I'm 27, my husband is 39 and we have 3 kids together. My husband is a very good man and has made this marriage journey very easy for me. It's true what they say that no marriage is perfect. My only problem with him is low libido resulting from putting unnecessary pressure on himself. Every other thing about him is 100%.

He looks at his friends that has hotels, hostels and so on and start comparing them with him. This actually started 3 years ago when our last born was 1. We are doing great financially but he wants more.

Last night, I tried initiating sex again and he began about how he's not in the mood because of money matter again. I just tire. We live in our own house, have a house with tenants, investments here and there, still my husband is not taking things easy.

I doubt he's cheating. I have access to his phone whenever I want. He don't hide it and has no sneaky character. I might be wrong though but I highly doubt that.

Just ordinary gisting with him, I'll be soooo Hot and wet. Even as I'm typing this I'm so in the mood. I think about sex with him all day long. It's crazy.

He's not like this before. Though he's not the sex type but it has gotten so bad. I'm so frustrated with him. I don tire.

I need mature suggestions on how to go about this minus cheating. He's too good to be cheated on.

CorrectBizWoman:
I'm 27, my husband is 39 and we have 3 kids together. My husband is a very good man and has made this marriage journey very easy for me. It's true what they say that no marriage is perfect. My only problem with him is low libido resulting from putting unnecessary pressure on himself. Every other thing about him is 100%.

Since the problem is psychological, why not suggest he seek professional mental health counseling for what seems to be depression?

He needs therapy

You can try using intimacy gadgets if you want...Don't kill that man

Stress alone is a libido killer not to talk of forcing him for sex which can frustrate him more

I would have suggested you get a young sexy man that can pound you very well but you said you don't wanna cheat on him and that's okay

He is your husband, have an extensive discussion with him. He is a good man, so sex shouldn't be issue here. If he request for it much without any achievement you mentioned above, will you be given him? This your sex drive will have died since. But you have enjoyment without good sex, and that's your problem now. Create a good home atmosphere for your man and see to his relaxation. His sex drive will come back. Stop nagging him for this.

Kobojunkie:
Since the problem is psychological, why not suggest he seek professional mental health counseling for what seems to be depression?

He won't agree to it. I don't think he will

SerikiFulani:
He needs therapy

You can try using intimacy gadgets if you want...Don't kill that man

Stress alone is a libido killer not to talk of forcing him for sex which can frustrate him more

I would have suggested you get a young sexy man that can pound you very well but you said you don't wanna cheat on him and that's okay

I almost ordered one the other day but my faith stopped me. I might end up doing that if he doesn't change.

Like I said, cheating is not an option for me.

CorrectBizWoman:


I almost ordered one the other day but my faith stopped me. I might end up doing that if he doesn't change.

Like I said, cheating is not an option for me.

Please order

There's one that can suck your clitoris

There's one that can pound you like the real thing

There's also one to to stimulate your asshole

Let me stop here

Just do as you say

tee59:
He is your husband, have an extensive discussion with him. He is a good man, so sex shouldn't be issue here. If he request for it much without any achievement you mentioned above, will you be given him? This your sex drive will have died since. But you have enjoyment without good sex, and that's your problem now. Create a good home atmosphere for your man and see to his relaxation. His sex drive will come back. Stop nagging him for this.

We have a very good relationship/communication. There was a time I tried not talking about sex for a period of 5 weeks, he didn't bulge. Always money money money talks all the time. He's getting me worked up unnecessary. What many women are denying their husbands and I'm here giving him on a platter, still ..

If the only problem your husband has is low libido,then you are not only lucky, you're blessed, because there 1001 simple lasting solutions to it.
I will recommend Jalin herbal mannex,it is pure natural and herbal,it is a mixture of pure natural honey with some other Chinese roots, highly effective.

CorrectBizWoman:
He won't agree to it. I don't think he will

Then you both will likely have to continue with his depression ruling over your lives and enjoyment.

Maybe you could take up exercising, regularly, as a way of expending some of the sexual energy you carry with you. Discipline yourself so you are no longer tired on by your husband until he decides to overcome the depression whenever he gets around to it.

SerikiFulani:


Please order

There's one that can suck your clitoris

There's one that can pound you like the real thing

There's also one to to stimulate your asshole

Let me stop here

Just do as you say

I'm strongly thinking towards this direction. I can't come and kill myself. I miss what a good sex feels like

Greatzeus:
If the only problem your husband has is low libido,then you are not only lucky, you're blessed, because there 1001 simple lasting solutions to it.
I will recommend Jalin herbal mannex,it is pure natural and herbal,it is a mixture of pure natural honey with some other Chinese roots, highly effective.

I'll make research on this. Thanks

CorrectBizWoman:


I'm strongly thinking towards this direction. I can't come and kill myself. I miss what a good sex feels like

Good sex is essential.

Kobojunkie:
Then you both will likely have to continue with his depression ruling over your lives and enjoyment.

Maybe you could take up exercising, regularly, as a way of expending some of the sexual energy you carry with you. Discipline yourself so you are no longer tired on by your husband until he decides to overcome the depression whenever he gets around to it.

I signed up for a class 4 months ago because of my mummy pooch and the coach was kind of hitting on me and he's very attractive too. I won't lie. I had to stop going because of fear of the unknown. Till date my husband don't know the reason I stopped going.

If only he passed this one, my marriage would've been 100%. I guess you can't have it all.

He is your husband, you should discuss this with him in a plain, calm way. You're his wife, it's his responsibility to satisfy you but don't put it that way to him. Let him know you're starved and have being longing for him but you don't want to put pressure on him.

Try calm him down on money issues and all those things that you talked about, life is more than that. He should take things easy, he is not competing with anybody.

CorrectBizWoman:

I signed up for a class 4 months ago because of my mummy pooch and the coach was kind of hitting on me and he's very attractive too. I won't lie. I had to stop going because of fear of the unknown. Till date my husband don't know the reason I stopped going.

If only he passed this one, my marriage would've been 100%. I guess you can't have it all.

Rather than decide for him, you need to advise him to seek help for the stress. Even if you are OK with not having sex at all, there is the fact that is body is already sick from all the stress he carries, and he might get even sicker if he does not something sooner than later to reverse whatever damage has been done by it. Don't forget that stress remains a #1 killer of even Nigerian men, not just their libidos.

Please tell your husband to seek professional mental health therapy so he can get back to being healthy again..

CorrectBizWoman:
I'm 27, my husband is 39 and we have 3 kids together. My husband is a very good man and has made this marriage journey very easy for me. It's true what they say that no marriage is perfect. My only problem with him is low libido resulting from putting unnecessary pressure on himself. Every other thing about him is 100%.

He looks at his friends that has hotels, hostels and so on and start comparing them with him. This actually started 3 years ago when our last born was 1. We are doing great financially but he wants more.

Last night, I tried initiating sex again and he began about how he's not in the mood because of money matter again. I just tire. We live in our own house, have a house with tenants, investments here and there, still my husband is not taking things easy.

I doubt he's cheating. I have access to his phone whenever I want. He don't hide it and has no sneaky character. I might be wrong though but I highly doubt that.

Just ordinary gisting with him, I'll be soooo Hot and wet. Even as I'm typing this I'm so in the mood. I think about sex with him all day long. It's crazy.

He's not like this before. Though he's not the sex type but it has gotten so bad. I'm so frustrated with him. I don tire.

I need mature suggestions on how to go about this minus cheating. He's too good to be cheated on.

Madam I have been in similar position with you and this was what my wife did for me and it worked. Suggest a vacation for just both of you outside your state. It could be 3-5 days vacation. This will help to ease his mind off things, both the environment, work/business and the kids. Just the two of you. Thank me later after the results.

Just let him figure out himself. I'm passing through same thing. I have been battling with anxiety almost everyday making me feeling stressed over little stuffs and it's crazy cause I can't control it. I figured out it reduced my sex drive so much and im glad my anxiety is gone now, i just need to get my drive back.

Another one from Wale Adenuga production.

CorrectBizWoman:


I'll make research on this. Thanks

https://academicjournals.org/journal/AJBR/article-authors/3E7587769859

Research article

CorrectBizWoman:
I'm 27, my husband is 39 and we have 3 kids together. My husband is a very good man and has made this marriage journey very easy for me. It's true what they say that no marriage is perfect. My only problem with him is low libido resulting from putting unnecessary pressure on himself. Every other thing about him is 100%.

He looks at his friends that has hotels, hostels and so on and start comparing them with him. This actually started 3 years ago when our last born was 1. We are doing great financially but he wants more.

Last night, I tried initiating sex again and he began about how he's not in the mood because of money matter again. I just tire. We live in our own house, have a house with tenants, investments here and there, still my husband is not taking things easy.

I doubt he's cheating. I have access to his phone whenever I want. He don't hide it and has no sneaky character. I might be wrong though but I highly doubt that.

Just ordinary gisting with him, I'll be soooo Hot and wet. Even as I'm typing this I'm so in the mood. I think about sex with him all day long. It's crazy.

He's not like this before. Though he's not the sex type but it has gotten so bad. I'm so frustrated with him. I don tire.

I need mature suggestions on how to go about this minus cheating. He's too good to be cheated on.

Try talk to him, life is more than all those especially as you guys are not doing bad. He should be grateful for what he have already and take things easy, tomorrow he may be better than those guys. (hope you guys are not putting much pressure on him).
Try talk him to get down with you, initiate things if necessary, na your husband, tell him you need him, reduce him etc.
This life truly no balance!

CorrectBizWoman:


He won't agree to it. I don't think he will

Check your mail

CorrectBizWoman:


I almost ordered one the other day but my faith stopped me. I might end up doing that if he doesn't change.

Like I said, cheating is not an option for me.

WHEN YOU REALIZE THAT intimacy gadgets ARE NOT LIKE THE REAL THING, THEN YOU WILL BE FRUSTRATED
THE MORE
MIND YOU IT IS CHEATING TO USE A intimacy gadget IN MARRIAGE, MORE LIKE MASTURBATION.
REMOVE YOUR THOUGHT FROM SEX, READ THE HOLY BOOK AND PLAN TO HAVE SEX WITH YOUR HUSBAND.

SORRY TO SAY THIS YOUR HUSBAND IS COVETOUS AND IT DESTROYS

spice123:

Madam I have been in similar position with you and this was what my wife did for me and it worked. Suggest a vacation for just both of you outside your state. It could be 3-5 days vacation. This will help to ease his mind off things, both the environment, work/business and the kids. Just the two of you. Thank me later after the results.

op i think this will work, if only he will agree to go on vacation with you

CorrectBizWoman:
I'm 27, my husband is 39 and we have 3 kids together. My husband is a very good man and has made this marriage journey very easy for me. It's true what they say that no marriage is perfect. My only problem with him is low libido resulting from putting unnecessary pressure on himself. Every other thing about him is 100%.

He looks at his friends that has hotels, hostels and so on and start comparing them with him. This actually started 3 years ago when our last born was 1. We are doing great financially but he wants more.

Last night, I tried initiating sex again and he began about how he's not in the mood because of money matter again. I just tire. We live in our own house, have a house with tenants, investments here and there, still my husband is not taking things easy.

I doubt he's cheating. I have access to his phone whenever I want. He don't hide it and has no sneaky character. I might be wrong though but I highly doubt that.

Just ordinary gisting with him, I'll be soooo Hot and wet. Even as I'm typing this I'm so in the mood. I think about sex with him all day long. It's crazy.

He's not like this before. Though he's not the sex type but it has gotten so bad. I'm so frustrated with him. I don tire.

I need mature suggestions on how to go about this minus cheating. He's too good to be cheated on.

We could just be friends.
Who could just regularly engage in chitchats
...to keep your mind off sex most of the time
Okay?

What's your location? Btw...

Kobojunkie:
Since the problem is psychological, why not suggest he seek professional mental health counseling for what seems to be depression?

someone has three kids and you are talking of how can have more under Buhari regime. Use your six.
Even Aisha ran out of the other room to save Nigerians some funds.

CodeTemplar:
someone has three kids and you are talking of how can have more under Buhari regime. Use your six.
Even Aisha ran out of the other room to save Nigerians some funds.

In marriage you have to find a balance and walk it. You cannot obsess about making more in order to supposedly keep your marriage while the same marriage suffers as a result of your wanting to make more.

CorrectBizWoman, it is time you both visit a professional marriage counselor for help for this issue in your marriage.

CorrectBizWoman:


I almost ordered one the other day but my faith stopped me. I might end up doing that if he doesn't change.

Like I said, cheating is not an option for me.

Pls don't do this. Your husband just needs prayer.

Pray for him. Commit him to God. There's nothing God cannot do.

If you are a Christian, create a personal relationship with God together with your Husband .
intimacy gadget can not be the same as your husband. Its a sin

CorrectBizWoman:


I'm strongly thinking towards this direction. I can't come and kill myself. I miss what a good sex feels like

So did you later get this?
Because from your latest post concerning this, I don't know if you did