manontree:


What did she do when the first bolded happened. What explanation did she give the husband? Or did she assume she owed him no explanation cos if she explained why she wouldnt continue he wouldn't be here complaining

The second bolded. Let's even not start on this as millions of women go through this daily and none acts this way. You that wrote this wont act this way to your husband so why would you justify this. Has she even bothered to explain her reasons to him so that he can at least reason with her.

Finally, why do we expect consideration for an inconsiderate person. Who should empathize with whom here. If she doesnt want to have sex with her husband by all account it is her body and she can do whatever she wants with it. She too should not expect sacrifices from the husband when he refuses things to her. She can emphasize with him too when that happens

In marriage if you sow wind, you must reap the whirlwind

What is the essense of peace without justice?

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

doitforyou:
She is nursing a three month old and a CS scar, so obviously she’s had big changes. Sometimes the way to a woman is not just by words but by actions, if you offer to take care of the baby for just a day or even give her the weekend off it will make a difference. You come across as selfish in your post, I wonder if your wife thinks so too.

It’s great that you’re bonding with your baby but do you also bath the baby? Feed? change the diaper? Are you awake at 2.00am to feed the baby? Do you get to sleep for only 3 hours a day? Have your hormones being put through the ringer for a year?

If she’s a first time mother then you’ve to be patient she had a CS and your child is just 3 months. Also, you need to stop looking at your marital sex from a perspective of its only your right to enjoy. Sex should be enjoyed by both of you and if there’s a problem why one of you isn’t then it’s your problem too.

If your wife’s happiness is your priority and not just your libido then give her a day, a weekend off, or however long her CS scar will heal. Tell her to take time off to take care of herself, let her take a break and she will come back to you fully recharged.

Ideally, you shouldn’t even be thinking about sex, she had a CS just three months ago!!!

Casemiro:





It is either childbirth made her treat you so... or,




or someone else is shining that place for her...


Just pray it's childbirth and she isn't seeing someone else secretly

Olofin2:


I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Sixfeetbelle:


I won't lie. You're really trying but because I can tell you're a good man, I'd implore you to exercise patience. She's not refusing you on purpose but I can see CS scars and pains, tiredness after breastfeeding and decreased sexual drive post partum as some of the culprits in this case.

Talk with her, and talk to her. Relay your worries, try to understand hers and then collectively reach a compromise. That place you mentioned about ignoring her due to sex will not work in marriage. That little seed of selfish will grow into something vile that may tear this marriage apart. Marriage works by understanding. Apply it.

You're a good man and you have a wonderful family: a loving wife and a beautiful daughter. Don't let selfish ruin that.

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

Oluneutral:
How come nobody is seeing.........
1. Their baby is just 3 months old and the baby is their first child.

2. She delivered through CS.

3. She started refusing sex when she was seven months pregnant.



Na wa o! Women, always at the receiving end.

Mr Man, try and empathize with your wife.

She has fears, maturely find out the cause of her fears and not by ignoring her.

I pray for wisdom for you.

riches4me:

Are u married?

Olofin2:


I don't keep friends. So I'm always at home. Our baby understands me more than anyone because if she's crying and refuses to be soothed by her mother, she would stop crying once her mother angrily dumps her on me. It's only breastfeeding that our baby can't get from me. I know so much about medical things and wife would consult me first before applying anything on the baby. Financially, it can be said that I'm the one working for the salary she's receiving monthly (you can't understand this aspect) and we only spend my own salary.

So, does she wants me to get intimacy from somewhere else?

Fhemmmy:


Lol @ Small boys . . . Let him marry another wife and he will soon be back to tell us to advice him before marrying the 3rd wife because grass that looks greener on the other side is a mirage

abike12:
You are an evil man and I'm very sure you're unattractive. Do you know that a c section is a major surgery? You're coming to report a new mother to a forum full of strangers because of three months of no sex after a c section. You're a vile and disgusting excuse for a human being and I hope she leaves you and finds a better husband.

supereagle:

My wife of thirteen years behaves like that too. She only wants sex when she sees money. I used to tell her that she is possessed.

Your Own is really possessed.....

Emmycool85:
What's the price for your Generator?

chuka9:
Yes if you beg na bad thing

Olofin2:
Our first child is 3 months old. Wife had the child through CS. During pregnancy, she stopped intercourse at 7 months. After her delivery, she agreed to sex twice recently after what looks like begging.

I'm planning to stop asking her for sex forever. I'm a playful somebody and she tries to avoid me playing with her.

Is it the childbirth that caused this?

olalat:

Are you married

Kingrefreshed:



It's a normal thing. My Wife did the same thing! Hold your Ding dong for a while Mr porn star!!! You will not die.

Your wife is still healing!!

3 months after CS?? Mine I had to wait for 5 months sef