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Hi guys, so recently i met this lady that i like just before she began her youth service in Makurdi. She told me she has no boyfriend so i moved in to try and win her heart. We grew so close in a short time despite the distance and then the lockdown forced her to come home to abuja. Now in the little time she has been home i found some disturbing chats between her and some dude in Makurdi. She has sex chats with the guy talking abt how they miss each others bodies and even sends him nudes. I found it disturbing and stylishly asked her if she is attached to anyone emotionally or sexually and she said no. So now i am having serious doubts abt continuing the chase. She likes me too but she hasn't been entirely honest with me. Pls help me confirm or allay my fears. No insults biko, if u have nothing sensible to say just shut it.

If you were in Ecuador right now facing the uncertainty of life and death, seeing the worst of an economic shutdown, you wouldn't have time to allow a small girl give you traffic light signal like this

iamadonis2:
If you were in Ecuador right now facing the uncertainty of life and death, seeing the worst of an economic shutdown, you wouldn't have time to allow a small girl give you traffic light signal like this

Abi o! As much as i sympathize with the people of Ecuador, i am also thankful for where i am, and my God will not forgive me for stopping to live despite his grace upon me. May God rescue us from this pandemic. Thanks for ur contribution

Play ur part very very well and watch her walk away from those dudes and straight into ur arms..

any lady telling u she has no boyfriend is lying oga.they only say that if they want to take advantage of u.

Hey bro, let's both be realistic here: she knows your intention and still sex chat with someone else, definitely she's into him and not you,i don't think you should waste your time with her - my advice though

kaylo31:
to come home to abuja. Now in the little time she has been home i found some disturbing chats between her and some dude in Makurdi. She has sex chats with the guy talking abt how they miss each others bodies and even sends him nudes. I found it disturbing and stylishly asked her if she is attached to anyone emotionally or sexually and she said no. So now i am having serious doubts abt continuing the chase. She likes me too but she hasn't been entirely honest with me. Pls help me confirm or allay my fears. No insults biko, if u have nothing sensible to say just shut it.

this one is enough proof she has someone nau.just chop the share she is giving u and move on.hope u havent started spending heavily ooo.cos when a girl smiles at some of u guys next thing na to dey spend anyhow as if u under some sort of spell .

Lol...funny thing be say no matter how we talk & advice these chaps, them go still fall mugu to these girls of easy virtues....d reason i dey always keep mum 4 their matter. Human beings prefer to learn the hard way.

Sundrus:
Lol...funny thing be say no matter how we talk & advice these chaps, them go still fall mugu to these girls of easy virtues....d reason i dey always keep mum 4 their matter. Human beings prefer to learn the hard way.

Oga abeg no vex, i go follow ur advice,no hold am back biko

lefulefu:
any lady telling u she has no boyfriend is lying oga.they only say that if they want to take advantage of u.

That's not always true. Some ladies are busy hustling for the money and are truly single.
Not everyone has time for "what's your weakness baby"
Money over Ds, man
@OP you saw the chats and you are still asking questions, smh

I don't know about other people but as for me I'm completely different person from the one I am online..


If you use my sexting with girls online to confirm I'm a womanizer you are on a long thing.

And most especially my sometime wayward and meaningless comments here on Nairaland doesn't portray my real life image at all...

Thank you.

kaylo31:
Oga abeg no vex, i go follow ur advice,no hold am back biko

lefulefu don tell u the koko already.

Two things matter. You know she's lying. And you know that with that you should just sleep with her and attach no feelings since that's your aim anyway.
Play along with her lie and it will be easier to lay her. Don't try to guilt trip her with the hope of making her faithful or remorseful about her lie. Just do your bit and go.

internationalman:
I don't know about other people but as for me I'm completely different person from the one I am online..


If you use my sexting with girls online to confirm I'm a womanizer you are on a long thing.

And most especially my sometime wayward and meaningless comments here on Nairaland doesn't portray my real life image at all...

Thank you.

when the opportunity & the right time come, u go surely explore those wild thoughts & feelings wey u dey express online. Time & chance happens to us all.

Saintmary:
That's not always true. Some ladies are busy hustling for the money and are truly single.
Not everyone has time for "what's your weakness baby"
Money over Ds, man
@OP you saw the chats and you are still asking questions, smh

True. I quite agree.

Sundrus:
when the opportunity & the right time come, u go surely explore those wild thoughts & feelings wey u dey express online. Time & chance happens to us all.

Never.. I put on the clothes that fit any given situation...

In other words I can be anything I decide to be at any given point in time.

internationalman:
Never.. I put on the clothes that fit any given situation...

In other words I can be anything I decide to be at any given point in time.

lol...Never say Never.

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Saintmary:
That's not always true. Some ladies are busy hustling for the money and are truly single.
Not everyone has time for "what's your weakness baby"
Money over Ds, man
@OP you saw the chats and you are still asking questions, smh

so how u coping with no man in ur life..dont u get lonely?

kaylo31:
Oga abeg no vex, i go follow ur advice,no hold am back biko

No you can't learn, you need it the hard way.
Cus you'd have just pick your pieces with one or two(comment) advice before his, you wouldn't even be needing his but no you still choose to learn the hard way.
Don't commit suicide though for consequences of simping around women cus I still like and need alive you as a brother.

Bros if you are open minded and she's not then the game is on you....

You better take your share and leave the rest.

Better you talk to her about it and be straight with it. Tell her you are not ready for silly games
If she is into somone eles then you walk away gently. That sex chating and all that.


Or rather maybe she isnt into you just yet.


If a woman has not created a stand with you just expect anything you see.

She told you she had no boyfriend and you believed her?
Oya bring your head closer for a konk.

Have you tried to see if you are getting the same energy you're putting in to make things work for you two? It's not just to say you grew close. The thing is, the particular feeling you have for her, is she reciprocating?

And again, what do you really want out of this relationship you're trying to build? Is it for long term leading to marriage, or just another chase for a fling. If it's the former, you need to let her know about your findings, her reply at that point (whether lies or truth) will determine if you will go ahead or not with the relationship.

But if it's just a fling you want, you can turn a blind eye to what you saw. Do your fling but don't catch feelings... In this case don't give her any indication that you're in for something serious, don't mislead her.