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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Amonijosh1: 9:50am On Apr 17, 2020

Talk it over, and ask her what she wants you to do in this situation of her starving you of sex.
truth is, with pregnancy and child birth most women relapse with respect to sex drive but builds back over time.
who knows, you may be a man with a very high libido and she would have been tolerating you before pregnancy and child birth.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Supermajor(m): 9:53am On Apr 17, 2020

Olufemiolaolu:
Understanding is key in resolving this. You have to be helping her out too in her daily chores. If yo have to beg try to empathize with her 1st. I know it's not easy just endure for now.

Lolxx.. I know of plenty guys that use this same lines to shift plenty pants even though no be their wives.. Hahaha

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by IMASTEX: 9:58am On Apr 17, 2020

doitforyou:
Ideally, you shouldn’t even be thinking about sex, she had a CS just three months ago!!!

As sensible as your mention. The Indomie generation married boy won't see sense in it. He obviously married for sex, clubbing and anything that gives him fun. 3 months into CS and he is complaining. It therefore means he was asking for sex the next week after she returned home. I know a friend who's wife delivered through the same means, it was the woman that had to ask for sex after 6 months that she was okay. He even had to consult her doctor before they resumed their sexual life.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Algold: 10:01am On Apr 17, 2020

Start making imaginary calls. Thank me later... She will go they open am anytime u want am.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Supermajor(m): 10:01am On Apr 17, 2020

IMASTEX:
You spoke my mind 100%. I wasn't surprised at the comments before yours because many agreed to be single & I know others are kids. A woman delivered through CS and the boy is already having issues with sex just 3 months after. A woman declined sex at her mix emotionally period of her pregnancy he calls it an issue. What kind of so called married generation do we have this days?! They think marriage is for boys. I pity!

See what dis one is saying again!! Did u read the ops plight and understand it at all or u just read it to give comments??

What stops the wife from opening up to the husband what the problem might be or is the husband that difficult that he will not understand her when she tells him her problem.
And also why has she refused him to play with her as usual. Any ways, her eyes go clear once oga finds a free garage to be parking is car.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by bizzibodi(m): 10:10am On Apr 17, 2020

Must u puke dnt u hav better things to do?

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Nickieviva(f): 10:31am On Apr 17, 2020

Your marriage is still young,do not introduce sex as the almighty instrument that can make your marriage last.
She is a first timer as a mother,and she got the motherhood status in a hard way.She is still trying to get her mind settled at what could have led to such experience. So,for you to put sex forward,she might start thinking that you are a self centred man.
You have to wipe off the idea of her having an extra marital affair.Your efforts in this her emotional trying time will determine if she's going to love you more or hate you.I bet you once she comes out of her present state loving you,you will enjoy your marriage with her.Because she would be willing to go extra mile at satisfying you sexually to the point of you saying it's enough.Have you discussed about any family planning method with your wife? If not please do.To build her confidence and trust in you.
She is still gripped with fear and so try more by alleviating the fear be gentle with her and try as much as possible not express yourself angrily to her and do not establish any form of absolutism in your marriage. Ask for the Grace of God to carry out this task.Do not entertain any form of negative advice against your marriage. If you love your wife and daughter you can make it .work

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by bukhety(f): 10:32am On Apr 17, 2020

Takotsubo:
She probably doesn't enjoy whatever it is you're doing.

If you worship her body and she clim axes strongly each time you have sex,why would she be refusing?

What woman will let tiredness come between her and a mind bending org asm filled sex session?

I know you'll say now that you can sex for Africa so I'll counter immediately by saying may be she is really really really exhausted from looking after the baby.

Sorry sah

i agree with u completely. open communication can really help to determine which is it exactly.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Mypeople2(m): 10:35am On Apr 17, 2020

abike12:
You are an evil man and I'm very sure you're unattractive. Do you know that a c section is a major surgery? You're coming to report a new mother to a forum full of strangers because of three months of no sex after a c section. You're a vile and disgusting excuse for a human being and I hope she leaves you and finds a better husband.

Babe please take it easy. This man has been suffering for 5 months now and this is the only advice you can render ?Please act like a human and put yourself in his shoes

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by reiddecuti: 10:43am On Apr 17, 2020

MrBrownJay1:
what has the above got to do with refusing sex with your husband AND/OR giving husband no reason or explanation whatsoever?!

Please OP, don't make assumptions why ur wive is refusing u sex or not giving u answer.

Sit her down and have a talk with her. Ask her questions. This is where maturity come. Show ur concern to her not only sex and help her fight what ever fear she conceal. This I believe will make her lower her defense.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by SweetCunt97(f): 10:52am On Apr 17, 2020

incogni2o:
Pity for how many Months.

I am sure the Guy is a Faithful dude and May God bless Him for that.

You guys prefer that he should find an alternative outside.

Even If she is truely recuperating, She would have let him know that she isn't fine for now.

Pls read the title again. SHE WANTS HIM TO BEG for months.

Haba

This shows a Wife who either is not concerned about the sexual wellbeing of the Husband or using it for a payback in a way.

You Ladies(Feminists) will not stop until you turn Men to weaklings......I Refuse.

Even the Bible says the body of Both of you belong to each other.

You had to include feminism to this your talk ba?

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Camberlo(m): 11:05am On Apr 17, 2020

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

The truth of the matter is that some women do go through POST PATTERN DEPRESSION after birth and most men doesn't reason along the line, because all they want is sex

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by incogni2o: 11:35am On Apr 17, 2020

SweetCunt97:
You had to include feminism to this your talk ba?

Even if she cant do intercourse with him, what of outercourse.

Just different means to the same end.

Sorry anyways, you are one of my friends in another thread.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by zinny377(f): 11:41am On Apr 17, 2020

Oluneutral:
How come nobody is seeing.........
1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child.

2. She delivered through CS.

3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant.

Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end.

Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife.

She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her.

I pray for wisdom for you.

God bless you! Being logical seems so difficult these days.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by zinny377(f): 11:42am On Apr 17, 2020

Camberlo:
The truth of the matter is that some women do go through POST PATTERN DEPRESSION after birth and most men doesn't reason along the line, because all they want is sex

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Coronavirus1: 11:53am On Apr 17, 2020

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

Oga just try to do enough outside before going home last she go beg you

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by fof1: 11:56am On Apr 17, 2020

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

Are U that Wicked? Can't U Develop Self control for a while without being Unfaithful or Adultrous? She had CS and u are desperately Looking for Sex. What kind of Husband or Young Father are U ,Pls? Be Disciplined Pls. Dont go and renew her Wounds.Pls.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by drakeskull(m): 11:56am On Apr 17, 2020

Op, most advice here are from st.upid ppl who are neither married nor knows what it takes to raise a child. Your wife is nursing a 3 month old baby, she delivered via CS and you're here complaining about sex.
Shows you're really selfish and not a good husband. Watch the advice you allow sink in here, else you destroy your home. Give her time to heal first, lack of sex won't kill you.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by abubakrisideeq: 12:13pm On Apr 17, 2020

[quote author=Olofin2 post=88521381]Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

She is your wife. It is very wrong of you to come to the pilunlic place like this to seek opinion on how to better the affairs of ur family. Many a people that u sought advice from can not even manage their homes, some are divorced and so on like that... My brother, from experience do not seek anybody's opinion about ur marital life rather u talk to ur wife amicably and find a way out of it. Let go of your EGO. Meet and discuss with her to find a lasting solution to your marriage.
Never am saying it again... Never u seek advice or opinions from outsiders about ur marital situation.. not even ur parents or family member.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by tabithaola(f): 12:23pm On Apr 17, 2020

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

Good day op, Having gone through your post and being in your wife's shoe,I can boldly assure you that your lovely wife is going through alot as a first time mum and intimacy is the last thing she'll think of.
I have been there,so this is more of experience than calculations. Being a first time mum is a difficult phase for most ladies if not all. Coping and adjusting to sleepless nights, duress from nursing a new born who is 100% dependent on the mother for survival is more difficult + she went through CS. Sir, the sacrifice that has to be made at this crucial time isn't much if you are willing to make it. Your baby is just three months old and she had a C-section which made it difficult for her to bounce back to her real self. Kindly bear with her, reassure her of your love and commitment to her and your priceless gift. Tell her,you won't hurt her in the name of intimacy.
I had my baby vaginally and it took me more than 3 months to engage in sex coz I became fearful and practically lost interest because of labour pains.Now your wife had it more painful and she's still nursing the scar. My husband and I stopped making love at 6 weeks of conception till I'm 15-16 weeks gone coz I believe intimacy might harm the foetus and I'm sure your wife's case isn't this serious but that's my reality. She'll come around but you must be PATIENT with her.
Beware of those who will advice you to start seeing one Ngbeke, thereby ruining your marriage. Your wife is healing and you must be part of the healing process. Goodluck.

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Supermajor(m): 12:38pm On Apr 17, 2020

fof1:
Are U that Wicked? Can't U Develop Self control for a while without being Unfaithful or Adultrous? She had CS and u are desperately Looking for Sex. What kind of Husband or Young Father are U ,Pls? Be Disciplined Pls. Dont go and renew her Wounds.Pls.

Is this an advice or u just feel like commenting.
It's your type dat drives their husbands to be having extra marital affairs with this kind of behavior. What happens to the communication part of the marriage?? Read what you wrote to urself and hear how u sound.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Legendguru: 12:44pm On Apr 17, 2020

why will you beg when you can go out and fuckkkkk a slut .she will be the one begging you if you dont touch her for a month

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by KingUg(m): 12:44pm On Apr 17, 2020

Sixfeetbelle:
I won't lie. You're really trying but because I can tell you're a good man, I'd implore you to exercise patience. She's not refusing you on purpose but I can see CS scars and pains, tiredness after breastfeeding and decreased sexual drive post partum as some of the culprits in this case.

Talk with her, and talk to her. Relay your worries, try to understand hers and then collectively reach a compromise. That place you mentioned about ignoring her due to sex will not work in marriage. That little seed of selfish will grow into something vile that may tear this marriage apart. Marriage works by understanding. Apply it.

You're a good man and you have a wonderful family: a loving wife and a beautiful daughter. Don't let selfish ruin that.

op take this advice, this is one of the best I have read here, you earned my respect ma

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by koning: 1:26pm On Apr 17, 2020

Ningen:
Give her space.
She's probably insecure about her body.

Says someone who begged to put the tip

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I can't remember ever begging a woman for sex. How do some guys do that and still maintain an erection?. I think that the minute i start to beg, it's game over. My deek will shrink to square zero. I marvel at guys who can do that.

I would rather take her forcefully. And they always prefer it like that anyway from my experience. At the end we are all happy.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by pitsonbay: 1:32pm On Apr 17, 2020

I think this issue is common amongst women that went through gender mutilation processes.... I have d same problem @ home. My last born is 2years and some months....I got married 13years ago and it has been cat and dog fight ever since, recently it became worst. Getting to my wife's down stream sector is now a very hard puzzle to crack.. Now both of us have no parents anymore, so whom do I complain to?? So BROS try and sort things out within ur selves if ur marriage is still young..... But for me, I give up I will never bother her again.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Fhemmmy: 2:18pm On Apr 17, 2020

bamidelee:
You know the reality, you're only shying away from it

Reality and sanity sometimes don't see eye to eye, i will leave you with reality and stick with sanity . . . . tongue

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Nobody: 2:20pm On Apr 17, 2020

Fhemmmy:
Reality and sanity sometimes don't see eye to eye, i will leave you with reality and stick with sanity . . . .

Sanity is when a woman denies her husband his right. Sanity is when the husband start looking for where to satisfy his urge.
Pele tie

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by NoToPile: 2:26pm On Apr 17, 2020

manontree:
What did she do when the first bolded happened. What explanation did she give the husband? Or did she assume she owed him no explanation cos if she explained why she wouldnt continue he wouldn't be here complaining

The second bolded. Let's even not start on this as millions of women go through this daily and none acts this way You that wrote this wont act this way to your husband so whywouuld you justify this. Has she even bothered to explain her reasons to him so that he can at least reason with her.

Finally, why do we expect consideration for an inconsiderate person. Who should empathize with whom here If she doesnt want to have sex with her husband by all account it is her body and she can do whatever she wants with it. She too should not expect sacrifices from the husband when he refuses things to her. She can emphasize with him too when that happens

In marriage if you sow wind, you must reap the whirlwind

What is the essense of peace without justice?

The things I read on NL sha.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Nobody: 2:37pm On Apr 17, 2020

One of the qualities of a marriage is understanding. Have you asked yourself if she is tired or not in the mood. Love making is mutual and must be enjoyed and not endured. We are from different backgrounds and united by marriage. Ask your partner why the sudden change, why do you have to beg for a sexual intercourse and her response would help you understand her present situation and also resolve the situation.

Enjoy and read more on www.hightaughts.com.

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Rocktation(f): 2:47pm On Apr 17, 2020

Pity...most of the commenters here have no idea what pregnancy or giving birth entails....

Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Rocktation(f): 2:49pm On Apr 17, 2020

Ademoore07:
OP, U are inconsiderate. Do u even know what CS entails? Your wife must never get pregnant until after a minimum of 3 year (based on standard practice). Those sutures must heal permanently before she can think of pregnancy. Dont go kill someone's daughter.

How come you have so much sense than so many other men here?

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Re: My Wife Wants Me To Beg For Intercourse by Rocktation(f): 2:52pm On Apr 17, 2020

From seven months sef, do you know how uncomfortable sex can be for a woman...?!!
Most of you are really too mad to be true...
Your rights ko, your left ni...mschewww

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