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kayodez:
Please, I just need ur opinions and suggestions. My younger brother came to live with me during this lockdown period and his girlfriend normally come visiting him, meanwhile our mum do tell me always to monitor him closely and do guide him always. Now, I don't even know how to tell him to stop inviting his girlfriend at least for now.

Guys, how can I explain to him to stop this act for now that won't cos disagreement? He's 21 yrs old.

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Very simple.... PREACH TO THE GIRL...


or have sex talk with both of them.... FIRST take permission from your mum o.... SO YOU HAVE BACKING FROM ABOVE...

Next thing is sit the two of them down and ask VERY UNCOMFORTABLE QUESTIONS, she would not love to come again

Na wetin too much play dey cause,
even if he's grown enough to keep a girlfriend, he should know ur his elder brother and give u the respect.
U better talk to him to stop it or one day u will sleep outside so he can bleep his girlfriend in ur house.
Children no get respect again

Tell his girlfriend to stop coming..dat she's distracting him or u report him to ur mum,so she can tell him to stop bringing her.

Seems like your so called “younger brother” is meant to be your elder bro. If you don’t know how to maturely tell him what to do and how to do it in your own apartment.

Get the hell out of ..... let me not finish it....

How old are you that you can’t talk to ur younger one without media intervention??

I believe position between you guys should be swapped

My question - how many years gap is between you two that you cant sit him down and tell him your mind? Or is yours the type of family where it is just months that separates one child from another and then you begin to drag position of who senior who?

Amotolongbo:
Seems like your so called “younger brother” is meant to be your elder bro. If you don’t know how to maturely tell him what to do and how to do it in your own apartment.

ah swear this guy no get balls at all, he should be the last born in the house...imagine

laurenwhite:
My question - how many years gap is between you two that you cant sit him down and tell him your mind? Or is yours the type of family where it is just months that separates one child from another and then you begin to drag position of who senior who?

even if we be twin brothers and na me come out first, u no fit carry woman enter my house, go rent ur own apartment and keep dozens of them if u wish

He's 21

An adult

He's under your roof and you're uncomfortable with something about his relationship?

Talk to him as an adult to another specifically on what you don't like. Eg, the girl is underage, making demands that he can't meet up with, quarrelsome, the community hoe, etcetera etcetera.

nero2face:
even if we be twin brothers and na me come out first, u no fit carry woman enter my house, go rent ur own apartment and keep dozens of them if u wish

Why? I'm just curious

Bringing girls to another person's house is stupid

Amanee:
Why? I'm just curious

bcuz keeping girlfriends is never what to brag about to ur family, u can brag to friends, disturbing ur elder brother with a girlfriend is disrespectful not just to him alone but to the whole family

nero2face:
even if we be twin brothers and na me come out first, u no fit carry woman enter my house, go rent ur own apartment and keep dozens of them if u wish

abi o...but if na u come out first as per twins matter, na you go answer junior... Op needs to let go of his fear of conflict, if your bro vexes till high heavens he will still calm down, highest he would pack out and thats your wish, isnt it?

Amanee:
He's 21

An adult

He's under your roof and you're uncomfortable with his relationship, talk to him as an adult to another on what you don't like about his relationship.

what can he boast of @21 ?, that he brings girlfriend to his elder brother's house...nonsense

nero2face:
bcuz keeping girlfriends is never what to brag about to ur family, u can brag to friends, disturbing ur elder brother with a girlfriend is disrespectful not just to him alone but to the whole family

Lol, different strokes for different folks

Nobody is bragging about having a girlfriend so because you have a house, your siblings cannot be comfortable enough to bring home their prospective partners?

I believe at 21, the young man is no longer a child, he should know what he wants and if being in a loving monogamous relationship is part of it, then there is no problem.

I believe the natural bad belle in African relatives is what is disturbing you and this op. Change.

In your house??
As e be now ehhhhhhhhhh u day fear ur younger brother


No cap

nero2face:
what can he boast of @21 ?, that he brings girlfriend to his elder brother's house...nonsense

Stop taking it personal.

If there is anything the op doesn't like about the girl in question maybe she's underage, disrespectful etc it can be a valid reason to ask his brother to end the relationship and even that should not be forced down the young man's throat.


But if it's just because he doesn't like his brother being in a relationship because he's under his roof then it's just envy.

Bros...say you be woman...house wey you rent with your hard earned money, you want to start negotiating terms and conditions with your younger bro...

Like seriously....just straight to the point don't hide or mime your words when talking to him..
Pls be a man set an example for him to see ..

Tell him with brotherly love.

pay me just 10k. I will come and tell the both of them professionally.

From me to you OP. You can't stop your brother who is 21 from having a girlfriend. But u can educate him on the meaning of self isolation and what it was all about during this world lock down. It is for health reason.. No one knows who is carrying what.... Coroner is just by the corner.

Let him know that It was not a holidays where people comes for courtesy visit. Just let him know that so that he can pass the info to the girl friend.

I believe both of u are educated. Talk to him like an adult that he is.not in a condescending manner just because you are older.

Bleep the girl and Let him know

Amanee:
Lol, different strokes for different folks

Nobody is bragging about having a girlfriend so because you have a house, your siblings cannot be comfortable enough to bring home their prospective partners?

I believe at 21, the young man is no longer a child, he should know what he wants and if being in a loving monogamous relationship is part of it, then there is no problem.

I believe the natural bad belle in African relatives is what is disturbing you and this op. Change.

Won de

sunshineV:
Bleep the girl and Let him know

That is the reason why you are not a man!!

For him to have the guts to bring his girlfriend into your house, it means you both relate very well. If it's becoming uncomfortable for you, simply seat him down and tell him.

I'd strongly suggest you give him a valid reason why you want her to stop coming, that would help.

You mean your younger brother's girlfriend has a probability of bringing CONVID19 in your house and you're casually asking us for solution?


Ok oooo, what do I know sef?

Amanee:
Lol, different strokes for different folks

Nobody is bragging about having a girlfriend so because you have a house, your siblings cannot be comfortable enough to bring home their prospective partners?

I believe at 21, the young man is no longer a child, he should know what he wants and if being in a loving monogamous relationship is part of it, then there is no problem.

I believe the natural bad belle in African relatives is what is disturbing you and this op. Change.

from ur posts I can understand u may be under 20 dating another under 20...so dear we can't see things same...u win

If he is a wise guy, he would reduce the number of times the girl visits him, but he lacks wisdom, the earlier you instruct him to reduce the number of times the girl comes to the house, the better for the both of you.

Amanee:
Lol, different strokes for different folks

Nobody is bragging about having a girlfriend so because you have a house, your siblings cannot be comfortable enough to bring home their prospective partners?

I believe at 21, the young man is no longer a child, he should know what he wants and if being in a loving monogamous relationship is part of it, then there is no problem.

I believe the natural bad belle in African relatives is what is disturbing you and this op. Change.

Oga 21 isn't an adult here. Adulthood has levels. What has he achieved? How much responsibilities does he handle ? He probably is still a student that gets stipends from his parents or even the elder brother.

People these days have no respect. I dare not discuss such lewd issues with my elder, let alone bring women to his house at 21.