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Hmm...

Well, I lost my Mama some years back. The pain I felt and still feeling is something I don't want any loved one to feel.

I am a worrier. And as the first born, I already have three 'children' I constantly worry about especially with this covid ish. I can't imagine how intense it would be if I decide to have a child.

Besides, I am selfish. I cannot sacrifice my peace of mind just to have a 'mini-me'.

I am also a control freak. No child deserves me micro-managing their life and I can easily see myself doing that. I don't think I have the capacity to raise well-adjusted children. I'm still finding my way myself.

My threshold for pain is very low. nuff said.

Yea yea, I will grow old alone. But as an introvert, that does not scare me at all. Besides I already have a substantial financial plan that is expected to see me through retirement. God willing.

People say I will change my mind when I get to my thirties but the joker is I already knew, way back in secondary school.

Caveat: I have never had sex and from my last checkup, I am perfectly okay. So this is not a decision borne out of dAmAgEd WoMb from abortionsssss. Nor from heartbreaks.

I live a charmed life, daddy spoils me a lot. I am happy and life's good.

But if I had an option, I will choose not to be born because after all the pleasures, possessions, and qualifications, what is this life?

So yeah, let dem babies remain in heaven, we will have a grand reunion when we meet.

bukatyne:
From little experience I have read and seen, one person always get burnt when two healthy able to have kids adults decide to have a no-kid marriage.

Squillaci:

Why do you think everyone desires kids?
I mean, what do kids do other than eat, shit, play and do stupid things?

cococandy:
Some of us Nigerians can’t think beyond our own small minds. That’s why the issue of an adult couple choosing to have no kids or have one/few kids is always making them debate among themselves.
There must be something wrong if you make that choice right?

ibkayee:
I don't see the big deal in not wanting kids, there doesn't always have to be a deep rooted problem. Plus there can be just as many advantages to not having them as there are to having them, it's a personal decision *shrug*

crackkhaus:
There used to be one female here who was always talking about how she never wants to have kids.

I've always wondered if people who make that choice actually have the ability to make kids but are just using the excuse of never wanting kids to cover it up.

It's surreal to imagine how a perfectly healthy individual would choose not to have a child.

Jullima:

I used to think like you, but then you see some women that are not maternal at all and shouldn’t bring children to this world. When some women bravely decide they don’t want kids we should listen to them, not all women are cut out to be mothers.

Hangulsaram:

No smoke without fire Nne

ibkayee:

What does this mean as it pertains to the topic?

Hangulsaram:

Yes, it means there must be a reason for a normal human to make such decision.

Hathor5:


more money
no sleepless nights
less headache/worries and responsibility
fewer sacrifices
no boring children activities instead you do what you like doing in your free time
more freedom and more time to focus on other things
no pregnancies and the pain that comes with them
you do not contribute to overpopulation

Hangulsaram:

I see, are you implying that your parents made a mistake or they did n’t think before giving birth to you?
At the bolded, “no pain no gain”
Anyway I think it’s horrible people that reason this way you are reasoning.

Hathor5:


What's horrible about them?

Hangulsaram:

I see, are you implying that your parents made a mistake or they did n’t think before giving birth to you?
At the bolded, “no pain no gain”
Anyway I think it’s horrible people that reason this way you are reasoning.

moviemaker:

It's possible, but this is not the case at all times. There are CF couples in their old age.


I can relate with this.

bukatyne2:


I never said there are no childfree couples; I said someone usually gets burnt when two healthy person decide to be childfree especially when neither of them previously had kids.

moviemaker:


Your statement reeks of certainty. And to put it more clear to you, you're wrong. It's not in every case someone gets burned when two healthy persons decide to be childfree whether they have kids from past unions or not. We have examples of them living fine even in their old age.

Hangulsaram:
read your previous post again and see ur reasons if it’s not horrible to that issues with children.

bukatyne2:

Hathor5:


I read it. What's horrible about it? Try to articulate yourself.

Hangulsaram:

After all your articulations, you came out with that rubbish reasoning.

Hathor5:


Look, I would curse you and your future generations but you seem to have been cursed already so get the fvck out of my way if you are unable to express a simple thought before I curse what is left of your destiny. And remember not to populate the earth with little cretins like yourself.

Hangulsaram:

Lol! Sister reason am naa.