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Nwaotu:
I don't know if this is the right section to make this post. I got this girl pregnant. I want to settle this girl so I can move on with my life. How much should I give her? The deed has already been done but I need to move on with my life. She has completely changed since she got pregnant and very rude. In your own opinion, how much is reasonable to give her. Thanks for your input. Please no insult.

Set awon deadbeat dads........

Just walk away. Why waste ur money? The pregnancy may not even be urs?

If she can't take care of just one kid herself, why is she in existence?

Use your resources to settle with someone better. Someone more purposeful in life with a career. Not waste it on some parasite because she got pregnant. So what? Is she the first?

Juliearth:
Your first paragraph is not feasible owing to the ease with which naira loses its value.

the Naira losing its value would be the same whether you pay monthly or a lumpsum....therefore to solve this irrelevant issue, before you give her the lumpsum, convert it in Dollars/Euros....case closed!

@op, it took the two of you to make that baby, so why are you trying to shy away from being in the picture? A child needs a father. Do right by this lady and even if you won't marry her, please be in the picture for the sake of the poor child.

who are we kidding here? as much as every children need a father, i can give you many reason as to why a father wouldnt want to be in a woman/child's life:
- if a woman tricked a dude to get pregnant (aka i am on the pill BS OR she is one of them dustbin condom diggers etc)
- if a man does NOT want kids and ask the babe to abort but she doesnt want to, then she should take care of that child on her own (since she believed her decision was more important than his).
- if the dude is married and has to choose between his family AND sidechick with newborn baby
- if the man does NOT want any more kids, told the babe about it, agreed that they would have an abortion if any pregnancy happened but sidechick changed her mind.

Nwaotu:
I don't know if this is the right section to make this post. I got this girl pregnant. I want to settle this girl so I can move on with my life. How much should I give her? The deed has already been done but I need to move on with my life. She has completely changed since she got pregnant and very rude. In your own opinion, how much is reasonable to give her. Thanks for your input. Please no insult.

What are you giving her money for ❓

Did you guys sign any contract or had an agreement

If you have money to give and she has nothing doing, ask her what business she can do, then establish her

But before then, that she is pregnant does not mean that you must marry her, unless both of you are ready to settle down

Besides, pregnancy can make a woman behave irrational, it could be the reason she is behaving weird

Give her time to put to bed then watch her again, your focus now should be how to take care of her till she puts to bed and pay the bills

There is no amount you will give to her to forget about you

Just do your best and watch the way things are going

Nwaotu:
Guys, if I pay child support till the child reaches 18 years, who then becomes the owner of the child. No bi me.

you really be no get sense o, so child na property now wey dem dey share? is it not your responsibility to cater for your child before
you no suppose don get pikin, be like say your sperm first you mature

frozen70:
What are you giving her money for ❓

Did you guys sign any contract or had an agreement

If you have money to give and she has nothing doing, ask her what business she can do, then establish her

But before then, that she is pregnant does not mean that you must marry her, unless both of you are ready to settle down

Besides, pregnancy can make a woman behave irrational, it could be the reason she is behaving weird

Give her time to put to bed then watch her again, your focus now should be how to take care of her till she puts to bed and pay the bills

There is no amount you will give to her to forget about you

Just do your best and watch the way things are going

The money is for their child (if it’s his) not the woman. No where in the OP was marriage mentioned.

Jullima:
The money is for their child (if it’s his) not the woman. No where in the OP was marriage mentioned.

I wasn't specifing on marriage

If you read very well, the child is still in the stomach, so the money is for the woman not the child yet

There is no limit to the amount she needs

If she has nothing doing at the moment he should keep taking care if her and after delivery she willget something doing to generate income

She can't keep expecting from him all the time besides, the guy doesn't really like being in that situation as he wasn't really prepared or he doesn't love the woman anymore

He should give her whatever he thinks he can afford every month without defaulting

frozen70:
I wasn't specifing on marriage

If you read very well, the child is still in the stomach, so the money is for the woman not the child yet

There is no limit to the amount she needs

If she has nothing doing at the moment he should keep taking care if her and after delivery she willget something doing to generate income

She can't keep expecting from him all the time besides, the guy doesn't really like being in that situation as he wasn't really prepared or he doesn't love the woman anymore

He should give her whatever he thinks he can afford every month without defaulting

No o. The OP is asking how much he should give the woman to disappear from his life. So you’ve to infer if the women is disappearing, she is doing so with their child. So the money also has to go to the upkeep of their child for at least 18-21 years. If she wasn’t expecting their child, I doubt the OP will care to give the woman money or feel obligated to.

Jullima:
No o. The OP is asking how much he should give the woman to disappear from his life. So you’ve to infer if the women is disappearing, she is doing so with their child. So the money also has to go to the upkeep of their child for at least 18-21 years. If she wasn’t expecting their child, I doubt the OP will care to give the woman money or feel obligated to.

Yes, he is even tired of her, when the journey just started

If he pays her to go off his life, what will happen to the child

Does he think she will ever drop that child for anyone

Never ❗❗❗

excanny:
Just walk away. Why waste ur money? The pregnancy may not even be urs?

If she can't take care of just one kid herself, why is she in existence?

Use your resources to settle with someone better. Someone more purposeful in life with a career. Not waste it on some parasite because she got pregnant. So what? Is she the first?

If you have been doing this to others nemesis will catch up with you soon

Nwaotu:
I don't know if this is the right section to make this post. I got this girl pregnant. I want to settle this girl so I can move on with my life. How much should I give her? The deed has already been done but I need to move on with my life. She has completely changed since she got pregnant and very rude. In your own opinion, how much is reasonable to give her. Thanks for your input. Please no insult.

Why settle her when the child is yours?

There's no need for settlement. Once the child is born, collect your child and send her on her way. Case closed.

Next time, #100 condom will not be too expensive. Mkpi awusa.

kaziblake:
If you have been doing this to others nemesis will catch up with you soon

What about the ones that women do, giving their husbands child from another man, 60% of firstborns in Nigeria are bastards.

There is no wickedness on earth that men do that women haven't done double.

OP my advise is you pay this woman off and collect the child from her. You can't Abandon your child.

xendra:
your life and entire property, and every month child support for your child.

Did he kill somebody?

SweetCunt97:
Another upcoming Deadbeat dad who will coming looking for the child in 20 years to come. Only lightening will strike you if you come begging in future. Radarada oshi.

Come, I like you, let's have sex is not same as come and born baby for me. I advice the guy to kick the girl out without giving her a kobo.

StreetFight:
Come, I like you, let's have sex is not same as come and born baby for me. I advice the guy to kick the girl out without giving her a kobo.

Then you should b sensible not to sow your seed there. Abi you they try know whether your sperm fertile or not? If you don't want a baby, do not release inside... Simple.

BigJoe19:
OP my advise is you pay this woman off and collect the child from her. You can't Abandon your child.

Just look at you. Collect ur kid from her yen yen yen... She b incubator na

StreetFight:
Did he kill somebody?

do you have to kill somebody to pay child support? is the mother not investing her life into it why should he give any less