convinced or sort of.
Have been shattered since then and I just feel like I was gonna have an attack. It really hit me so hard.
Maybe if I had been a bad boy from inception, It won't affect me this much. I can't just think straight, high BP, couldn't eat.
Pls guys advice me am going insane sincerely.
Eight good years and I can swear on my life, I have never cheated not even flirt cos I find it extremely difficult to cheat.

Cc ubunja

And yes I spent almost 10hours going through all ubunja's topics, tried to form the hard guy and just wave everything off and move on and pretend like it never happened but I can't.
Wish REDPILL WAS ACTUALLY A TABLET I COULD USE.

Cc rocktation
Cc farano

She has since stopped replying my messages and chatting me
And I always see her online

Hmmm poster the first mistake u did is marrying that lady, all this red flags were existing before u married her so wat exactly were u expecting.
Things like this can be avoided by being careful when choosing a life partner

Re: Ok by Nobody: 10:06pm On Apr 06, 2020

justnock:
LOL ereduwa where you at?
We should be derailing threads like this..

Re: Ok by Nobody: 10:20pm On Apr 06, 2020

Charleys:
G get out from here with all these name dropping.

So because she said suit yourself, you come dey look for who go support your thread.

You haven't told us if she cheated on you.

She's also taking the pressure just like you.

Do you know what it means for a married lady to go back to her parents house with kids, while you walk free.

You couldn't put your house in order.
That's why you're in this mess.

Let me give you a secret.

She doesn't want to hear your stupid stories, just make things work out

the fúck are you talking about? That guy is at his lowest and all you could do is beat him down?
Why did the lady not work and have her own money so that she could assist when the man went broke?

Re: Ok by emmaodet: 1:27am On Apr 07, 2020

Charleys:
G get out from here with all these name dropping.

So because she said suit yourself, you come dey look for who go support your thread.

You haven't told us if she cheated on you.

She's also taking the pressure just like you.

Do you know what it means for a married lady to go back to her parents house with kids, while you walk free.

You couldn't put your house in order.
That's why you're in this mess.

Let me give you a secret.

She doesn't want to hear your stupid stories, just make things work out

She doesn't want to hear your stupid stories, just make things work out - this line has made a lot of guys entered prison at a very young age, a lot met their untimely death in the race of trying to improve and impress a Fvcking woman.
If am in the op. shoes, i won't even raise a finger.
To hell with her.
Let her go and fvck who ever she wants to fvck.
When we tell guys to marry productive ladies that will take a lot of loads away from their necks and be a good financial backup for them - they will tell us we have low self esteem, we are sissy who can't take care of his home, that we should man up.
Here we are - a man stuck with an Unproductive Liability (2 dangerous combs).
Marry a woman that will sit you down and write up a good business plan on how to start something and be productive, Rara.
I saw a thread where guys are asked to pick the type of lady they want and you will be shocked most said Nice shape, boobs, big ass etc whatever happens to Productivity and Hardwork.
The major reason why most of us are where we are today is because we had productive mothers and grandmothers who rather than pack out, did everything possible to train us.
Is it by selling akara, potatoes at road side, selling ugu etc in the market and doing ajo/contributions and many more.
But these generation of ladies? Tufiakwaaaa, i spit on most of them.
Without dicks most will be rendered useless.

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Re: Ok by emmaodet: 1:41am On Apr 07, 2020

Millenniumlady:
How on earth she allow you play her up to this level is what i don't understand well i'm glad she's starting to think like a real lady and i think the best thing for her right now is to divorce you and move on cause no woman deserve to be in this terrible situation.....hope she finds love again from a REAL MAN

But most men deserve to be in a terrible situation by dating most nigerian ladies that are Unproductive Liabilities?
It's well

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Re: Ok by emmaodet: 1:59am On Apr 07, 2020

KAYCEEJUNIOR:
Words by an idiot, was she handicap when she said i do? What stop her from learning skills when the going was Rossy, my Dad knew that his wealth won't sustain him, he make sure that he sponsored my Mum through school and when he was broke.... Mumsi was doing well in education sector and taking care of the family without anyone knowing apart from immediate family.
You such a millennium Myopic Feminist and it's your type that was sent by Lucifer to wreck homes. Sycophant!!

As in ehnnnnn....very myopic.
These millennium women are mostly nothing to write home about.
With all the information, money, access to internet and latest information on businesses, investment, finance etc yet most ladies are struggling to be productive in family settings, my Grandmother will be turning in her grave with the way ladies are doing now.
Those people never had the opportunities, the care and softness of the modern man to woman, the laws, rules that have all been lowered to accommodate women and empower them which should reflect in family settings, the opportunity of having man finance your education, allowance, start up businesses that were not there during our grandmothers and to an exrent our mums.
During hard times, my mum sold many things, gave us bread to hawk, combined teaching with catering and baking cakes to poultry and catfish, many more just to make sure the family stands.
But what do we get from the modern woman? With all the opportunities? Mostly insults, mocking, washing down of men with derogatory words, unhealthy competition, shoulder raising, arrogance etc above all - the tendency to quickly bolt out of marriage at the slightest opportunity given be it job loss of hubby or any coupled with the fact that most of them now cheat heavily both in dating and marriage.
I dey shame for them.
Tbh, the future of dating/marriage/family looks bleak

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Re: Ok by drmikeadams(m): 2:04am On Apr 07, 2020

freesoul12:
U gat all those red flag when u were dating her..yet u went ahead to home her.

no just mind am

Re: Ok by Omar09(m): 9:57am On Apr 07, 2020

southniyikaye:
8 years, 8 solid years of sacrificing my effort, support, care was shattered in just few minutes.
Got her as my girlfriend in 2012 and we got married in 2016.
Have been the one taking care of both of us since then, worked, and sacrificed my all. Almost died because of her 4times not gonna go into details.
She was arrogant, stubborn and disrespectful but I was able to keep those attitudes in check.
We go two kids together and have been doing my best as a man, they never lack anything. But last year things got worst and she have to go stay with her parents this year Feb while I aquat somewhere trying to get my life together and start all over.
Am this type of person that put people above me, I put even strangers needs above mine, am 300% soft and take things to heart, a confirmed simp like ubunja will call it.(I wish the redpill will actually be a tablet to swallow) cos all I read couldn't help me cos I take things to heart too much, have taken this relationship to the heart.
The fact that I gat kids and a understanding wife still kept me going not minding the financial problems I have cos I believe one day things will change for the better.
I don't have friends, right from sec sch days, that's how have been, 1 man squad have been my thing. I can stay indoor for years without going out, I am not gonna feel it a bit. Enough of the stort(but just letting you know the type of person I was.)
2days ago so I was chatting my wife and telling her things gonna be okay soon that I am hopeful and I want us to restrrategise and plan for our future and that of our kids, I said a lot of of things that can shape our future but I was wounded by the answer she gave me like
WHATEVER SUIT YOU
tried to make her smile
And she was like, any problems?
Her answers, her attitude, her behavior was so cold to me, like someone who was already tired but just don't know how to say it.
I know she always want to live a flashy life, a life without stress, worries and pain.
Believe me, I can vouch for her, she is not promiscuous, but the way she spoke was like she already found an alternative or someone was already talking to her and she is almost convinced or sort of.
Have been shattered since then and I just feel like I was gonna have an attack. It really hit me so hard.
Maybe if I had been a bad boy from inception, It won't affect me this much. I can't just think straight, high BP, couldn't eat.
Pls guys advice me am going insane sincerely.
Eight good years and I can swear on my life, I have never cheated not even flirt cos I find it extremely difficult to cheat.

Cc ubunja

And yes I spent almost 10hours going through all ubunja's topics, tried to form the hard guy and just wave everything off and move on and pretend like it never happened but I can't.
Wish REDPILL WAS ACTUALLY A TABLET I COULD USE.

Cc rocktation
Cc farano

She has since stopped replying my messages and chatting me
And I always see her online

I have read your story. The redpill doesn't make you form hard guy, rather it makes you hard. You don't have to pretend that a particular problem doesn't exist. Redpill will not make you pretend or wave off a problem like that of your wife, it makes you understand that those problems are there and inevitable. Go back to all his post again, I mean Ubunja's post again, this time read it and tell yourself that this is the lowest you can fall. You can fall beyond this unless dead. 8yrs is good, understand that no matter how long you live with a woman, she could leave anytime and you should make peace with that. It's okay if she leaves, it's for your own good. If she wanna take the kids, allow her, but always go over to see your kids. All you have to do is pack yourself up, concentrate and do whatever makes you happy, alcohol should never be a part of it. It will ruin your body. Just concentrate and hustle your money, look for other legal means to hustle and you can never hit that money in billions at once. It will come little by little, save and invest. Cheers.

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Re: Ok by Omar09(m): 9:58am On Apr 07, 2020

Charleys:
G get out from here with all these name dropping.

So because she said suit yourself, you come dey look for who go support your thread.

You haven't told us if she cheated on you.

She's also taking the pressure just like you.

Do you know what it means for a married lady to go back to her parents house with kids, while you walk free.

You couldn't put your house in order.
That's why you're in this mess.

Let me give you a secret.

She doesn't want to hear your stupid stories, just make things work out

Whatever happened to being supportive to your other half. You just a big fööl. The biggest in the world. Ídiot.

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Re: Ok by CAPSLOCKED: 10:45am On Apr 07, 2020

Omar09:
Whatever happened to being supportive to your other half. You just a big fööl. The biggest in the world. Ídiot.

IF THIS IS MARRIAGE THEN BEST FOR MEN IS TO BE ON THEIR OWN

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Re: Ok by Artzdanielsz(m): 10:51am On Apr 07, 2020

he put other needs above him, Hmmmmmmmm if that's so I wonder how u will come out of these financial mess you are in.

Re: Ok by Omar09(m): 11:08am On Apr 07, 2020

CAPSLOCKED:
IF THIS IS MARRIAGE THEN BEST FOR MEN IS TO BE ON THEIR OWN

Bro e weak me.

Re: Ok by personal59: 11:19am On Apr 07, 2020

Charleys:
G get out from here with all these name dropping.

So because she said suit yourself, you come dey look for who go support your thread.

You haven't told us if she cheated on you.

She's also taking the pressure just like you.

Do you know what it means for a married lady to go back to her parents house with kids, while you walk free.

You couldn't put your house in order.
That's why you're in this mess.

Let me give you a secret.

She doesn't want to hear your stupid stories, just make things work out

You have to be realistic brother

Eni ija o ba lon pe ara re lokunrin

Re: Ok by zexy2030(m): 11:45am On Apr 07, 2020

Millenniumlady:
How on earth she allow you play her up to this level is what i don't understand well i'm glad she's starting to think like a real lady and i think the best thing for her right now is to divorce you and move on cause no woman deserve to be in this terrible situation.....hope she finds love again from a REAL MAN

what's sort of miserable comforter are you, I just hope u r a troll. Otherwise u should be one of those senseless feminist.
A man reported he loved, married and provided until he had financial crisis and told her to stay with her parent for a while and his kids and himself squat with friends to pull things together.
This otondo millijargons lady is writing or suggesting a divorce.
Pls don't bring ur badluck advice to this happy family. If u r not married why wish him bad.

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Re: Ok by Raalsalghul: 2:12pm On Apr 07, 2020

Charleys:
[s]G get out from here with all these name dropping.

So because she said suit yourself, you come dey look for who go support your thread.

You haven't told us if she cheated on you.

She's also taking the pressure just like you.

Do you know what it means for a married lady to go back to her parents house with kids, while you walk free.

You couldn't put your house in order.
That's why you're in this mess.

Let me give you a secret.

She doesn't want to hear your stupid stories, just make things work out[/s]

Re: Ok by nams77: 5:19am On Apr 23, 2020

Lamanii22:
She simply got tired of everything... It's not her fault... Just stay strong alright? Just work harder... Do it for your kids... It's not all women that has the strength for hardship..

I always like your point. .always balanced and objective.
Op, God will see you thru...just try and get back on your feet. Use the pain you feel now as fuel for your comeback journey ( returning back to status quo)

God bless you my broda. Alls gonna be well. Just keep hope alive. Soon the sun will break over your dark clouds

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Re: Ok by nams77: 5:24am On Apr 23, 2020

Doyin400l:
Sorry bro just work on your skills. I prefer digital skills that can give you decent income.

Kindly suggest some here. U never know who might need it.
I am even looking in that direction if time and my schedule(job) will permit.

Re: Ok by FunnyDude(m): 8:33am On Apr 23, 2020

Never, I repeat never put your heart out there for love. Love is blind reason why you shouldn't be caught unaware. Been there in 2017 and I understood the op very clearly.

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